My 'Special' Friend. A tribute to the living.
His nickname is 'The Hook", and we met in our kayaks in an eddy of the Rio Grande, over 10 years ago. I had been talking to him for about 10 minutes before I realized he was missing his left forearm and had been paddling his kayak using a prosthesis designed over 80 years ago, a medical invention that was mothered by necessity in the aftermath of WWI. He'll happily tell you the story of how he lost his arm at age nine when he reached into an uncovered electrical transformer. A playmate of his watched as he was blown out of his sneakers by 7200 volts of electricity, launching him 30 feet through the air. The treating physicians hypothesized that the impact of landing on his chest most likely restarted his heart. He has met and corresponded with many victims of electrical shock, but has yet to meet one who has survived one of that magnitude. He was lucky. His mom, a RN, rushed him to medical care, where he spent 6 days in a coma, and another week watching his forearm wither and die in the bed beside him prior to its' amputation. He recounts how even at that young age, he felt like the gods had placed a task before him, and he thought, "Yeah! I can do this!". He grokked his handicap as his mantra and mission. It was a defining moment, and in a sense provided him at least one raison d'ĂȘtre. If you ask him, he will tell you he has two birthdays: on his first, he well and truly entered this world, and on his second he lost his left forearm and embarked on a new journey separate from the path he previously traveled. His sense of humor would probably compel him to describe it as a journey he undertook single-handed.
Hook spent his youth following a military communications contractor father to remote outposts, and came of age as the only white kid in an Athabaskan village on the Alaskan coast. Following his amputation, the physical therapists suggested 'bowling' as a physical sport he would be physically capable of pursuing. Smiling with a spirit not easily relegated to the bowling alleys of America he bought a whitewater kayak, and began taking it to the local pool in order to learn an 'eskimo roll'. He later met someone who actually knew how to kayak, and the next morning he found himself on his first whitewater run down a freezing, class 3, Alaskan river. It was another defining moment in his life. He's been one of my favorite kayaking buddies for some time now, and I trust his abilities on a river more than the vast majority of two handed paddlers. He's an extraordinary outdoorsman, an expert skier, as well as a certified level 2 ski instructor in which he specializes in the teaching of children with physical handicaps. He's worked with the special Olympics as a coach. He competes in outdoor wilderness footraces, and sometimes guides back country wilderness raft and overland trips in Alaska. He has kayaked the 200+ miles of the Colorado River through the Grand Canyon. This is one bad-ass, one-armed vato, and if you don't believe it, he'll glibly inform you, "I've got a mean left hook".
During the past week as we traveled together in search of Rocky Mountain snow melt with our kayaks, he told the story of his teenage participation as the sole Anglo in a pole dance ceremony commemorating the life, (and death), of one of his Athabaskan friends from his village in Alaska. The villagers danced around a pole, festooned with the furs of every native mammalian species... For days... In the end the furs were given away to the dancers as a remembrance of their departed friend, a young man who passed out drunk, mere feet from his home, where the unforgiving Alaskan climate of late winter claimed him. Death is never far away in the extreme climate in which he grew up, and he wears the gestalt of an old soul like a favorite and comfortable jacket. He is a man who's seen a lot of life, including death, and doesn't look away from either.
