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A RANT - Stilli Style! (or...a case of the ass)
I am a born mediator. I don't know if this is a curse or a blessing. I can see both sides of most issues, and have few beliefs that are set in concrete. I put myself in the other people's shoes, try to look at it from their
perspective and often come to a compromise in my own mind. On any given subject I start out feeling one way, then as I get more information my feelings "develop," sometimes in the most unexpected direction. I guess to some, this makes me wishy washy, but I consider it realistic. I would rather change my position than defend something I no longer find defensible.
I also am usually slow to anger (my husband would dispute this claim, but he knows all my launch codes and uses them far too regularly, so he doesn't count.) I think the mediator/slow to anger things are related, something to do with being able to understand another's point of view making it less likely that you'll flame out...we'd have to ask Thera about that.
So, anyway, for quite some time now, I've been working up what my son calls "a case of the ass" ...a situation where you find yourself so pissed off you can barely think. When I start to feel one of these episodes coming on, my default reaction is to think about all the positives involved, which usually defuses my anger and then I can proceed with a rational discussion with myself.
That strategy isn't working this time. In fact, I'm having such a hard time coming up with positives that I'm bringing it to you guys, so you can (as Rachel would say) "talk me down."
So here's my problem. "US." Not individuals, but the collective "we" that make up America. There are plenty of good people in this country. If I ever doubted that, being here at TPM would have shown me differently. We are radically different in our thinking sometimes, but there is no doubt that many really good people post here. And so it is in the larger population. But as a whole? Our country? We're a mess. Much of it is the fallout from the previous administration, but some of it we've been bringing on ourselves for a long time.
My "case of the ass" started out as a mishmash of thoughts about the country circling the drain financially and ethically, wandered through the minefields of racism and religion, and, after "breathing" as Missy suggested last night, seems to have settled on what it means to be a Patriotic American. (BTW for those of you who already have trouble sleeping, going to bed with a half started rant on your blog entry page DOES NOT contribute to better sleep!)
To some, being a "Patriotic American" is nothing more than the bumper sticker philosophy of "America: Love it or leave it." In order to be patriotic, you just have to accept and defend everything "she" says or does. Attack Iraq just because we want to? No problem. Torture? If it gets us what we want, why not? Allow financial institutions to rape, pillage and plunder our financial futures (as well as the rest of the world's,) then have the taxpayers pay their way out of bankruptcy to the tune of billions, slap them on the wrist, then allow them to continue business as usual? No problem. Stand by and watch as millions go without affordable health care, children living in abject poverty, our educational standards going down the toilet because it is just too expensive to educate poor/minority children? No problem. Allow lobbyists to "own" our elected officials? No problem. Vilify a black candidate for President as a terrorist, Muslim, probably not even a citizen? No problem. Hope his Presidency fails? Hell yes! California going down the tubes...oh well..."You don't want to pay higher taxes? We'll show you what small government looks like and see how well you like it, meanwhile so many are going to suffer. Why should we politicians have to work together to make your lives easier? We have our jobs, our health insurance...Suckers!" (Watch out you rest of America...you are following in our footsteps!) There are just so many issues lately that really have me mad.
It's all gotten me to wondering just exactly what it is that we Americans have to be so proud of (Outside of liberating a continent, but hey, that is getting to be pretty ancient history to be resting on THOSE laurels these days.) Where did the arrogance of the last administration come from? Why is this Congress (the best chance we've had for progressive movement in decades) taking it's sweet time giving ANY indication it is going to make meaningful change, even though it was handed the mandate to do so? Certainly none of the above behavior makes me feel proud, and I can add much much more to the list...In fact, I was having a hard time coming up with much we should be proud of.
And then it hit me. What we have to be proud of is that we don't HAVE to accept or agree with everything she (America) says and does to love her. We have the RIGHT, no, the OBLIGATION to speak up when we see her behaving badly. Sticking to the bumper sticker mentality..."America: change it or lose it." Much like with raising our children, if we love them (substitute America) we have the obligation to correct their behavior and guide them into being responsible citizens. There are very few places in the world where this is true. In spite of everything wrong with our country, we are FREE.
So yeah, the country is pretty much FUBAR'd at the moment. It is almost impossible not to be EXTREMELY pissed off at what our leaders are doing right now. It is almost impossible to not to be EXTREMELY pissed off at what many of our fellow Americans are thinking, saying and doing right now. But we are FREE to speak our minds. We are FREE to use our speech to attempt to change hearts and minds. We are FREE to attempt to change our country's course. We are FREE to become the compassionate world leaders we are capable of being. And using that freedom makes us Patriotic Americans. Accepting what we have now is not patriotic. It's just stupid.
Well...I feel better. I think I talked myself down. Thanks for listening.
I also am usually slow to anger (my husband would dispute this claim, but he knows all my launch codes and uses them far too regularly, so he doesn't count.) I think the mediator/slow to anger things are related, something to do with being able to understand another's point of view making it less likely that you'll flame out...we'd have to ask Thera about that.
So, anyway, for quite some time now, I've been working up what my son calls "a case of the ass" ...a situation where you find yourself so pissed off you can barely think. When I start to feel one of these episodes coming on, my default reaction is to think about all the positives involved, which usually defuses my anger and then I can proceed with a rational discussion with myself.
That strategy isn't working this time. In fact, I'm having such a hard time coming up with positives that I'm bringing it to you guys, so you can (as Rachel would say) "talk me down."
So here's my problem. "US." Not individuals, but the collective "we" that make up America. There are plenty of good people in this country. If I ever doubted that, being here at TPM would have shown me differently. We are radically different in our thinking sometimes, but there is no doubt that many really good people post here. And so it is in the larger population. But as a whole? Our country? We're a mess. Much of it is the fallout from the previous administration, but some of it we've been bringing on ourselves for a long time.
My "case of the ass" started out as a mishmash of thoughts about the country circling the drain financially and ethically, wandered through the minefields of racism and religion, and, after "breathing" as Missy suggested last night, seems to have settled on what it means to be a Patriotic American. (BTW for those of you who already have trouble sleeping, going to bed with a half started rant on your blog entry page DOES NOT contribute to better sleep!)
To some, being a "Patriotic American" is nothing more than the bumper sticker philosophy of "America: Love it or leave it." In order to be patriotic, you just have to accept and defend everything "she" says or does. Attack Iraq just because we want to? No problem. Torture? If it gets us what we want, why not? Allow financial institutions to rape, pillage and plunder our financial futures (as well as the rest of the world's,) then have the taxpayers pay their way out of bankruptcy to the tune of billions, slap them on the wrist, then allow them to continue business as usual? No problem. Stand by and watch as millions go without affordable health care, children living in abject poverty, our educational standards going down the toilet because it is just too expensive to educate poor/minority children? No problem. Allow lobbyists to "own" our elected officials? No problem. Vilify a black candidate for President as a terrorist, Muslim, probably not even a citizen? No problem. Hope his Presidency fails? Hell yes! California going down the tubes...oh well..."You don't want to pay higher taxes? We'll show you what small government looks like and see how well you like it, meanwhile so many are going to suffer. Why should we politicians have to work together to make your lives easier? We have our jobs, our health insurance...Suckers!" (Watch out you rest of America...you are following in our footsteps!) There are just so many issues lately that really have me mad.
It's all gotten me to wondering just exactly what it is that we Americans have to be so proud of (Outside of liberating a continent, but hey, that is getting to be pretty ancient history to be resting on THOSE laurels these days.) Where did the arrogance of the last administration come from? Why is this Congress (the best chance we've had for progressive movement in decades) taking it's sweet time giving ANY indication it is going to make meaningful change, even though it was handed the mandate to do so? Certainly none of the above behavior makes me feel proud, and I can add much much more to the list...In fact, I was having a hard time coming up with much we should be proud of.
