« Last Analogies: Putting the Constitution to Bed | Desidero's Blog | The Need for Preventive Detention »
Speed Blogging: Martha Stewart's Cookies & Hating on Women
Firefox ate my lunch, or my post at least, so the quick version (okay, not that quick):
The freak Gordon Liddy, famous for eating rats' testicles, burning his arm and other feats, is still with us worrying about women in power menstruating.
Sotomayor is just another prominent woman suffering racist and sexist abuse on prime time media, just because that's part of what sells. Comments and imagery of castration, cleavage, and cellulite, "Mothers I'd Like to Fuck", botox babe, and the various derogatory characterizations waiting for women who step into the public arena, Democratic or Republican, of whatever ethnic group. "Bitch", "Cunt", "Pimp", "Bimbo" and anything else - it just shows those clever talking heads are "edgy". But males in power are serious. They have "cojones". Women are just aggressive ball-cutters when they're not sluts in bathing suits, dykes or plain too ugly to exist. Even the leader of Germany had to endure an unwanted backrub from our President, just part of ritual humiliations.
Blogging over the weekend turned into "why do black men always get blamed", when the statistics really beg us to ask, "why are women, black and white, so much the victims?" All the advice for women about how to fight back, when 2/3 of all attackers are known by the women - over 1/4 are husbands or boyfriends. So take that Significant Other to rape prevention class and practice gutting him with a pair of scissors - otherwise all is for naught in that special moment of intimate decisions back home, because you can't exactly lock them out when they're already in, and don't forget, they'll expect an omelette in the morning.
Oh, and should you fight back, as women are frequently encouraged to do, be comforted that you're likely to be thrown in jail even if your attempted or successful rape is caught on camera (item #4).
For dog lovers, you'll be happy to know that the media and wheels of justice and halls of power speak louder for your protection than black or white women getting raped and murdered. For women lovers, no good news today, come back tomorrow. [Of course this overlaps with sports, where Congress would rather discuss steroids in baseball than serious health care issues].
And yes, I feel for Dr. Tiller, but his murder was aimed not just at him but at women across the country. "We own you, we dictate your choices". One of 3 places to go in the country for that horrid decision of terminating a late pregnancy. Not for selfishness, for the shitty decision of "an early almost painless death versus a pre-doomed existence of excruciating pain followed by early death". President Bush posed in front of test-tube/freezer babies-become adults, not incurable babies wracked with pain waiting to die within the month. Somehow doesn't make as pretty a photo op.
In March, Obama created the Council on Women and Children. There is still no similar Council on Why Men Can't Quit Knocking Up Women and Leaving Them to Deal with the Kid. Of course some suggest that forcing the woman and kid to then live with the irresponsible schmuck will solve it all. As if watching even 1 Adam Sandler movie shouldn't clear out that idea permanently.
Martha Stewart will likely be the longest incarceration we see for stock market crimes, that hefty $40K she picked up by selling a few shares early. Compare this with the million or so of crashing Harkin stock Bush forgot to report, all those military stock options the cabinet had as they went to war, Ken Lay's millions as he sent his multi-billion dollar company to the toilet, Madoff's Ponzi scheme, AIG's collapsing house of cards, all that seamy-sounding "naked short selling" (meaning "pretend to sell stock you don't actually own"). See, Martha's big mistake besides being smart and successful was that she was a woman. Hell hath no fury.... unlike a few trillion dollars misused and stolen. PS - $10 billion a month for wars!
And we can't show those rape and abuse photos from Abu Ghraib because that will make America look bad, unlike all those other rapes and beatings we know about that aren't on camera that just involve American-on-American atrocity. Thats just part of the price women pay for living in the Land of the Free (for men). 250,000 sexual assaults yearly in the US, only 6% of attackers will spend a day in jail. No wonder people think we shouldn't put the soldiers on the stand. How is it we thought the Taliban's attitude towards women was primitive and backwards?