After completing an undergraduate degree in biology, he spent seasons in the arctic doing field studies for the government and various academicians. Hook now has a masters in education and teaches 'special needs' kids. He's a world traveler who counts his month spent exploring pre-Soviet invasion Afghanistan as one of the more remarkable cultures he's visited. Asked if he knows how many countries he's visited, he pauses and tells me he stopped counting when the number reached the mid 50s. Growing up in a native American culture probably helped infuse in him an ability and desire to open himself to other cultures without losing sight of himself. Recently he spent a year in Kuwait teaching handicapped Kuwaiti kids. He laughed as he told me of his homecoming to the US following that year spent in a desert heat and culture that did not fully captivate his imagination. Arriving at the US Customs desk, the 20 something agent looked at his passport, noted the year he had spent in the Mid-East, and inquired in a matter of fact way, "Don't you love your country?". Hook's jaw dropped, probably conveying the facial equivalent of 'nonplussed'. What can you say in those circumstances? Where do you begin? If the agent interviewing him had any clue as to how happy he was to be back in the US, Hook felt incapable of relaying the complexity of his emotions. Disregarding the ignorance belied by the question, how do you convey the mixed emotions one feels upon returning from an immersion in a foreign culture to someone who likely hasn't ventured more than a state or two in any direction from his birthplace and seemingly has no interest in doing so.
A mutual friend of ours described our friend, an adept at describing natural, as well as cultural phenomena as an "encyclopedia on acid". I would add that he invariably keeps a more positive attitude than the Encyclopedia Brittanica, as well as most humans I've chanced to meet. One of our campfire conversations this past week centered on transformation, something Hook sees as the common thread binding most world religions. The ability to shift paradigms seamlessly. To move to the next level. He's talking about consciousness. And how we need to help it along all over the world right now. And then, he waxes on, as to how that message of transformation seems to be perennially subsumed by the organized part of religion, which often turns church imperatives to the accumulation of wealth and power. "Filthy Lucre" as he described it that night. He's good company in general and around a campfire especially.
He believes that the electrical gods have an affinity for certain people, and he knows he is one of their favored few. When those gods are nearby, his usual easy going nature can be disrupted. When an electrical storm appears on the horizon as we're paddling our boats downstream, we usually make for cover with Hook leading the way. With a metal prosthesis as his own personal lightning rod, I can't fault him. I'm tempted to describe him as an icon of what a handicapped person can overcome, and how such a person can transform his or her life, but I think I'd be selling this dude short. I've known plenty of physically intact people, myself among them who struggle to keep pace with him both physically and mentally. You have no doubt when you meet him and he tells the story of the electrical transformer, that he was indeed transformed that day, and that life is now coursing through him at 7200 volts. He strikes me as a master at 'transformation' and his handicap is just the beginning of his story. There is a breadth, depth, intelligence, and good humor to his humanity and his life that awaits all those who are fortunate enough to meet him, and even more so, those of us lucky enough to call him our friend.
Hook spent his youth following a military communications contractor father to remote outposts, and came of age as the only white kid in an Athabaskan village on the Alaskan coast. Following his amputation, the physical therapists suggested 'bowling' as a physical sport he would be physically capable of pursuing. Smiling with a spirit not easily relegated to the bowling alleys of America he bought a whitewater kayak, and began taking it to the local pool in order to learn an 'eskimo roll'. He later met someone who actually knew how to kayak, and the next morning he found himself on his first whitewater run down a freezing, class 3, Alaskan river. It was another defining moment in his life. He's been one of my favorite kayaking buddies for some time now, and I trust his abilities on a river more than the vast majority of two handed paddlers. He's an extraordinary outdoorsman, an expert skier, as well as a certified level 2 ski instructor in which he specializes in the teaching of children with physical handicaps. He's worked with the special Olympics as a coach. He competes in outdoor wilderness footraces, and sometimes guides back country wilderness raft and overland trips in Alaska. He has kayaked the 200+ miles of the Colorado River through the Grand Canyon. This is one bad-ass, one-armed vato, and if you don't believe it, he'll glibly inform you, "I've got a mean left hook".
During the past week as we traveled together in search of Rocky Mountain snow melt with our kayaks, he told the story of his teenage participation as the sole Anglo in a pole dance ceremony commemorating the life, (and death), of one of his Athabaskan friends from his village in Alaska. The villagers danced around a pole, festooned with the furs of every native mammalian species... For days... In the end the furs were given away to the dancers as a remembrance of their departed friend, a young man who passed out drunk, mere feet from his home, where the unforgiving Alaskan climate of late winter claimed him. Death is never far away in the extreme climate in which he grew up, and he wears the gestalt of an old soul like a favorite and comfortable jacket. He is a man who's seen a lot of life, including death, and doesn't look away from either.
