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Gimme Shelter


On the night of December 15, 2006, the three-year anniversary of my father's passing, my beloved cat Jupiter died in my arms.  I was devastated as I listened to him take his final breaths, knowing it was too late to get him to the clinic.  That was a night I will never, ever forget.  I had become so attached to him in the three years that he stayed with me, I paid for a personal cremation and an urn for his ashes, money being no object.  I'm kinda silly that way, I guess, but really -- he was my baby.  Pets are just like children, you can't tell me otherwise unless you have a cold heart.

Two days after his passing I was so miserable and bereft I made the decision to drive down to Long Island to visit the famous North Shore Animal League, one of the best no-kill shelters on the East Coast.  I had seen a pair of cats on their website that I just knew I had to meet.  What I wanted was a set of siblings so that, while I'd be at work all day, they could keep each other amused.  I'd always felt guilty leaving Jupiter alone in the apartment.  And I wanted them to already be neutered, and litter-box trained.  These two specific cats I'd seen online totally fit the bill, the only drawback being that were already 8 months old, and I, like so many others, would've preferred younger, "cuter" kittens.  

Lucky for me, when I got to the shelter the brother cats were still there.  Sadly, many people found them to be too big, too "old", and too unfriendly and skittish.  Their handler, a very sweet girl named Dorit, warned me that they were very fearful cats, but then assured me that when she sat alone with them during the day, they were very loving.  They just needed time to adjust to people.

Dorit told me that one of the brothers had been found in the backyard of a fellow NSAL employee when he was only three months old.  They captured his brother a month later.  She gave me their medical history, had me fill out a ton of paperwork, and then took me into a small room where I could sit with her and the two boys alone without interference from others.  As expected, the two of them were terrified in my presence.  The smaller and darker of the two, Willie, allowed me to pet him but seemed very nervous about it, while the larger brother Wallace simply ran into a corner and hid in a cupboard.  Dorit apologized upside down and backwards and asked if I'd rather meet some other cats instead, but something about Willie reminded me of Jupiter and I decided then and there to take them.  

According to North Shore's guidelines, I was supposed to "donate" $75 per cat, for a total of $150, but they were so grateful to me for adopting two older, unwanted brother cats that they told me I could have them for free.  That just made me so sad I made the donation anyway....well, okay, I donated $75 but then spent another $60 in the League's store, buying toys, cat beds, food, supplies...

They were quiet enough in the car the whole way home until I got near the house and then one of them started wailing.  I brought them upstairs to my apartment and let them out of their cage in the small dressing room that now houses their litter boxes.    They promptly ran into the bathroom and hid behind the toilet together for three hours straight.  Then I let them have the run of the place and they promptly hid underneath the bed for a whole day.

Eventually they moved into the living room, curious about me and wanting to surreptitiously check me out.  One would hide in one covered cat bed, the other in a cardboard box.  I tried to pet Willie and he curled up in the back of the cardboard box to get away from my hand.  I found this disheartening so then I moved on to Wallace in the cat bed.  He amazed me by purring and then floored me when he rolled onto his back so I could stroke his belly.  That takes a lot of trust.  So I got encouraged by that and kept working on him and eventually within a few days he was sitting on my lap.   Once Willie saw this, he started hanging out by my feet.

Three years later and Da Boyz as I call them are the most affectionate I could want them to be.  Willie still doesn't like to sit in my lap, nor be held up in my arms for long, but Wallace if he could have his way would have me hold him and carry him around 24/7.  They are very good (except with houseplants, which I've learned not to put on the floor) and they know not to jump on the kitchen table nor the counters.  I love them to pieces and I'm happy to say they adore me right back.  When I surprise them by coming home for a few minutes on my lunch hour some days, I find them curled up together on the sofa, which always makes me happy.

I miss Jupiter tremendously, he was a very loving cat, but these two shelter boys have totally won my heart.

So please, if you want to adopt kittens from a shelter -- and I strongly urge you to go to a no-kill one -- don't overlook the older, skittish cats who are almost a year old or even older.  Same with dogs.

They might be hard to get used to at first, but.....they'll love you all the more for giving them a chance.

If you can't take in a pet, at least consider donating to the NSAL or your local shelter.  Animals have feelings too.


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Heh, I was just watching some TV item about a dame that sleeps with her pet Cheetahs. She has them lick her face and says it's good for the skin.

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Ummmm.....okay, that's a little weird....

Da Boyz sleep with me but I have a helluva time rolling over because they sleep on my calves most nights. I can't begin to imagine what sleeping with cheetahs must be like, oy.

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Oh LisB

You truly rawk, and so do Willie and Wallace!!!!!