Health care isn't important to us because it's considered a woman's sport, too much wrapped around children and female issues "down there". Real men endure broken bones without seeing a doctor. Women take care of sick kids and sick parents. Men deal with health care as an emergency, women deal with health care as basic need. Preventive health care for men is like volunteering to go to a ballet performance. When health care can be framed as a basic need like beer, nachos and a good car stereo, it will receive the attention it deserves. Until then, it's just another point of bias - women and poor people abusing the system. Real men just tear off a piece of cloth, apply a tourniquet, grab a beer and get back to the ball game.
And here's my little bonus, when one of the usual suspects comes along to tell me I'm posting this because I can't get over my anatomy or genitalia, as happened so often over the last year. Because obviously you have to be female to worry about crimes and violence against women, unlike say crimes and violence against children, animals, the environment.
So while planting pipe bombs at the Olympics is a cause for concerted action, years of harassment and threats and beatings and arsons and murders at abortion clinics is just a matter of free speech, protecting the perversely named "Intelligent Design" and all. Dr. Tiller stepped into the middle of this knowingly, did a job that's none-too-pleasant in the first place, provided an honorable service to women (and some responsibly-minded men) in need and endured the threats and abuse as well, for 36 years, including being shot in 1993. His stalkers will feel no shame or irony that he was killed in a Christian church that preaches love and forgiveness.
And despite all our anti-terrorist efforts in Iraq, surveillance against potentially violent vegetarians and Greenpeace in the US, walling off peaceful protesters and tapping millions of calls by citizens, our "justice" and "intelligence" system hasn't figured out that the Montana Freemen association is a group of thugs that commits violent crimes, despite its history of fighting US Marshalls and multiple convictions. So much for our Department of Homeland Security.
The freak Gordon Liddy, famous for eating rats' testicles, burning his arm and other feats, is still with us worrying about women in power menstruating.
Sotomayor is just another prominent woman suffering racist and sexist abuse on prime time media, just because that's part of what sells. Comments and imagery of castration, cleavage, and cellulite, "Mothers I'd Like to Fuck", botox babe, and the various derogatory characterizations waiting for women who step into the public arena, Democratic or Republican, of whatever ethnic group. "Bitch", "Cunt", "Pimp", "Bimbo" and anything else - it just shows those clever talking heads are "edgy". But males in power are serious. They have "cojones". Women are just aggressive ball-cutters when they're not sluts in bathing suits, dykes or plain too ugly to exist. Even the leader of Germany had to endure an unwanted backrub from our President, just part of ritual humiliations.
Blogging over the weekend turned into "why do black men always get blamed", when the statistics really beg us to ask, "why are women, black and white, so much the victims?" All the advice for women about how to fight back, when 2/3 of all attackers are known by the women - over 1/4 are husbands or boyfriends. So take that Significant Other to rape prevention class and practice gutting him with a pair of scissors - otherwise all is for naught in that special moment of intimate decisions back home, because you can't exactly lock them out when they're already in, and don't forget, they'll expect an omelette in the morning.
Oh, and should you fight back, as women are frequently encouraged to do, be comforted that you're likely to be thrown in jail even if your attempted or successful rape is caught on camera (item #4).
For dog lovers, you'll be happy to know that the media and wheels of justice and halls of power speak louder for your protection than black or white women getting raped and murdered. For women lovers, no good news today, come back tomorrow. [Of course this overlaps with sports, where Congress would rather discuss steroids in baseball than serious health care issues].
And yes, I feel for Dr. Tiller, but his murder was aimed not just at him but at women across the country. "We own you, we dictate your choices". One of 3 places to go in the country for that horrid decision of terminating a late pregnancy. Not for selfishness, for the shitty decision of "an early almost painless death versus a pre-doomed existence of excruciating pain followed by early death". President Bush posed in front of test-tube/freezer babies-become adults, not incurable babies wracked with pain waiting to die within the month. Somehow doesn't make as pretty a photo op.
