What Is Home For You?
Hi there, come on in. I know the place is a mess, care to help clean it up? There's a glass or two of cheap Zin in it for you. I've a few other varieties, as well as some beer, soda and coffee. It does smell good, doesn't it? What? Oh, I'm sorry! Second door on the left ... just yell if there's no toilet paper, I watched a sad movie just before I left last time. Don't worry, I have some more somewhere.
Who's taking on the music duty tonight? You know I can't since my hands will be full of your words as I place them in my heart. Full-time job, that. Anyway, I'm off to find some plastic glasses and some paper plates for the crackers and cheese. Anyone want peanuts? No, I've got it. I'm afraid a trip inside the frig is called for - and you know what that means. Give me a few extra minutes to hunt down the goggles and gloves. Don't let the green glow worry you ... I've decided it's good for the skin. Hmm? Sure! The ugly blue chair has your name on it, just save me a pillow and a spot at your feet.
You know, they say that you can never go home again. Have I said that before? Sometimes it feels like I've said everything before. What is home, though? Does it exist in a place or a place in time? I wonder. Consider your childhood memories ... take a moment and turn back the clock. All the way back, until the years melt away and you're much shorter than you are now. Much less jaded, much less inhabited by worry and fret, fear and uncertainty. Picture your front door. You know the one. It was what you aimed for when you were tired and ready to be warm again - even in the fiercest heat of summer. Where you headed without a conscious thought when you were hurt, anxious, scared. Behind which was all you knew - your world in a few hundred square feet. Did you have that? Or was it a dream that eluded you, a wish that never came true. A mirage of a distant island that others inhabited yet you could never reach no matter how hard you swam. No home to be found there.
Grow up again - there you go. Is home where the heart is for you now that you're taller? Do you have that front door that you used to crave, or fondly remember? Or is home with the person you love, no matter where they are. I wonder. I wonder if home is more about the feeling than the building, more a place to believe in than to simply exist. Personally, my home, my living room, has followed me through the years. Furniture changes, carpets become bare floors and grass turns into sand. Songs of crickets morph, tree frogs are silenced, lightning bugs cease to flash their musical morse code. Then I turn ... close my eyes and time brings them back. Only they are different, new, oddly familiar while strange to my newfound eyes. To me, home is what comforts me. Wraps me in a blanket and offers a cup of hot tea. It changes with me and yet stays exactly the same. Because I believe that home is love. As long as love is waiting for me, wherever that may be for that moment ... I'm home.
Okay, I'm coming! Impatient much? Stop laughing at me - just look how smooth my skin is! Actually, I like the greenish color, it suits me. Good grief, John Denver? Who dragged that out? I'm sure a complete stranger wandered in while I was gone and added that to the collection - really. Stop it, I'm not blushing. That's just what happens when the frig residue mixes with soft light. Fine, then. I happen to love this song ... "Take Me Home, Country Roads" ... reminds me. What is home for you?
















Wine and cheese in Sonoma County.
Fireflies in rural Missouri.
Peaches. Anywhere.
Room 353.
And, ultimately: taking my final breath while wrapped in the embrace of my Beloved - as we lay deep in the soft wilds of a redwood forest.
June 2, 2009 12:16 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wine, cheese, fireflies, peaches (aah, peaches) ... anywhere.
Room 256.
Wrapped in the arms of my beloved anywhere on Earth? Worth every pot of gold I'll ever hope to find. Promise.
June 2, 2009 1:04 AM | Reply | Permalink
Yes. Peach. Singular.
Nurtured, tasted - and lovingly consumed with a passion as its juices bathe one's face; almost as synergistic, mutual-reward for having taken the time to appreciate - and be appreciated.
I hold it in higher regard than even Crane melons.
;-)
June 2, 2009 1:36 AM | Reply | Permalink
Damn, dude. ;) I once responded that way to your description of the Crane melon. How was I ever to know that you'd return just long enough to make me crave the essence of a singular peach - or the amazing enjoyment of its flesh? Or to leave me wanting more ... what do you think of strawberries?
