Inaugural Post: Memorial Day
My understanding of Memorial Day centered on the three-day weekend it provided. I remember driving past a large cemetery not too far from my home, suddenly eye-catching with brilliantly colored flowers against a grassy background. I remember a few extra conversations about my forebearers, but tales of those spunky individuals hadn’t been absent from my life. It seemed like a holiday for old people, the wrinkled woman speaking through tears and the leathered man whose facial furrows deepened as he squinted into the sun, interviewed for the local news.
During the four months I spent in Paris in 2003, I saw more memorials than ever before or since. It seems that every little town and every little church had a marker or statue or plaque honoring the war dead. Even the Arc de Triomphe, built to commemorate Napoleon’s victories, houses a Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. I synthesized my visits to these memorials, along with many other tourist sites, in two conclusions. First, the United States is a young country — no wonder it acts like a teenager on the international stage! Second, France and other European countries are much more intimately acquainted with war than the United States. The land itself is marked by conflicts past; could the countries’ mentalities be otherwise? I stand by these conclusions, but they now seem analytical, distant, and cold.
I am humbled and awestruck by the willingness of American soldiers to fight for freedom and to die for democracy. I’m grateful for their courage, their patriotism, and their sacrifice. I wish I could believe that all this is in the service of a good cause, that the war really is vital to the preservation of "American values," that the bravery and dedication of the soldiers somehow offsets the senselessness of their suffering.
If that’s not the case, then Memorial Day is just a hollow holiday, a way of institutionalizing a mawkish, inaccurate version of the past.
I flinch from the cynicism of that last sentence. Perhaps it’s true on an analytical level, though I hope it’s not. For soldiers and their families everywhere, Memorial Day is about honoring and remembering. The grand sweep of history cannot compare to the intimate majesty of a thousand conversations, a smile creeping across a beloved face, plans made yet unrealized, an old joke, still funny, if only for the memories it conjures. Yet the details all too soon fade from crystalline recollection, swept away by the pressures of daily living, but never soon enough to dull the pain.
I hope the inscriptions on their grave markers are true.




