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The America I Love
This is not the America I love. The acrimony, the partisanship, the "I'd rather we destroy the country than see this President be successful" attitude. The America I love is not filled with people who lie cheat and steal to get what they want, then pull up the draw bridge to keep anyone else from getting some, too. Or people who look down on the poor because they must have done something to deserve being poor. Or people who watch their neighbors lose their homes without so much as a whimper in protest. Or people who watch strangers lose their jobs, and quietly allow it because at least it wasn't them, or one of their friends. Or people who sit by and watch children go hungry because it is their parent's fault they are hungry.
She doesn't have leaders who demand concessions in bills and get them, yet still refuse to vote for the bills...Or people who use an insurance/hospital system to have 8 embryos implanted then use the time of 140 doctors to care for those 8 premature babies, while people with cancer can't get timely treatment from that same facility, just because she "wanted" a big family. Or people who buy every "toy" they can get their hands on because they deserve it, and those who have nothing, don't.
The America I love has a conscience. She cares for all her people, and tries her best to help the rest of the world, as well. She is led by good men and women who have her best interests at heart, not their own. They have guts enough to make the hard choices, and stand up to their parties in the interests of fairness, without considering what is best for them personally. They use their power to go to war wisely, and only as a very last resort.
She is full of people who would cut their own hours rather than see a co-worker lose their job. People who work hard, for little pay, and yet still make the time to volunteer with groups that make life easier for those who have even less. People who care about the planet and try to damage her as little as possible. People who speak up against injustice. People who try their hardest to raise decent human beings and good citizens. People who vote. People who care enough to stay informed about their country and their world, and write letters or make phone calls when they see things happening that just shouldn't be. People who recognize that they have enough...enough things, enough money, and start using their resources to help others who don't.
She is full of people who plant community gardens, and look out for each other's children, and let the police know who the bad guys are. They care for their children financially and emotionally. They consume wisely and with an understanding that "stuff" doesn't bring happiness. They save for a rainy day rather than give into the temptations of instant gratification. I could go on for pages, but you get my point.
You say that America doesn't exist? Never did...it's just a fairy tale. The wishings of an out of touch fifty-something. Maybe so. Maybe you are right. Maybe she is just a dream I have. But I swear to you, whenever I see a picture of the Statue of Liberty, or the Lincoln Memorial, or the face of a person who is listening as our new President give a speech, or hear him speak myself, I can see her off in the distance, that America I love. And I just know we can build her, block by block, city by city, state by state...
I believe it, because I am who I say I am...Stillidealistic.
She doesn't have leaders who demand concessions in bills and get them, yet still refuse to vote for the bills...Or people who use an insurance/hospital system to have 8 embryos implanted then use the time of 140 doctors to care for those 8 premature babies, while people with cancer can't get timely treatment from that same facility, just because she "wanted" a big family. Or people who buy every "toy" they can get their hands on because they deserve it, and those who have nothing, don't.
The America I love has a conscience. She cares for all her people, and tries her best to help the rest of the world, as well. She is led by good men and women who have her best interests at heart, not their own. They have guts enough to make the hard choices, and stand up to their parties in the interests of fairness, without considering what is best for them personally. They use their power to go to war wisely, and only as a very last resort.
She is full of people who would cut their own hours rather than see a co-worker lose their job. People who work hard, for little pay, and yet still make the time to volunteer with groups that make life easier for those who have even less. People who care about the planet and try to damage her as little as possible. People who speak up against injustice. People who try their hardest to raise decent human beings and good citizens. People who vote. People who care enough to stay informed about their country and their world, and write letters or make phone calls when they see things happening that just shouldn't be. People who recognize that they have enough...enough things, enough money, and start using their resources to help others who don't.
She is full of people who plant community gardens, and look out for each other's children, and let the police know who the bad guys are. They care for their children financially and emotionally. They consume wisely and with an understanding that "stuff" doesn't bring happiness. They save for a rainy day rather than give into the temptations of instant gratification. I could go on for pages, but you get my point.
You say that America doesn't exist? Never did...it's just a fairy tale. The wishings of an out of touch fifty-something. Maybe so. Maybe you are right. Maybe she is just a dream I have. But I swear to you, whenever I see a picture of the Statue of Liberty, or the Lincoln Memorial, or the face of a person who is listening as our new President give a speech, or hear him speak myself, I can see her off in the distance, that America I love. And I just know we can build her, block by block, city by city, state by state...
I believe it, because I am who I say I am...Stillidealistic.
