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Letter to Obama from a Dying Friend


My friend Robert Ellis Gordon is dying of lupus, with months left to live. He's spent more than a decade teaching writing to prison inmates, written a terrific book called The Fun House Mirror from those experiences and crafted a rave-reviewed novel, When Bobby Kennedy was a Moving Man, on Kennedy being sent back to earth to determine whether he deserved Heaven or Hell.

I often quote something Robert said to a group of fellow prison teachers, which seems an apt metaphor for any effort at change: "Some of the people we work with will already have redeemed their lives. Others, no matter what we do, will be back in here again. And for some, our efforts will make all the difference. We will never know which group is which, but that should not serve as a deterrent to our efforts."

Robert just wrote this open letter to Obama, challenging him to reach for his deepest levels of courage in being honest about what we face after decades of pillaging our economy. I'll miss his wise voice.


Dear Mr. President:


I am one, among millions, who recently received an email regarding your health care plan. Mr. Plouffe's email requested personal stories.

As a fifty-five year old man who has lived with a rare and serious illness since 1989, and who was recently referred to hospice, I am, I suppose, no less qualified than others to write about the challenges and unlooked-for blessings that accompany a fatal disease.

Upon reflection, however, I realized my story would be less compelling than others. For I come from a generous family. True, we were raised to make our way in the world and I started to work at age fourteen. Some forty years later, however, when it became evident that I could no longer hold down a job, my family cut back on their expenses so that my basic needs would be met. Hence I will not die, as thousands of my counterparts do, alone and anonymous in a hospital room or in the streets.

So? I deleted Mr. Plouffe's email and returned to the task at hand. But deleted or not I was distracted by the email, so much so that I left the computer and took my dog for a walk. At the park, as I tossed the squeaky ball to Rose, I asked myself a question: if given the opportunity to write a letter to the President -- a letter in which illness and impending death served a larger agenda-- what would I say to him?

The answer was immediate and impassioned: "Please level with the people. Now."

What do I mean by level? And why this sense of urgency?

The urgency stems from the peril I see in an unbalanced presentation of your economic scenario. I do not mean to suggest that you speak only of the most dire predictions. We need a substantive message of hope. It's been a long forty years since we heard one. But authentic hope, as you know better than most, is founded upon truth. You had the courage to speak it throughout your campaign, and the magnitude of your victory revealed a public yearning to hear it.

In order to sustain the trust of the people, it is imperative that you continue to feed this yearning. That you do as you did in your speech on race: speak to us as adults. Speak even more deeply from the heart as well as the head. Above all, speak in the spirit of Judge Learned Hand: "The spirit of liberty is the spirit of not being too sure."

So even as you speak words of hope and quell our fears with your steady presence, let us know that you proceed in the spirit of not being too sure because you cannot be; because no one can be; because a global economic meltdown is unprecedented in scope and nature.

Tell the people, as FDR did, in a style that is true to yourself, that there's no panacea for this catastrophe. A catastrophe that was decades in the making and is not yet fully understood. And that your approach, therefore, must be a flexible one that allows for a sliding scale of eventualities, among which is the possibility--remote or not-- that this economic Katrina may outrace your best efforts to both remedy the cause and mitigate the effects.

What is to be gained by leveling with the people now? And what are the consequences if you do not do so?

Your most precious resource, Mr. President, is neither your brilliance nor the elegance with which you wield the language. Your most precious resource is your credibility.

The consequences of an unbalanced presentation, one that tilts too heavily toward the rosy?

No adverse consequences if that scenario unfolds.

But if worse continues to lead to worse as numerous economists predict, and you deny yourself political cover by not allowing for that eventuality?

Your popularity will prove thin and short-lived. You will lose your credibility. Quickly. And once relinquished, it can't be restored.

Should you lose your credibility the people will, at the least, dismiss you as yet another president in a long line of presidents who opted to not be statesmen. As for your ability to summon our better angels? That remarkable gift will be squandered.

And that's the best case scenario, Mr. President.

The worst?

If , in the absence of a credible President, tens of millions--millions who are ill-prepared for adversity--find themselves living in a state of deprivation and want? And if fear of the unknown starts feeding upon itself?

The people may, as they have in the past, turn to a leader who uses the energy of ignorance and fear to summon our darkest impulses. We don't have to travel back to the Trail of Tears to recognize our capacity for looking the other way while our government pursues a policy of genocide.