And then it hit me. What we have to be proud of is that we don't HAVE to accept or agree with everything she (America) says and does to love her. We have the RIGHT, no, the OBLIGATION to speak up when we see her behaving badly. Sticking to the bumper sticker mentality..."America: change it or lose it." Much like with raising our children, if we love them (substitute America) we have the obligation to correct their behavior and guide them into being responsible citizens. There are very few places in the world where this is true. In spite of everything wrong with our country, we are FREE.
So yeah, the country is pretty much FUBAR'd at the moment. It is almost impossible not to be EXTREMELY pissed off at what our leaders are doing right now. It is almost impossible to not to be EXTREMELY pissed off at what many of our fellow Americans are thinking, saying and doing right now. But we are FREE to speak our minds. We are FREE to use our speech to attempt to change hearts and minds. We are FREE to attempt to change our country's course. We are FREE to become the compassionate world leaders we are capable of being. And using that freedom makes us Patriotic Americans. Accepting what we have now is not patriotic. It's just stupid.
Well...I feel better. I think I talked myself down. Thanks for listening.
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See? You really need to rant more often, Stilli.
Because when you do, you make good sense out of all the freaking nonsense going on.
July 10, 2009 6:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
Lissy, cute new avatar!
Well, by general rant standards it was pretty tame, but then I'm not used to ranting! Thanks for stopping by!
July 10, 2009 6:57 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for the rant, and the props to the new avatar, honey. I've had some complaints that some folks miss the 'ethereal mystery of the orange face in the clouds'.....
Meh. I prefer to keep it real.
July 10, 2009 7:17 PM | Reply | Permalink
It is quintessentially, Lis.
July 10, 2009 11:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
It takes awhile for the pendulum to swing the other direction. First it slows. Slows some more.
Then comes to a stop.
And then, inexorably, it starts slowly going in the opposite way. Faster. And eventually it's speeding along.
Have we even reached full stop yet?
July 10, 2009 6:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
Wouldn't it be nice if we could just keep it in a narrower range? We go from one ridiculous extreme to the other, when we could get so much more done if we didn't have to spend so much wasted time on either extreme. It's frustrating.
July 10, 2009 7:01 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yeah. But it's easy to keep spouting "it takes time to change" stuff that I'm saying. What's weird is that to me, saying that calms me down....except for the wanderlust part.
How's things in Costa Rica? Haven't been. Or Zihuatanejo, Mexico? Maybe I should go there, find a beach, and check it out for a week. Get my mind on something besides universal health care, torture, budget disasters, and Obama checking out someone's ass (Did you SEE today's "Day in 100 seconds"? WTF?)
July 10, 2009 7:20 PM | Reply | Permalink
A picture can say a 1000 words. True!
Can a picture lie? Also true.
I'm a photographer and these axioms have never failed me.
July 11, 2009 8:35 AM | Reply | Permalink
True. When they showed the picture, it looked like Obama was being a lech, but when you see the video, that's not the case.
I wasn't clear, I just meant that the media was again going on and on again on something that didn't matter. It's like they are a puppy with attention deficit disorder.
July 11, 2009 2:36 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great analogy of the press. My comment was in the nature of an aside rather than a critique; I might also add that Costa Rica is wonderful
July 11, 2009 3:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oh I love, I mean love hearing a little righteous anger from time to time. It is music to my ears. ha
And you are a relatively young grandma. I love those octogenarians in their dodge cars raising holy hell!!!
There is soooooooooooo much wrong, there are soooooo many wrongs.
One day at a time. Right now I am really happy with Pelosi (Of course I am in love with her and have been for some time) I mean this CIA thing is now on w's head, not hers. Not anymore.
Obey did a great blog and so have others about how My President (as I like to call him) is just playing into the hands of big money.
There is still time to do more. Much has been done.
If things were not changing the repubs would NOT BE SO DAMN MAD.
Medved (the repub movie critic not the Rusky) is yelling that we are not spending stimulus money fast enough....
Take a deep breath Stilli. Hey, watch bill orally tonite. People like him help me get my bearings.
I am attempting to just say that there are gooooooooood things happening. And more good things to come.
THE END
July 10, 2009 6:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
I'm with you, Arthur...I just hope we have the time to wait. So many people are falling through the cracks and time just keeps going by with no relief in sight. California is like the canary in the mines...the air is not good here, and the canary is about to croak.
July 10, 2009 7:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
I am the la' pissed, too. Starting with cable news - gone from taping 5 hours a night to 5 a week (Keith, Keith, and only Kieth). I remember this happening last year when it looked like the Dem primary was going to last past the election and Obama didn't have a chance.
Well Obama is President and I don't care what the pundits, polls or anyone else says. He's got my support. The US is a big battleship to turn but turn up the economic ship of state will he.
So a good sailor I man my post secure that our captain will safely navigate troubled waters and by Christmas there will be extra rum for us all.
Keep the faith.
July 10, 2009 7:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
I'm still recording the big 3 (Matthews, Big O, and Rachel) just skimming more. Every time I try to watch O'Really? my t.v. is in danger of getting smashed, so in the interest of saving it's life, faux has been all but banned from the house. I get the urge to see for myself what the lunatics are thinking and saying every once in awhile, but it never ends well.
I too, continue to have faith in the Obama Presidency eventually being able to make progress, but even there I'm frustrated by the "appearance" of business as usual. Those lobbyists and bankers still appear to have a stranglehold on the government, and this latest Goldman Sachs B.S. has my stomach in knots...I'm surprised we aren't seeing more about that on these pages...unbelievable!
July 10, 2009 7:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
re bankers and lobbyists - when push comes to shove Obama seems to do the right thing at the right time...stay tuned...
July 10, 2009 7:59 PM | Reply | Permalink
I am...with bated breath! Hope it's a doozy!
July 10, 2009 8:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hope IS a doozy!
July 11, 2009 8:40 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wow... that's a load off. I have been a bit quiet lately myself Stilli. I am generally idealistic, and outspoken,optimistic and willing to take some action but in the last week or so I felt the muck and mire of extreme loads of BS weighing me down... unsure of which direction to move.
I watch myself fighting for a public option knowing in the end it could end up being a complete sham called a public option if congress tries to keep it from being an effective and real reform of health care. We throw the term around as if it has a clear definition. So I fight half heartedly knowing we really need a single payer system and hoping that the public option will be better than nothing.
I watch all of the tabloid BS about who slept with whom and waaayyyy too much coverage of celebrities death (I like Jon Stewart showing the Today show guy showing MJ's empty house and tellin you what used to be in each room as an example). And I don't even have television.
And we still have no move towards accountability for the crimes of the previous administration. We have a CIA that is run amok and who knows who they really work for. We've got people out their fighting and dying in wars we should not have waged. We need some new blood in charting a healthy course for our economy...meaning Summers and Geithner equal not a wide enough brain pan and perspective to solve the economic problems we face. GITMO that should be f'n closed already if politicians would stop BSing the public and accept accountability for whatever it takes to bring a just end to the entire mess. And we have a GD Congress that is acting as if politics as usual has any place in all of this crap. There little real oversight, enforcement, and upholding of the law for anyone with money and/or power.
And while I know it does not apply to most of us here... the people of this country are sitting by just watching it all like it's a soap opera or reality TV show. Get out the popcorn...wonder what will happen next.
So, yes, I guess this is freedom Stilli. Freedom to be suckers and accept our fate in the hands of so many idiots or F'n KICK SOME ASS. What is I usually say when I feeling myself... oh yeah... If it's worth having it's worth fighting for... there is a lot of friggin work to do.
July 10, 2009 7:18 PM | Reply | Permalink
The whole idea was for you to talk ME down, not for me to have to talk YOU down! LOL! Sounds like you're about as tired and frustrated as I am!
I'm glad I made myself sit down and write...This blog went through many changes before I hit the "save" button, but the whole exercise at least got me to the point where I know what I'm pissed about and I can see a bit of a light at the end of the tunnel. And that's good, as long as the light doesn't turn out to be a train!!!