In March, Obama created the Council on Women and Children. There is still no similar Council on Why Men Can't Quit Knocking Up Women and Leaving Them to Deal with the Kid. Of course some suggest that forcing the woman and kid to then live with the irresponsible schmuck will solve it all. As if watching even 1 Adam Sandler movie shouldn't clear out that idea permanently.
Martha Stewart will likely be the longest incarceration we see for stock market crimes, that hefty $40K she picked up by selling a few shares early. Compare this with the million or so of crashing Harkin stock Bush forgot to report, all those military stock options the cabinet had as they went to war, Ken Lay's millions as he sent his multi-billion dollar company to the toilet, Madoff's Ponzi scheme, AIG's collapsing house of cards, all that seamy-sounding "naked short selling" (meaning "pretend to sell stock you don't actually own"). See, Martha's big mistake besides being smart and successful was that she was a woman. Hell hath no fury.... unlike a few trillion dollars misused and stolen. PS - $10 billion a month for wars!
And we can't show those rape and abuse photos from Abu Ghraib because that will make America look bad, unlike all those other rapes and beatings we know about that aren't on camera that just involve American-on-American atrocity. Thats just part of the price women pay for living in the Land of the Free (for men). 250,000 sexual assaults yearly in the US, only 6% of attackers will spend a day in jail. No wonder people think we shouldn't put the soldiers on the stand. How is it we thought the Taliban's attitude towards women was primitive and backwards?
Health care isn't important to us because it's considered a woman's sport, too much wrapped around children and female issues "down there". Real men endure broken bones without seeing a doctor. Women take care of sick kids and sick parents. Men deal with health care as an emergency, women deal with health care as basic need. Preventive health care for men is like volunteering to go to a ballet performance. When health care can be framed as a basic need like beer, nachos and a good car stereo, it will receive the attention it deserves. Until then, it's just another point of bias - women and poor people abusing the system. Real men just tear off a piece of cloth, apply a tourniquet, grab a beer and get back to the ball game.
And here's my little bonus, when one of the usual suspects comes along to tell me I'm posting this because I can't get over my anatomy or genitalia, as happened so often over the last year. Because obviously you have to be female to worry about crimes and violence against women, unlike say crimes and violence against children, animals, the environment.
So while planting pipe bombs at the Olympics is a cause for concerted action, years of harassment and threats and beatings and arsons and murders at abortion clinics is just a matter of free speech, protecting the perversely named "Intelligent Design" and all. Dr. Tiller stepped into the middle of this knowingly, did a job that's none-too-pleasant in the first place, provided an honorable service to women (and some responsibly-minded men) in need and endured the threats and abuse as well, for 36 years, including being shot in 1993. His stalkers will feel no shame or irony that he was killed in a Christian church that preaches love and forgiveness.
And despite all our anti-terrorist efforts in Iraq, surveillance against potentially violent vegetarians and Greenpeace in the US, walling off peaceful protesters and tapping millions of calls by citizens, our "justice" and "intelligence" system hasn't figured out that the Montana Freemen association is a group of thugs that commits violent crimes, despite its history of fighting US Marshalls and multiple convictions. So much for our Department of Homeland Security.
Advertisement
















Madoff will probably spend more time in the pokey than Martha Stewart; otherwise, I've nothing to add!
June 1, 2009 12:18 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yeah, well, it ain't a Des post if there's not a bit of hyperbole, just to loosen up ye ol' synapses.
June 1, 2009 3:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
Currently I feel a little worse for the Doctor than the women (although I feel bad for them, too) as he just got killed, you know? Desi, your sensitivity needs a bit of a tweak. I just hope that the doc's relatives don't read your piece.
June 1, 2009 1:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
You know the doc's relatives know who he was up against. They were out there en force at the memorial service, no queasy lot they. Even in the minute chance they read this, I think they'll quite understand - a few of them are even women themselves.