We don't have to travel back to the torture and murder of Emmett Till to recognize our capacity for denying the humanity of a child.

Joe McCarthy's sheet of paper?

Ancient history.

A mere nine months ago John McCain chose a running mate who proved masterful at inciting fear and hatred of "the other." And if worse continues to lead to worse in the absence of a credible president, the hatred we saw on the periphery of her crowds could move to the center and burst into flames that consume our better angels as they fan out.

On June 2nd the headline for the New York Times lead story ran beneath this headline: "Obama Is Upbeat For G.M. Future On A Day Of Pain."

Upbeat on a day when the lives of 21,000 autoworkers and their families were shattered.

Upbeat on a day in which the closing of seven plants will translate into tens of thousands of shattered lives in other sectors of the auto industry.

Upbeat on a day when the Times ran an editorial devoted to yet a new wave of home foreclosures.

There's a dissonance here, Mr. President. And even from the standpoint of political calculation-- of the coldest Machiavellian calculation--this dissonance does not have to be. Last November the people rejected the politics of fear, rigidity, half-truths and lies, and embraced the politics of unity and truth. This was a tribute to our ability to discern and to the authentic nature of your message. A message of hope to be sure, but one that calls not for ease but sacrifice. And perhaps above all we came to appreciate a creative and compassionate vision that is tempered, at long last, by reality. Your vision represents the best and perhaps last hope for our children and for theirs.

You forged a bond with the people, Mr. President. But the glue hasn't set and the glue will not set if you do not re-calibrate your message.

The last and most important question: what is to be gained by leveling?

Perhaps the best way for me to address the positive, the potential for realizing your vision, is to circle back to Mr. Plouffe's request, and speak to you in personal terms about the lessons of illness and impending death.

You may be familiar with this quote from the poet, Sylvia Plath. "If only you could see me forge my soul, fighting and fighting to forge my soul."

Sylvia Plath succumbed to her despair, committed suicide in 1963. But her words still stand, maybe now more than ever, as tens of millions face the potential, at least, of entering the forging fire. And should that come to pass the people will look to you, just as the British looked to Churchill, for guidance, solace, and above all hope in the midst of their despair.

And where does my twenty-year dance with the fire fit into all of this? Where do you and I intersect? What have I learned that could possibly be of use to the President of the United States? What have I learned that might help this good man forge the soul of a nation?

Maybe something. Maybe nothing. But for what it's worth I offer a glimpse of my journey and a couple of nuggets I've picked up along the way.

The first nugget?

That we forge our souls not for ourselves but in order to be better disciples of compassion.

And how does an obscure writer and former prison teacher make a contribution this late in the day with a timeline, in all likelihood, of months?

Below, an excerpt from a recent note to the doctor who saved my life on numerous occasions over the past two decades.

... Suffering may teach but it is not an end in and of itself. And when the pain abates, during windows of peace, I write.

I have a book to complete before I die. It is different from the others. I want to leave something behind that may serve as a source of solace to a reader here or there; a reader who wrestles with despair during this era of incomprehensible suffering.

All those high-risk infusions? The fatal infection you warn me about? And my choice to continue, to run the risk, in order to buy time to write?

Like any man I fear a painful death. But after receiving Extreme Unction on multiple occasions, I no longer fear death itself. What I fear is a life not well-lived. And the best way for me to do so during the time that remains is to complete that manuscript.

It's just my body (not my soul) that is weary...


So that is my final task: to forge my soul on the page. I may die before I finish. Or I may risk all on the page and find that my skill is wanting; that the story implodes on itself. But if I fail in this task, I will do so in obscurity.

Because you sit where you sit, you don't have that luxury.

What you do have is the opportunity and responsibility to explain how we got here and enumerate the full panoply of outcomes.

If the rosy scenario comes to pass? The people will know, by dint of your honesty, that you are neither above nor below but of them.

And if worse continues to lead to worse? If tens of millions find themselves living at the extremes of deprivation and want? And you've retained your credibility?

The dreams you've resurrected may still be realized. Realized in ways and to a degree that would be unlikely during less uncertain times.

You'll be able to protect us, protect the children, from those who would prey upon fear and unleash violent thought, language and deed.

And as this economic Katrina continues to strengthen? As the people become increasingly aware that economic security is not a birthright? And are overwhelmed by a sense of vulnerability?