June 2, 2009 2:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
Home is gone. Home is here.
How do those reconcile?
Where I grew up, that special place on the West side of Chicago that will always be "home" in ways no other place can, has changed far too much to be current, though some have said they can take me out of Chicago, but never Chicago out of me.
And here I am, living in the same place now for twelve years or so, and I guess it qualifies as "home" - the place is definitely my own, and humble and chaotic as it may be, it is where I look forward to returning after any road gig. It's familiar, and comforting.
And here kind of feels like home, too, you know. Almost like I never left. Only thing is, green light doesn't really suit you, you know. Now, sunshine, of course, and the moonlight as well...
Missed ya...
June 2, 2009 12:45 AM | Reply | Permalink
Funny. My childhood home doesn't exist in reality anymore, either. Yet it does in my mind's eye. I think that actually matters more, in the long run. That's where I lived, that's where I learned ... that's where it will always be.
Come on - you don't like the green? Gosh. And here I thought I was being original.
June 2, 2009 1:11 AM | Reply | Permalink
It's that whole "science project" thing...
Missed the rest of it last night. Damn...
June 2, 2009 9:56 AM | Reply | Permalink
I am finally home again. The location is different than I thought it would be. But I discovered that home is where my family is, and we are all together now, though miles away from where we always considered home to be. I loved my old home, but only because my family was there. When they grew up and moved away, it ceased to be home anymore...Now it is a nice place to get away for the weekend. But home is here, where they are.
Nice to see that nothing has changed, Missy, except is it possible the gunk in the fridge has gotten even worse? I'm bringing some clorox spray tomorrow night, mind?
June 2, 2009 12:45 AM | Reply | Permalink
Family can be small, or very, very large.
It all works.
June 2, 2009 1:02 AM | Reply | Permalink
Oh, still. Help! The frig has started taking over the kitchen and I fear the living room is next. I wish to spare my guests 'cause it ain't easy being green.
You know the secret of home. Heart Of My Evermore. It grows and changes as your life does, peacefully and completely. Asking only to be accepted for what it is - the deepest part of you.
June 2, 2009 1:21 AM | Reply | Permalink
Home to me? Still looking, to be honest.I used to have pat answers -- this bar http://www.peaceandplenty.com/en/large_club.html
in the Exumas was a pretty constant one, or this place in Paris. Or the cockpit of Phaedrus in the middle of a thunderstorm. Maybe a press box on gameday or a newsroom when something is breaking. All of those have felt like home.
But now? I've got no idea. There isn't a place or even an idea or person that makes me want to cuddle up, makes me want to stay. So I'm keeping my eyes open and my legs fresh.
Welcome back, Melissa. Hope you have fun.
June 2, 2009 12:53 AM | Reply | Permalink
Hello, you. I knew you'd drop by if only for a minute or two.
Keep your eyes open, but remember to observe with your heart, as well. It's far too easy to dismiss off-hand what may be home in disguise. While the place we feel the most comfortable is important for our peace of mind, it is often the deep breath we unconsciously release that fills the place called home. Just give it a chance, and it will find you.
June 2, 2009 1:36 AM | Reply | Permalink
My live-in lover (4 years) and I had broken up just before Thanksgiving, and he had moved away from San Jose back to Connecticut. He sent me an airplane ticket to New York City (one way) for Valentines Day. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. and took a few days to answer and try to think about it. Then I had a dream, I was 24...
I dreamed that he and I were walking down a corridor. He stopped and open one of the doors and my cat, Box, was sitting on an unfamiliar couch in an unfamiliar room.
I thought, "this must be home, because the cat is here..."
=)
(dusts off a table and some bric-a-brack)
(flutters to rafter.... head under wing)
Thanks I needed that, and this.
