I was in Grant Park last night. Some thoughts...
Tonight my son stood where my father stood 40 years ago. He doesn't know it yet- he is six weeks old -- but someday I will tell him. I will tell him that in 1968, his grandfather stood in Chicago's Grant Park, in the middle of a morass of rage and confusion. I will tell him that his grandfather was part of a movement that fought to end a war that had begun a century earlier. I will tell him that his grandfather was not standing in this park in celebration, but in grim determination to set things right. I will tell him that his grandfather smelled the tear gas, saw the billy clubs swing, and left the park that night without resolution. And, I will tell him that, per the mayor's declaration, 40 years ago, disorder was preserved.
When I get home I will call my father and tell him that his grandson stood where he once did. I will tell him that my son eagerly took it all in, that he will look at pictures of this multicolored crowd in history books in years to come and know he was there. I will tell my father that the Grant Park in which he once stood has gone from medium cool to way cool. That the great chasm ripped open by the politics of 1968 has begun to heal. That justice, which was once lost in a lakefront fog, is finally visible again.
I will tell my son that this is how America works. I will tell him that America's history is a slow march towards the light. That we have taken steps forward with proclamations and steps backwards with nooses. That we have moved ahead with choice, but that glass ceilings remain. That now, for the first time, America is marrying couples whose love is predetermined by God and who are shunned by ever fewer of us. I will tell him that we bested the tyrants of Europe and have rallied in the wake of unspeakable horror, but that we have also chosen to risk our soldiers' lives over false fears. I will tell him that for the last forty years, black men have been used in Presidential politics by those with ulterior motives - that they have been used in advertisements to scare and distract- but that tonight America beat back its prejudices and elected a black man President.
I will tell my son that his grandfather could not be here tonight because his Parkinson's disease has turned long walks and big crowds into insurmountable barriers. I will tell him that we do not know if a cure will ever be found but that now, because of what has happened today, America's scientists will get back to work. That good men and women will work weekends and miss dinner with their kids so that his grandfather may have a chance at a better life.
I will tell him that three years ago, the city where his grandfather now lives and where I grew up was almost lost forever. That a great wall of wind and water rose up and washed away whole families and neighborhoods. I will tell him that those in charge left New Orleans to rot for days before responding. I will tell him that government is not a magic wand and cannot solve all of our problems, but that his family's adopted hometown is proof that the banality of indifference, of detachment and of privilege has consequences. I will tell him this is why voting matters. I will tell him this is why, every year, we pray for those who have perished by water.
After the speeches are done and the crowd fades away, I will tell my son not to expect the impossible. I will tell him that happy as we are tonight, one election does not change the world. That the agents of division who lost tonight will not go away, will not learn and will instead again try to pull America back down into their insecure and fearful crab barrel. I will tell him about the last time, when we literally elected a man from Hope, and all that was done to lay him low. I will tell him that this election is a beginning as well as an ending.
I will tell my son that the pride and trust we feel for Barack Obama do not make him more than human. In his time in office, he is not going to undo the past forty years of division, or even the last eight years of buffoonery. He is a man with flaws working in a system with limitations. I will tell him that America contains too many multitudes for one man - even this President - to control its destiny. I will tell him that good intentions are never enough, and that it will take hard work from everyone who cares about this country to set us on the right path again.
I will tell my son that Barack Obama lost his grandmother on Monday and took his children to vote with him on Tuesday, and that victory is, for the Obamas, a family triumph. Tonight, my family's story continues with my son, barely six weeks old, held aloft in my wife's hands above a crowd of thousands, eyes wide with wonder. America's progress is reflected in us, and we are a reflection of America's progress. Tonight my son stood where my father did. He doesn't know it yet, but someday I will tell him.













That is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experience. Your son is, obviously, in good hands.
November 5, 2008 11:29 AM | Reply | Permalink
Except that it's self-serving. It is all about "ME!" -- and fuck everyone else.
Let's pay lip-service to "civil rights" --as excuse to jabbor onlt about oneself.
BS.
November 6, 2008 1:44 AM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks for your sharing of your thoughts and your story to your son is the type of stuff that will help raise the next generation to higher levels.
tell your dad it was worth that horrible night back in 1968 to help change the world!
November 5, 2008 11:35 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wow. Thanks.
I was in high school, watching 1968 on TV. Now I live there, and work a couple of blocks away.
And Eddie Vrdolyak, the alderman that made Harold Washington's tenure hell, is convicted of corruption.
November 5, 2008 11:55 AM | Reply | Permalink
History feels more important when we have children to pass it on to.
Thanks.
November 5, 2008 2:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
TheraP, that's one of the best comments I have read in a while.
Nice post, I wish I had been there last night.
November 5, 2008 9:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
History is important if it is factual. Passing on the factual to the next generation, regardless whether "blood relative" "one's one," matters. Truth matters -- "I" does not.
Less and less do I believe you are qualified to do therapy, however you define it. The problem in our times is denial that there are standards and limits. That's the central issue. It isn't about party.