As the people walk through the fire together, the differences so artfully exploited by your predecessor will assume their proper perspective. And compassion may well fill the void. Shared adversity has a way of doing that.

And after the worst has passed, Mr. President? And the people, having been tempered by the fire, emerge stronger and more compassionate? Emerge with a visceral understanding of what it means to be dispossessed?

That, Mr. President, is when your vision may be realized. For the people who revealed a desire to serve at the outset of your candidacy, during times of relative prosperity, will still be here when the fire is extinguished. But the people will not be the same. They'll be more able and willing to answer your call. And their progeny will learn through their example.

This is not to say that the fire is pleasant. At times it's excruciating. I know that well. At times I want nothing more than to escape, and it is only faith that sustains me. Faith in God, yes, but also in man. Indeed, as I approach the River's edge, the distinction between divinity without and divinity within seems merely to be one of choice. And a simple choice at that: towards violence or towards compassion.

This is your hour, Mr. President.

I, like you, am both a child of God and a member of the body politic. And as I ready myself to leave this bittersweet world, I want you to know that it affords me much peace to know that you are the President. A President who quietly rescued the Constitution. Who can forge the nation's soul if the need arises. And who re-ignited the flame of hope and compassion months before the general election. A flame that was muted but not extinguished some forty years ago.

And this speaks to the most important lesson I've learned from my twenty-year dance with the fire. Certainly all people wish and deserve to be treated with dignity and compassion. But the human heart is bigger than that. We wish, as well, to experience our magnanimous natures, the divinity within. This is what Gandhi knew and tapped into. This is what my favorite saint knew: "It is in the giving that we receive." And this, Mr. President, is what you know.

So. A dying man's prayer for you and the nation: that the light that burns so brightly in you and your family will extend through generations. And if the children of the children choose to be their brothers and sisters' keepers simply because they listen to their hearts; hearts that tell them they're here to improve the lot of others?

Well, they may never know it was you who reminded their forbears of who they truly are. They may never even know your name.

But what of it?

If the words you spoke on election night come to fruition, they will not bring an end to suffering. But they will bring forth the better angels of which you speak; of which the last great candidate for president spoke.

And when I hear you summon our better angels forth, I hear echoes of the poet Robert Kennedy quoted on the darkest night of his brief campaign. And what greater legacy could he ask of you, and you, in turn, ask of us, than a renewed commitment to the age-old call to tame the savageness of man and make gentle the life of this world?

Sincerely,
Robert Ellis Gordon
Seattle, Washington
robertegordon@mac.com

Robert Gordon is the author of When Bobby Kennedy Was a Moving Man and The Funhouse Mirror: Reflections on Prison. He's written for Esquire, the Christian Science Monitor, Boston Globe, Ploughshares, and the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, and taught writing in Washington State prisons, juvenile institutions and inner-city high schools. He wrote Funhouse Mirror while undergoing chemotherapy, collaborating with six of his incarcerated students to let their voices be heard. The book won the 2000 Washington State Book Award. As one critic wrote of Bobby Kennedy, "Gordon's vision is at once radical and healing. It teaches us a little about Heaven and a lot about Hell." Robert can be reached at robertegordon@mac.com


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That is beautiful. Simply beautiful. I read When Bobby Kennedy Was a Moving Man years ago when I found it at the library and the title intrigued me. Sort of the way I stumbled across this post. I'm so sorry to hear Robert Gordon is dying.

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Tears of Gratitude! Tears of Gratitude!

This is perhaps the best thing that has ever been published at the Cafe. May it go far and wide.

Tears of Gratitude!

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This letter cuts to the heart of our real fear -- not that we face hard times and deprivation, or even personal death -- but that the direct speaker in whom we invested our trust has become inexplicably obtuse.

I'm sure that Obama has a game plan to move better legislation forward without destroying the chance to be re-elected, so that he in a second term, he can move more legislation forward. Obviously, he cannot publicly announce his plan in the political category. But we did elect him because we want candor. The grown-up truth that we, as grown-ups, can accept and work with.

If he cannot or will not provide that candor -- particularly in reference to his puzzling, but apparently intransigent unwillingness to promote a timetable for single payer healthcare -- that one issue may well be his nemesis, destroying his chances for re-election far more conclusively than any Republican fear/spin machinations.

