On Being Seventy (Almost)
Next week will bring my 70th birthday. Yikes. When I was younger, I thought people that age were ancient, fossils, over the hill, senile, and ready to be put out to pasture. Not surprisingly, I don't feel that way any longer. Perhaps I will now believe that when senior citizens reach 80, they are over the hill, but I still have quite a climb to reach the top of that hill. I never believed I would make this age. I lived a pretty wild life until recently and I was convinced, for years, that I would live a short one. My brother, who led a fairly exemplary life, died when he was 45, so I figured I would die relatively early also. After all, my life had been rather off the beaten track and not any near as saintly as his. At least I thought of his as near God like. He was perfect in my eyes and I defied anyone who thought differently.
At any rate, I made it past 50, and 60 with no problems. My health remained good, I looked younger than my years, or so people told me (God bless those who did) and some said I didn't act my age. Not sure if that was a compliment or not. I do think I have always been immature and my grandkids are fond of telling me I have never grown up. That is because I played pokemon with them when they were younger. They even bragged to friends that they had a "cool" grandma who played with a Game Boy and knew all of the Pokemon characters, also knowing how to cheat!
Nearing seventy, I started having "old people's" problems. I lost most of my teeth and now wear these blasted dentures which I detest. However, since I look like a terribly wrinkled old prune around my lips when I go without, I put up with them. They are a necessity but a real reminder that I am up in age. TMI? Sorry! Also have osteoarthritis in my knees which has caused me considerable pain and makes getting about harder and harder. I am being treated for it though- some new gosh darn injections of gel right into the knee and I am feeling a great deal less pain, thank the good Lord.
My only other health issue is my bi-polarism - I am a manic depressive and am on medication which keeps me in a better space and also from bouncing off of the walls. Only problem is the medications I am on are terribly expensive. I am hoping that President Obama and Congress will do something with these drug companies that charge so much for necessary medications that so many seniors on fixed incomes are having to decide whether to eat or take their pills. Dreadful state of affairs.
As I have shared with you in a past blog, I am growing politically. That is a good thing. To use my old brain is a step up for me. I have been ignorant of social issues, foreign affairs and those running our country all of my life. I just did not give a hoot about it all so simply followed in my family's footsteps and was a conservative. Yes, one of those.
I never liked Rush but did follow Sean, Bill and lots of other folks over at Faux News, as my daughter fondly calls it.
Well no longer do I sit in front of the TV watching any news shows, and to me they are shows. Everyone vying for ratings and seeing who can outdo who on guests, breaking news etc. I come to TPM, read the blogs and follow the news reports by going to different papers on line. I try to get a broader view of the country and world news each day. I am also trying not to laugh at my previous party's scrambling to decide who their leader is, what talking points they should stick to each day, and how much gossip and innuendo they can produce as long as it concerns the liberals.
So life is pretty darn good for me. I have no real complaints - no one listens to them anyway. Summer is almost here officially, and I am looking forward to being out of doors, enjoying my screened in porch and the longer days. I have my AA meetings to go to, my time here with you folks, lots of family visits and any number of fun things to do.
Thanks for listening to the old gal ramble. One of these days, I will get brave and write a political blog. For the time being, however, I will stick with things I have knowledge of.
I am, after all, a work in progress.
















Wow Maggie!
I love your openness/invitation to intimacy. I think it is incredibly beautiful to share the realities of experiencing aging, if we are fortunate we will all have them.
I take note based on what you have shared and what I have observed with my parents of the growth and wisdom that can continue to unfold as we 'grow' older in age which seems to have little to do with 'spirit'(i.e. the fun-loving, aliveness, and youthfulness you mention).
I too hope that there will be an effort as we make changes in healthcare to make sure that medications are available and affordable for any person that needs them.
