Beyond Paradox: Painting With A Broader Palette
"Problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness that created them," says Albert Einstein
The places where we are fixed in our mind and perception are interesting. We may be focused on compassion vs personal responsibility, liberal vs. conservative, etc.. When we look at a wooden sculpture we may be feeling into its curves or perhaps noticing the hardness of its structure. What compels us to have the sorts of experiences that we do. Why do we get drawn in to see the world so differently? Or so similarly?
I was once at a talk with Rabbi Mark Gafni and Ken Wilber. A young man in the audience asked a question, 'How do you know when to serve'. I am paraphrasing according to my memory but I think I have it down pretty accurately. Rabbi Gafni said something that I believe about life, 'There is no one way. You have to be present in the moment (to see, know, discern, feel, etc.). In one moment it may be appropriate to give one man $100 and in another moment it may be appropriate to give one hundred men one dollar.' I think the answer to many questions is 'there is no one way. I need to be present to see what is really appropriate in the moment.'
This is something I have been learning about. Life is generally much more complex than breaking things down to ideas that 'all republicans are racists' or that 'all liberals are wasteful'. And when we settle ourselves that way, it seems we sometimes paint the world via the lens we have chosen so it just keeps making us more and more certain that we are wearing the right glasses. 'See... there's the proof' I say as I look through my people who x are x lens. Well, it works some of the time. But then some of the time we may not be seeing what's actually, really there because our lenses screen it out and we feel comfortable in them. What we experience in them represents what we know and understand.
All of us have gifts to share/contributions to make 'and' most of us also have much to learn, a varied array of things in life that we are ignorant of. In my perception we can't know it all but we can learn from each other. I believe we are naturally drawn to the things we most need to learn about... sometimes to my own dismay when it is challenging. And at the same time our beliefs and filters are determining what we are able to view and it becomes more limited. This is another type of paradox that holds us until our beliefs and filters start to include the validity of both sides of the paradox and allow the wholeness of the concepts. I am liberal and conservative, for example. I need both in different ways at different times etc.
Moving beyond paradox gives us a wider palette of colors to paint with or a wider array of lenses and filters to view the world with. Sort of like changing the world from black and white to full color.
If problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness that created them, as Einstein said,
then as the Sister Hazel song goes, 'if you want to be somebody else, if you're tired of fighting battles with yourself, if you want to be somebody else, change your mind.'
I can't know everything. I can't do everything. I probably can't understand everything. But I can know a little more, do a little more, and understand a little more and experience even more 'color' in life.
















This is some kind of 'cleansing' blog. I know I feel better. Cheers, Synch!
June 18, 2009 2:48 AM | Reply | Permalink
Synch, a great lesson to us all. Thank you for this.
June 18, 2009 10:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
Psychologists refer to that as selective perception. Excellent post, as usual.
June 18, 2009 10:57 AM | Reply | Permalink
great post, synch.
So many perspectives, so little time.
How else to approach the present
than with an open mind?
June 18, 2009 11:44 AM | Reply | Permalink
Single perspectives can be applied to manufactured items, for an automobile recall, for example. It is certain that a design flaw applies to all the inventory, and even manufacturing flaws can apply to many.
But people, like all living things, are not manufactured, do not exhibit a consistent design, and, like all species, show wide variation in makeup. It is absolute, that no answer will apply to all people.
June 18, 2009 1:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great blog. It comes as little surprise to me that we find ourselves in this place with the same old fights being played out with the same old tired framing and language. We got a glimpse of it during both the primary and general elections.
No matter how much inevitable change was coming to America, we did not fundamentally change our left-right paradigm. Everyone fell back into their well-worn and comfortable rhetoric. Pick a side and start firing. We kept using combative words to debate curative needs. We attack our political rivals with a venom and vigor that assures continued failure.
Which represents something of a paradox as well, because no matter how much pain each of us feels on an individual level, the same pain our political "enemies" feel, when we divide up into camps of competing interests nothing ever really changes. The Einstein quote describes the phenomenon perfectly as does the old adage of defining insanity as the reckless pursuit of failed strategies and tactics.
June 18, 2009 1:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks Jason,
I appreciate what you have shared.
I do take exception to the idea that "'nothing' 'ever' really changes.
Even though in many respects it might seem otherwise, I believe that change is happening... You and I having this interaction is evidence of this for me.
Recently, really for the first time it has occurred to me in this way, our culture acts out 'political discrimination'.
It is a new concept for me to consider. Religious descrimination... I was familiar with that. Descrimination based on color, ethnicity...of course I am familiar with that. Descrimination based on sex or sexual orientation, yeah, I've seen that in action.
