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Friendship and Harboring


A number of recent posts occasion this muse-meditation-whatever.  The first was a spirited discussion on extending health care to undocumented workers as I call them, or illegal aliens as the post called them.  The post was by an author I enjoy, and agree with, more often or not, but here we parted company, and I thought to myself "I wonder if he knows any undocumented workers personally?".  

The second occasion was a thoughtful post on, among other things, anger in the country.  

    To humor the clueless, strutting, butt-naked emperors our dogmas Right and Left have become, we've plunged deeper and deeper into fable. Doing so, our political philosophies have frozen rigid, and have cursed themselves - and us  - with distorted and compromised history. What can't mutate into incomprehensible propaganda is simply left out, and huge chunks of the real world simply end up on a shelf of circumscribed subjects, to be shunned or denied.

Wow, there's a paragraph I wish I wrote.  But I didn't, San Fernando Curt did, and lots of other paragraphs of equal force and passion. 

The third was a post I glanced at which urged me to get off the Kumbaya way and on to the Chicago Way... If They pull a knife, you pull a gun. He sends one of yours to the hospital, you send one of his to the morgue. "That's the Chicago" way!
This got me thinking that Jane Addams' Chicago Way was more my Chicago Way than Al Capone's.  Happy Birthday Jane, in case I miss it on October 13.

So just a few words on friendship.  How Kumbaya can you get?  I'm going to put this in the form of a few theses, with the hope some people might enter the discussion with their own ideas, experiences, and observations.

It seems

Thesis One: We make unconscious exceptions for our friends, and are unaware of the internal  contradictions we make when we apply a different, more rigorous standard to those we don't know-even if they are very much the same as our friends.  We respond to our friends a bit like this:

If you're ever in a jam, here I am.
If you ever need a pal, I'm your gal.
If you ever feel so happy you land in jail,
I'm your bail.

It's friendship, friendship,
Just a perfect blendship,
When other friendships have been forgot
Ours will still be hot!
Lahdle-ahdle-ahdle-dig-dig-dig.


If you're ever down a well, ring my bell.
If you ever catch on fire, send a wire.
If you ever lose your teeth
When you're out to dine,
Borrow mine.

It's friendship, friendship,
Just a perfect blendship,
When other friendships have ceased to jell
Ours will still be swell!
Lahdle-ahdle-ahdle-hep-hep-hep.

You get the point...the rest of the lyric is behind the link above, as is a pretty cute video.

Thesis two: Segregation by class as much as by race limits our friendships mostly to people like us, and this is only growing worse.  As our circle of friends, our circle of "us" grows smaller and less diverse the circle of "them" grows larger and more frightening.  We defend our insularity by saying "Some of my best friends are black, gay, Latino, Asian, etc., etc., followed by a statement "but. . ." which makes them the exception and allows us to maintain our stereotypes.  When I have a chance to explore this in my class, Class and Culture in America I ask a few questions.  Have you visited their house?  Have they visited yours?  Have you sat at their table? Have they sat at yours?  Have you stayed overnight?  Have they?  

I'm quick to let my students know that I have to answer those questions no, more often than not, and more often than I'm comfortable with.  I can't cast the first stone: my guilt won't let me.  I have friends across class lines, and I could answer yes to a number of the questions above.  I've had blacks as house guests and sat them at my table for a meal.  There's always a gay person present when I sit down to eat.

Thesis Three: The greatest victim of my own isolation is me.  The greatest victim of the lack of diversity in my friends is me.  Ralph Waldo Emerson pegged the importance of Friendship for all time.  

    Our intellectual and active powers increase with our affection. The scholar sits down to write, and all his years of meditation do not furnish him with one good thought or happy expression; but it is necessary to write a letter to a friend, -- and, forthwith, troops of gentle thoughts invest themselves, on every hand, with chosen words. See, in any house where virtue and self-respect abide, the palpitation which the approach of a stranger causes. A commended stranger is expected and announced, and an uneasiness betwixt pleasure and pain invades all the hearts of a household. His arrival almost brings fear to the good hearts that would welcome him. The house is dusted, all things fly into their places, the old coat is exchanged for the new, and they must get up a dinner if they can. Of a commended stranger, only the good report is told by others, only the good and new is heard by us. He stands to us for humanity.