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Just beautiful. You have succeeded in making me cry. I don't generally, because once I start I may not stop. It is too much. For so many. People deep in debt were more likely buying groceries and paying for medicine than they were buying "toys."
I know these people. They are my co-workers, my neighbors. The reason I am working where I am working is because I filled in for a woman who's husband was dying fast from cancer. People donated their vacation days to her so she didn't have to worry about time off. We all happily went without raises in order that we could all keep our jobs.
Yes, that is America for most of us, Still.
Thank you, so very much, for cutting through the ugly outside noise and smoke to the actual reality, with all the beauty it possesses.
February 7, 2009 7:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
I love stories such as your Bwak. We should make a compendium of stories such as these. People donating their vacation time. Now I am crying.
February 7, 2009 7:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
I've got lots of them, like the folks at a publisher I did work for who took turns carrying work and meals back in forth for an editor who had to be bedridden for the last two months of her pregnancy. Her husband has MS and is wheelchair bound so she was really the major support in her family. No "insurance company" or "corporate policy" would cover that.
There are websites now where people can coordinate care for their friends and co-workers in need.
There is nothing remotely wrong with the people in this country.
Our supposed leaders, and wealthy elite are the ones with the issues. Sadly.
February 7, 2009 7:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
We had a fellow teacher, years ago, who was in a terrible auto accident and out for couple months. We petitioned to give her some of our sick days, as she was a young woman and it was maybe only her second year of teaching.
People will do a lot to help out their fellow person. I fully expect to see more and more of that as this recession deepens.
February 7, 2009 7:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, chicken...didn't mean to make you cry, but I'm glad to hear you found it moving. It's a lot of you all here at TPM that give me hope that the America I dream of is within our reach. Thanks for being a part of the solution, and for sharing your story.
February 7, 2009 9:29 PM | Reply | Permalink
You owe me a box of Kleenex.
=D
Cheap store brand is fine.
February 7, 2009 10:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
It's on it's way...I got the fancy kind in the little square box w/ pretty flowers on it. You deserve it!
February 8, 2009 12:29 AM | Reply | Permalink
See, every time you write, I remember how come I love you. No fairy tales here.
Just remember Stilli, the good guys and gals are in power right now and they are moving fastly. The evil will always be with us.
Nice post. Affirmative. There is such a thing as America.
February 7, 2009 7:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Arthur...I know we have an opportunity to change now, but there are as many dems doing bad stuff as there are repubs. Few are clean. We need to insist on our leaders putting our country first. Not pet projects, not friend's wallets, not lobbyists. So good guys, bad guys, not so sure you can label them by party. Although I do have to admit, the repubs are wearing their bad guys a lot lately, I think there are probably some good ones in there that just haven't worked up the courage to let it show.
February 7, 2009 9:36 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oh, Bravo, stilli! You have outdone yourself! I'd give this 10 rec'ds if I could!
Especially this part:
February 7, 2009 7:08 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Thera, I know you are one who is putting her time where her mouth is.
February 7, 2009 9:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
I am with you!
And I am encouraging everyone not to react in fear(the 911 response) to what is going on in the economy but to respond with trust and faith.
It is important for us to make our voices heard with our leadership... the onese who seem to be on our side as well as the ones who are simply being obstructionists. In other countries they sometimes take to the streets in masses. We need to put pressure on them every step of the way to serve the interests of the many over the desires of the greedy.
I trust in human creativity and ingenuity. I trust in my experience that the underlying truth is that we love each other and no one succeeds without the help of others.
High Five!
February 7, 2009 9:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
We've switched to "knuckle bumps," but thanks, Synch!
February 7, 2009 9:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
Terrorist.
PS: ;-)
February 8, 2009 5:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
heeheehee!
February 8, 2009 6:35 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oh, stilli! Absolutely beautiful!
You show all the reasons here why hope will sustain us when all else seems to be crumbling. And overall it's because hope is what drives us to lean upon one another. We become reliant upon hope with confidence when we see that it is our common humanity that makes us all brothers and sisters. It's just that sometimes we need to have everything stripped away from us to see that it is so.
I know I make you nervous at times when I engage in some rough-and-tumble in these discussions. I try to avoid alot of it. Honest! ;O)
I appreciate your kind heart, and I know hope in learning there are people like you who share this world.
February 7, 2009 10:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, talk about needing a kleenex! Thank you, SJ...As far as style, this would be a pretty boring place if everyone was as mild mannered as I am (oh, the girl can get snarky when she wants to!)