I read yesterday, or the day before, that single payer healthcare for all could be implemented for @$1500 per person. Who among us would not cheerfully pay that amount, annually, rather than paying hundreds of dollars per month for a policy with a $3-5000 deductible? And who among us, given those alternatives, would not gladly apply some of the differential savings to coverage for those who can afford nothing at all?

Obama simply must demonstrate that our faith in him was not ill-founded. Letters, like this, must surely make a difference.

PaulLoeb -- your friend, Robert Gordon, has already made and is continuing to make a difference. I sincerely hope he knows that. Please thank him, for all of us, for his ongoing effort.

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At my age I pay nearly $400/mo for policy with a $5000 deductible! Medicare in 9 months will cost far less and give me far, far, far more!

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If he cannot or will not provide that candor -- particularly in reference to his puzzling, but apparently intransigent unwillingness to promote a timetable for single payer healthcare...

wwstaebler he never campaigned on single payer healthcare. He never promised a timetable for single payer healthcare. I suggest you read this by Digby a proponent of single payer healthcare:

http://digbysblog.blogspot.com/2009/07/what-works-by-digby-for-those-who-are.html

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It's so funny in a way, it's like the Democratic presidential primary never happened, all forgotten how Obama was the one offering the most conservative health care proposal. I actually thought that was quite purposeful on his part, it seemed to me a way to attract (or at least not turn off) certain types of voters and certain types of monetary support that leaned Republican. Baby-steps-change seems to really be his modus operandi, a core belief, looking back on his whole career(s) and books.

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I think his emphasis on bringing the cost down with a public option so everybody can afford health care was smart politics and better than Hillary and Edward's mandates. Still do. As a matter of fact I'd go further. I'd allow for two new competing plans. Let Dems create the public plan and let Repubs create a new private one in cahoots with their insurance company buddies. We could get a much stronger public option that'll be the basis of single payer. Given a free hand Repubs would produce exactly what their friends want that would fail to attract all but the dumbest ideologues and would collapse like FEMA during Katrina as policy anyway.

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Well, you're a better decider than me. I would try to read all the proposals and throw up my hands trying to decide which was the best way to go. I guess it's because I realized that none of them would work out hunky dory until lots of other things in the way medicine is practiced are reformed as well (and it's not possible to do the latter over night.) I had nothing against his plan. For me, it was more like: ok, I am starting to get a grasp of what has to happen, and all these recognize it, so, which plan has the least pain factor for me and mine. Because I could see that all had pain factors and all had good sides. It was really like chosing which route you want to take to get to a destination, and who gets the first benefits, who gets the first pain, etc.

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One key is getting a Care/Cost Effectiveness Commission in place. One that recommends/mandates best practices and paying doctors, hospitals and all providers off of their recommendations. The current fee for service structure just encourages doctors to order as many drugs, procedures, tests, and therapies as they can get paid for, and hospitals to fill as many beds as they can. That's why Medicare is going broke. Best pay for best practices resulting in best medical outcomes will save lots of cash.

The way we're doing it now is like paying a baseball player for the number of swings he takes not hits he gets or a quarterback for the number of passes he attempts not the number of completed passes or touchdowns scored. Sometimes it's more effective to draw a walk or run the ball.

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Has a care/cost effectiveness study even been mentioned in the healthcare reform discussions? Such a study would seem to be a prerequisite to bringing a lot of excessive costs back into the center portion of the curve. My other question is how such information would translate into policy that affects the whole healthcare market and not just the 'public option' segment?

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It has to be for the whole healthcare market. I spoke with Congressman Bill Foster (IL-14) tonight before the Warrenville IL parade and he concurs but from the outset it's gonna be tough. One question he has is how do you compensate a doctor for counseling a diabetic about diet that saves his life 10 years down the road? There have been studies for years and outfits like the Mayo Clinic and Cleveland Clinic get great results at a cheaper cost.

Another aspect is getting rid of the insurance companies' medical malpractice scam. We need a public option for that too.

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Agree it has to be for the whole market in order to deliver optimal results, but I've never had anybody convincingly explain how those changes are implemented in a multi-payer system. I think you make a good point on the malpractice insurance and its' effect on market costs. The solutions are complex and I suspect a lot of whatever changes are instituted will be being figured out as we go along.