After completing an undergraduate degree in biology, he spent seasons in the arctic doing field studies for the government and various academicians. Hook now has a masters in education and teaches 'special needs' kids. He's a world traveler who counts his month spent exploring pre-Soviet invasion Afghanistan as one of the more remarkable cultures he's visited. Asked if he knows how many countries he's visited, he pauses and tells me he stopped counting when the number reached the mid 50s. Growing up in a native American culture probably helped infuse in him an ability and desire to open himself to other cultures without losing sight of himself. Recently he spent a year in Kuwait teaching handicapped Kuwaiti kids. He laughed as he told me of his homecoming to the US following that year spent in a desert heat and culture that did not fully captivate his imagination. Arriving at the US Customs desk, the 20 something agent looked at his passport, noted the year he had spent in the Mid-East, and inquired in a matter of fact way, "Don't you love your country?". Hook's jaw dropped, probably conveying the facial equivalent of 'nonplussed'. What can you say in those circumstances? Where do you begin? If the agent interviewing him had any clue as to how happy he was to be back in the US, Hook felt incapable of relaying the complexity of his emotions. Disregarding the ignorance belied by the question, how do you convey the mixed emotions one feels upon returning from an immersion in a foreign culture to someone who likely hasn't ventured more than a state or two in any direction from his birthplace and seemingly has no interest in doing so.
A mutual friend of ours described our friend, an adept at describing natural, as well as cultural phenomena as an "encyclopedia on acid". I would add that he invariably keeps a more positive attitude than the Encyclopedia Brittanica, as well as most humans I've chanced to meet. One of our campfire conversations this past week centered on transformation, something Hook sees as the common thread binding most world religions. The ability to shift paradigms seamlessly. To move to the next level. He's talking about consciousness. And how we need to help it along all over the world right now. And then, he waxes on, as to how that message of transformation seems to be perennially subsumed by the organized part of religion, which often turns church imperatives to the accumulation of wealth and power. "Filthy Lucre" as he described it that night. He's good company in general and around a campfire especially.
He believes that the electrical gods have an affinity for certain people, and he knows he is one of their favored few. When those gods are nearby, his usual easy going nature can be disrupted. When an electrical storm appears on the horizon as we're paddling our boats downstream, we usually make for cover with Hook leading the way. With a metal prosthesis as his own personal lightning rod, I can't fault him. I'm tempted to describe him as an icon of what a handicapped person can overcome, and how such a person can transform his or her life, but I think I'd be selling this dude short. I've known plenty of physically intact people, myself among them who struggle to keep pace with him both physically and mentally. You have no doubt when you meet him and he tells the story of the electrical transformer, that he was indeed transformed that day, and that life is now coursing through him at 7200 volts. He strikes me as a master at 'transformation' and his handicap is just the beginning of his story. There is a breadth, depth, intelligence, and good humor to his humanity and his life that awaits all those who are fortunate enough to meet him, and even more so, those of us lucky enough to call him our friend.
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Miguel, you have some awesome friends. Then again, you're pretty awesome yourself.
May 23, 2009 10:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hook's an awesome guy. Broke the mold and all that. Makes me smile just thinking of him.
May 24, 2009 12:53 AM | Reply | Permalink
Miguel, its really comfortable to hear you talk and it makes me feel like we are sitting round the campfire, really pleasant. Your fortunate to have a friend like Hook.
May 23, 2009 11:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
Aye DonDi. It's my life telling campfire tales. Now, let's see here, ha' ye ever heard the one about the Far darrig in Innishire?
May 24, 2009 1:15 AM | Reply | Permalink
Nah, I will have to look that up, Im more familiar with the Midewiwin.