=D

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Lovely share Liz,

Right now my daughter and her cat are staying with me. Her cat is the most talkinest cat I've every know. She is quite the princess but also the most affectionate trusting cat I've ever known... of course my daughter dotes on her... calls her a precious angel and such so you can see where love and affection can really make a difference in how animals behave with humans.

I am a little allergic to cats... not too bad with Innana but moreso with others. I mysteriously developed the allergy as my cat was passing away 7 years ago. Before that I always had a cat in my life.

Now I am really hoping to get a dog because honestly it would be good to have someone here just so it seems like I'm not talking to myself 'and' I like to hike and live near the beautiful mountains and having a dog along would make that just perfect. I will have to explore the 'no kill' adoption centers.

Thanks for that suggestion:)

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sorry about the 'z' my hands don't follow my mind when I type sometimes.

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You're very welcome. I too have a slight allergy, and what's weird is Willie doesn't make me itch or sneeze at all, while Wallace (who is mostly white with just a touch of striped tabby on his back and legs) makes me itch like crazy. And he's the one, of course, who loves to sit in my lap while he rubs his face on mine.

I tolerate it with love, I truly do.

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Ahhh LisB. The poetry of life. Sweet story of love and companionship.

If you want a friend, I guess you can get a cat--or two!!

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Can't live without at least two, I just can't. If I someday had property I'd have dogs, I love them too, but living in an attic apartment, it just wouldn't make sense.

My "Boyz" constantly amuse and amaze me with their antics, love, and affection. I really am blessed.

I like to remind them that they are too, now and then, when they want to misbehave, LOL. I'm not gonna mention what they did to the easy chair with their claws, for instance....nope, not me, I won't mention it.

Heh heh. But I love them.

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Wonderful piece, Lis. When I lived in Indonesia, I volunteered at the zoo and helped take care of two baby tigers. We would have playfights and they'd grab hold of my hand or foot and look me in the eye to check whether they were biting down too hard. A strange kind of empathy. Smart, sweet, and sensitive little things with these huge paws. Had to be more careful when they got bigger though...

Don't know what that has to do with anything. Nice tribute to shelter animals - my best friend has a little traumatized shelter mutt (picked him up when he was three), the endearing little bastard snaps at my ankles every other time I come over, but still love him.

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Both cats give me love bites, and both seem to know that they shouldn't bite too hard. But I must say that when company comes, they get skittish again, and they hate going to the vet.

Jupiter was feral, I found him in the parking lot at work one day. Actually, my friend Julie at the office found him, hiding in the engine of our boss' Honda.

I took him in, had him checked out, but made the mistake of waiting to have him neutered. Big mistake. It caused him internal problems later which attributed to his early passing from kidney failure after he got a UTI.

It's so important to neuter and spay early on. I live with the regret daily, that I waited too long.

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Very nice, LisB. Biggy and Yoda, our two cats, are not of this planet, but if they were they'd be shelter cats.

They salute you and honor your humanity. So do I.

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Awwww, thank you not-so-meanie. Willie and Wallace say meow to your Biggy and Yoda.

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LisB,

They couldn't have gotten a better home and 'parent' I'm sure.

Will you post their pic sometime?

Great post and reminds us all there really are places where we can easily find a 'best friend' (or two)! It's a win/win!

Appreciate.

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That pic was taken while they were miserable at the shelter. It's what made me want them.

They are happier boyz now.

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Worked great and they certainly do look 'perfect'. Great pic and appreciate.

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Oh Lis - another wonderful post..........you know how I love animals, having had many. Benny and Joon are the best cats I have ever had. Affectionate beyond belief.

Your tale of the rescued cats is so beautiful and so heart felt.....thanks for sharing it with us all.

Love ya, Mum

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Luv you too, Mum. And Benny and Joon are very loving affectionate kittehs too.

Now, if we could just put them on a diet, LOL...

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I'm a huge animal lover, but I lean more towards dogs than cats. Having said that, when we lived in the mountains there was a sign in the woods that said "for a free meal..." with an arrow pointing towards our house, and we took in a BUNCH of strays. Nine was the most we ever had at once. We'd feed 'em, get 'em fixed, and if they stayed, we kept feeding them. My favorites were the ones that acted more like dogs...Petey (who looks a lot like Willie)was my all time fave. He got indoor privileges, he was so sweet. Back in those days, once I settled in for the night I would lay on the couch and watch a little t.v. and he'd come and plop on top of me, balancing precariously on my side and hip...purring away. As it turned out, he was sick when we got him and he died within a year. What an incredible blessing it was that he chose to live the last months of his life with us.

Thanks for a wonderful post Lis, and sparking some incredible memories for me.