BTW, I vote for kickin' some ass. I'm not ready to roll over and play dead just yet!
July 10, 2009 7:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
Sync, I want indictments. I think the time factor--only six months now--is based upon preparation. So quick motions are not granted.
The Ashcroft in the hospital scene is bad enough....
We have new disclosures coming out about assassination squads...
Lies were perpetrated by w's administration...
These must be proved against defendants who have so much money for more and more attorneys and experts...
The problem according to Harvard on Keith tonight is that ALMOST EVERY SINGLE CRIME LEADS DIRECTLY TO W.
July 10, 2009 8:23 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli,
Please rant more! Ironically I found your 'rant' to be positive and factual. Hmmm.
It's not only the politicos and media butts that need to be kicked to the curb - it's we, the people, who all to willingly abandoned and ignored our responsibilities.
And yes, I acknowledge our freedom to be able to rant on.....
Thanks.
July 10, 2009 7:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Sammy...Yep, we did abandon our responsibilities, but it's easy to do when you get caught up in the day to day process of living. When things are going pretty well for our own families, we have a tendency to take our eyes off the ball. Unfortunately, we can bet that when we do the politicians will run amuck!
July 10, 2009 8:29 PM | Reply | Permalink
1) We did not "liberate" this continent. We took it. By force. From the people who were already here. In fact, there continent was already quite crowded by their lifestyle. In fact, America's riches were based on plundering the natural resources here - which are nearly used up now.
2) Humans are tribal animals. We want to belong. To feel "right" about our choices. Cliques, organized religion, and patriotism all come under category.
Some quotes on Patriotism:
and finally, most appropriate here:
July 10, 2009 7:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
I guess I didn't make myself clear...the continent I was referring to was Europe in WWII.
July 10, 2009 7:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
God, CT...did you really think I was that dumb?
July 10, 2009 8:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
Ya know, I thought N America too, but just for a second, then I realized ya meant Europe.
:-{)>
July 10, 2009 11:10 PM | Reply | Permalink
A seconds reflection?
Yeah, about that. Interesting.
July 11, 2009 12:02 AM | Reply | Permalink
What are you suggesting, chicken? That I type before I think? I'm a blogger. It's what we do! LOL!!!
Yeah, sometimes I throw one up just to watch people shoot at them. It's the comments I'm hoping to provoke that will forward the case that I am truly wishing to make. In some cases, the comments far outweigh the post. I enjoy reading others thoughts on a given subject to get more ideas. At the end of the day, even trolls can move things forward without meaning it.
July 11, 2009 11:39 AM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli, I won't engage in your putting an invective in my mouth, particularly since you waited 30 minutes after your other reply to me to do so.
Bear-baiting is unbecoming.
July 11, 2009 4:50 AM | Reply | Permalink
Do Tell.
July 11, 2009 8:10 AM | Reply | Permalink
That post was merely to point out the double standard that Stilli used for herself.
Not baiting anyone at all.
But as always, workerbee/bwakfat, you want to inject yourself into the conversation. Why do I fascinate you so, I wonder?
July 11, 2009 12:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
That post was merely to point out the double standard that Clearthinker uses for itself.
Perhaps it should talk to LisB and sync.
=D
July 11, 2009 1:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
I don't know why you have to default to thinking I'm up to something...your comment got to me, I admit it. The more I thought about it, the more it bugged me, hence the question. It wasn't bear baiting.
July 11, 2009 11:10 AM | Reply | Permalink
This is what psychologists call projection. You felt as if you did something dumb and then blamed those feelings on what you perceived where my thoughts.
July 11, 2009 12:18 PM | Reply | Permalink
NonThinker thinks everyone but him is that dumb. Which makes him truly stupid.
(Oh, and kid, before you get your drawers in a twist on this, I'm talking about you, not to you, so bugger off.)
July 11, 2009 11:25 AM | Reply | Permalink
Old Grouch, you can always be counted on to be pugilistic -- safe behind your keyboard. Too funny.
July 11, 2009 12:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
You, on the other hand, are too pathetic.
You're way the hell out of your league here, kid.
Mom's basement is calling...
July 11, 2009 1:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Grouch, I really do feel sorry for you. Your self-esteem must have been trounced on the playground years ago and then in the various labor jobs you've held since. I must remind you of "the man" you've always labored for and now you see a way of dumping that hard burden.
I expect the same old, worn invectives from you in response to this, so see if you can restrain yourself from reposting them over and over again. Thanks.
July 11, 2009 1:23 PM | Reply | Permalink
Bring it, punk.
It's long past time you learned to show some courtesy to your betters. Which is pretty much everyone here.
Exactly what is it that compels you to drool out your logorrhea nonstop? And how is it that someone so obviously ironically named is incapable of showing anything resembling wit or originality? Did you happen on your handle at random? Or did your mother give it to you when you came home crying one day?
You want invective? I'll give you invective, you little shitbag. Stilli is worth three dozen of you at least. You should be on your knees thanking her for permitting you to pollute her thread with your mindless nuisance blather.
You can cry and moan all you want about how you're being mistreated and disrespected, punk, and at the end of the day it's because you are a punk, and not worthy of one iota of respect. You have not earned any. And I doubt you ever will.
And, no doubt, you'll continue to think that we're just conspiring and mistreating you, or whatever passes for those sorts of paranoid delusions in your pathetic fevered brain. When the reality is, you're a garden variety asshole. And getting the responses you deserve. And in some cases, which I still can't quite believe, people are in fact being nicer to you than your behavior warrants.
Try being civil for once, just once, you pitiful little worm, and maybe you'll get civility in return. Or maybe you've already poisoned that well.
I'd love to see you dare telling any one of us your sort of crap in person. You'd be crying your eyes out in a New York minute. And maybe picking up some of your teeth off the floor in the bargain.
Invective enough for you, Junior?
July 11, 2009 2:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, you are just a simple fibber, Old Grouch, as I've certainly been civil to you (more than that "just once" that you state in your comment) while not getting anything close in return from you.
I imagine you cussing and screaming at your monitor as you pound out these posts. It's very funny... in sort of a Red from the Tube Bar kind of way. Just so you know, I have forwarded some of your comments (and will certainly forward this one) to my "usual suspect" friends. We have agreed that you do sound a bit like "Red".
And, as I reminded, Stilli, we haven't even established my age. Sorry. ;-)
July 11, 2009 2:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
By the way, for the younger folks who haven't heard about the Tube Bar, here it is.
You really do remind me of Red, Old Grouch.
July 11, 2009 2:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
Exactly what is it that compels you to drool out your logorrhea nonstop?
What a perfect question and description of the problem!
Apparently, OG, it is a symptom of an underlying (mental) illness. It is thought that medication can sometimes be of help.
July 11, 2009 4:04 PM | Reply | Permalink
And yet, even that comment is jingoistic. The Russians tore into the Nazi war machine far harder then we did -- and suffered far worse losses.
We can't even say we had the best equipment. The Germans had superior tanks and fighters.
Our shining moment was primarily the ability to manufacture just about any damned thing -- and in quantity and the ability to take the European science refugees and build up our scientific and engineering weapon capacity: radar and the atomic bomb.
The US effort to "liberate the continent" was mired in trivialities that forced us to not use Patton in D-Day because his "image" back home was besmirched for slapping some soldiers. In fact, this was so ludicrous that SHAEF used Patton as a decoy to lure the Germans into thinking that the D-Day invasion was occurring elsewhere. (The Germans never understood why the best field commander in the Allied Forces was constantly held back.)
As to where the arrogance of GWB administration came from? Well, didn't you vote for Reagan and GHWB? Did you vote for GWB over Gore? You, too, are a part of history. If you had an epiphany recently, that's fantastic -- but a true epiphany would be to stand outside (always) common "wisdom" and go with what is correct. And that also means not blindly re-electing Dems, just because.