June 2, 2009 12:58 AM | Reply | Permalink
er, dreamt?
June 2, 2009 12:59 AM | Reply | Permalink
Were you 24 when you dreamed it or 24 in your dream? Shoot, I think I'm always 24 in my dreams. ;)
Life worked out differently, yes? Likely for the best, though probably not without pain and introspection. Your cat didn't lie to you, though. Home is always where the ones we love are waiting - even (especially?) when the surroundings are unfamiliar.
My rafters have missed you ... almost as much as I have.
June 2, 2009 1:52 AM | Reply | Permalink
My home was always my refuge. Where my family was. The place I'd go and cares melt and drift away. All my art and stuff was there. The kind of stuff that brought me pleasure and enjoyment. I think those days may be coming to an end or even over. At least for a little while. Maybe I'm entering my vânaprastya stage of life, as those things don't mean what they used to for me. I'm coming to a place where I think, I hope, the world is my home.
June 2, 2009 1:24 AM | Reply | Permalink
The place in life when the things we once clutched tightly no longer receive our embrace. The place when simplicity and the need for less and even then less consumes even as it surprises. The place where we learn to stand alone. It's the place we must eventually reach in order to begin anew. To find our home within ourselves.
I realized a few years back just how important all of that is - when it was thrust upon me. Do we ever reach that point without adversity?
June 2, 2009 2:07 AM | Reply | Permalink
I certainly didn't M. Be well. You're one of the good ones.
June 2, 2009 2:09 AM | Reply | Permalink
A goodnight thought before my head gratefully hits the pillow...
What is Home for me??
It is coffee and juice in bed with my sleepy mate as we embrace the new day together.
It is marriage via epistolary missives; thoughts and feelings lovingly transcribed into words tucked within heartfelt notes and scenic postcards. Promises of omelettes and peaches to come.
It is listening to you vent about ill-timed software updates and silly rules - and knowing you'll indulge my similar rants about life on the road; too much responsibility and too little sleep.
It is our dreams and shared hopes of a better life together. A life without calendars. And plane tickets. A cat we'll bother to name and a dog we'll invite into our hearts. And a tantalizing question mark we call Francesca.
It is anywhere and wherever you and I are. Together twined as one, even when time zones separate our physical selves.
It is life.
It is love.
It is the sweetest place I've ever known.
It is my home.
It is with you.
June 2, 2009 2:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
Once upon a time words were created, language was achieved. Men and women learned to communicate, one mono-syllable at a time. Years went by and their ability to express themselves became far too savvy; they learned to play with letters and make words mean something other than the truth. To manipulate their pre-determined meaning. By doing so, others became fearful of recognizing sincerity ... trust in the written and spoken word was lost.
Once in a great while a man speaks his heart, and a woman knows it within her own. And she is honored.
June 2, 2009 3:32 AM | Reply | Permalink
I brought a big bouquet to chase away the musties. Last of the lilacs, you know.
:o)
I never get here before morning....but, it looks like it's going to be a nice day.
June 2, 2009 8:27 AM | Reply | Permalink
Good morning, Melissa. Sorry I missed the porch light last night, but the porch is truly a fine place to be this morning, "dappled down" with shafts of light that move with the pine and Palmetto branches -- which makes me homesick in a nice way for the light and shadow caused by Spanish moss moving languidly in a breeze.
Are you coming home for lunch? If so, mind if Flower and I sit and talk for a while until you get home? (I brought it, knowing your fridge.) I picked up some soft shell crab in Maryland that traveled, frozen, and is now thawed but on ice. Red potato salad with Vidalia onion and chives, tossed in olive oil and Balsamic vinegar. Cold asparagus tossed in lemon juice. And, of course, a tart rhubarb/sweet meringue pie. Should be plenty of left-overs for later.
Home: wherever family and friends gather, to be together. I'm looking forward to the annual week at Tybee with my sister, nieces and nephews...
June 2, 2009 11:06 AM | Reply | Permalink