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P.S. My husband is on the board of a non-profit spay/neuter assistance group. If you love animals and cannot adopt (and even if you can) please consider donating to a group like that as well. Each spayed/neutered animal keeps hundreds of unwanted animals from being euthanized down the road.

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Thank you for this, Stilli, and thank you for all you do for animals in need.

Willie, I have a soft spot for him, cuz he's just so much like Jupiter, only Jupiter was a gray and black tabby and not brown and black....and in the morning when I'm ready to go to work, that's when he needs me the most and follows me around from room to room as I shower and get dressed and I feel so guilty leaving him....

But, I digress. When I get home all he wants is a snack and a windowsill to sit on, LOL.


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LisB:
I've been to the shelter you mention -- going along last year when a friend adopted MoJo (a magnificent Maine coon cat, also an adult who had been overlooked.) It is the best shelter I've ever seen.
I'd like to add that I hope people will be particularly mindful about the fate of animals after a hurricane, flood or other natural disaster. It never ceases to confound and distress me that many people leave their animals behind when they evacuate and do not, or cannot necessarily reclaim them. It is heartbreaking to see mature cats and dogs jammed into cages and kennels, languishing -- though,sadly, not for long. Their numbers in that situation override the opportunity to give their best chance; most shelters do not have a no-kill policy, so unless they are adopted quickly....well.
Best regards to you and your lucky boyz from my shelter cats Tess, Hermione and Harry. Ta.

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Excellent point, ww, about cats left behind. So heartbreaking but so true. I once saw an ASPCA ad about a beautiful dog left behind by a family that had to leave their home in a rush and they left the poor thing tied to an upper banister of the second floor staircase, with no water, no food. The poor dog was a mere skeleton when it was found.

Happily, it was found and treated and nursed back to health in time....so the commercial said. Let's hope it found a good, loving home.

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I got two kitties form NSAL back in 1991. One of them is still with me. Thats pretty old for a cat.

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That is! More power to you and your kitty, wow!!

Heh, you may not be a Pug, but you're a good guy!

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We almost lost our cat last night. Only 13 months old and with all her shots, she seemed to have the flu or something and the thermometer showed she had a fever.

Wrangling with vets the whole afternoon to try to get them to see her, she was soon on the operating table and they removed her female organs which were greatly enlarged, infected, had cysts, and the infection had spread to other organs. She wailed with piercing unearthly cries as she steadily worsened before the procedure. They showed us her removed organs and described what they should have looked like -- terrible difference. She threw up several times in the night and at one point she seemed to stop breathing from choking on it. On the phone, the vet told us to pinch here and there (the nose is a painful place to pinch), but no reaction.

Massaging the ribs got a reaction, though. Today, she's making a strong recovery, and just ate a whole bowl of beef (wouldn't eat doctor-prescribed liver -- I knew she would not!). It looks like our princess will remain with us, knock on wood!

Thank you for your beautiful story -- we really enjoyed it. Charming in the pic, too. Your story came at a good time for us, Lisa B! :)

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I'm so glad your cat's on her way to a smooth recovery. It's very frightening when they're sick, I know how you feel. It's not like they can tell us what's wrong with them, eh?

Keep taking care of your baby and she'll be just fine.

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LisB, what a beautiful, beautiful blog. You know, from these pets, what traumatized people must feel like. How patient one must be. How ready to let them come to you when they feel safe. What a joy it is when you see that you've come close to those who start out terrified.

You could never torture. Nor could I. I'm so glad you have your pets. And that you share yourself (and them) with us.

I hope we as a nation will one day undo the damage done to persons tortured by us. We can never undo it completely. But, like these two cats, they deserve it.

Bless you, my dear. :-)

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Thank you so much, Thera.

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But, TheraP, if I may.....

If I may say this, luv....

I have to admit something to you that's been eating at me all day, in a gut feeling kinda way...

Your response here was heartfelt and lovely, as always, and appreciated. But...gosh....

I never mentioned torture, Thera. I never mentioned it or brought it up. My baby boyz were never tortured. I don't torture.

All day it's struck me as odd how you brought that word in here, to this post, and I waited diligently for my post to be taken off the rec list so that I could say this in all privacy (as much as we have, which isn't much, seeing as how followed we are, luv) but Thera....

...sometimes you have to sit back and take things into context again. Normal life. Kids crying, pets dying, and life happening.

Your daily posts on how you keep rethinking and newly discovering the torture aspects are impactful and needed and important, but....

...forgive the one who's probably in need of your therapy for saying so, but I worry about me own beloved TheraP.