In the next century Emerson may need to be translated into what will pass for English then.  Read the essay.  It's good for you.  But I can't leave him without another wonderful bit of writing.

    Friendship requires that rare mean betwixt likeness and unlikeness, that piques each with the presence of power and of consent in the other party. Let me be alone to the end of the world, rather than that my friend should overstep, by a word or a look, his real sympathy. I am equally balked by antagonism and by compliance. Let him not cease an instant to be himself. The only joy I have in his being mine, is that the not mine is mine. I hate, where I looked for a manly furtherance, or at least a manly resistance, to find a mush of concession. Better be a nettle in the side of your friend than his echo. The condition which high friendship demands is ability to do without it. That high office requires great and sublime parts. There must be very two, before there can be very one. Let it be an alliance of two large, formidable natures, mutually beheld, mutually feared, before yet they recognize the deep identity which beneath these disparities unites them.

Overcoming insularity takes work.  It takes stopping seeing the other as the alien, documented or not.  I try, and I fail as often as not.  But even the trying is good for me.  It leads me to hope that when and if the time comes I can answer the questions in Ysaye M. Barnwell's lyric in the affirmative.

Would You Harbor Me

Would you harbor me? Would I harbor you?
Would you harbor me? Would I harbor you?

Would you harbor a Christian, a Muslim, a Jew,
A heretic, convict, or spy?
Would you harbor a runaway woman or child,
A poet, a prophet, a king?
Would you harbor an exile or a refugee,
A person living with AIDS?
Would you harbor a Tubman, a Garret, a Truth,
A fugitive or a slave?
Would you harbor a Haitian, Korean, or Czech,
A lesbian or a gay?



Would you harbor me? Would I harbor you?

Don't just read.  Hear, and then Sing.

I tried to post this using the extended tab and some fancy formatting besides.  Foiled by movable type.  Sorry about that.

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Would I harbor you?

Not if you chose to present yourself as a Christian (or any one of the other narrow, parochial loyalty groups listed) and not simply as a fellow human being.

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(shrug). I guess I'll have to look elsewhere for harboring, won't I? But then, I suspect I wouldn't find very comfortable harbor in your particular port anyway.

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You are always welcome at my port.

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amike, you know you would be welcome wherever I am. I could learn from you and I make a mean apple pie.

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And I can see Canada from my house.

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a fellow human being

Now, look here, E. You know perfectly well that you and amike are on the same page and you are being (if I may be forgiven the familiarity...) deliberatly obtuse

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I am not a Christian, Ellen, but I would harbor you, even with your narrow thoughts.

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Thanks, AMike, for the reminder that the liking and tolerance we have for differences among our friends should also be applied, as a principle, to those with whom we are not personally involved as friends and with whom we differ mightily.
If you are an Emerson fan, you may have read, or might enjoy reading this, a copy of which is probably in your university library:
http://openlibrary.org/b/OL4468308M/Ralph_Waldo_Emerson.
If you can't find it, it is quoted here:
http://books.google.com/books?id=7w5xBSIA-NAC&pg=PA172&lpg=PA172&dq=warren+staebler+ralph+waldo+emerson&source=bl&ots=A4j4Eayl1C&sig=N4xct33WafTkkrGtlzREzqZ4iKI&hl=en&ei=TyS1SvDpMZHM8QaIqcmTDw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=5#v=onepage&q=warren%20staebler%20ralph%20waldo%20emerson&f=false

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Thanks, Wendy, If we don't have the book I'll get it through inter-library loan. Personal opinion: I think Emerson may be the most frustrating of the American Thinkers--The romanticism and the transcendentalism seem to make being systematic or linear inconsequential in his mind, and if we wish that consistency we have to do the reconciling ourselves. I try to mashup Self-reliance and Friendship, and I'm left with lots of speculation, some of it satisfactory, some of it not. But then Self-Reliance gave us

A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds, adored by little statesmen and philosophers and divines

Perhaps it is the "other" that Emerson lauds in Friendship which lets the self reliant individual understand himself or herself as something more than a solipsism. http://www.humantruth.info/solipsism.html

Emerson definitely wants the "other" to be truly other. He doesn't want to look at himself in a mirror, measuring himself by what he sees. That's the best I can come up with on a Saturday night.