When something really strikes you, gives you the impulse, then I am sure you'll write your political blog and meanwhile I enjoy getting to know you:)
June 16, 2009 4:10 PM | Reply | Permalink
Why thank you Stilli -
You know, I think I am having more fun now than at any other time in my life except for the good years with my late husband. It is a joy to be able to wake up every morning with plans one day and none the next. I don't have to do anything but revel in the fact that I am blessed with relatively good health and enough money to keep a roof over my head, food on my table, and then too, good friends and a fantastic family. Who could ask for anything more?
June 16, 2009 4:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
Always welcome, MM - you know that.
We're all getting there, day by day. And your voice, cluing us in on things, is going to be a very good one.
June 16, 2009 4:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
OG - you have always made me feel welcome and I am grateful for that. Growing old is not half as bad as I thought in earlier years - I sure am wiser but not too wise that I am pompous. LOL
June 16, 2009 4:36 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great post, Mom. I hope I'm still learning and growing when I reach your age.
June 16, 2009 5:30 PM | Reply | Permalink
You will be, my Lis - you will be - you are already doing so and will continue cuz that is the kind of gal you are...........
June 16, 2009 9:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yes, Maggie, good post.
I wonder how old I'll be when I turn 70.
Youth is not necessarily the eminent domain of the young.
June 16, 2009 5:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
How old you will be is totally dependent on your health. Keep really good care of yourself. And it helps to have an active mind, which I'm sure you'll have, tpm.
June 16, 2009 6:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
June 16, 2009 7:36 PM | Reply | Permalink
Looks like someone in this class is paying attention:))
Gold star for you Flower.
June 16, 2009 8:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Just love that wondering how old you will be when you are 70 hahahaha........I often think I will never grow up - maybe like Peter Pan?
June 16, 2009 9:22 PM | Reply | Permalink
Happy Birthday when it rolls around, Maggie. You're about 4 years ahead of me for the 70 milestone. Congratulations.
My Aunt just turned 100 a couple of weeks ago. As she was preparing for a day of partying, she fell and broke her hip. When the docs checked it out, they found she had a lot of bone left and she is healing up quite well. She remained chipper and positive through the whole ordeal. Very inspirational.
June 16, 2009 6:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
Your Aunt is certainly an inspiration - sounds like quite a gal!!! Thank you for your good wishes.
June 16, 2009 9:24 PM | Reply | Permalink
Happy birthday in advance, Maggie. I passed the 70 mark almost a year ago. I have found aging to be an interesting experience. It's not what I expected at all. Or maybe better said, I'm getting there much faster than I thought I would.
June 16, 2009 6:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for your kind words - it seems I have gotten here quickly too - can't believe I am going to be 70 - where has the time gone??
June 16, 2009 9:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
Aging isn't all bad, really; one can be surprisingly cheerful about it until we get the message that we should, for obscure reasons, be apologizing for it.
Thanks, Maggie, for a straightforward assessment of being the age and stage you are with no apology attached to anyone. From what you report, 70 is something to look forward to with enthusiasm.
Happy Birthday.
June 16, 2009 7:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks so much - I have had quite a life so far and certainly look forward to the rest of it.....each day is a gift - that's why they call it the present.
June 16, 2009 9:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
Bernard Shaw remarked when he was 75: OH TO BE A YOUNG MAN OF 55 AGAIN.
Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr remarked at age 90: Oh to be a young man of 75 again.
HA!
Three score and ten and you are still movin lady.
Good for you.
June 16, 2009 7:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
Shaw, at close to 100, was also asked how he felt to be that age. His reply, "It's better than the alternative."
June 16, 2009 8:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
I certainly agree with Shaw - each day is a miracle and I am grateful that I can awaken to a new one!!!
June 16, 2009 9:32 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks DD - you are always so kind - it is deeply appreciated, believe me...and I think we like a lot of the same music ------Tuesday Afternoon -
June 16, 2009 9:30 PM | Reply | Permalink
Maggie, darling, you Look Marvelous...
Meet you at 100!
So, so many more....