"mayaa zhigwa ji-giiweyaan!"
May 24, 2009 3:02 PM | Reply | Permalink
Now you've taught me a new word Dondi. All we need now is a campfire. ;)
May 24, 2009 9:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
Another wonderful story. Hook. My goodness. There is that tendency toward pity...
" I'm tempted to describe him as an icon of what a handicapped person can overcome, and how such a person can transform his or her life, but I think I'd be selling this dude short. I've known plenty of physically intact people, myself among them who struggle to keep pace with him both physically and mentally. You have no doubt when you meet him and he tells the story of the electrical transformer, that he was indeed transformed that day, and that life is now coursing through him at 7200 volts. "
What a great character to find in real life. We watch our heroes on the big screen or tv...So many heroes and supermen and women out there. With great stories to tell.
May 23, 2009 11:42 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well you'd think he was a 'superman' until you saw him pack up to leave camp every morning. There are some limitations to being one armed after all. And he'd be the first to laugh about it too!
May 24, 2009 1:10 AM | Reply | Permalink
Let's just say I have a fondness for "electrical transformers." In my case however, I lost the use of the left side of my brain. Not that big a loss really, just the analytical, logical, numerical, literal and linguistic stuff.
People up here tease me about it from time to time, but they've got this really good rehab program, where I get to communicate with a lot of other severely brain-damaged people.
It's called TPM.
May 24, 2009 1:24 AM | Reply | Permalink
Snap! You're one of the E-gawds favs too?
May 24, 2009 1:40 AM | Reply | Permalink
How's this?
May 24, 2009 2:35 AM | Reply | Permalink
'sOK, but it doesn't have the electric 'bolts' coming out of the scary guy's fingertips. Got anything better?
May 24, 2009 3:00 AM | Reply | Permalink
Miguel, (and Quinn too) I feel so lucky to just read what you write; I'm sure Hook feels equally honored to have you as a friend.
May 24, 2009 9:20 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you CVille. I think the respect/honor is in fact mutual.
May 24, 2009 6:32 PM | Reply | Permalink
I have always been struck by the U.S. mainstream cultural practice of reserving our tributes of people until after they have passed on. I think there is wisdom in recognizing folks while they are with us - and can correct us. I sense that Hook's story of his participation in honoring his friend's life, prompted this living recognition.
Thanks for the "story" (which like any good story has a number of morals), and thank you for sharing your friend with us.
May 24, 2009 11:03 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for reading Rowan. The Athabaskan pole dance story definitely contributed to my wanting to write about my friend. I think after traveling around for 4-5 days with just the two of us, It kind of slammed into my consciousness, what a stellar kind of guy he is. And yes, why wait till our friends and family are dead and dying before we tell them how much we appreciate them.
May 24, 2009 6:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great story/portrait, miguel. I have known a couple of those encyclopedias on acid, amazing supple minds, paradigm shifters. It's like they're rewiring my brain as they talk. Always love reading you, porky!
May 24, 2009 11:12 AM | Reply | Permalink
Muchas gracias pugley!
May 24, 2009 6:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you for this beautiful tribute to your friend. And a tribute to your own wonderful writing as well.
Highly recommended.
May 24, 2009 12:02 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks thera!
May 24, 2009 6:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
Very nice, piggy. He's got a great friend as well...rec'd and enjoyed.
May 24, 2009 1:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
miguelitoh2o,
Thanks for a ride with your friend
in the touring machine.
Much appreciated.
May 24, 2009 3:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
What a story, piggy, and how beautifully you tell it. This is the kind of thing that makes TPM the best. Thank you for the sublime read. I think you grokked it.
May 24, 2009 4:31 PM | Reply | Permalink
Gracias F-dog. I had an inclination the readers might be ready for a human interest story after some of the heavy slogging through the torture/never-ending incarceration work we've been doing lately.
