No one, male or female, young or old, Left or Right, has trouble recognizing, and applauding, the historic, inspirational aspects of Barack Obama's campaign.
But this campaign season has revealed that men, including the leading male Democratic candidates and their mostly male campaign advisors, may be having difficulty fully recognizing, and effectively acknowledging, how historic Hillary Clinton's campaign is. How inspirational it is, at least for women. And, why its ground-breaking nature requires a ground-breaking response from them.
That failure to grasp what the first serious female Presidential candidacy means, including what it means for women who are not committed Clinton supporters, or fully decided on any candidate, and what it requires from candidates who want their votes, had consequences in New Hampshire.
For instance, if the Obama camp had been able to put themselves in the shoes of women, to see the campaign through their eyes for a moment, Obama might not have missed the opportunity handed to him on a platter in the New Hampshire debate, when Clinton was questioned about her "likeability" -- a question that, for women, resonated with all the age-old dismissals of public women and their attractiveness. He would have known immediately that he needed to renounce the cringe-making, sexist nature of the inquiry. He would have understood that it wasn't Hillary's likeability that he needed to defend -- which he did with a dismissive, "You're likable enough" -- but a womans right to be taken seriously, and engaged with, seriously. He would have known that it wasnt about standing up for Hillary, a competitor, but about demonstrating that he could stand with women -- women whose support he needs, and who he is, after all, campaigning to represent.
Women, especially those of Clintons generation, have spent a lot of their lives rising to meet responsibilities they were never prepared for; bushwhacking into unknown territory without guides or guideposts. They understand that competing against a woman is mostly new, and therefore tricky, territory for male politicians. They're willing to forgive a few mistakes, but not too many.
Both Obama and Edwards made rooky mistakes in, at times, appearing to take cues on how they should compete against a woman from the mostly clueless, still male dominated media. They also allowed themselves to be lulled into over-estimating how much the orgy of over-the-top negative coverage of Clinton could benefit them. Now theyve been given a chance to get a clue from women voters themselves.
If they know how to listen, here is what theyll hear; they have to take every opportunity possible to disassociate themselves from the boys club discomfort with a girl in the tree house that characterizes too much of the coverage of Clintons candidacy -- and campaign like men who fully understand the respect women have earned.
A good place to begin would be with condemning the media narrative that puts Hillary's victory at the door of "women's sympathy." Not because it's dismissive of their competitor, but because it's dismissive of all women. Women with votes they need.
The bottom line is; male candidates can still be reassured that women wont vote for a woman just because she is a woman. But its past time for them to wake up to the full implications of this reality; increasingly, women don't have to vote for men simply because they have no other choice.