The arrogance builds up when politicians feel that they can do what they want without their bosses firing them. Re-election rates are huge. It's time to churn Congress; party be damned!
July 11, 2009 5:01 AM | Reply | Permalink
The deciding factors were local natural resources, and remote location. It is a lot easier to build stuff when not being constantly bombed.
Way to take responsibility for your failed gotcha, though, in light of your harping on the "Department of Law" a couple days ago. *eyeroll*
July 11, 2009 5:41 AM | Reply | Permalink
Your "deciding factors" are precisely what I posted -- except you neglected to mention our use of human capital in the form of European intelligentsia.
Not sure why you felt a need to try to reprimand me by reiterating my comments as yours.
July 11, 2009 12:35 PM | Reply | Permalink
While that may be what you thought you wrote, it is not.
July 11, 2009 6:02 PM | Reply | Permalink
You've got my vote for the most misguided, condescending, and arrogant post on TMP of all time.
July 12, 2009 5:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
Quite an honour!
Next time try not being wrong, hypocritical and testy.
July 12, 2009 6:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
I like the Twain quote best.
And yup it was quite crowded here once before. I think Central America was the most densely populated area in the entire world before the Spanish came. And Tenochtitlan was the largest city in the world. And there were city states along the Mississippi river. Different world, then.
July 10, 2009 8:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
Off the cuff I ask myself what patriotism is right now. And it's just the sense of belonging to this tribe/group of mutts that we all are who find ourselves together on this continent and a willingness to work together to create some sense of order that we can tolerate at worst and that expresses our ideas at best. I don't really think of people dying for their country as anything other than at least the notion that they are protecting the tribe and the ideals, some shared and some not, that we aspire to.
July 10, 2009 9:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
July 11, 2009 4:49 AM | Reply | Permalink
Was Aldai Stevenson the evil twin of Adlai Stevenson?
Sorry, but in trying to determine a point of discussion from within the comment by ct to advance understanding and gain useful information, this is about all I could find.
July 11, 2009 12:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
And, perhaps, curry favor with the group?
I expect you to scrutinize the typing of everyone now, because it's clearly a level you are comfortable with.
July 11, 2009 12:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli, this is brilliant! I could have responded to every single sentence in every single paragraph, but I'm visiting at my daughter's and I'm literally supposed to be "visiting". So I'll make this quick.
This is so incredibly refreshing after the past eight years, when we were all supposed to march in lockstep and love, love, love this country, no matter where it was heading and no matter who was turning us ugly.
Maybe it's just because I've been hanging around TPM with all of the smart people, but I have glimmers of hope every now and then. The thing is, we do have to fight, and this is how we do it. We're building a new society slowly but surely, and it's made up of people who care about other people. It's growing--maybe not fast enough--but it's growing. And before long Congress and the White House are going to have to take notice.
We have to stop being afraid of the words "unions" and "universal health care" and "publc education" and "government-sponsored" anything. The Government is us. We pay for it and we deserve to reap the rewards. The WORST government is no government. We've been there and done that. It didn't work. In fact, it failed miserably. Whose dumb idea was that, anyway? I'll tell you whose--Ronald Reagan's. So can we PLEASE get over him already?
Anyway, thanks for posting. So many of the comments are absolutely brilliant, too. I'm loving this.
July 10, 2009 8:18 PM | Reply | Permalink
Ramona, thanks for taking time out of your visit to comment!
"We have to stop being afraid of the words "unions" and "universal health care" and "publc education" and "government-sponsored" anything. The Government is us. We pay for it and we deserve to reap the rewards. The WORST government is no government."
Well said!
Enjoy your daughter!
July 10, 2009 8:24 PM | Reply | Permalink
You know you done good Stilli when Ramona likes it. ha!
July 10, 2009 8:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
Ramona - This is OT, but I think there are quite a few families that are looking to start a support group for having lost their loved ones to the Cafe. If your daughter questions your addiction, tell her she is not alone!
The other way to go is like LisB, who just brings her family in here with her. Smart, that one.
July 11, 2009 3:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
I did not think about it that way. Yeah she does bring her family in. hahahaha
And everytime they post, they get front page. hahahaha
July 11, 2009 3:57 PM | Reply | Permalink
Talent, so hot, it sizzles.
July 11, 2009 8:42 PM | Reply | Permalink
most excellent rant Stilli. Sometimes I feel surrounded by all these things you mention, then I think, I am glad I am not the only one who sees these things the way I do.The people on TPM and Kos and many other blogs are of like mind, and the things they say sound like the America I thought she was. We are not alone we are a band of brothers and sisters.
Shakesperes' Henry V
And Crispin Crispian shall ne'er go by,
From this day to the ending of the world,
But we in it shall be remembered;
We few, we happy few, we band of brothers;
For he to-day that sheds his blood with me
Shall be my brother; be he ne'er so vile,
This day shall gentle his condition:
And gentlemen in England now a-bed
Shall think themselves accursed they were not here,
And hold their manhoods cheap whiles any speaks
That fought with us upon Saint Crispin's day.
July 10, 2009 9:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
I don't know that I would say "of like mind" as there is a fair amount of diversity of opinion here, but at least for the most part we are willing to listen to and learn from each other, so it is a refuge of sorts, from the larger population. But sometimes I need a refuge from the refuge! LOL!
July 10, 2009 9:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oh Stilli another thing I just thought of--
Right now this Representative from IL, Shackowski--I am really heartened by these women fighters....
She is on Rachel and is on the Intelligence Committee.
See there is some intelligence on the Intelligence Committee.
A lot of women are upset just like you--only they have some POWER. ha!!!
July 10, 2009 9:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for this wake up call - I am one of those who sat on my ass doing nothing to help this country get out of the mistakes W and Cheney got us into. Now I am beginning to see that sitting around and complaining but doing nothing to remedy the situations facing us at this juncture,is both lazy and ignorant. Now I am beginning to get involved by reading more, watching news other than Fox and writing to my congressman and senator - not Specter cuz he still makes me angry. Anyway - thanks for putting it into perspective for me, Stilli.
July 10, 2009 11:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
You're welcome, Maggie.
July 10, 2009 11:22 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oy!
Perfect.
we need to make some bumper stickers.....
July 10, 2009 11:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
That's vintage Vietnam War, I think...should be some left over!
July 10, 2009 11:59 PM | Reply | Permalink
I have been feeling that way since the Reagan administration. I am used to it so I don't lose any sleep over it.
Granted it got much worse during the Bush years. I don't know what has happened to America. When did we become a country where to show your love of it you have nothing but contempt for every other country on this planet and have no problem killing others to show your love of the good old U S of A? I think it has something to do with religious intolerance as espoused by the more fanatical members of Christianity that we have in our population. They're just really enraged right now because their side is losing the culture war...case and point we elected President Obama. The rotten core of the conservative movement is inhabited by hateful racists who are really pissed that they are now marginalized.
July 10, 2009 11:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think its more than that, Lib...somewhere along the line we've lost our compassion (if we ever really had it.) I hate this big grab for everything...I've got mine, but I want more and screw you! I want to live in an America where we watch out for each other...We're supposed to all be on the same team, remember? Team America?
July 11, 2009 12:04 AM | Reply | Permalink
I hate to say this Stilli I don't think we've ever really been a compassionate country by nature. Anything we've done which is compassionate we've been forced to do kicking and screaming. We were hesitant to get into WWII as all of Europe was getting steamrolled by Nazi Germany and it took an attack on Pearl Harbor to get us involved...and there still are people trying to undo what the New Deal accomplished because they don't believe in helping others out. They are a minority in this country but a very vocal one with a lot of clout.
July 11, 2009 12:19 AM | Reply | Permalink
You're probably right, Lib, but it doesn't HAVE to be that way...We are FREE to change, if we want it badly enough.
