Goodbye To All That (#2) by Robin Morgan
February 2, 2008
Goodbye to the double standard . . .
—Hillary is too ballsy but too womanly, a Snow Maiden who's emotional, and so much a politician as to be unfit for politics.
—She's
"ambitious" but he shows "fire in the belly." (Ever had labor
pains?)—When a sexist idiot screamed "Iron my shirt!" at HRC, it was
considered amusing; if a racist idiot shouted "Shine my shoes!" at BO,
it would've inspired hours of airtime and pages of newsprint analyzing
our national dishonor.
—Young political Kennedys—Kathleen,
Kerry, and Bobby Jr.—all endorsed Hillary. Senator Ted, age 76,
endorsed Obama. If the situation were reversed, pundits would snort
"See? Ted and establishment types back her, but the forward-looking
generation backs him." (Personally, I'm unimpressed with Caroline's
longing for the Return of the Fathers. Unlike the rest of the world,
Americans have short memories. Me, I still recall Marilyn Monroe's
suicide, and a dead girl named Mary Jo Kopechne in Chappaquiddick.)
Goodbye to the toxic viciousness . . .
Carl
Bernstein's disgust at Hillary's "thick ankles." Nixon-trickster Roger
Stone's new Hillary-hating 527 group, "Citizens United Not Timid"
(check the capital letters). John McCain answering "How do we beat the
bitch?" with "Excellent question!" Would he have dared reply similarly
to "How do we beat the black bastard?" For shame.
Goodbye to
the HRC nutcracker with metal spikes between splayed thighs. If it was
a tap-dancing blackface doll, we would be righteously outraged—and they
would not be selling it in airports. Shame.
Goodbye to the most
intimately violent T-shirts in election history, including one with the
murderous slogan "If Only Hillary had married O.J. Instead!" Shame.
Goodbye
to Comedy Central's "Southpark" featuring a storyline in which
terrorists secrete a bomb in HRC's vagina. I refuse to wrench my brain
down into the gutter far enough to find a race-based comparison. For
shame.
Goodbye to the sick, malicious idea that this is funny.
This is not "Clinton hating," not "Hillary hating." This is sociopathic
woman-hating. If it were about Jews, we would recognize it instantly as
anti-Semitic propaganda; if about race, as KKK poison. Hell, PETA would
go ballistic if such vomitous spew were directed at animals. Where is
our sense of outrage—as citizens, voters, Americans?
Goodbye to the news-coverage target-practice . . .
The
women's movement and Media Matters wrung an apology from MSNBC's Chris
Matthews for relentless misogynistic comments
(
www.womensmediacenter.com). But what about NBC's Tim Russert's
continual sexist asides and his all-white-male panels pontificating on
race and gender? Or CNN's Tony Harris chuckling at "the chromosome
thing" while interviewing a woman from The White House Project? And
that's not even mentioning Fox News.
Goodbye to pretending the black community is entirely male and all women are white . . .
Surprise!
Women exist in all opinions, pigmentations, ethnicities, abilities,
sexual preferences, and ages—not only African American and European
American but Latina and Native American, Asian American and Pacific
Islanders, Arab American and—hey, every group, because a group wouldn't
exist if we hadn't given birth to it. A few non-racist countries may
exist—but sexism is everywhere. No matter how many ways a woman breaks
free from other discriminations, she remains a female human being in a
world still so patriarchal that it's the "norm."
So why should
all women not be as justly proud of our womanhood and the centuries,
even millennia, of struggle that got us this far, as black Americans,
women and men, are justly proud of their struggles?
Goodbye to
a campaign where he has to pass as white (which whites—especially
wealthy ones—adore), while she has to pass as male (which both men and
women demanded of her, and then found unforgivable). If she were
black or he were female we wouldn't be having such problems, and I for
one would be in heaven. But at present such a candidate wouldn't stand
a chance—even if she shared Condi Rice's Bush-defending politics.
I
was celebrating the pivotal power at last focused on African American
women deciding on which of two candidates to bestow their vote—until a
number of Hillary-supporting black feminists told me they're being
called "race traitors."
So goodbye to conversations about this
nation's deepest scar—slavery—which fail to acknowledge that labor- and
sexual-slavery exist today in the U.S. and elsewhere on this planet,
and the majority of those enslaved are women.
Women have endured
sex/race/ethnic/religious hatred, rape and battery, invasion of spirit
and flesh, forced pregnancy; being the majority of the poor, the
illiterate, the disabled, of refugees, caregivers, the HIV/AIDS
afflicted, the powerless. We have survived invisibility, ridicule,
religious fundamentalisms, polygamy, teargas, forced feedings, jails,
asylums, sati, purdah, female genital mutilation, witch burnings,
stonings, and attempted gynocides. We have tried reason, persuasion,
reassurances, and being extra-qualified, only to learn it never was
about qualifications after all. We know that at this historical moment
women experience the world differently from men—though not all the same
as one another—and can govern differently, from Elizabeth Tudor to
Michele Bachelet and Ellen Johnson Sirleaf.
