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Aarrgh... nevermind.


This is too stressful!  I'm swearing off MyTPM Blogging.  Everyone (and I don't literally mean everyone, but I can't think of a better word to use, and frankly, I don't really care right now) who comments on my posts seems to not only disagree with me, but want me to lose my home.  And they don't even disagree with my politics!  I mean, really... people need to calm down.  Thanks to Andrew Golis, my lone follower, and everyone who commented on my first post to welcome me here, as well as some other people.  Apart from possibly commenting on articles, I'm not doing this anymore.

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Caspar, we hardly knew ye. Seriously, I know the feeling. This place can be a monkey house. Sorry I missed your posts. I hate to see anyone driven away.

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Thank you. I'm always glad to see someone who hasn't decided that anonymity means they can say just anything.

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Geez, Caspar...take a chill pill. You've only been here a couple of days! It takes time to get established...I got challenged pretty hard when I 1st got here, but I made my case, and over time have made friends who I value, and have even earned some respect along the way.

I went over your posts and don't see anything at all alarming about how you've been treated. In fact, you've gotten off pretty easy. Just back off a little, get to know people and relax. Or not...your choice.

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Never give up.

If at first you don't succeed try, try again.

As you posted earlier, you’re probably tired.

Wait for another opportunity, and give your perspective, like everyone else.

Look at my dashboard,

The best thing to do is click on Josh Marshall and then go down the list.

Praise is always a good start, and it offers encouragement.

Just because you get no followers or recs or any observable response, doesn't mean, no one reads your stuff.

Besides it's Saturday night, party time not blogging time.

It sure would be nice if TPM had a live chat room.


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Thanks for the support, but the followers/recommendations thing really is not why I'm leaving (I just mentioned that in passing to make "my lone follower" feel more unique :-)); though actually, I have two now (Thank you, Ripper McCord!), though that, as I said, is beside the point. What really gets to me is just the people who can't take the time to be polite (of which you are definitely not one, for which I thank you).

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I suggest taking your own advice from the community blog and 'try to have a sense of humor'.

One of the things I love about this community is that there are some truly deep and thoughtful people here and along with that comes some really funny stuff that makes me laugh my as*
off. I deeply value people who make me think and laugh!

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Thanks for the advice, though I would like to employ a possibly-irrelevant analogy here and say that when you're telling a joke and the other person has no sense of humor, it doesn't really work. Actually, I'm pretty sure that wasn't really all that relevant. But whatever. And, just for the record, it's a lot earlier than the time stamp says it is where I am, so I'm not really up at 3:30 in the morning (not that much of a junkie!).

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I had to take a break from TPM after the primaries ended. I was absent about 6-weeks. I finally cam back refreshed. This election year has been, emotionally, very draining. I think we all can hardly wait for the next two weeks to pass.

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I really don't have anything to say here. I just didn't want you to feel left out because you're the only person I haven't either replied to or mentioned in one of my comments so far. "Thanks for not being a jerk" fits, I guess. :-)

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you're just pulling our leg, right?

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Um... are you that sad to see me go? Or that disdainful of my seeming overdramatism?

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To those who have been nice to me, for lack of a less weird way to put it, thank you. But people seem to be missing the reason I left: it wasn't because of any treatment that I believe was extremely out of the usual, but precisely because I don't believe this treatment was unusual. There were a couple of people who offered constructive criticism of my ideas and/or were supportive in general, but others just seemed like they enjoyed being rude online. And I'm not trying to be some sort of dramaqueen or something- I don't expect everyone to come weeping to my side and beg for forgiveness or anything like that; I was just offering an explanation for why I'm not going to be blogging here anymore, and hoped that my explanation might make some people more cautious online in the future. And don't get me wrong; I'm sure the vast majority of contributors at TPM are perfectly balanced, nice, intelligent people. It's just the ones who aren't seem to have a special gift for ruining it for me. And the strange thing was, the posts that were getting the most negative attention weren't political at all, which is what I found so offputting. I can take someone telling me that my candidates are stupid and my positions are ill-thought out, or even that Obama is a secret Muslim whose middle name is Mohammed and whose autobiography is actually written by Bill Ayers. What I can't take is people constantly telling me, for example, that my so-called (and humorously-intended) "shilling" for my relatives' books is "inappropriate" and that my posts are better suited to a social networking site (which, as I pointed out, this is one); I also find it difficult to, at one point, have someone vehemently disagree with my premise that TPM isn't a community in the sense that many people seem to think it is, and then turn around and, seemingly, disagree with the same post's assertion that people should actually be nice to each other online by telling me about how I need to "take a chill pill" and how I've "gotten off pretty easy." And to the people telling me not to give up, I appreciate the concern and everything, but frankly, I'm just looking forward to reading TPM again like I used to, without having to worry about writing blog posts or dealing with angry MyTPM users who comment on my posts. I'm losing my train of thought, so I'd better finish up quickly here; my point is, basically, that I feel like there might be something wrong with you (meaning a certain few, not everyone reading this) if you can't be nice to people. Regardless of that, the reason why I'm leaving is for selfish reasons, primarily my short-term mental health. I'm not looking for apologies, just wanting have my say.