July 11, 2009 12:52 AM | Reply | Permalink
Well I am gonna keep trying to change things stilli, I think it is great that you, and many others here, are too. It is a testament to the audacity of hope and change we can believe in.
We're up against it. Right now health care reform is iffy because there are still many Americans dead set against universal health care for all because they feel people who 'don't deserve it' will be getting something they're not entitled to...even if doing it is the compassionate thing to do and good policy for a country that is being bankrupted by our 'for profit' health care system.
July 11, 2009 1:16 AM | Reply | Permalink
I'm not sure that is the only reason, Lib. They are also afraid that the American health care system will turn into a bureaucratic nightmare. Fighting with insurance companies is bad enough, but once you have work your way through the nightmare that is our government's bureaucracy it may be even worse.
My son recently had a need to get a hold of his military medical records. He filed a request through the proper channels of the government as he was instructed to do. Then he called his recruiter to let him know what was going on. The guy laughed and said, "uh, let us get those records for you...we can have them in a week, through normal channels you'll be lucky to see them in a year." This kind of story does not inspire confidence in the government's ability to handle health care, yet the same stories are told over and over when it comes to dealings with the government. There is a genuine fear of the bureaucracy and it needs to be addressed.
July 11, 2009 1:43 AM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli,
I hate to rain on your parade but much of what you refer has been with us for a very long time. I have watched this eveolve during and since our Vietnam and Nixonian experiences and grow ever since.
There are no real exceptions to this, whether political, financial, social, militarily or otherwise. The indicators suggest an increasing departure from any notion of objective governance into a realm of subjective governance which is wholly without merit and which has decidely produced some very undesirable results.
While the finacial collapse is on the national radar it is necessary to examine the ethical collapse that preceded it and which made the former possible.
We are a nation dependent upon the quality of our national leadership. A real time measurement of that quality is difficult at best. As a practical matter it can only really be measured based upon the result. The process leading to the result is commonly blurred so we can't readily see the direction being taken. This characteristic of nontransparency has without question increased over time. There has been an unmistakable and apparently intentional obscuring of the rationale guiding the national agenda.
The results give us a true picture of the agenda and exposes the contrast between it and the one as stated by our elected officials. That there is a significant differential informs us of the extent to which the nation has been repeatedly lied to.
The metrics the public uses to measure their general state of well being and the ones the government uses aren't rationally unified. Conceptually, that satement has a huge consequence.
It is necessary to establish the correllation between declines in personal wealth of average citizens and the doubling of Wall Street profits as a share of overall businnes profits to put some perspective on this. This doubling occurred over a thirty year period starting in the late seventies. This remarkable change is a clear indicator of a guiding agenda which explicitly sought that goal. You cannot specify this as conincidental.
The prior indicator is one of many transformations that are markers of the undersirable changes that have occurred over the years which have altered our social, political and financial constructs in significant ways. Without exception the alteration of these constructs has been all too apparently intentional. No amount of explanation can accommodate this phenomena except to identify it as intentional.
This all poses the obvious and crucial question of can this be changed? Again, this comes down to our national leadership. Congress must be willing to do a comprehensive examination of the metrics. I mean each congressperson has to sit down and actually look at all the significant data points and compare the numbers over the last thirty years. If they aren't willing to really do an objective evaluation or if they are unable to digest the meaning (some are hopelessly stupid) then nothing will change.
I happen to think that few if any really have an understanding of what has occurred and a not insignificant number have actively promoted this very outcome. At this very moment you can see a major portion of our elected officials pushing to keep moving in this same wrong direction. It goes without saying that republicans are going this way but blue dog democrats are no less inclined to do the same. For whatever reason their inability to recognize the irrational path we have been on and which they insist we continue will dictate the possibility of undoing the damage that has occurred.
The irrational and constitutionally conflicted system of campaign finance is at the top of the list of things that must be fixed. This is inseparable from the notion of corporations being falsely and illogically recognized as citizens. Those two things are the prerequisites to any meaningful change. If congress can't understand the need to have a complete and rational separation of these things from the legislative process then it identifies congress as both hopelessly stupid and hopelessly corrupt. That is where they are right now and to make them change is a tall order. Polling data absolutely indicates this is what citizens want. Nothing is happening on these issues at all. Which tells us everything we need to know about the state of our republic. It also tells us we have to do something very different if we have any hope of changing. Where this all might be headed is unknown. We do know though the ethical collapse is in strict lockstep with everything else that is crumbling before our eyes.
July 11, 2009 3:19 AM | Reply | Permalink
You aren't raining on my parade. I don't disagree with anything you said, and I am fully aware that the path to change is not going to be an easy one. In my darker moments, I recognize the improbability of attaining meaningful change. Fortunately, I don't have a lot of dark moments, so I am able to still believe we can do it. I HAVE to believe we can, otherwise we are in such dire straights that we might as well quit trying, stop voting and let the bastards have our country. I just can't do that.
July 11, 2009 3:30 AM | Reply | Permalink
You have a decided advantage over me for sure. I am on the wrong side of sixty and so have observed first hand too much to have a lot of expectation that we can change this. I want to think it is possible but then I come to my senses and realize that to wrangle power away from someone is a very tough nut. Just the same I'm still hollering like hell at the crazy persons running this mess. Things like healthcare are important but those are symptoms of the deeper and more fundamental issues confronting the country. Those are what has to change. You could fight all the individual battles in a whack-a-mole fashion but it is better to expend resources attacking the root cause.
All the playing nice on TV news shows between the good guys and bad guys is nonsense. When people on our team are confronted with these bald faced lies and asinine conclusions about things they have to react with outrage and get in the faces of the criminals. If you don't do that it just encourages the criminal conduct and will only keep moving things in the same wrong direction. When someone is in effect shooting at you, using a silencer, you have no choice but to shoot back, with or without a silencer. Giving up even and inch of ground in this war is a mistake. It's a simple choice. The bad guys are hiding behind a cloak of civility while they are cutting our throats with their lies. It is past time to realize this.
July 11, 2009 6:47 AM | Reply | Permalink
For TPM, you aren't on the wrong side of 60. It appears that most who regularly post here are 50+.
As expected, the generation who really thought their parents had it all wrong, have increasingly become aware that time is the master we must all serve and have become parents (and grandparents) themselves.
I believe much of the tone of TPM is a result of the lopsided demographic issue here. (The posts regarding hi-tech are usually the most revealing of this.)
July 11, 2009 12:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
CT for the life of me, I don't know why you don't just go to the Sesame Steet blog where you would be closer in age to the people participating. You have a real hang up with us older folks, which makes me wonder why you even bother to hang out with us. I mean, since we have so little to offer?
Exactly where is the dividing line for you? At what age would you like to see us denied our right to be heard, since we have nothing of value to add to the conversation. And will you voluntarily take yourself out of the equation when you reach that age?
July 11, 2009 1:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
I didn't bring up the age issue, thepeoplechoose did.
I see many complaints here that people have this "experience" from age. Perhaps it's their own advancing years and feeling the push from the stage, especially after being the center of attention for most of that generational experience.
If one reads history, that levels the playing field quite quickly and even adds years to the "age experience".
The fact is, however, Stilli, my age has never been established. My comments would still apply, even if I were older than you. Because I might be.
July 11, 2009 2:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yes, there is that possibility. But I hope not. If you are older than me, I would hope you would have a little more wisdom, chose your battles a little more carefully, have developed a presentation that would allow people to learn from you without making them work so darn hard at it.
You challenge me, CT. You make me think. I like that. Sometimes you frustrate me, and I don't even mind that so much. But when you treat me in a condescending manner, I lose my ability to hear what you are saying. You didn't used to do that. I mean, I saw you do it to others, but to me, you used to be respectful. I don't know what changed that. If it was me, I'm sorry. I wish we could go back to the way things were.
July 11, 2009 2:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
Also, CT, I don't feel pushed from the stage. I was never on it. I was busy doing other things. I had no ideas at the time to offer.