We remember when
Shirley Chisholm and Patricia Schroeder ran for this high office and
barely got past the gate—they showed too much passion, raised too
little cash, were joke fodder. Goodbye to all that. (And goodbye to
some feminists so famished for a female president they were even
willing to abandon women's rights in backing Elizabeth Dole.)
Goodbye, goodbye to . . .
—blaming
anything Bill Clinton does on Hillary (even including his womanizing
like the Kennedy guys—though unlike them, he got reported on). Let's
get real. If he hadn't campaigned strongly for her everyone would cluck
over what that meant. Enough of Bill and Teddy Kennedy locking their
alpha male horns while Hillary pays for it.
—an era when parts
of the populace feel so disaffected by politics that a comparative lack
of knowledge, experience, and skill is actually seen as attractive,
when celebrity-culture mania now infects our elections so that it's
"cooler" to glow with marquee charisma than to understand the vast
global complexities of power on a nuclear, wounded planet.
—the
notion that it's fun to elect a handsome, cocky president who feels he
can learn on the job, goodbye to George W. Bush and the destruction
brought by his inexperience, ignorance, and arrogance. Goodbye to the
accusation that HRC acts "entitled" when she's worked intensely at
everything she's done—including being a nose-to-the-grindstone,
first-rate senator from my state.
Goodbye to her being exploited
as a Rorschach test by women who reduce her to a blank screen on which
they project their own fears, failures, fantasies.
Goodbye to
the phrase "polarizing figure" to describe someone who embodies the
transitions women have made in the last century and are poised to make
in this one. It was the women's movement that quipped, "We are becoming
the men we wanted to marry." She heard us, and she has.
Goodbye
to some women letting history pass by while wringing their hands,
because Hillary isn't as "likable" as they've been warned they must
be, or because she didn't leave him, couldn't "control" him, kept her
family together and raised a smart, sane daughter. (Think of the blame
if Chelsea had ever acted in the alcoholic, neurotic manner of the Bush
twins!) Goodbye to some women pouting because she didn't bake cookies
or she did, sniping because she learned the rules and then bent or
broke them. Grow the hell up. She is not running for
Ms.-perfect-pure-queen-icon of the feminist movement. She's running to
be president of the United States.
Goodbye to the shocking
American ignorance of our own and other countries' history. Margaret
Thatcher and Golda Meir rose through party ranks and war, positioning
themselves as proto-male leaders. Almost all other female heads of
government so far have been related to men of power—granddaughters,
daughters, sisters, wives, widows: Gandhi, Bandaranike, Bhutto, Aquino,
Chamorro, Wazed, Macapagal-Arroyo, Johnson Sirleaf, Bachelet, Kirchner,
and more. Even in our "land of opportunity," it's mostly the first
pathway "in" permitted to women: Representatives Doris Matsui and Mary
Bono and Sala Burton; Senator Jean Carnahan . . . far too many to list
here.
Goodbye to a misrepresented generational divide . . .
Goodbye
to the so-called spontaneous "Obama Girl" flaunting her bikini-clad ass
online—then confessing Oh yeah it wasn't her idea after all, some guys
got her to do it and dictated the clothes, which she said "made me feel
like a dork."
Goodbye to some young women eager to win male
approval by showing they're not feminists (at least not the kind who
actually threaten the status quo), who can't identify with a woman
candidate because she is unafraid of eeueweeeu yucky power, who fear
their boyfriends might look at them funny if they say something good
about her. Goodbye to women of any age again feeling unworthy, sulking
"what if she's not electable?" or "maybe it's post-feminism and
whoooosh we're already free." Let a statement by the magnificent
Harriet Tubman stand as reply. When asked how she managed to save
hundreds of enslaved African Americans via the Underground Railroad
during the Civil War, she replied bitterly, "I could have saved
thousands—if only I'd been able to convince them they were slaves."
I'd
rather say a joyful Hello to all the glorious young women who do
identify with Hillary, and all the brave, smart men—of all ethnicities
and any age—who get that it's in their self-interest, too. She's better
qualified. (D'uh.) She's a high-profile candidate with an enormous
grasp of foreign- and domestic-policy nuance, dedication to detail,
ability to absorb staggering insult and personal pain while retaining
dignity, resolve, even humor, and keep on keeping on. (Also, yes,
dammit, let's hear it for her connections and funding and
party-building background, too. Obama was awfully glad about those when
she raised dough and campaigned for him to get to the Senate in the
first place.)
I'd rather look forward to what a good president
he might make in eight years, when his vision and spirit are seasoned
by practical know-how—and he'll be all of 54. Meanwhile, goodbye to
turning him into a shining knight when actually he's an astute, smooth
pol with speech writers who've worked with the Kennedys' own
speech writer-courtier Ted Sorenson. If it's only about ringing
rhetoric, let speech writers run. But isn't it about getting the
policies we want enacted?