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I have a comment I posted somewhere yesterday that is apropos here, will take some time to find it.

There is so much here to digest here.

First the city itself. Enclaves of the richer more 'solid' citizens with the Irish gangs living on the outskirts.

Then the suburbs where the white middle class could live in peace, free from the Blacks and Hispanics and poor whites living on the outskirts of the City. Interesting this phase because the whites had to commute to the internal city to work.

Now the exurbs. So far from 'the center' that these immigrants build their own offices and do not have to commute daily to the internal city.

Where can the 'rich' hide? Why gated communities.

We must remove the 'bums' from the central city because they 'drive' the visitors. NYC knew how to handle this problem.

But the problem? First if someone just keeps running up to richer people and asking for handouts, the humane part of the richer folk takes over and the 'bums' are handed money.

There are forces that compel humans to help out.
But it is easier to 'send monies' to a soup kitchen than actually enter the soup kitchen, hand out some coin and help to make and dish out the soup.

Oh well I shall be back.

You know poetry in and of itself has mostly seemed a worthless read unless it is somehow tied into a reality. You give flesh to the bone so to speak. At least older poetry.

You give Emerson more life for me.

Thank you Professor.

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There I found it. Not many comments here but a lot of people read your post Professor.:

Accidentally, some of the tens of thousands of Jews who were partners in mixed marriages were included in the roundup. Himmler, bombarded with petitions, petulantly complained in a speech to SS generals:
And then there come eighty million worthy Germans, and each one has his decent Jew. Of course, the others are vermin, but this one is an A-1 Jew, a decent Jew...among ourselves it should be mentioned quite frankly--but we will never speak of it publicly--just as we did not hesitate on June 30, 1934, to do the duty we ordered to stand comrades up against the wall and shoot them, so we have never spoken about...cleaning out the Jews,the extermination of the Jewish race. Most of you must know what it means whe a hundred corpses are lying side by side, or five hundred or a thousand. To have stuck it out and at the same time remained decent fellows, that is what has made us so hard. This is a page of glory in our history which has never been written and will never be written.

Justice At Nuremberg.. 268-269

We Americans must do the right thing and make sure illegals never get access to medical care.
But we will need funding to get rid of the bodies.
WHO IN THE HELL IS GOING TO PAY FOR THE BURIALS?
And what about underground doctors who help the helpless in violation of the law. we must make examples of these traitors.
We need to 'round them up' as soon as possible. Oh there will be citizens who have particular affinities and relationshps with these illegals.
But in order to help the American Reich, SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE RIGHT NOW.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JAXKIKehbc

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I'll harbor you any day, DD. :-)

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I wholeheartedly recommend this comment.

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Me too. Wholeheartedly.

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I am beginning to suspect that some conservatives actually believe that Obama has the internment camp plans ready to implement.

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There is no try, only do.

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Thank you for this, amike. It's given me much to ponder.

My job offers encounters with myriad individuals and families from many countries and economic conditions. I've found we're more alike than different. Maslow's hierarchy tends to put things in perspective for me.

What I find so hard to fathom is how "values" and "belief" constructs can be so powerfully divisive since they reside only in one's mind.

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What I find so hard to fathom is how "values" and "belief" constructs can be so powerfully divisive since they reside only in one's mind.

Well said. Not only that, but most values and belief constructs are supposed to be based on love.

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LisB, you make a good point. It's caused me to delve a little further. My first reference to Maslow was at best superficial.

I found his pyramid here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

He posits that one can't progress to the next level in the hierarchy until the needs in the lower levels have been met. Love/belonging ranks third among the five levels. Safety and physiological are below, esteem and self-actualization above.

Spinning off on your mention of love and applying Maslow's hierarchy, in our current climate, many people lack a sense of basic safety and security. Achieving security consumes much of their energy and attention. Love/belonging, esteem, and self-actualization remain elusive under those conditions.

This little analysis helps me, at least, understand some of the behaviors I observe and read about.

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Golly, I don't adhere by pyramids and all that.

I know the food groups, and I know I need to eat more fruits and veggies than I do.

I took the test that told me I'm introverted and expressive and N and S or whatever.

Why do people need to adhere to "based upon socialpsycho blah blah blah patterns of thought" in order to express this real life stuff?