June 16, 2009 7:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
That is a date, Steve!!!!
June 16, 2009 9:31 PM | Reply | Permalink
I follow (albeit 27 years behind) in your footsteps :-) For some of us the path through life is a little more convoluted than for others but in the end you can ask yourself if even though you might not wish your life on your worst enemy, would you really want to trade with anyone else?
I'll join steve katz and you at 100!
June 16, 2009 7:47 PM | Reply | Permalink
Sorry to be so late in replying CL - we will have a nice time when we all get together at 100 - Steve, you and me - hahahaha.
June 17, 2009 3:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
My oldest sister will be turning the big seven-oh this year as well. She still has all her teeth. ;o) I kid her about being 'old' and she kids me about being the 'baby'. Like you, she hasn't stopped growing. Do you think maybe that's the secret? Never stop learning, never stop expanding your field of vision?
June 16, 2009 7:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
I sure am happy for your sister, Flower - LOL.
Dentures are the pits!!!!!!!! and I think continuing to grow is one of the secrets!!
June 16, 2009 9:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
Where to begin. I'll be 68 next month, a committed atheist, pass for much younger, fight off young women but am totally committed to my wife of 33 years, who is young and beautiful at 63. I've led an unusual life, hitchhiked across the country twice, lived in many cities and states, changed careers several times, finally got an MBA, consulted for companies across America. I learned to play golf late about age 22, never rode a cart unless I was forced to. In keeping with that, I exercise faithfully. If I'm not walking a golf course that day, I walk several miles in a very hilly location, climb up to 15 flights of stairs (120 steps, two at a time) and fast walk a steep hill to get back home. I've been doing this for years, eat like a pig, drink like a fish. I'm not bragging, I'm a realist who realizes that I could be dead tomorrow, but I'm not planning on it. My message? Don't let anyone tell you what you can or should be doing. You may be a couch potato (I am) but do the hard stuff. Dedicate yourself, start easy and gradually build (over months, if that what it takes) up to doing the stairs or whatever you chose to do. Lay off the beer until you get your weight down to what your doctor whould like it to be, then drink all you want knowing that if the weight starts going up in spite of the work you're doing, you're gonna lay off until the weight's down again. The earlier you start the better, but it's never too late, unless you've got some serious health problems. Your spouse will love you for it (which you will find you really appreciate about twice a week, specially if she's active also) and you'll amaze everybody.
June 17, 2009 12:15 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for sharing part of your life with me
June 17, 2009 2:14 AM | Reply | Permalink
I love your attitude and your openness. But most of all I like the way in which you surely won't ever "grow up." ;O)
If ya ever find yourself needing to explain your attitude about aging, I suggest you might wish to use this. I think it pretty well sums it up for me!
Thanks for a great post.
June 17, 2009 8:21 AM | Reply | Permalink
Oh Sleepin' - Tom Waits is hysterical - loved the high heel and boot. Thanks for the good laugh. I hope I never grow up - more fun being child-like!!
Thanks for "stopping by".
June 17, 2009 9:20 AM | Reply | Permalink
You rock, Maggie Mum.
June 17, 2009 8:28 AM | Reply | Permalink
I hope so, even at "almost" seventy - Thanks Toad.
June 17, 2009 9:22 AM | Reply | Permalink
Maggie, have you found, as you've gotten older, that you were actually HAPPIER at various stages of your life than you realized AT THE TIME?
When my kids were growing up, we were so damned broke all the time, at least, until my books started to sell, but we struggled for sooo many years, and that's pretty much what I wrote about in my journals then. It also took me so long to break into publishing, and it was so hard and seemed so impossible. (285 rejections with magazine articles; three unsold books before I finally broke in)
But I'm so glad I also did a newspaper column, because when I read through those, about all the lovely times we had horseback riding and playing family games and watching the kids romp and play with all the animals and all the ways they entertained themselves, living so far out in the country and being unable to afford things like video games--I realize that we had a truly happy life.