Now I do, and I'd like to think that some of them have merit. I am so happy to have a Pres that is from the next generation. I gladly supported passing the baton, but I did it with the idea that my ideas would still be at least considered.
July 11, 2009 2:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
Because Big Bird kicked his sorry little whiny ass out of there.
Even Elmo spit on his shoes.
July 11, 2009 2:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
You wonder why some here treat me nicely. I believe there is significant overlap in that group to those who try not to be embarrassed by some of your posts (as this one).
Just a thought, Old Grouch.
July 11, 2009 2:33 PM | Reply | Permalink
ROTFLMTO. I for one, am never embarrassed by Old Grouch. Especially on comments like this one, short and very much to the point!
July 11, 2009 3:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yes, I know. You are literally his lapdog. I always thought your avatar appropriate.
July 11, 2009 5:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
Inappropriate.
You have been flagged.
July 11, 2009 8:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
And don't make me point out to TPM that you were already banned under another ID.
Just admit that you are obsessed with me, Bwak. Seriously. Deep down you really do want my attention. Well, for this post, I will give you a little.
Feel better? Good! Now, run along, dear.
July 12, 2009 5:42 AM | Reply | Permalink
I was merely referring to my perception that living something gives the observer a different slant than what may be gotten from a history book. That perception may be wrong but I feel it to be true. I can convey something to you in excruciating detail but until you experience it there will be gaps in your knowledge and understanding.
As evidence, and from my own experience, it is typical of our species to be taught something by our parents that is known by them as fact but language can't convey the nuances of experience and the knowledge that accompanies it. This, at least in part, explains why each generation makes the same mistakes as ones who preceded it. I think, in academia, where you have the luxury of dissecting something in great detail you might be able to mitigate this somewhat, but not everyone can get a masters or Phd. And even then I have met people, as I'm sure we all have, who have advanced degrees but are helpless outside of a narrow scope of knowledge.
As an adjunct to the idea of age imparting knowledge, that may only hold true for those who possess a certain and insatiable curiosity. Many people can't advance their knowledge beyond some unspecified point for the simple reason knowledge is accompanied by change. I can't know this empirically but I think entertaining some ideas that might alter ones perspective aren't possible because it introduces conflicts to strongly held beliefs. For each idea or perspective we have a unique belief threshold associated with it. For some ideas the threshold is low and some very high. Notice I am referring to beliefs. I make this differentiation because something we know that is objectively supported by knowledge and is quantifiable is easier to change than something we feel is certain but don't know why we are certain of it, and can't logically justify that certainty.
I'm rambling, aren't I? I love to rummage around in my head.
July 12, 2009 3:14 AM | Reply | Permalink
I love to hear you rummage around in your head! Keep it up!
July 12, 2009 10:28 AM | Reply | Permalink
I have to admit I enjoy it. I never know what I am going to find. Every time its like a treasure hunt for some unknown treasure. Conversation is ok but its overrated because you have to always be concerned with the receiver. Thinking, OTOH, allows for a freedom that can't be had in a conversation. Freedom, being the precious commodity it is, should be enjoyed before even the freedom of thought goes away one of these days.
That last thought reinforces a comment I made elsewhere around here. I posed the question of why has the evolvement of how we communicate suddenly become a reason for us to suffer a loss of privacy (freedom)? The constitution or the fourth amendment didn't change, only technology. I can see where this might go. In laboratories all over the world scientists are probing ways to capture brainwave activity and present it as data. This research is progressing very rapidly and will surely come to pass. Some day it will be common to do things by thought. What happens then? Will our government again abuse technology in the same way we are witnessing now? We can't survive without technology. Of that I am sure. Objectively, I can see where it will be harnessed for both good and bad. And just to be sure, that isn't a comment about technology, but about people.
July 12, 2009 11:20 AM | Reply | Permalink
Isn't it intriguing, those who want less government are the same ones, for the most part, whom turned a blind eye to the atrocities that have landed us here.
July 11, 2009 9:41 AM | Reply | Permalink
The translation of less government is less regulation.
Those who are of this particular opinion are criminally stupid. They have necessarily closed their minds to human nature.
Or perhaps they are actually criminals who want a system that permits them to do whatever they please without the possibility of society holding them accountable.
In the end it doesn't make a lot of difference why someone might want less regulation. Having less means being subject to the variables of an uncontrolled environment where the empirical data states control is necessary.
July 12, 2009 4:33 AM | Reply | Permalink
It's more along the lines of criminals leading the stupid.
July 12, 2009 9:00 AM | Reply | Permalink
I don't really know. It feels like it could be a chicken and egg thing.
There are lots of people in jails. It'd be tough to argue that they're smart.
July 12, 2009 11:39 AM | Reply | Permalink
WE ARE FREE!!!
Yes, we are, but barely. I am still pleasantly surprised that the Dems regained the White House and Congress. While meaning no ill will to anyone on the Supreme Court, we need that too!
One thing that I think caused the turn around, which is in an early stage, was Consciousness. I believe there were many, many people who woke up to the way the government was actually working under the Bush Regime, as opposed to the way it was being presented on the MSM. I belive the blogosphere and, of all things, The Daily Show and Colbert Report were a large part of that.
The future belongs to our youths and these programs were critical to revealing the asshats in our government for who they really are. It was the young people who brought their energy to creating a groundswell on which Obama rode on his Hawaiian surf board to the White House. He brought many Dems with him into Congress.
In order to persevere in the rejuventaion of our democracy we need to ensure these young people stay awake. We are at a very critical juncture in our development as a nation, whether we will take the necessary steps to ensure that healthcare is provided to all the people, whether we can open our hearts enough to provide these life-affirming services to everyone without asking, "Are you worthy?"
Here is the truth. It was out of the Depression, during the worst economic disaster in the history of this young nation that we gave birth to Social Security and the other numerous social programs. It worked!!! The nation came together and was reviving, just in time to throw ourselves into WWII, which brought this nation together even more intensively. Was this the time of the greatest generation? This was the time of the greatest nation, at that moment in world history. All generations came together to defeat the Axis powers. {I know, I called them a generation in the past, but I've rethought it just now. Maybe I'll go back to it later. Who knows?!?}
If we are to return to that frame of mind, it will take everyone. Right now, we have a generation of Reaganites, in a sea of several coexisting generations, still swooning in a fabrication of the MSM that Reagan was some great man. Nonsense! He openly mocked the government and we foolishly agreed with him. So, as we destroyed the institution to which we all are shareholders in favor of an entity "governed" by a few anonymous international shareholders, we lost our cohesion. In fact, we surrendered our ownership.
This is a long path on which we are trudging to drag this nation back to a single purpose, freedom. To be free we must liberate all our people, regardless of their description we may have of them, or hold against them, because we hold ourselves back when we do.
Stilli, I agree, we are free. We can speak our truths and now, more then ever, we need to do so. Drunk with sucess, we need to sober up and get the job done. Who knows how long we will have with Obama as president? Four years? Eight years? Maybe less! The man smokes. Anything can happen. We must do this now, with our voices, bringing us together. So what does my voice say?
EVERYBODY IN THE POOL! THIS IS AMERICA DAMNIT AND WE DO NOT DISCRIMINATE!!!
[Note: I am leaving town for the day, but will respond in the evening, if there are any comments.]
July 11, 2009 10:58 AM | Reply | Permalink
I agree, Zap...There is much to do and not much time to do it, unless the powers that be can get this economy going in time to get Obama re-elected, then going very strong in order to retain the White House in 2016. I am under no illusions that it is a slam dunk. In the meantime we need to somehow convince the general population that it is in everyone's best interest that we get this health care safety net under EVERYONE, not just the haves.
I am frightened for our country. We, as a people, have changed. Or maybe I'm just now becoming aware that we are not who I thought we were. I'm not sure which. It is ironic to me that the people who speak so loudly for the unborn have so little regard for them once they enter this world. It is ironic that those who have been told that they are their brother's keepers are so willing to let their brothers suffer the pain and degradation of extreme poverty. But, I guess those are things that need to be addressed in another post.
