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My Corner Deli


I moved here to the poor side of Pelham about 5 years ago.  Yes, there really is a poor side of Pelham. 

Within two months, there was a shooting across the street in a building that was a bar but is now an office, thanks to the bar closing because of the shooting.

During the shooting, my exBF Billy and I were in bed and we heard these three noises that all sounded like gunfire and not backfire, so I stayed cowering in bed while Billy crawled to the window to see what was going on.  The only reason he dared to do this is because we live three stories high (well, now I only do, but that's another story) and he figured he could peek down without being seen.

He saw:  A man run out of the bar (which is now, of course, an office building) and get inside an old beat up white station wagon with a tan top, and it cruised around our corner and up our hill and was gone.  He then came back to bed and said, "I dunno what that was all about, but I wish to hell your office had never moved up here."  (I had relocated to be closer to my job).  He then proceeded to say a lot more, but I'll leave that up to you all to ponder.

The next day, the local news stated they didn't know what had happened at the bar across the street other than that it appeared to be a love spat involving a local girl and an out-of-town guy who shot another guy three times in the arm and then ran into a getaway car.

So I promptly walked over to my local police station and gave them a description of Billy's birds-eye-view of the getaway car in hopes it might help.  I then went home and told Billy what I'd done and he went ballistic and wouldn't speak to me for three days straight.  This from the man who invited three Jehovah's Witnesses in, no, sorry, they were Mormons, to talk to me about my beliefs but every time they rang the doorbell I'd send HIM down and make him answer the freaking door.  But, I digress.

So, anyway, it's now six years since I moved here to the cheap side of Pelham (yes, there really is one, trust me) and I walked tonight to my local deli at 10:30 at night cuz I know it's open until midnight, and it's a lovely warm night and I enjoyed my walk there, and I get to the counter with my goods and talk with the guy who is always, I mean always, behind the counter, and he asks how I'm doing and asks if I want my usual deal on cigs and I say no, not tonight, I have two packs already that he sold me for $5 each, cuz they treat me well there cuz I'm there every day, and then he tells me he's really tired.  So I say, "Take a vacation."  And he says, "I can't.  I work for my brother the owner and I can't take time off."  I say, "Can you find another job?" and he says, "What, with my broken English and no skills other than this?".

His brother owns the deli and they are from Yemen.  Or Yaman.  I'm still not sure, exactly, cuz I still have a hard time with his accent and mostly go by facial expressions.  He says Saudi.  I trust him.

He's learning his brother's business and running the place while his brother with the nice SUV only visits on weekends and owns the bigger deli in Mount Vernon.  He works for his brother six days a week and has no life, no wife, no nothing while he's learning the trade.  I asked him tonight, "Do you like it here in the States?".  He said "No, not really.  But life at home was no better, and here I can at least maybe learn something and get my own deli, so I work hard."

While we're talking, a girl knocks on the door of the deli.  Normally, people just swing the door open and stride in, and so we both look perplexed at her as she knocks at the door, looking in plaintively at us.  He goes and opens the door a crack and she comes in sideways through the door in a circus-like move and says, "There are kids' bikes blocking your door.  I thought you were closed."

I say good night to my cashier friend who misses his home and I start to walk out the door and sure enough, there is a little black bike blocking the door, sitting outside on an otherwise long sidewalk.  So......I push the door ALL the way open and force the bike to go scratching its way along the sidewalk in my effort.  On purpose.

And this young kid, 12?  13?  is standing next to another kid his age, and they are both standing next to an SUV occupied by two teens in their late teens, and this young kid says, "Yo, lady!  That's my bike!!!" and starts moving up to me.

I say back, "Yo, this is a doorway you're blocking!"

He says back, "Yo, I just have it parked here on the sidewalk, bitch."

I say back, "It's in my way and blocking the door of a business, kiddo." 

And then my deli counter friend peeks out and says, "She had the right."