And goodbye to the ageism . . .
How
dare anyone unilaterally decide when to turn the page on history,
papering over real inequities and suffering constituencies in the
promise of a feel-good campaign? How dare anyone claim to unify while
dividing, or think that to rouse U.S. youth from torpor it's useful to
triage the single largest demographic in this country's history: the
boomer generation—the majority of which is female?
Old woman
are the one group that doesn't grow more conservative with age—and we
are the generation of radicals who said "Well-behaved women seldom make
history." Goodbye to going gently into any goodnight any man prescribes
for us. We are the women who changed the reality of the United States.
And though we never went away, brace yourselves: we're back!
We
are the women who brought this country equal credit, better pay,
affirmative action, the concept of a family-focused workplace; the
women who established rape-crisis centers and battery shelters,
marital-rape and date-rape laws; the women who defended lesbian custody
rights, who fought for prison reform, founded the peace and
environmental movements; who insisted that medical research include
female anatomy; who inspired men to become more nurturing parents; who
created women's studies and Title IX so we all could cheer the WNBA
stars and Mia Hamm. We are the women who reclaimed sexuality from
violent pornography, who put childcare on the national agenda, who
transformed demographics, artistic expression, language itself. We are
the women who forged a worldwide movement. We are the proud successors
of women who, though it took more than 50 years, won us the vote.
We are the women who now comprise the majority of U.S. voters.
Hillary
said she found her own voice in New Hampshire. There's not a woman
alive who, if she's honest, doesn't recognize what she means. Then HRC
got drowned out by campaign experts, Bill, and media's obsession with
everything Bill.
So listen to her voice:
"For too long,
the history of women has been a history of silence. Even today, there
are those who are trying to silence our words.
"It is a
violation of human rights when babies are denied food, or drowned, or
suffocated, or their spines broken, simply because they are born girls.
It is a violation of human rights when woman and girls are sold into
the slavery of prostitution. It is a violation of human rights when
women are doused with gasoline, set on fire and burned to death because
their marriage dowries are deemed too small. It is a violation of human
rights when individual women are raped in their own communities and
when thousands of women are subjected to rape as a tactic or prize of
war. It is a violation of human rights when a leading cause of death
worldwide along women ages 14 to 44 is the violence they are subjected
to in their own homes. It is a violation of human rights when women are
denied the right to plan their own families, and that includes being
forced to have abortions or being sterilized against their will.
"Women's rights are human rights. Among those rights are the right to speak freely—and the right to be heard."
That
was Hillary Rodham Clinton defying the U.S. State Department and the
Chinese Government at the 1995 UN World Conference on Women in Beijing
(look here for the full, stunning speech).
And this voice, age
21, in "Commencement Remarks of Hillary D. Rodham, President of
Wellesley College Government Association, Class of 1969."
"We
are, all of us, exploring a world none of us understands. . . .
searching for a more immediate, ecstatic, and penetrating mode of
living. . . . [for the] integrity, the courage to be whole, living in
relation to one another in the full poetry of existence. The struggle
for an integrated life existing in an atmosphere of communal trust and
respect is one with desperately important political and social
consequences. . . . Fear is always with us, but we just don't have time
for it."
She ended with the commitment "to practice, with all the skill of our being: the art of making possible."
And for decades, she's been learning how.
So
goodbye to Hillary's second-guessing herself. The real question is
deeper than her re-finding her voice. Can we women find ours? Can we do
this for ourselves?
"Our President, Ourselves!"
Time is
short and the contest tightening. We need to rise in furious energy—as
we did when Anita Hill was so vilely treated in the U.S. Senate, as we
did when Rosie Jiminez was butchered by an illegal abortion, as we did
and do for women globally who are condemned for trying to break
through. We need to win, this time. Goodbye to supporting HRC tepidly,
with ambivalent caveats and apologetic smiles. Time to volunteer, make
phone calls, send emails, donate money, argue, rally, march, shout,
vote.
Me? I support Hillary Rodham because she's the best
qualified of all candidates running in both parties. I support her
because her progressive politics are as strong as her proven ability to
withstand what will be a massive right-wing assault in the general
election. I support her because she knows how to get us out of Iraq. I
support her because she's refreshingly thoughtful, and I'm bloodied
from eight years of a jolly "uniter" with ejaculatory politics. I
needn't agree with her on every point. I agree with the 97 percent of
her positions that are identical with Obama's—and the few where hers
are both more practical and to the left of his (like health care). I
support her because she's already smashed the first-lady stereotype and
made history as a fine senator, because I believe she will continue to
make history not only as the first US woman president, but as a great
US president.
As for the "woman thing"?
Me, I'm voting for Hillary not because she's a woman—but because I am