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Ouch! Caspar...I'm one of the most mellow, inoffensive, inclusive, tolerant people around here! If you thought I was being mean, sweetie, you are very sensitive, indeed. Seriously, go to my page and look at my very 1st post on July 17th...

Then, let's talk.

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I'd like to clarify that I'm still going to be visiting TPM, by the way; it's just I'm a wimp (exhibit number 1: I've been on here for a day or so) and can't take the constant negative comments anymore. If I decide to post some more, then I'll do that; it's just I don't see myself doing that again in the near future. And another missive to Ripper McCord: all the commentators on your similar comment who said something along the lines of "good riddance" without evident humor suck :-).

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Casper, sweetie, (you seem very young, so I feel compelled), a few words of friendly advice should you decide to post in the future:

1. Less is more. Whether you want to believe it or not, this is a community and we share this space. Many, many people are writing and deserve to be read, yourself included. When you post six times in the space of a couple of hours, it pushes posts off the list.

2. Before you post, make sure somebody hasn't recently posted on the same topic. Sometimes, a comment on somebody else's post is just as effective in making your point.

3. If you don't have a problem being challenged for your political point of view, write about your political point of view. You are correct that there are people who are fairly ruthless in their criticism. If this gets to you, don't put yourself out there in such a personal way. Those people have as much right to be here as you and it's an open forum.

4. We've talked enough about leaving and why you're leaving. It's Sunday morning. Make some coffee, watch the morning shows, and relax.

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Orlando, you are the Barack Obama of TPM. Your message to Caspar could have been mean-spirited and dismissive; it wasn't. It was respectful and also very appropriate. I could take a lesson or two from you!

I might also add:

5. You really aren't obligated to post a blog. Reading other blogs is very informative and it gives us all new ideas. Posting comments is a good way to start.

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Wow. "Hello world" to "Fuck you, good-bye" in less than 48 hours. That must be a new record.

I think that the record for "Fuck you, good-bye" to "I'm back" is about 24 hours, still held by Desidero (though Ripper made a nice run for it). Think of it as a challenge.

PS I also enjoy the irony of your having bookended a post on e-narcissism (great word, btw) with a dramatic everybody-hates-me-fuck-you-good-bye flourish.

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Careful. Some people don't get irony (see: John McCain).

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Believe me, I know

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Caspar, this is the first post of yours I've ever read, and I think it's very funny (apologies if you didn't intend to be funny). The fact that you are completely frustrated with TPM and have been publicly insulted by Genghis (don't mind him, btw, he's trying to quit smoking) means you have been successfully hazed and are now a part of the "community" of dysfunctional loonbags. Welcome.

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Takes one to know one. Loonbag.

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The loon is a noble bird. Haunting call, mates for life, ancient. Plus it's THE Canadian bird - on the one dollar coin (the "loonie.")

You & Gasket just stick to your turkey - or whatever fat, stupid, easy to kill, impossible-to-listen-to National bird you got down there.

Turkey bag.

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Loons are horrid, they use their sharp beaks to kill the young of other birds.

Ick!

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And Canadian Geese splash and drown swans. Now you see the master plan. First we take the skies......

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We are all loonbags now.

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And I'm mean...oh, and a loonbag.

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Blow! When did you turn into a big, ol' softie?

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Always have been, still. My little secret. ;-)

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Good God. You should be grateful people are even reading your posts, let alone commenting. I've made very few posts and I've received very few comments. I'd be happy if someone would just respond to one of my posts to tell me I'm full of shit.


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Hey Debbie. You're full of.....

Happy now? ;-)

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Thanks, Quinn. Ask and ye shall receive, huh? :)

And thanks, Gasket. :)

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debbiedoesnothing: fwiw, I always read and enjoy your comments. ;-)

love, gasket

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This post got really fun while I was away.

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Pattern? ;-)

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Grr. Be quiet, you.

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