Loving one another is supposed to be a good trait.

Period.

I don't need an analyst to tell me that.

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Things like Maslow's hierarchy of needs or Ken Wilbers spectrum of consciousness or etc. and the books that elucidate them are simply tools to help one understand where different people are coming from which can help one to understand why others think or feel differently.

One doesn't adhere to them, they aren't religions and those books aren't bibles. Books and reading has had an immense influence in my understanding of the world and the people in it. If I were to choose the most influential authors I've read, the ones I felt had the greatest insight, Maslow would be the top ten.

If he's not an author that enhances your understanding then don't read him. But you're pretty dismissive of an author, and perhaps a whole field of study, that it seems you don't have a clue about. You might want to consider reading one of his books before you dump all over him.

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LisB, you seem to be naturally compassionate. I'm not. I have to understand what motivates people's behavior in order to feel compassion. It doesn't come naturally for me. Rather, I tend to be judgmental.

Maslow has provided a framework that leads me toward toward better understanding and ultimately toward compassion. It's something I really have to work at, and it's a worthy effort. I'm grateful for his framework and insight.

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Gosh. I missed a lot.

In all my years of being myself, and studying myself, all I know is that I'm passive/aggressive.

Doesn't take a well-known name to label me.

I'll still eat my veggies, though, and my wheat, if that makes you feel better.

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What I find so hard to fathom is how "values" and "belief" constructs can be so powerfully divisive since they reside only in one's mind.

Well the first step in relieving some of the conflict would be getting most people on the same page. The proposition that belief is ulimately actualized in one's mind is very uncomfortable to many. They don't want the responsibility. It is much less work to attribute the source of values/virtue to Gods and then try to follow it. Then, when pressed, you don't necessarily have to follow your own conscience.

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Really nice post. I can tell I'm missing a part of the bigger point. You bring up a reaction that surprised me at first too ... but not after pondering the situation.

I think you miss some of the larger context with the illegal immigration problem. The reason why the "undocumented worker" frame is simply inaccurate to many is because when the individuals are detected they are not given paperwork. They are detained and removed from the country. The presence within our borders is not legal. Those who come know it full well, which is why they seek in instead of passing through a legal port of entry. Getting caught up in the semantics probably isn't really helpful.

A lot of perception is based on geographic location and profession. Someone in the NE is never going to understand the pressures that exist in San Diego or Tucson, and a professional will never understand through personal experience the impacts on a blue-collar worker. Some points of view make it far easier to approach the problem in the abstract - place the individuals in an anthropological frame and apply the aspirations of the Latin American lower class on an overall humanistic level that largely ignores borders. But it is only isolation from the interaction in the context of America that makes such academic detachment possible.

Imagine if you came to work and someone informed you that the history(?) department was bringing in a different teaching crew and you were fired (in construction, "you" are a framer). After a few weeks, on unemployment you realize that many of the universities in the areas are also using similar crews for history instruction and there are no jobs available in the field. One guy offers to let you be an assistant technician in the science lab because he feels sorry for you, but it only pays $8/hr and he can't guarantee 40 hrs a week (a framing journeyman offered a job helping hang doors).

Later at the bar, you run in to one of your old colleagues who is still at the university teaching economics(the drywall guys). He tells you that everyone in your old department is working for half the wages through a subcontractor and all they have to do is put a body in front of the class. The individual instructors change frequently, and he found out the swap-out instructors are processed on the same social security number and paid through a wolf(long story). But he tells you a hilarious story about how when immigration visited the school - the entire history department scattered like ants ... jumped out of second story windows ... one even ran into his classroom in front of all the students and dove into the broom closet; says they must have arrested at least a dozen people. When you ask if that means they're hiring again he just chuckles and says "Nah, they had a new bunch back in time for an evening lecture."

Oh yeah, and you notice a couple three bedroom houses in your neighborhood now have what appears to be at least 14 people each living there. A few individuals always seem to be the same, but many only stay a month or two. But they are awful nice (no sarcasm, generally wonderful individuals) and even invited you over for beers at a weekend BBQ when there was a celebration.