June 1, 2009 3:04 PM | Reply | Permalink
Sexism is not only tolerated, it is encouraged. Look at the last election and it is still going on - MSNBC "the liberal voice of the nation" is the worst offender.
Did you ever read the indictment against Martha Stewart? She was indicted for lying to federal agents. That the crime for which she was found guilty.
June 1, 2009 1:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
That was a quick pardon for Scooter, and God knows hers didn't include lying our way to war.
June 1, 2009 3:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
Nice, cogent rant des. But think about all we get in return for that $10 B/month... Fighting terrorists on their home ground, so we can continue living in the cocoon alongside the baby killer killers. The Shakesville link was interesting, if disturbing. Have we truly jumped the shark or is this queasy feeling just that breakfast burrito? On the plus side, I just placed a 'buy' order for Happy Madison Productions in anticipation of the coming bonanza as Sandler is made part and parcel of our new public health program.
June 1, 2009 2:08 PM | Reply | Permalink
Now you made me hungry for a potato & egg breakfast burrito. Honest, no chorizo ni chicharrones.
June 1, 2009 2:59 PM | Reply | Permalink
What?
Spanish Chorizo or Mehican Chorizo?
June 1, 2009 10:51 PM | Reply | Permalink
Is that a Mexican poncho or a Sears poncho? Going to Montana soon, gonna be a dental floss tycoon - yippy-ay-yo-tay-ray.
June 2, 2009 12:59 AM | Reply | Permalink
Zapp
Raising it up, Waxing it down
June 2, 2009 1:07 AM | Reply | Permalink
Fantastic post, Des. Thanks for saying it. ;-)
June 1, 2009 2:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hey, mew kat, where ya been? Some concern you went off the tracks as well. Working out? Your support group in Canada's calling, write home.
June 1, 2009 3:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
If I told you I lost my home, my clothes, my rights, and nearly my life but was saved by angels in the form of an illegal immigrant walking his bike across the Garden State Parkway overpass, a bailiff who slipped me $15, and a bent-over Polish lady dressed all in black who stole apples for me from a hotel kitchen, you might not believe me. Suffice to say I took a little unplanned trip to an alternate universe for the month of May. I've recovered all of my losses except for my home, but with luck, that'll get solved too.
On my little trip I happened to observe just how seriously flawed (and ultimately useless) the legal system is when it comes to addressing—or even defining—domestic violence and abuse. Our courts are an inadequate protector of anyone, and they are downright incapable of addressing the mental health issues that drive people to behave violently and abusively in the first place. Therefore, any social changes will need to come from the people or the president. You're right, however, that Obama's thinking (forming a Council on Women and Children) goes only half as far as it needs to go, as long as men are automatically exempt from the concerns of families.
June 2, 2009 2:49 AM | Reply | Permalink
Welcome back.
June 2, 2009 2:51 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks! :-)
June 2, 2009 10:54 AM | Reply | Permalink
Hopefully June will treat you a bit kinder; sounds like a Johnny Cash kind of existence there.
June 2, 2009 8:32 AM | Reply | Permalink
LOL! Johnny Cash in New Jersey. That's about right.
Here's to June!
June 2, 2009 10:53 AM | Reply | Permalink
Speed commenting: Thanks Des (for this and the other posts I have to catch up on).
June 1, 2009 2:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
Like trying to catch up on a semester's worth reading the night before finals. G'luck, we'll give you a make up if you lie well enough.
June 1, 2009 3:08 PM | Reply | Permalink
"... - otherwise all is for naught in that special moment of intimate decisions back home, because you can't exactly lock them out when they're already in, and don't forget, they'll expect an omelette in the morning."
Nice touch of empathy there, Desidero. Running for SCOTUS? ;)
Well done.