Another thing I've noticed is that, in my younger years, I was so much prettier than I thought I was. All I saw in the mirror was the flaws, you know, fussing over my weight or complexion or whatever.
I wish I'd REALIZED how much better things were all around than it seemed at the time.
June 17, 2009 9:04 AM | Reply | Permalink
I think I used to look back and see only the bad times! Now I find such joy in the good memories and am thankful for them. My kids are constantly remembering the camping trips, vacations, silly things we used to do and just family gatherings. How blessed we are as we grow older to be able to look back at those times. Thanks for your kind words, Deanie, and have fun as you grow older.
June 17, 2009 9:26 AM | Reply | Permalink
"I have no real complaints - no one listens to them anyway".
Oh yes we do! You just blog your heart out and you will be surprised at how many people think just like you do. Besides, us your whipper snapers could learn a thing or two from someone with obvious wisdom. I love the way you are so comfortable with recognizing your own faults. They say there are two parts to wisdom: Knowing what to say, and Knowing when not to say it! You obviously are a thinker, who knows how to formulate your own opinions and determine your own conclusions. We could use more people like you in the world.
Thanks for the post and if I don't hear from you next week, have a wonderful 70th birthday!
June 17, 2009 2:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you for your good wishes. I have found a new home here at TPM - I know now, that people do listen and for this talker, that is gold.
June 17, 2009 3:07 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you for your post. I can certainly relate to it as I am only a year younger. Somehow, when you are young, you never ever see yourself as getting "old". It creeps up and is somewhat of a shock. I have always said in the past that age is just a number and it beats the alternative.
When my brother and I took care of our Mother, it was with great patience helping her in and out of the car, shopping, etc. Our Mom was healthy and was on no meds when she died at 87. It was just her time. My brother said to me one day when we were exercising our patience "Sister-just remember one thing. We will be there some day." I never forgot it--a good lesson to live by and to pass on to the young.
I am very fortunate as I am not on drugs and have no aches and pains but, I do have a new set of dentures (two weeks ago), which is going very well for me. By the way, I thought it was pretty appropriate for you and I in SJ's video of the magnifying glass and the teeth. We just have to grin and bear it.
I too played with the kids and now grandkids but, our game is Sorry, which we all play to kill.
We need the attitude that we aren't getting older, just better. I may do an article myself on this aging thing. Have a great birthday and make some new memories--good ones, of course.
June 18, 2009 12:58 AM | Reply | Permalink
Just one question:
Why do you think it is the government's responsibility to do something for you? What can you do for yourself?
If you've only become interested in politics recently, this should not be a far fetched question for you.
July 4, 2009 3:06 AM | Reply | Permalink
The government's responsibility is to make sure the citizens of this country aren't exploited, gouged, and otherwise scammed by corporate interests whose only thought of compassion is for themselves.
What do YOU think should be government responsibility--keeping in mind, of course, that we're all taxpayers and thus the ultimate overseers and beneficiaries?
By the way, I won't speak for Maggie, but your rudeness on entering this thoughtful discussion with nothing but a snarky jab is SO unwelcome.
July 9, 2009 7:45 AM | Reply | Permalink
Hi Maggie, you're catching up to me! I'll be 72 in September.
Lovely piece. I can relate!
About those knees--I had the same problem, injections and all, and then my small town doc told me to start taking 2000 mgs of Glucosamine daily. It has literally changed my life. I walk a mile or two every day, and going up and down steps is a piece of cake now.
And about the bi-polar meds. My daughter is taking Seroquel and it has literally changed HER life! Yes, they're outrageously expensive but our small town nurse told her to apply to Astra-Zeneca to get it free. And, bless them, they agreed. Whatever you're taking, see if the company that makes it will give it to you without cost. Many companies do, much to my surprise.
Love your writing. Keep it up. You're great.
Ramona
July 8, 2009 10:19 AM | Reply | Permalink