This happens in the specific(that's pretty much the story of a good friend) and abstract(there are thousands of people with similar stories). Beers, BBQ and even a sleepover won't relieve the underlying issue of friction. Individual interaction and relationships are quite cordial, but the stress of the situation creates support for policies that aggressively respond (or purport such) to resource depletion. It's not xenophobia or a lack of human understanding, it is scarcity.

While important to put yourself in the shoes of the immigrant community - it is also important to stand in the shoes of effected Americans as well. By understanding the competition for finite (dwindling) resources, it makes it far easier to discuss policy in terms that address the real underlying needs that result in strong policy beliefs which are often trivially dismissed as a lack of empathy.

As mentioned, I was somewhat surprised at the point of view demonstrated by some people here regarding health care for immigrants. In my mind it seems sort of a no-brainier that ER wait times would decrease and overall costs would come down if we dealt with immigration health issues outside the emergency room. This is true as far as that goes. But retrospectively, it makes sense that in a toe-to-toe competition for basics some people view difficulty getting care as a disincentive to come illegally in the first place. That's a trickier nut to crack. Bridging the divide will take understanding of those in America who feel this way and addressing their needs.

This is really just a prelude to the immigration reform debate that is on the horizon. When it arrives, don't judge your fellow TPMers too harshly. Folks are coming from very different points of view and under very different pressures.

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I'll have to give this a lot of thinking. But it will have to wait until tomorrow, as I've a bus to catch at 7:30 a.m. I will return, I promise. I would probably begin by saying if my fellow workers (my faculty is unionized) didn't value my work enough to protect me in it, and/or if the undocumented worker could do my job as well as, or better than I could, I wouldn't have any right to keep that job.

I'd probably also have to think that had we the kind of laws then (1880-1884) as now I wouldn't be here because those already here would have succeeded in keeping my grandparents out.

But I want to give you a thoughtful answer your thoughtful comment really deserves. Thanks for taking the time to dialogue about this.

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I'm very glad you took my thoughts in the spirit they were offered. Hard to know how some comments are gonna come across.

A big piece of my genetic puzzle arrived in America a bit after yours (1900-1908). I never really thought about it much in terms of "what if stuff was like it is now back then." It just seems that was a different world with different needs and different problems. I don't think it's inherently wrong that policies change along with the realities of life. That's not an endorsement of the current policy (which sucks), but there must be some validity in the idea a policy effective for the 1880s might not work in 2009, no?

I've got to say though, this bit surprised me as much as the health-related reactions that initiated this discussion:

if my fellow workers (my faculty is unionized) didn't value my work enough to protect me in it, and/or if the undocumented worker could do my job as well as, or better than I could, I wouldn't have any right to keep that job.

I might be misunderstanding you, but it seems you are saying if a worker isn't protected by a union, they don't have a right to keep their job in the instance where someone can make it through the border with the skills to take it from them (often with the help of a human trafficking network who take a cut of their pay and negotiate with the employer to provide the workers for discounted wages). How do you anticipate those in professions not protected by a PhD-level education requirement (which is unlikely for any undocumented worker to possess) will feed their families? I must be interpreting this the wrong way.

Again, thanks for recognizing the intended spirit ... I really look forward to your deeper thoughts on the subject.

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BTW: You can dock you ship in CDA anytime :-)

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I'm loving them and I'm still loving them. I really need a big post to put all this together. But here's a little one for a starter. Documentation is a matter of skills and social class. The higher the skill level, the harder to prove the skill isn't needed here and the easier to get documentation in the form of a green card.

So here's the situation: an institution like my own calls diversity one of its core values...diversity not only in terms of the student body, but the faculty, as well. The President's fall address announced that we now have 20 percent of the faculty born abroad.

First. I really do approve of this. But I can approve of this policy safely...I can't be fired without due cause--partly due to tenure, and partly due to that fact that we have our tenure policy through collective bargaining.

When I retire in a few years (NOT looking forward to that), the next person applying for this job will be competing with a global pool of applicants, none of whom will have documentation until an American institution offers them a job. I think this is just fine, but then I'm not a fresh Ph. D in American studies from an American school competing with Ph. D.s in American studies from Europe or the Far East. (Yes, one can get an American Studies Degree abroad... the largest international American Studies Association is headquartered in Japan).