June 1, 2009 4:26 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think it's, "what's the difference between ignorance and apathy". Anyway, I've moved on to breakfast burritos, not that those eggy-weggs aren't just as committed. But yeah, surprised my name hasn't come up for the post. I do think having a radiant personality and the ability to obliterate whole city centers in a flash should give me better judgment and insight than the typical white male sitting on the bench. But that disarmament crowd's always giving me a bad name.
June 1, 2009 4:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
It's that disarming smile of yours. Capable of blinding even the most determined red tide fishermen. The ignorance lies in not noticing all the holes in the bait - the apathy in not having a hook.
June 1, 2009 5:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Let's face it. Mushroom cloud-smiley is just like any other 'regular' guy who you'd enjoy sitting down with and sharing a brewski.
June 1, 2009 10:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
So it doesn't mean "Orange Boom"? Sad, very disappointing.
June 2, 2009 1:27 AM | Reply | Permalink
Trees can be very threatening. Scary even. Take heart. Most won't read beyond the headline, and we can maintain the fiction that it does in fact mean 'orangey-boom!".
June 2, 2009 3:00 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you, Desidero, for this post. Having taken the no blame pledge, according to Urquhart: "I couldn't possibly comment." Except to say that no topic Urgs me as this one does, and I owe you an apology: it is not only possible but likely that, in the past, I have mistaken your anger as being against women, rather than on their behalf.
June 1, 2009 6:42 PM | Reply | Permalink
Forget that "being agreeable" and "I was mistaken" business, WW. There's not nearly enough fighting in this thread, and I suspect Des is off weeping in shame as a result. Worse yet, it's top of the front page charts. What an embarrassment.
Orange bomb, my ass. Big orange kitty cat is more like it.
Bah.
June 1, 2009 9:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
That's Des, just a sweet little puddy cat. :)
June 1, 2009 10:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
I hate cats in cages. I once visited some White Bengal Tigers locked in, with people outside hassling them. I oh-so-much wanted a good industrial set of bolt cutters to even the playing field.
June 2, 2009 12:58 AM | Reply | Permalink
This is a one-day-at-a-time effort, Quinn. No promises that I will stay on the good behavior wagon forever, as it is not only mute making but also already tedious.
Carry on and do go "nukalar" as often as possible : I'm living vicariously for now.
June 2, 2009 11:57 AM | Reply | Permalink
Not only that, Wendy's gotten her toes unjustifiably stomped on enough times recently, let's just call this the "WW exacts revenge thread", or maybe even "WW4, world annihilation". I'll have to set you up with your own primal scream venue, so you get to vent on some of the others without saying you're sorry for a change, they will sit mute and take what's coming. The Wrath of Khan, done up Southern style.
June 2, 2009 12:25 AM | Reply | Permalink
Seconded. Southern style.
June 2, 2009 5:43 AM | Reply | Permalink
I missed this until an hour or so ago. Thanks, Desidero, I accept the primal scream venue, as this proper womanly behavior (see no evil, hear no evil and ,especially, speak no evil) is much more difficult than I thought it would be.
That, obviously, is not what is important. So I'll try to respond to your post without breaking my pledge, and maybe I'll succeed and maybe not.
Many years ago I encountered domestic violence and -- odd that you should mention it -- I was expected to serve up the omelettes, anyway. (Perhaps I may be forgiven, then, that I served the plate, at the last minute, upside down -- not a smart thing to do but one that was momentarily gratifying, nonetheless. )
However, I know that I was lucky that I had such a brief exposure to this nightmare. Because there is not a woman alive who does know other women --whether family or friends -- who were brutally raped or beaten or both; and far too many of them then suffered serial humiliation if they pressed charges, and private despair if they did not.
The big picture on rape and domestic abuse is as you suggest: self-defense training is only part of affirmative change, and it is the weak part, because it puts the responsibility for stopping violent acts on women on women alone.