A little rough and tumble keeps things lively, I just don't like it when it gets too personal. I rarely see you cross that little line in my mind!
You can get a little rowdy, but I know there is a soft heart that pops out more often than not, so it balances out!
Thanks for coming by, and for your kind comments.
February 8, 2009 12:19 AM | Reply | Permalink
It's not a mirage. The country you love is real and it is right where it has always been. The ugliness of those whose misrule has so crippled the nation is not America the Beautiful. they have been doing their level best to convince people that it was futile to be as you describe but they have failed as utterly at that as they have at everything else they have touched. Your America is real, but most of it has been asleep because times were good. It's my America too that you describe. I have faith in our America.
Unfortunately, while many of the people you describe have been uncomfortable with much that has gone on, they weren't directly hurt so it was not a crisis for them. Well that is changing and with a rapidity unknown in modern times. Soon, and much sooner than the buffoons in Washington realize, the people with the values you describe are going to be demanding that things be righted. And they won't be taking no for an answer this time because they when they arrive they are going to be fed up and mad as hell. It is coming. I can feel it.
So as gloomy as things look at the moment, in a very real way our President had it right when he said "now is our time" the rising of the people is not quite here but it is coming shortly and it will shake the ground like a stampeding herd of bison does out west as it approaches. Keep the faith!
February 7, 2009 10:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
oleeb, I don't know if you are just coming into your voice, or if our paths haven't crossed much here at TPM, but I have to tell you that your contribution to the dialog here is standing out. There have been numerous times in the past few weeks when I've read your comments or posts and said wow...
I believe you are right. This is a President that can inspire the common people of this country, who for far too long have not had a voice, to stand up and demand better of their elected officials.
I hope things don't have to get too awful bad before we do.
February 8, 2009 12:28 AM | Reply | Permalink
Beautiful, stilli. Nice to hear from ya.
February 8, 2009 12:56 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Toady! What do you think? Do we have it in us?
February 8, 2009 1:18 AM | Reply | Permalink
Ya know, I had a similar conversation with a family member of mine recently. He suggested people who listened to Obama were "stupid" because Obama just tells people impossible things that they want to hear, and that all that "peace and love" stuff is never gonna happen in a perfect world.
I asked him, "Do you think people will always steal?"
He said, "Of Course! People are awful!"
I then said, "Since we will always have thieves in this world, if you caught someone in your house taking your things, would you say to yourself, "Might as well let them have what they want, since there will always be theft in this world anyway."?
Naturally he said, "I'm not gonna let anyone take my stuff! I worked hard for it."
I said "You see? Just because we will always have thieves doesn't mean we shouldn't protect what we have and punish those who steal. And just because the world will never be covered with "peace and love", doesn't mean we should stop trying to get as close as we can."
He changed the subject :P
February 8, 2009 6:04 AM | Reply | Permalink
As individuals, I think we have all of those characteristics. But we've built our world more around large companies that only answer to the short-term bottom line than in the communities in which they reside, and our consumer behavior only reinforced that trend.
For example, how many chose to pay higher prices at a local farmers market rather than cheaply produced imported food at a grocery store? Or chose a higher priced locally owned clothing store rather than name-brand apparel store at a mall? I bet many TPM readers have and do, because many of us can see or have been educated about the consequences.
How about choosing a local bank that charged a slightly higher mortgage rate (.25% or .5%) rather than GMAC? Well, those local banks are working out deals with their borrowers to keep them in their homes and the banks in business. I know, because many of my former bank colleagues are at local banks doing just that. GMAC isn't doing a damn thing (see Amelie's post). Most of us made some of these good decisions at TPM, but are outweighed by millions who didn't - the rest of the collective (un)consciousness.
So to get that giant unconsciousness to change requires a fairly radical event. Call it Karma, but we as a collective need to change how we do things, and we've invited our own lesson. All of those good characteristics you mention, stillidealistic - need to be translated to local action. It's been done before - that's how we as a people got through the Great Depression. Yes we can!
February 8, 2009 12:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks Stilli. You're right, America the past few years has been a place that shocks the conscience. A place that responds to wealth and power with adulation and indulgence, and to misery and suffering with contempt.
We have to participate in a chain of giving. I've been doing a lot of pro bono work for a while now with the uninsured, and it's often the most rewarding work I do. One such patient is a man with severe learning disabilities and chronic depression that keeps him from working. He spends his time rescuing animals and caring for them. This is a guy who has very little and still gives every day. Another pro bono patient I saw in the past, who was then a teenager with bipolar disorder and no family support, called me recently to say that she is about to graduate from college with a bachelors in social work, loved her internship and wants to work with kids who had backgrounds like hers. I know the America you speak of is still there.