I hope you can take a day to just walk around outdoors and breathe in the clear spring air, and enjoy the sounds of the birds, and enjoy the flowers and blossoms while they are just now showing their brightest and most beautiful colors.

I hope that you can keep your feet on solid earth and smell it's freshness while spring is still here, and let it renew your heart even in the depth of it's current sadness.

Please, Thera, for me.....please take a break from this important subject just for a few days, and give your mind and spirit and soul and body a needed rest and source of renewal.

Could you do that for me? Please? Cuz, for the first time since I've met you, I'm getting a little worried. I love you, you know that, and for me to say that I'm worrying about you, you know that I'm speaking from my heart and my worry, right?

I wish you peace and sweet dreams for the first time in weeks, luvvie. And I respect you from the bottom of my soul on up.

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Da Boyz probably don't know how lucky they are, LisB. You are lucky as well.

For nine years, our cat, Mr.Smith, patrolled the perimeter of the yard, marking his 'territory', scrambling up trees, and swatting at bumblebees with his his huge six toed front paws. He was content in his own kingdom. Last week, his realm was invaded by a neighbor's dog that had escaped from a kennel pen located inside another penned in area. Even doubly restrained, the doberman got out, headed directly to our place and disassembled Mr. Smith. It was horrible, hearing the whole attack from inside the house and not being able to get outside fast enough to help him. He was dead in a blinding few seconds. I'm still in shock, I think...it's gonna take a while to get over and I apologize for the downer.

Going to an animal shelter for a new friend(s) is rewarding in so many ways. It's not just that you get a puppy/dog or a kitten/cat...that's enough on it's own. You also get the satisfaction of knowing you helped decrease the unwanted pet epidemic by giving a wee beastie a caring home.

The shelter here gives a rebate on the adoption fees if you show them proof that you have had your new pet fixed. There are three vets in the area that will spay or neuter your pets at a deeply discounted price....$70 or less, depending on sex.

It looks like shelters are bending over backwards to find homes for the unwanted. That's why I'm always donating to shelters.

Migwetch for this post, LisB. Caring. It's not that much to ask for, is it? :o)

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Oh, Flower!! {{{Hugs}}}

I'm so sorry about Mr. Smith. What a tragic loss. No, it's not something that you will be able to simply 'get over' and that's understandable. You and your family have my sympathies.

Thank you, though, for donating to shelters like you do. I know that when the time is right, and you are ready for another cat, you will happily adopt a cat that needs you.

Peace.

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I'm so sorry, Flower. If you let me know what Mr. Smith's favorite tree was, I'll plant a sapling to grow in his memory.

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What a lovely thing to do, ww.

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Just practical, LisB, in a way I hope Flower and Mr. Smith would appreciate. You know -- plant a tree/ save a sofa-- for, and from a future Mr. Smith.

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Wendy, that is truly kind and generous of you. Makes me old eyes leaky.

Smithy spent many hours lazing on the limbs of a hundred year old green ash tree in the backyard. The exact trees that are now being decimated by the Emerald Ash Borer, so if you wish to choose a different species that has a better chance of surviving, that is perfectly alright. Come to think of it, he also like to scoot up the willow by the side of the house. I think because he could see into the kitchen and meow at me.

Here's link to a pic of Mr.Smith...I hope it works.
http://s228.photobucket.com/albums/ee256/flowerdchild/tpm%20only/?action=view¤t=smith01.jpg

Planting trees for loved ones that have passed on has become a tradition in our family, too. For our pets though, I like to plant perennial flowers. Along the east edge of our property there are violets, daisies, black eyed susan, pink bleeding heart and wild roses. Smith will be getting a white bleeding heart next weekend. :o)

Yer a nice lady, staebler.

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Oh, Flower, if your preference for pets is to plant flowers, we have a common ground. I spent some of the best parts of my childhood in Maryland, the state flower of which is the Black-Eyed Susan. They grew wild, everywhere.
Cats, as we know, are wild, even when they are gracious enough to go along with the domesticated appelation.
So -- for Mr. Smith -- a bower of Black-Eyed Susans? From all of my family to all of your family, magnificent six-toed cats included?
Or would a willow be best for Mr. Smith?

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Black Eyed Susans would indeed be magnificent. Chi migwetch (thank you very much), Wendy. :o)

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I'll send you a photo of Mr. Smith's bower, Flower. In the meantime, peace be with you.

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Ahhh, now ya went and got me all misty in the office right before I'm supposed to go and be a tough guy in a meeting with opposing counsel.

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Oops, my bad, Steve. I hope you're keeping a stiff upper lip!