Instead, or at least in addition thereto, how about men beginning to police themselves? No more of this "biological imperative" that allegedly makes it impossible for certain men to resist assaulting "provocative" women unless the women are covered up in burkkas, or wigs or scarves or even simply wearing lipstick or walking around in mini-skirts.
Of course, I got myself in trouble on this clothing issue not so long ago. An all faculty memo was recently sent reminding us of the dress code for students at graduation, which we were to enforce. My reply, suggesting that pantyhose seemed an unhealthy and potentially sexist modesty requirement for girls wearing long white dresses in the hot sun apparently struck a nerve... I dunno -- maybe it was because I suggested that if girls had to wear unseen pantyhose, boys should have to do the same. Or maybe it was when I suggested that the height of heel permitted (for safety on a sloped lawn) might be more relevant than the mandated color of the permitted shoe....or, maybe it was when I asked why not a single male administrator had objected to girls wearing stilettos with mandated kilts and knee socks all year, and pondered if that might have something to do with the schoolgirl fantasy alleged so beloved by men everywhere......
As you see, my taking the no blame pledge is a bit like locking the barn door, etc.
Anyway, thanks for your post and your support, Desidero.
June 2, 2009 1:31 PM | Reply | Permalink
I imagine J. Geils Band videos are mandatory for any male school administrator. At least you still have the impulse to push back a bit. I'm a bit humored and depressed by the omelette thing - I would love to be wildly off the mark, to find out my rants were simply rants, that I'm just a cynic, but it doesn't look that way. Still must have taken some guts and possibly a low sense of survival to serve it "over easy", or hard, depending. Anyway my sympathies for you and all the millions who've been through the same shit. Will have to ponder the "how to have men police men" question.
June 2, 2009 2:55 PM | Reply | Permalink
He doesn't make it easy. You have reached the correct conclusion. I used to think Des WAS a woman.
=D
June 2, 2009 1:09 AM | Reply | Permalink
I thought the major was a lady suffragette.
So was it Professor Plum or Miss Peacock in the study with the revolver? Welcome to cross-dress Cluedo.
June 2, 2009 1:35 AM | Reply | Permalink
i GOT LOST IN MY TABS.
"Blogging over the weekend turned into "why do black men always get blamed", when the statistics really beg us to ask, "why are women, black and white, so much the victims?" All the advice for women about how to fight back, when 2/3 of all attackers are known by the women - over 1/4 are husbands or boyfriends. So take that Significant Other to rape prevention class and practice gutting him with a pair of scissors - otherwise all is for naught in that special moment of intimate decisions back home, because you can't exactly lock them out when they're already in, and don't forget, they'll expect an omelette in the morning."
I was just writing about Marcus Epstein. There might be an example of one of those foreign assaulters of black women.
Of course I do not have the arrest report so I do not know if he knew her or not.
Great post.
June 1, 2009 6:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
Here's another small example. Marion Jones is serves six-months in jail for lying to investigators about her steroid use, while Rafael Palmeiro lies to Congress about his steroid use and receives only a 10 day team suspension.
June 1, 2009 11:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
Whoa whoa whoa, Jones lied for years, including 2 grand juries on steroids, and her conviction was not just lying about steroid use, it was also lying about check fraud in a criminal case, and the BALCO case at the time of doping was arguably much more important than a Congressional inquiry after Conseco's book had already come out years everyone knew there was a problem. Most importantly, Jones pled guilty to lying - they had her, even though she had made categorical denials back to high school. Palmeiro was investigated regarding the one positive and no one could find anything:
Palmeiro never had another positive test. He contends there was a screw up through his carelessness. Whether that's a good excuse, perjury involves intentionally lying. Until someone proves Palmeiro intentionally doped, they don't have that, unless Canseco's word is gospel. There was much more evidence against Jones.
June 2, 2009 12:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
Good post, Des. Highly rec'd and appreciated.
June 2, 2009 2:02 AM | Reply | Permalink