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The for-profit private insurance companies will happily go along with best practices as instituted under the public plan because it'll lower their costs too. Yeah we're talking about many moving parts here. Along with the energy bill these are probably the biggest social re-engineering projects ever undertaken on the planet. If we hadn't let these problems stagnate for decades into crisises, especially over the last 8 years we could have done them in a more piecemeal fashion. We don't have time to wait anymore.

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Would this re-post from HuffPo be any less picturesque if you didn't mention that your friend Robert Gordon Ellis is dying of lupus, with months left to live?

Since lupus is an incurable but treatable deasease with an 80% survival rate, I'm puzzled why this fact was so important to your story.

And, while I believe you when you say you'll "miss his wise words", he's not dead yet and in fact commented on HuffPo and elsewhere just yesterday, wisely trashing Palin like the rest of us.

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Are you seriously belittling the fact that the subject of this post is dying of lupus?

That's a new low.

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No, I questioning the value and the need to add the drama by advertising this in the post's headline, first sentence and elsewhere in the text.

Or are you suggesting that the content wouldn't be quite the same if it came from a perfectly healthy person?

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I have a question. Are you officially, "Debbie Downer" or the "Skunk at the Picnic?" Which is it today?

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Today I'm just CVille.

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You should be so lucky!

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Mr. Loeb did use the reference to his friend's impending death in the title and first sentence. However - all other references were written by the man who is, in fact, dying.

As for HuffPo, I sincerely hope that this letter is posted in as many places as possible.

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I really try to reconcile that you seem to be a natural critic and so that's what you will attempt to do with everything you encounter.

Of course a person who is the friend of a writer might say 'I'll miss his words' as he is preparing for his friends death. The man has Lupus. That just happens to be a fact of the situation and considering that many may have read his books as you can read in a comment up thread, it seems entirely appropriate for him to include this in his tale.

The fact that Robert has been referred to hospice now means in fact that his death is near and how suitable that his friend wrote this eloquent blog in honor of him and shared it with us here. Many do not go to Huffpost so they would never have seen it if it were not here.

To have criticized this post is such a way demonstrates that you lack both discernment and compassion.

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I think any post merits a critical view, but maybe it's just me.

I think playing up victimhood to add poignancy is wrong.

And what I'm pointing out is that while the "open letter" wasn't openly published by its author, Mr. Loeb decided to extract the maximum possible political capital out of it.

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is there anything you won't piss on?

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you

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It is entirely your own story that this represents any form of victimhoood. I don't read that way at all. Seems that the facts can be very matter of fact and you yourself add the element of 'victim'. Perhaps it tugged at your heart strings just a little Lalo and your defenses kicked in but I find your assumptions here preposterous including that the motive was to gain 'political' capital in some way that is other than being of service to a friend.

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Yes, you are right.

I should have saying "using his friend's condition" instead of "playing up victimhood".

And one final point - I have as much sympathy for that friend as you do.

But I have nothing but disgust and contempt at how Mr. Loeb decided to use the fact of his friend's condition to do a well-timed townhall re-run.

"Service to a friend?" - please..

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"Robert just wrote this open letter to Obama, challenging him to reach for his deepest levels of courage in being honest about what we face after decades of pillaging our economy."

Service to a friend in my view:)

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When did critical thinking go out of style?

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It hasn't. You maybe ought to try it once in a while.

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HAHA! I'm not the one attempting to demean another for practicing critical thought.

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Is not dismissing the article as "satire" because you don't agree with the author a means of demeaning his critical thought?

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I've thought about it critically, and dismissed it as satire because it does not fit the frames of facts and reality.

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I your obviously humble opinion.

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This article is satire, obviously.

"A President who quietly rescued the Constitution"

hahahhahaha, Obama? Don't think so.

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Thank you Mr. Loeb. I can only hope that President Obama actually reads this letter.

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Co-sign. A masterpiece.

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I read the Times article when it first appeared, and again moments ago. Growing up 40 miles from Detroit, I lived daily with the reality of a declining industry -- layoffs, plant closings, boarded-up homes and weed-choked streets. I believe those workers, some of whom were neighbors and friends, deserve the opportunity to do honest work for an honest wage. I also believe we can no longer count on the American automobile industry to deliver those jobs.

I'm not sure what message what message Mr. Gordon would have had the president deliver that day. He acknowledged -- as he has since his inauguration -- the the bitter realities of a business and an economy in deep recession. Yet his message was about a smaller but still vital company competing for the future. It had to be.

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