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I very much appreciate the sentiments at the end of your post. It reminds me of my old college poem:

I feel like an old pair of shoes
that you wear
and then throw away
so drive my weathered soul into the mud
at least i'll be used
I guess
some shoes are never shined

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My wife liked that one; most of the ones after I met her are happier.. ha

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Joe, I like it! Then again, I like everything you write.

Thanks for the kind words.

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Murry says, "You can judge a human on how they love their animal friends"

"This post gets my four-paws and wagging tale recommendation." "A must read."

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Willie and Wallace and I are very honored by Murry the dog's gracious sentiments.

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My avatar heartily recommends this blog!

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My kitties were brother and sister; Buddha (the boy) just suddenly got sick and I took him to the vet. He was there for 5 minutes and the vet came out and told me he had died! I wish I had kept him with me or gone in with him -- I have his ashes too -- he was so sweet; I could literally wear him like a scarf. His sister, Delta is sweet too but like your one guy, doesn't like to sit in my lap or be held. Sleeps with me, and scootches up so she stays in contact. I got them both from a "cat lady" who doesn't take care of her cats and they just reproduce like rabbits. I take her bags of cat food when I go to the town she lives in. The only reason I took the male cat (I only wanted one) was that he had green stuff coming out of his eye and I knew he wouldn't get any treatment unless I took him.

Skarlett, my sweet rescue dog, was 1 year-old, pathetic, frightened, and peed whenever you looked at her too hard when I got her, (which was 3 days before I had major surgery). She had that name when I got her and so didn't rename her, but if I were going to give her a name today it would be "Velcro," because she sticks to me like that. She has beautiful eyes, and loves everyone.

My only problem in limiting yourself to a "no Kill" place, is that you might actually be saving an animal if you get one from other types of shelters. Often they just don't have the resources to keep animals that don't get adopted. The reason Skarlett came home when she did, which was very inconvenient to say the least, is that her number was up.

I guess I would just say that animals have so much to give, and ask for so little; they make our lives fuller, no matter where they come from.

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I'm so sorry you lost Buddha, Cville, and yes: Delta behaves exactly like Willie does. He'll curl up on my legs in bed, or by my head, and he sits by me and begs me to pet him and kiss his head, but I'll be darned if I can keep him in my arms or on my lap for more than a second.

Your point about not going to a no-kill shelter is a very good one, especially for people who don't mind older pets or animals with "issues" who just need to be loved. Thank you for adding that important point.

Much love,
Lis & Willie & Wallace :-)

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Da Boyz must really be terrific, Lis.

I inherited two one year old cats from an ex-girlfriend and had them for 16 years. Changed my life for the better.

As have other animals that have come into my life.

Good to hear your story.

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Thank you, Gary. Yes, pets have a way of adding to our lives, most definitely.

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My son just adopted a cat. He has a talent for picking eccentric kitties with lots of personality. This one plays fetch, which I've never heard of before - a cat retrieving a ball, my stars. That's a doggie trick.

The last kitties I had were sisters - two calicos someone was giving away in front of the grocery store. They were from the same litter, but one was bigger (and braver) than the other so we named them Minnie and Maxie. Maxie, the brave one, was my favorite, but she disappeared one day and never returned. Minnie was with me for 16 years and I cried and cried the day she died.

Thank you for a moving blog, LisB. One that brought back memories for me, too.

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Thank you for sharing your memories, too, Fala. A cat that plays fetch, now that's something.

My boys have a habit of knocking all their toys under the cabinet in my living room, and of course they can't reach under it to retrieve them. So every few days I get down on my knees and take the bottom drawer out of the cabinet and fetch all their toys for them. Within a few hours, all the toys are back under there again......arrrghhhh. =D

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For all the animal friends on this post.

=D

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I'll always remember the day, 20 or so years ago, when I stopped by my parent's house for lunch, and my mum told me about some friends of theirs who had adopted a golden retriever that would have been put down had they not. The couple couldn't keep him though, as the husband was a paraplegic, and the dog was untrained. I had a golden all ready, but decided to stop by their home on my way out of town. On the drive to their place, I kept reminding myself that I was only going to look, and I should discuss it with my wife before I make any decision. Well, I pulled in their driveway, and 20 seconds later this big beautiful galoot of a hound is out in the yard racing around as I find myself saying to his 'owners', "Well... If you really don't want to keep him..." Drove home with him that day and surprised my wife with the new member of the family. Man I loved that dog. Superb hound in every respects. Truth be told I love all dogs. Good post lis.

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I love dogs too, Miguel. Sometimes even more than cats, LOL. But I can't have one where I live, of course, and Da Boyz might get jealous if I managed to sneak one in behind the landlord's back anyway.

Thanks for sharing your happy memory with me.

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