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What Do YOU Do To Curb The Anger?


I have a feeling I'm not the only TPM regular that too often find himself lying in bed at night, too danged tense to sleep.  Throughout the day, as I read the news or watch news related videos, my shoulders begin to move toward my ears as I again grit my teeth or yell at my computer screen over some current bit of insanity regarding the health care debate.

This can't be good for us.  I try to inject a little levity here and there, but I nonetheless feel that tension every time I lay down and try to let it all go.

What do you do to assuage the anger? Please comment below and let me know; I honestly need some tips.

A friend forwarded this video to me.  It put a smile on my face.  I hope it does that for you, too.

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I go outside a lot, fool around in the garden, think about the cycles of life, growth, death, renewal in the seasons. Watch the stars and the galaxies and the wonder; it helps make feel tiny, and that my cares are a blip not only in time, but in space. I think of the small ways I can help people's lives a little better: sharing food, sending cards, emails, loving my family and expressing my appreciation. I keep few of my favorite music videos on my favorites list, and click on them at will. I pay attention to my dreams, and watch the true causes of my anxieties, and how my dreams help me work through them. I'm not good at meditating, but I find that if I let my eyes roll upward, it helps the thoughts and pictures not scroll across my retinas, or wherever you see them, and pay attention to where I can feel my life-breath under my nose. You can get a nice massage; that helps to plug people back in. I'm a massage therapist by trade, and it helps me to work on other people for the same reason.
And sometimes I am just pissed. I write to Congresspeople; I yell out loud, I sing out loud.
And remember I'm not alone.
Sharing humor is the best, though, isn't it? Where is our Molly Ivins?
My best to you, dear.

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That single paragraph, Wendy, had a very calming effect on me. Thank you for that.

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I know this is going to sound new-agey, but this almost always helps with my anger.

I believe in impermanence: all things must pass. The best feelings are fleeting, and so are the worst. Life is temporary and mostly futile. The scope of our lives collectively and individually are miniscule to the point of invisible in the overarching picture. The current path we are on is probably doomed. There is that risk that the world will have to be pushed to the brink before making necessary changes, and that would be too late. This isn't a big deal. If there is a spiritual side to life and a purpose, then our souls will migrate, perish, or be reabsorbed into the source. If life is strictly material, then no harm no foul. Those of us who raged against the dying of the light will have served their moral and ethical purpose.

So I choose to live and try and live well. If I am angry, I just remind myself that all things must pass and nothing is permanent... I imagine my body turning to dust and my loved ones doing the same. I imagine a future point where even the memory of my existence is entirely gone, like so many before me. Apply it to the whole world, and see that this isn't so terrible, and not worth the anxiety.

I want humanity to survive, and I want freedom, liberty, sustainability, peace, and bliss. I do what I can in my own life and towards the world to bring this to fruition. But I am not bound to outcome, because it exists outside my grasp. I strive to be a better father, lover, writer, husband and thinker every day. When I succeed, the lives of those I love improve. When I fail I make amends.

But I try my best to not let the media jive bring me down. When I do, I write and vent and then walk away. But the media does its best to make the impermanent permanent. They try to take the natural instability and volatility of existence and render it an architecture of control and manipulation. This only works when people believe the hype.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, all that new agey stuff is good for life in general, but sometimes, a small dose of the Muppets beats it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSJc72OC7Dg&feature=related

You know, for an immediate intervention when all hope seems lost.

;o)

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I either start ranting at my fiance (who is actually a hardcore devotee to Faux News, et. al) til he decides he's had enough of me countering all his points with common sense and just starts talking totally random til I collapse in a fit of giggles

or

I get on World of WarCraft and mass slaughter things, while pretending that they aren't, in fact, undead, but actually are the right-wing nutcases I'm so angry with.

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I use music, and more to channel my anger than curb it. Your post inspired me to do a little writing on one of my new musical finds. Thanks for getting me to thinking about it.

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I put on my Black Rebel Motorcycle Club T-Shirt, saddle up my Prius, and cruise.

What do you do, billyshake?

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Well, I play my banjo a lot...that helps. Other than on the internet, I don't have people to talk to, though I'm okay with that because I'm quite good at talking to myself.

I live in India so to get a little perspective, I only have to look out my window to see people who've much more to worry about than I do (food, shelter, and the like), yet they're laughing and singing while they pick through the dumpster across the street. It doesn't so much calm me as just make me realize my situation isn't exactly untenable. The minarets at local mosques chant competing morning prayers every day at 5:30. Waking up to that does, indeed, make me feel very calm. At 7 a.m., the Hindu temple next door begins playing carnatic music for a few hours. I like that, too; the vocals are absolutely intense and though I don't speak much Telugu, the meanings of the songs are always clear.

I'm sure glad you folks replied to this. I feel less alone in my frustration today.

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I walk and play with my dog. And I read books and do research on topics other than politics.

People are good. Hang out with them and avoid excessive solitude. We're social animals, built for buddyhood.

Mostly, I stay busy at work, where I frequently don't have time to think about the world much. Getting mad about politics is often what I do for fun to avoid the tedium of work. Getting mad about the health care debate is a luxury.

Politics sometimes makes me feel engaged, energized or mad. But it doesn't cause me much stress. Life at the political level in America is full of ignorance, ugliness and crap. In the end, I suppose I just don't expect much from it, though I have no real options of escaping from it.

I would recommend avoiding television altogether. The world as seen from the tube - whether entertainment or "news" - is the world at its most depraved, stupid, noisy and unattractive. I have found real flesh and blood human beings to be far more likable than their grotesque semblances on television.

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Drink.

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Not advising this one, by the way.

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=D

(clink!)

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Been a little TOO ahead of your advice on that one these last 20 years, I'm afraid. Maybe it's the fact that I've given up the booze and the drugs that finds me suddenly hyper aware of problems political. There isn't a pub for hundreds of miles around me. There are a few very chic dance clubs for rich people -- fact is, I'm not exactly keen on any of the key words in that last sentence.

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I just remind myself that we don't know half of what's going on behind the scenes. This legislative process is on schedule and we'll eventually wind up with a pretty good bill. That and Republicans are digging a deep hole for themselves they can't get out of without a ladder. And here's the thing. They don't have a ladder.

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I read Markg8's comments, among others who make me smile.

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Wow. Is this a member of the Liberal Police squad?

What if the progressive movement (ha ha ha) was AS angry as the Tea Party "Patriots"? Oh what we could accomplish because our anger would be based on the truth! No one is out there who is angry based on the TRUTH! Why not?

Because, now let's all hold hands, we must ALL be nice. While Rome burns, at least the liberals were always nice.

GROUP HUG PEOPLE!

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Sultry eyes and dusky thighs...

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well, first I build a camp fire, right in my living room. Go get some sticks and put hot dogs on them. Later for desert I get some marshmallows and sing camp songs.

I did learn that you need a good fire proof tray or something to put the camp fire on. Geeez I lost two leases before I figured that out.

Then I play music with my old 45 record player:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1w3Lm_gu-ZY&feature=pyv&ad=3467120791&kw=lord

Oh and superman comic books.

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