Part of my quest the past few years has been to try to understand value systems different from my own, and to try to understand how empathy can be so different in different times and in different places. We need to work on it and we need to understand it also.
February 8, 2009 2:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Tom. It is a little hard to reconcile the differences, isn't it? On the one hand you have the kinds of stories related here (along with many, many more that we don't hear about) and on the other, stories like the one Hillary99 brought to our attention on her blog today...compassion vs. insensitivity.
When you get it figured out, let us know.
February 8, 2009 3:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli, I referenced your post (in one of mine) as an example of what we need to be doing, not only in our country, but indeed here at TPM. I hope it will keep your post alive a bit longer, as it well deserves. It serves as an ideal we need to strive for - again.
February 8, 2009 4:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stillidealistic,
You dream of a land that never existed. As late as the 50's and early 60's we had lynchings common in the south. Things were so bad that the 1964 Voting Rights act had to be put in place.
For many, abortions were dangerous and illegal except for the wealthy and privileged until 1973.
Racially mixed marriages were illegal in some states.
Gays had no rights at all.
It's very dangerous to desire the "leave it to Beaver" ideal especially when it never existed. It's a myth.
Please watch the video I posted here and see Noam Chomsky describe in detail how the nation was founded. Yes, some of the ideas are shocking but if you use Google, you will see his claims are true!!!
In so many ways, we are better off now than 40 years ago. We can be better still. But don't pine for an America that never existed... that's the myth that the media wants to push forward.
The Disney myth is great if you are white anglo-saxon protestant... and middle class.
But it's just a myth.
February 8, 2009 4:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
That's why I said maybe she's just a dream I have...I know America was never perfect. Good Lord, our history is filled with example after example of ways we have screwed up. But I do think we can be the dream.
Thank you for presenting your views the way you did. This is the difference I've been talking about...the 2 yous...This you, I like.
February 8, 2009 6:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
You have to fight for your ideals. The founders fought for liberty. The abolitionists fought to end slavery. The suffragettes fought for the vote for women. The labor movement fought for the 40 hour week, benefits, worker safety, etc. Civil rights leaders fought to end segregation. Feminists fought for equality of opportunity for women. Gays still fight for equal treatment.
We must all continue to fight for a just society with meaningful opportunity for all and for security for all who are vulnerable.
There is no centrism in idealism. You have to fight for ideals. You cannot compromise them. There may be compromise in your tactics, but never in your ideals.
February 8, 2009 5:07 PM | Reply | Permalink
There is real truth to that, Bluebell. Figuring out how to get such a diverse nation as ours singing off the same sheet of music is going to take a lot of work, but it is certainly worth the effort.
I think the way we are going to make progress is to put human faces on the issues...Empathy. It's all about empathy, and doing the right thing.
February 8, 2009 6:48 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stillidealistic, you said, so well, what so many of us are thinking and feeling.
The octuplets, IMHO will be seen by historians as the end of an era of excess, as well as the Republican's intransigent politics.
Thank you for speaking your mind.
February 8, 2009 5:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
Stilli, your post just gets better with time. :)
February 8, 2009 5:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
Coming into this late Stillidealistic, but wanted to chime in my recommendation. All eyes are turned on Obama, and God knows, he's doing the best he can despite the ossified recalcitrant ways of Washington. Still, we all need to do more and stop expecting government to fix everything as we simultaneously blame it for all of our woes. As a child of Ireland, I cringe to quote anything from the Brits, but Churchill said it best: "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."
February 8, 2009 6:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, I've got roots on the same rock! And the quote is quite on point...thanks!
February 8, 2009 6:55 PM | Reply | Permalink
Still:
I didn't have time to read at all today, and not much tonight, so I'm really glad that I began by reading TheraP's blog which was not only thought-provoking on its own, but also linked me to yours.
What you have said about America is beautiful, Still. Better than that, it is fundamentally true. There is a huge disparity between the self-interest of posturing politicians and graspingCEO's and the straightforward, instinctive desire to serve others most of us encounter somewhere, in someone, everyday.
Thank you for this article of faith, Still. Highly rec'd and saved to read, again and again.
February 8, 2009 9:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, WW. Whenever a true poet compliments my writing it is especially meaningful to me. Wasn't Thera's post a hoot? This place is getting KER-A-Z!
February 8, 2009 10:20 PM | Reply | Permalink