And the kid says, "Whoa, she damaged and scraped my bike!".

And I see all his friends start getting all angry and defensive and my deli guy says, "Move on, get out of our doorway," and then he wisely goes back in his store.

Heh, I don't blame him.

So I said, "Did I damage your bike any more than it's already fucked up?  Cuz it looks pretty fucked up to me."

And the kid and his friends take a step back. 

He does dare to say, "Well, you should probably owe me something for that."

And I said, "Well you should probably leave deli doorways open to customers, friend."

And with that, I walked away.

I walked two and a half blocks home, with no interference, turning around now and then to make sure I had no one following me, and keeping my hand on my car keychain which has my alarm on it.  And no interference whatsoever.

My corner deli.  Welcome to Pelham, the first town in Westchester.  Welcome to Pelham, the northside of the tracks.  You know, the poor section.



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Jeez, Lis...(shaking head in fear for friend w/ brass balls under her skirt!)

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'brass' my ass. Those are cast-iron petanque boules. Nicely done Lis. That's the way to handle the kids.

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Brass balls? Moi??????

Heh. I just calls it as I sees it.

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You get tough after awhile. people get sick of being pushed around. Of being infear all the time.

Its your neighborhood. Your place.

Great story....

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Oui, tu!

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Lis - you are a wonder - i learn more about you every day - what a daughter I have everyone - what a daughter!!!!!

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Wow. Cojones grandes, Lis...

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Heh, I try.

Some things just piss me off. I don't care if it was a potential drug deal (I've seen them outside the deli in my six years here) or just stupid kids acting stupid....adults still rule when they see some kids acting up and they can be vocal and fearless about it, I hope.

Then again, this is Pelham. Heh heh.

Actually, I'd do it just the same if it had been the Bronx. My neighborhood is my neighborhood, and I intend to keep it that way.

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Lis you rawk!!!!!

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See, the East Coast cities have neighborhoods with history, and history has some value even on the wrong side of the tracks. What the? Where there's neighborhood that's what matters, and you're part of it. Great story.

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I've always tried to be cool with the kids in my neighborhood(s), cause I figger they stand a fair chance of growing up to be JDs. Then again, each situation in the city demands individual assessment. The rich tapestry we weave... Well played, Lis, but do be careful.

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I usually am, Miguel, I usually am. Thanks for the Lou.

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He he... You didn't know how that story was going to turn out... could have been a nutjob in that car with a gun.

But now I confess that I say this as one who has been there many times and I know what it feels like to take a stand. And you are my sister...

Once when I was 16 I left my parents and moved in with an uncle in one of the worst neighborhoods. There were gangs, drugs, violence but he was married to a tough irish woman and I was friends with my cousins(not my uncle's children).
I made friends with a girl nextdoor to my uncle and ended up moving in with her family. She had a sick stepmom(cancer) and three brothers and a lot of responsibility fell to her and I helped out. It was summer and my parents were screwed up and I was fed up with them.

One night my friend Gina and I were outside talking and she was sitting on a friend's car parked on the street. A 17 year old boy that she knew and I had met a couple of times came up and stood next to me talking to my friend and he was tripped out on something. Suddenly he grabbed my friend's throat on one side and put a very big, sharp knife up next to the other side of her throat.

She immediately started crying and he started saying all kinds of stuff in anger towards her, yelling, calling names. I don't know what possessed me but I knew I would not let anything happen to my friend and I moved right in and got eye contact with him and started talking to him firmly and I don't know if I hypnotized him or what. I told him he did not want to hurt Gina and told him to take the knife away and just go. I said his name and I repeated this a few times and then he did exactly that. That was it.

Weeks after that Gina had received a threat from a girl that started dating an ex-boyfriend of hers. She was told that this girl was going to be coming after her with her friends. This was of course some macho gang behavior and Gina had done nothing except date the guy and break up with him. Gina asked me if I would fight with her. I had never been in a figt in my life and had no idea what I was committing myself to. I told her I would.