Thanks for your thoughtful response, Zap.
July 11, 2009 11:33 AM | Reply | Permalink
You're very welcome. It was practically a post all its own. I do get inspired by what people write sometimes. I enjoyed your post very much. If we wish to retain this freedom we will have to continue to work for it, but we have both said that already! :-{)>
July 12, 2009 3:01 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks Zap...It helped me to work through my feelings about this mess we're in.
July 12, 2009 10:31 AM | Reply | Permalink
Some people can't swim a stroke and some are afraid of the water. This is not the time for anyone to be timid. People need to be pushed into looking where we are and facing the fact the country is at risk. A lot of people don't think their participation is necessary or that it will achieve anything. They couldn't be more wrong.
July 12, 2009 4:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wow! A fine rant indeed, stilli. And very pithy (no I don't lisp) comments, especially from peoplechoose (may I call you pc?). At the risk of getting all philosophicy, it seems to me that you have to weigh the effects that anger and frustration have on you personally versus your ability to remedy the perceived causes of your disharmony. Two quotes come to mind. "In a democracy, the people get the government they deserve." At least that's close to something Jefferson said. "Seek not to change the world, rather change your mind about the world." That's from A Course in Miracles.
Even if you could change all the things about America that enrage you, what about the rest of the world? Are our corrupt politicians, institutions and corporations worse than those in the rest of the world? Corruption, injustice, starvation, disease, war, etc. have always been with us and will always be with us. It is the nature of this world. Of course, this does not mean that you have to behave this way. You always have the choice to live your life guided by higher ideals and goals. But do you really think that you can change the Cheneys or the Exxon/Mobiles of this world? As pc said, it's a huge ethical whack-a-mole game. The goal, I believe, should be your own personal peace of mind. And of course, that is not found out in the world.
I believe the path for each of us is to help one person, whatever that means. Then the two of you can each help one person, and on and on. The journey of a thousand miles...don't you know.
Sharing love and peace and truth with one person will change the world, even though that's not the goal.
And to pc, I am also on the "wrong" side of 60. Does that explain why we choose the default avatar?
July 11, 2009 11:27 AM | Reply | Permalink
Is there a wrong side? Maybe that is part of our problem as a country...we don't show enough respect to our elders. And how old is old? 30 years older than whatever age I am!
July 11, 2009 2:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli, well ranted, I have to say.
I rec'ed it yesterday, just wanted to drop by and give a nice pat on the back for it today.
July 11, 2009 11:29 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks grouchy, appreciate the pat! Glad to see you here.
July 11, 2009 12:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
I've thought more about this blog, Stilli, and concluded that you were in a unique position to write it.
You ask what defines "patriotism" and talk about expressing yourself and righting wrongs.
However, I wonder what the Stilli of 2009 would say to the Stilli of 1999? I believe both Stillis were thoughtful and passionate.
Nevertheless, both would have been on their respective party lines (as it were). Again, as is so much the theme of what I write, the dogma of people's thoughts prevents them from approaching each situation as new and rethinking it from the start. The fact is that the Dems do not have all the answers, the GOP does not have all the answers, and certainly the "progressives" do not have all the answers.
Political debate has been increasingly polarized simple because people tend to "pick a side" and then look at the facts from that side (assuming that they bother to look at all the facts which often they don't) -- rather than the proper way (e.g. the other way around). This is tantamount to converting a political ideology into religious dogma; one is expected to simply follow along.
That prevents real conclusions.
Think about this: politicians don't care about real, best conclusions, they care about politically expedient ones. The best chance for open debate is when political liabilities aren't in the mix -- as at TPM, for example. Yet, even here, most people tend to align themselves to the "groupthink" of what is expected from a "progressive" or at least a Democrat (though Jason Everett Miller is a hugely notable exception -- and what how *he* can get pounded).
I think a most interesting blog for you to write would be the two Stillis discussing a topic back and forth. The simple device of having to look at both sides of the issue might bring the more difficult issues to light -- without the ideology and dogma. It's what the Buddhists call the "middle way".
July 11, 2009 12:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
What you've missed in my bio, CT, is that in 1999 I wasn't paying attention. I was running my business, getting through a rough patch in my then 27 year marriage, trying to fill my life with things I loved in an attempt to keep my empty nest from sending me into despair. Politics was of little or no interest to me. Most of the time I gave my absentee ballot to my husband. I couldn't have told you what the issues of the day were, unless NFIB sent around something that piqued my interest, or some new scandal involving the Clintons erupted. I probably knew a buzz word or two.
I'm not proud of it. It was a shameful way for a citizen to behave. If I could do it over I would be thoughtful in my approach. If I could do it over, knowing what I know now, I would value my responsibility to my country more. But, I can't. I recognize that my behavior contributed to the mess we are in. So, now that I know better, I try to do better.
I am under no illusions that the Democratic Party has all the answers. No one has all the answers. That's why I wish we could all work together, using the best ideas from all sides to create something where we all get as much as we can of what we want.
July 11, 2009 2:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
Sorry for the duplication, hit the send before I was ready...grrrrrrr
July 11, 2009 2:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
I'll give you a little tip that might allay some of your anxiety. Those that criticize the fights within the Democratic Party know little of our party's history. The Democrats have always been like this, it is what happens when you have a big tent. I'm all but certain they will muster for procedural votes out of party loyalty.
July 12, 2009 7:50 AM | Reply | Permalink
What you've missed in my bio, CT, is that in 1999 I wasn't paying attention. I was running my business, getting through a rough patch in my then 27 year marriage, trying to fill my life with things I loved in an attempt to keep my empty nest from sending me into despair. Politics was of little or no interest to me. Most of the time I gave my absentee ballot to my husband. I couldn't have told you what the issues of the day were, unless NFIB sent around something that piqued my interest, or some new scandal involving the Clintons erupted. I probably knew a buzz word or two.
I'm not proud of it. It was a shameful way for a citizen to behave. If I could do it over I would be thoughtful in my approach. If I could do it over, knowing what I know now, I would value my responsibility to my country more. But, I can't. I recognize that my behavior contributed to the mess we are in. So, now that I know better, I try to do better.
I am under no illusions that the Democratic Party has all the answers. No one has all the answers. That's why I wish we could all work together, using the best ideas from all sides to create something where we all get as much as we can of what we want.
July 11, 2009 2:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
I appreciate your honesty. However, my point remains. If you, in 2009, tried to get your 1999 self to take things more seriously -- what would have been the response?
This, I believe, bears directly on your wondering on why others aren't involved now as you would like them to be.
Your honesty permits you to post with a good deal of possible insight on what the other side might say.
July 11, 2009 2:30 PM | Reply | Permalink
I don't know that I wonder why others aren't more involved. I have several ideas on that subject.
People's lives are hectic. I watch my children working 40 hours a week, commuting back and forth another 5, then trying to make time for all of the mundane aspects of life (keeping the house and yard up, paying bills, running errands) and still having time to nurture their children and spouses (and parents!) Then try to indulge themselves just a little in just-for-fun pursuits that they enjoy? It isn't easy. Add to that trying to sort through all the B.S. that is politics and stay informed? There aren't enough hours in the day.
For families that don't have the support system mine have, add the stress and expense of having their children in day care. For those who are un or under employed, add the stress of not knowing how they are going to make it to the next month's paycheck or unemployment check, or where they are going to live when they get kicked out of their house or apartment.
Then there are those who are just so disillusioned that they find voting to be a waste of time. Still others just don't care, for whatever reason.
What would the 1999 me say to the 2009 me who was trying to convince her to care? Probably something to the effect of "Why bother? They're all a bunch of crooks, they just have different labels." Not far off, huh?