May 24, 2009 6:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great story, mr. piggy! I hope it's just an intro to Hook. Can you elaborate more on the transformation theory? It sounds fascinating.
May 24, 2009 4:46 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks SS. You might have to come camp with us around a Rocky Mountain campfire to get the full details on the transformation theory of universal religious practice. ;)
May 24, 2009 6:46 PM | Reply | Permalink
Umm, is there hot and cold running water? How about big fluffy towels for after the shower and 300 count Egyptian cotton sheets for the er, sleeping bags? If so, I'm in!
May 24, 2009 7:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
LOL. I should be embarrassed to tell you what 'kayak-camping' consists of for me: A full size futon in the back of a full sized van, topped with an oh-so-cozy down comforter/down pillows. It's roughing it in luxury.
May 24, 2009 8:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
I'm in!
May 24, 2009 9:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks to everyone for your interest. My amigo's story writes itself. Should you ever meet a kayaker or skier who fits hook's description, introduce yourself, and tell him I said to say 'Hi'.
May 24, 2009 6:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
So... when we meet this Hook guy, we should say, "Oh yeah. I know this talking pig, and he says to say 'hi.' You know... a pig about yea high, with the shades and these little slippers. Says you two used to kayak together."
Bloody hell. What am I doing, arguing with a talking pig anyway. Where's the talking dog? Or maybe that broom.
This is hopeless.
May 24, 2009 7:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
mrrrrrrrrr. I have known lots of pigs, and none of them ever said "oink." They say, "mrrrrrrr," which is kinda like "namaste."
May 24, 2009 7:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think the dog just had an accident over on his blog, and is looking for the broom to do a little clean up.
May 24, 2009 7:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
Oh DonDi - you have made me feel as if Hook is my friend also. What a wonderful tribute to a man who obviously has left a part of his heart in your heart. How lucky you are for that.
May 24, 2009 8:22 PM | Reply | Permalink
Wot's that bastid Dondi got to do with the price of rice. Let him get his own blog. ;)
May 24, 2009 8:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks Peegalito.
Just... thanks.
It is worth noting that there are 10s of thousands of soldier amputees from Iraq that will need the empathy and common sense that you have communicated here. I have seen grown women cross they street to avoid amputees. It always pained me. Perhaps he can help them, perhaps we all will. This type of blog raises awareness for that.
So, Thank you.
May 24, 2009 8:48 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks chicken. I mentioned the origin of Hook's prosthesis design, (WWI), as I thought it was relevant. While modern prosthetics are being designed to simulate the look of the missing appendage, they are expensive, and according to Hook, not all that functional. He often has commented on how the design of his prosthesis hasn't been surpassed in over 80 years. There was an interesting stop we made last week at this tiny, roadside northern New Mexico bar, following a 20 mile paddle and long shuttle. We entered the bar which had seating for about 8 people, and the conversation gravitated pretty quickly to Hook's arm, with the locals wanting to know the story behind it. No one there was shy about talking about it at all. Eventually it came out that 4 of the people in the bar were missing legs/fingers/arms. It's not so uncommon a condition as many might think, then again, northern NM breeds some real salt of the earth human beans.
May 24, 2009 9:07 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yez. I hope that it will be so everywhere, mi amigo; and yez, the WWI mention is one I hope folks do not miss
That is ONE, not TWO.
May 24, 2009 9:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think I lost something pretty major, but I don't know for sure what it was. I hate to say this, but I think it was my courage. I used to be ready for anything.... now I use the excuse that no one really takes care of my pets adequately.
This is not me! I need to do something different.
May 24, 2009 9:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
CVille? Pets... LOL. Sometimes we do need to get our groove back. The 'great outdoors' has always worked for me. Kinda like meditation in action, hiking, biking,boating, etc.
May 24, 2009 9:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
Miguel -- You always cheer me up!
May 25, 2009 9:20 AM | Reply | Permalink