November 6, 2008 1:49 AM | Reply | Permalink
History is important if it is factual. Passing on the factual to the next generation, regardless whether "blood relative" "one's one," matters. Truth matters -- "I" does not.
Less and less do I believe you are qualified to do therapy, however you define it. The problem in our times is denial that there are standards and limits. That's the central issue. It isn't about party.
November 6, 2008 1:51 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wow JNagarya, your arrogance is amazing. You are truly a person who is bitter beyond any measure I've seen in a while. We live historical moments through our own experience and what that moment brings to us and to our loved ones. We don't read about history in some whitewashed, facts only textbook to get the true meaning of the moment. History is ALWAYS subjective as it is seen through the eyes of those who experienced that moment. The "I" is completely relevant to history as it is the collective "I" that creates a movement and sometimes it is only one "I" that changes history through some incredible act of courage. See Rosa Parks, see Ghandi, see the student in front of the tank in Tiananmen Square. Historians site facts, yes, but they also look to those who were there at that moment in history to find what it means to them and to put it into context that others can understand. Check out a Studs Terkel book, you might learn something. Historical moments are significant because they shape the future through our interpretation of them and how we act as a result of them. How this gentleman experienced his night in Grant Park will forever have a bearing on him, his wife, his child and his father. Your lack of understanding about that is surprising and saddening.
Now onto the gay thing. Coming from a gay man, you sound like a homophobe. Bottomline is not that gay people constantly whine, the bottomline is that discrimination in many forms, not just against gay people, continues to exist on a large scale in this country and without voices to oppose that discrimination it will continue. I visited the Martin Luther King, Jr. Historical site yesterday here in Atlanta and while reading quotes from his speeches and his writings, it struck me that his words were as appropriate to gay women and men as they were to African Americans in the 1950's and 1960's. Gay men and women are more fortunate to have not endured anything like the level of violence and disdain that African Americans endured for centuries in this country. Matthew Shepard's parents may disagree with me on that point though. But every time that a gay woman or man is denied a job, fired from a job, told by a family that they cannot visit their partner in a hospital, denied the opportunity to adopt, it's a discriminatory act based upon that same centuries old hate and ignorance. And those haters are codifying that hatred into law. So, you bet your ass that we've got something to gripe about.
In sum, I applaud this gentleman for his moving and eloquent (his)story. I hope that your bitterness lessens with time. You're part of the divide, not the solution.
November 6, 2008 11:09 AM | Reply | Permalink
Jesus people, STOP this shit. My friggin' eyes are red and burning . . .
November 5, 2008 3:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
Jesus people, STOP this shit. My friggin' eyes are red and burning . . .
November 5, 2008 3:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
We were there also. I had been running a volunteer phone bank in one of the field offices and was given two tickets about 1:00. I just looked at the tickets, looked in the eyes of the person who gave them to me, and decided there was no way I was NOT going.
My mother was 16 years old, had her first summer job in downtown Chicago during the 1968 convention. She and my father have told me about this and I always felt there was no way I was going to the Grant Park rally. I was also exhausted from the phone bank work and wanted to watch the results at home with some comfort food, in my pajamas. Chicago is a much different city from 1968. The police were actually kind and the entire event was very organized. The skyline was beautiful - You can check out the photos on the Tribune web site as well as Huffington. I think the event was a statement on how Barack will bring together this country and restore our image around the world.
All I can say right now is this: I think all of us who worked these past twenty months for Barack will sleep much better tonight. I know I will.
November 5, 2008 4:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you for all of your hard work. Your rest is well-earned.
November 5, 2008 4:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great story. Thanks for sharing it. I have been in and out of tears all day, reading, watching, listening and writing on this incredible moment. There is so much work to do, but there is time to reflect on where we are and how far we have come, and be thankful.
November 5, 2008 7:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
"This story shall the good man teach his son;
And Crispin Crispian shall ne're go by,
From this day to the ending of the world,
But we in it shall be remembered..." -- King Henry V
November 5, 2008 7:57 PM | Reply | Permalink
Leave out the fantasy "God" as approver of your personal agenda, and you speek for all of us.
HOWEVER: Your effort to sneak in your personal issue as being defended, advanced, etc. by the majority, which is not the TRUTH, is not only intellectuially dishonest, it is also an insult to the intelligence of those you would dragoon -- anti-democratically -- to your ends.
Bottom line: homosexuals contantly whine that everyone else makes an issue of their sexual "orientation" -- when in fact homosexuals won't let anyone not know, ignore, or forget their sexual "orientation".
Who do you "think" your bullyshitting, reactionary horseshitters are to impress, or persuade?
We are all fed up with being browbeaten against thought. Back off, sit down, and shut up: if you don't want others making issue of your being "gay," then stop insisting to everyone that they MUST give a fuck about the ONLY fact YOU consider important: that you are "gay".
Make sense, or stop accusing others of being irrational/bigots/assholes. Make sense, or shut up.
November 6, 2008 1:36 AM | Reply | Permalink