She told me a few weeks later that some version of the story of getting the guy to take the knife away had circulated around. I now had a reputation and as soon as this girl that had threatened her found out 'I' was going to fight with her... they completely backed down. Funny...

I ended up with some reputation for being cool and not taking any shit. I liked that. Of course it could have gone very differently.

It's crazy and dangerous on the one hand but can change lives and experiences on the other hand... when we take a stand like that.

I love that you shared this Lis! Very cool!

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Wow! You two are something else! I've never been confronted with situations like that, but I would hope I'd be that brave.

I've never understood how entire neighborhoods can let themselves be taken over by gangs or drug dealers. It's like "no law west of the Pecos". Where is their pride, their feeling of place? What a way to live.

But both of you (LisB and Sinchronicity) did your part. Congratulations.

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Seems like BrotherTheOwner needs to come relieve BrotherTheSlave for some well deserved vacation.

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You are a wonderful writer, LisB. I'm glad we have a Cafe where all sorts of writing happens - Every. Single. Day.

Thanks! :-)

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LisB and Synchronicity: Wow -- would I, could I be as confident as you both apparently were under severe duress, or at least give a convincing imitation of same? Don't know and I hope not to find out. But brava, both of you.
On a tangential, but still relevant note: Whaddaya think? Could this group of wordsmiths come up with a different metaphor for female bravery, or better, uni-sex bravery, that does not involves balls or boules, brass or otherwise? I see that it is a perplexing problem -- I cannot, at the moment, think of an alternative myself. But there must be one at least that is not just a reverse in equipment... brass breasts, for example, isn't that appealing or laudatory a reference, is it ? Sounds scary at best and pejorative, rather than admiring at worst.
Hmmm, any ideas?

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What about:

The Lioness
The Tigress

This does take one to Germaine Greer, does it not?

Some of the strongest people I have ever met are women. Surviving, nay more than just surviving, prevailing.

I shall ponder this further!!!

Oh, and testicles are like shins; easily hurt.

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Well thanks for the compliment.

In pondering your question I went to look up the word Moxy and I found this:

http://www.womentcb.com/Moxy_Women/

Moxy and Grit are words I have heard used but when I think of a heroines like Taarna from heavy metal:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pIW5gz8WUU

or Harriet Tubman, Norma Rae, there are many...

these words seem weak.

Most of the time in my life people have just referred to it as courage.

The thing I was getting at is that there is a certain 'gamble' in being courageous...

For example if you look at Lis and I in these examples... if things had gone differently people would be telling us how 'stupid' we were to do these things. I just think it's an interesting thing... because I've done it myself and just now I am realizing that it while the results can sometimes be disastrous there were an attempt and act of courage... I have learned something by considering this today. :)

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Okay, I am realizing that I really need to edit posts...urrgh.

I just think it's an interesting thing... because I've done it myself and just now I am realizing that while the results can sometimes be disastrous they were a result of an attempt and act of courage... I have learned something by considering this today. :)

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I want to clarify that what I learned is not that I would change what I have done.

But I will look differently at people who take risks that don't turn out well, differently. They may have been being foolish but they also may have actually been courageous and it just did't work out as well.

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Chesticles

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It's a funny thing how age can make the words more pwoerful. BUt sometimes that does not work. The odds are good it will work, but the stakes can be very, very high, not even worth an argument. Most times we can have a feel for whether we should elevate a situation or retreat. The thing is, those who were "wrong" may not be around to tell us what went wrong.

LisB, I'm glad you're safe, and Sync, you too! I wish more people would impart some common sense with the careless, but there are risks and often times parents just support their kids no matter what. It takes a village to raise a child? Maybe it does, maybe we should help each other, but it's hard to know exactly when.

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Yes, the stakes can be raised faster than one has time to process.
And the most important thing may be to get home in one piece.
Situational ethics.

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