Yet all the while, under my nose was 'political and or issue oriented/belief descrimination'... 'all republicans are racists', 'all liberals are wasteful' 'your not a 'real american' etc.
It may seem far away from jokes about black people or jewish people... but it really isn't.
Seriously, I realized in my work that having my Barack Obama bumper sticker on my car has hurt my sales work on occassion when I have gone into conservative areas.
There is the human drive to sort ourselves by our beliefs and ideals and we create barriers to our own incredible growth potential and the opportunities for cocreativity by drawing battle lines. It's natural to do this but also limiting.
And I think the magnitude of the problems we need to solve calls us to move beyond this.
I don't know the term for political discrimination if there is one... but it clearly exists and frankly I'm glad I noticed it because it was started to creep up and get in my way...
Ken Wilber in several sources suggests that the human brain is incapable of being 100% in error and equally so incapable of being 100% right.
This assumption helps us to hold that in general whatever views are different from our own... some portion of it no matter how large or small is possibly correct.
But I see some change Jason... I realy do:)
June 18, 2009 2:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
I messed up by using implied absolutes. Of course there has been change. Some of the changes were substantial, though none seem structural in recent years, which is what I was commenting on more than anything else. We still seem to be operating from the same tired script, even if the stage has changed.
Beyond us talking via these new channels of communications is the fact that more people are starting to pay attention. There are a lot Gen Xers I've read who have a new-found interest in politics unencumbered by many of the political prejudice of the Boomers. I certainly feel that way, though it took some transition to get there. That the next generation after us is paying attention already is another change worth celebrating.
If we can turn interest into increased primary turnout, we just might see some change on the legislative front as well. Your "political discrimination" concept remains our Achilles Heel, I believe. Many of our fellow citizens just can't seem to discuss politics beyond the polemic. Many still don't see why it is important. This last election was still only a 64% turnout in November. That is pathetic.
I wonder if the invective that colors most political interaction in the public sphere keeps most people away from the fray altogether, leaving only the hardest of the hard-core partisans to duke it out. That is where change has been most notably lacking for decades.
June 18, 2009 2:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
HOORAY!!!!!
Teach the children!
June 18, 2009 6:24 PM | Reply | Permalink
A little philosophical as our first day of summer approaches this weekend. Ha.
Just so long as we all understand that the RNC is always wrong, BECAUSE IT HAS NO BRAIN!!!
June 18, 2009 6:46 PM | Reply | Permalink
correction/ no right brain
June 19, 2009 7:52 AM | Reply | Permalink
This is an important blog, Sink. You know how I know this? I've been thinking about it all day.
I read it last night, recommended it, but did not comment. I didn't really know how to say what I needed to say. Still don't.
One size does not fit all?
Everything is relative?
Too trite and lame. What you wrote will stay with me and will enhance what I already know. Chi migwetch.
June 18, 2009 7:22 PM | Reply | Permalink
I've changed by not changing at all.
=D
June 18, 2009 8:35 PM | Reply | Permalink
...a small town predicts my fate....perhaps that's what no one wants to see.....
....I just want to scream HELLO!
My god it's been so long...never dreamed you'd return....but now here you are....and here I am...
=D
June 18, 2009 8:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hearts and thoughts they fade, fade away.....
=D
June 18, 2009 8:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
{{{GROPE HUG}}}
June 18, 2009 9:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks everyone for reading this and for all of your beautiful comments!
June 18, 2009 8:55 PM | Reply | Permalink
Wonderful blog! The rabbi actually gave the kind of answer you would find zen masters giving. Which only goes to show that wisdom transcends traditions. I so agree with what he said.
If we could strive to really be present in each moment, we would rise to the occasion on that basis.
Peace be with you, my friend. :)
June 18, 2009 8:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
Nice blog Synchronicity. I think that groups and societies tend to cycle back to the same place (and the same logical structures) because being open and present is ambiguous. Particularly when people are stressed, even the manufactured stress of fear-based politics, then we want surety - not ambiguity. This is the attraction of fundamentalism of any stripe - everything is clear and simple. This is right and that wrong. This is good (or godly) and that bad (or evil). Anything, thought, or paradigm that challenges the clarity of the fundamentalist creed is inherently evil - or a temptation.
Staying open requires being willing to handle complexity and ambiguity. It also means taking responsibility and being accountable because we are thinking through and responding. That means it is on us.
While not boxing everything up and neatly labeling reduces (or destroys) the beauty of life (in every sense of the word), not doing that takes ongoing effort and thoughtfulness. Frankly, that is not something that is encouraged in this society nor many others. That doesn't mean we can't change it - after all we are producing and reproducing this one. It does mean (in my opinion) that making that change will not happen of its own accord.
Thoughtful and thought provoking piece. Thank you.
June 18, 2009 9:22 PM | Reply | Permalink