If the 2009 me could say to the 1999 me, "But, if you don't pay attention, you will have a President who is going to be one of the worst things that has ever happened to this country." I'm not sure I would have believed her.
July 11, 2009 3:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think our overall political involvement is directly proportional to the degree that our lives have been impacted by politics or events in the 'real' world. We're coming out of a spell where most Americans have seen their lives dramatically affected by a stagnation of income, and a loss of net wealth through the financial collapse, and rising healthcare expenses. The effects of domestic spying, torture, suspension of habeas corpus for so called War on terror suspects ultimately is background noise for most Americans. The most powerful things affecting our lives are for the most part those that impact our financial well being. In that sense, we have arrived at a unique place in our history to implement real change, if we can manage to keep our eye on the ball. Meanwhile there is a strong campaign to paint a rosier picture of our current point in these events that includes the highest unemployment rate we've seen in over a quarter century, and which is perhaps much higher given the revision in measuring methods back in the 90s. The more unemployed people there are, the more people free to insert themselves in the political dialogue there are. This is not lost on those who currently hold power. The artists of said picture painting are those we elected to office, and have been the overseers of the events that brought us to this place in time, both Rs and Ds. If they fail to quell our interest in their activities this time, they risk a unified political revolt from both sides of the aisle. Sorry to interrupt your conversation, just wanted to add my 2¢.
July 11, 2009 3:47 PM | Reply | Permalink
Always appreciate your 2 cents , piggy... Feels more like a quarter!
July 11, 2009 4:48 PM | Reply | Permalink
Again, exceptionally honest -- and has more than a little ring of truth to it.
In my experience there are very few truly selfless individuals. I'm talking about people who will sacrifice their own careers for doing what is morally right and just in helping a colleague not be taken advantage of in the workplace. Or someone willing to take a true pay cut to work in the government to help things. (Recent example comes to mind: McNamara... whatever else one might think, he really did sacrifice to join the government.)
People mostly become politically involved when they need something from the government -- or are jealous about what others have and want the government to redistribute something. Quite often I've found people who are politically involved do so because of the social aspects: they may come from a group with the same groupthink. Or they may be trying to push a dogmatic agenda (which is the same as groupthink, only a bit more abstract in that you may not personally know the others in the group). Nevertheless, these groups can be broken, because at the end of the day, true change requires real sacrifice - which can affect a job or a career (e.g. income to live and take care of a family).
Want an example? I choose to remain anonymous. Very deliberately so, despite invitations to be otherwise (from kind people, not the bullying ones). If I were known, however, it would affect my life and therefore I could not be as open here as I am. That's why I don't mind the occasional slings and arrows. For those that know and desire to know, there are deeper insights from the other side than you normally get. That's my little contribution. But I feel I must do it anonymously.
Our most powerful tool, the ballot box, is the one least utilized because we get caught up in party politics. However, it remains our most powerful tool and re-election should never be assumed by incumbents. Until we change that assumption, however, all the inter-election debate will be seriously weakened.
July 11, 2009 5:54 PM | Reply | Permalink
I do believe CT that you are involved in gov and really ARE "in the know." That is one of the things that bugs me so much about your presentation. I think you bring so much knowledge to the table, but plowing through the attitude is just exhausting sometimes. If you always acted like you are right now, we would be good friends here.
As to annonimity, I understand. I enjoy posting things from my personal life, but if I did that in
My own name it would violate my family's privacy. So, I am honest about who I am...no made up stories, just without attaching my name.
July 11, 2009 6:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Also, CT, as to why people become involved...I don't need anything from the government right now, (other than some honesty) I'm in financially decent shape, good health, I just just reached a point in my life when I had the time!
July 11, 2009 6:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
If plowing through an attitude was an issue, many posters here would swiftly disappear. Many of the regulars, in fact. ;-)
July 12, 2009 5:48 AM | Reply | Permalink
I still contend that you can be much more obnoxious than most. And most of those who are complete turds have little to say that I find interesting. That is not the case with you. You have a lot to say that I find interesting. I would often like to get into further discussion w/ you on a variety of subjects, but I pass by because I'm just not in the mood for a battle. My loss, I'm sure. And maybe you don't care, and that's okay, too. But I suspect that you really do want us to hear what you say. That you think you have thoughts of value that you want to share and have taken to heart, otherwise, why bother? You'd make a lot more progress if you were less, um (struggling for a word here) condescending? Patronizing? You're a really smart guy, you HAVE to know what I mean.
And if I am correct, and you do work in the government, I can't believe that this is the way you are at work. You MUST know how to make nice. In fact I KNOW you do. You just choose not to.
July 12, 2009 10:45 AM | Reply | Permalink
Absolutely not true. If you look at the invectives typically thrown around, you will find I never make them first and rarely even make them in rebuttal.
While I do express my opinion, many of the self-proclaimed "liberals" and "progressives" act like children in response. They like to gang up like bullies, feeling the safety of the group. I say this not to claim I'm picked on, because it really doesn't matter one way or another, but to show the very flower of these "enlightened" individuals who can't even handle a discussion without becoming childish. Considering the age of most of these people, they would be ashamed of that behavior.
Regardless of the tone of my commentary, I'm sure you will agree, I add content. Whether a person thinks that content is valuable or not is up for debate. But unlike some here with serious inferiority complexes and defensive stances, I'm quite content with what I am post here.
I have always liked you because of your serious desire and continuing struggle to see beyond the easy perspective. It's a struggle because it's a state of constant growth -- most people prefer stasis. For whatever it's worth, you might want to relook at some of the regulars as a person just showing up to TPM and see how their behavior looks.
You may also want to contact Synch and ask her about the conversation I had with her. I believe we both got something out of it. ;-)
Enjoy your Sunday.
July 12, 2009 5:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, CT. I'll look forward to seeing you on my next post...
July 13, 2009 1:17 AM | Reply | Permalink
I still contend that you can be much more obnoxious than most.
Absolutely not true.
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Absolutely is true. You have a blind spot here. I've looked at the last couple of blogs you posted and thought about commenting. But I just didn't want to deal with you so decided not to comment on those blogs.
Now are you seriously going to claim I'm part of the in crowd? No one here is a friend of mine. I don't have anyone's e-mail address. No one who I don't see regularly and communicate with privately is a friend of mine. I have revealed almost zero personal information about myself and I don't pay much attention to personal information others reveal here. I have never joined any of the chats that I've seen announced here.
Are you going to claim I need to feel the safty of a group? I was one of the few Hillary supporters to the bitter end. You know quite well that I can stand nearly alone with virtually every other poster here against me.
Your analysis of why you have difficulties here is quite insulting to those involved and doesn't hold up as people both part of and outside the so called in group are saying mostly the same thing. When you're getting a similar response from a cross section of people you might want to consider the criticisms a bit more seriously.
July 13, 2009 1:44 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you for adding your 2 cents here, Oceancat. Perhaps hearing it from you will help.
July 13, 2009 2:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
oceankat -
Thanks for taking the time to post this rebuttal. Every word you wrote is true and much appreciated.
July 13, 2009 5:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think one big reason people don't get involved is the way we are schooled. Here's an interesting essay written 40 years ago that addresses that issue.
http://www.soilandhealth.org/03sov/0303critic/030301studentasnigger.html
School is where you let the dying society put its trip on you. Our schools may seem useful: to make children into doctors, sociologists, engineers--to discover things. But they're poisonous as well. They exploit and enslave students; they petrify society; they make democracy unlikely. And it's not what you're taught that does the harm but how you're taught. Our schools teach you by pushing you around, by stealing your will and your sense of power, by making timid square apathetic slaves out of you--authority addicts.
July 11, 2009 6:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
No time to read right now...I pulled it up and it looks intriguing. I've got it flagged to read when I get back in this evening, but wanted to thank you for sharing it...
July 11, 2009 7:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for the reference, it is extraordinarily insightful.
July 12, 2009 8:04 AM | Reply | Permalink