I guess what I'm suggesting is that we talk so much about undocumented workers being unskilled labor because it isn't all that hard for professionals to get documented. Check the name tags at a local hospital, for example. ooops Healthcare. I swore this wasn't going to have anything to do with healthcare.

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You're still missing or ignoring a fundamental difference. The main and overriding criterion of the job search at your university is not how low is the pay the applicant is willing to accept.

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I dunno. It maybe didn't used to be. But things are getting pretty awful out here.

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I don't think a study has been done on whether or not professionals from overseas drive down wages for workers here--at least at the university level. HOWEVER, studies have been done in the healh care field, and there does seem to be an impact on licensed practical nurses and even registered nurses--health care workers in other professions don't usually unionize so the data isn't collected.

The issue of training them abroad and hiring them here--and the effect of that on the quality of health care in countries like the Philippines is another issue too complicated to go into here. I've got another speculation boiling and it is probably time to take it off the burner. Thanks foryour comments.

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One other likely factor pertaining to professional fields that ensures a more orderly approach to immigration is the positions international applicants are competing for would never be staffed by individuals without verifiable documentation (and certifications).

But this makes kind of an interesting segue, and brings up another piece of the puzzle. That is above-board competition with international workers. The issue is far less contentious I think, but by no means without friction. In fact there are increasing pressures emerging in the Software/IT fields(my line of work). We call the workers H1Bs (the type of visa they hold), they don't really count as immigrants per se because the visas are temporary.

I am hazarding a guess that the universities are not selecting their hires based on issues of economic advantage. For Microsoft, it is all about money. They fired several thousand software developers (engineers, programmers, etc,) and replaced them with H1Bs (MS managed to score something like 10% of all visas issued annually). They basically cleared out whole departments, just keeping a few managers and supervisors. The H1Bs work for slightly less, but the big score for Microsoft is in the benefits. Since they are only here temporarily MS doesn't have to address any of the retirement issues (pensions, 401k, etc.). There is suspicion MS is also using this as workforce training, producing experienced workers as they move more jobs offshore to places like India where the wages are comparatively dirt and there are zero benefits requirements.

I won't write another book here, but in short that put a bunch of competition in the consulting/contracting side of the industry (especially here in the NW) that has had a negative impact on pretty much the whole sector.

To me the whole problem at it's heart - both the "unskilled worker" and the H1B visa holders as implemented by Microsoft - boils down to unjust corporate practices. The reason people are flooding our borders is because we've put the mechanisms in place to allow our corporations to turn their countries into virtual slave-labor pools. The reason people who navigate here from Latin America will work for half as much as an American is because that represents more than twice what they can make in their home country for the same work.

It seems like we've reached point of confluence where all of our ills find their way to the doorstep of corporatism. The problems reaching critical mass with immigration, health care, finanace, etc. are all the result of a very similar corporate greed. And the corporations are fighting like rabid badgers to prevent any action that might force them to modify their behavior - and they seem to own the place. We're in a hell of a pickle.

(this thread is getting kind of back in the que ... hopefully you even see this).

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Really great comment. You touched all parts of the story and expressed my feelings and experience very well.

I'm one of those, from Pennsylvania, that only understood the situation theoretically. When I moved to Florida I understood it viscerally.

People are hurting and that hurt often turns into hate and racism. I deplore the racism and hate but that doesn't address the fundamental problem. There are a finite number of jobs in certain areas and certain professions and illegal immigrants are competing for those finite jobs at wages far below what had been the previous norm.

I don't know the solution to the problem and, even if we were to kick all illegals out, I fear it will get worse as more and more manufacturing goes over seas. I wonder where the jobs are going to come from for the large amount of people without a college degree and even if it were possible for all those to get a college degree, how will there ever be enough degree level jobs for them.

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Your point is well-taken, oceankat. I, too, live in Florida and see firsthand the realignment of jobs.

That realignment has necessitated a trend away from materialism toward simpler lifestyles for many.

Hopefully during this painful process people will rediscover the inherent joy in finding creative ways to reuse or give new life to old things and engaging in tasks they might have once considered mundane.

The shift from spectating to doing might ultimately be a positive. This correction, difficult as it is, was inevitable.

Right now, resentment toward this cultural and lifestyle shift is palpable. Hopefully it will wane as new priorities emerge.

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you know. I realize that I am very fortunate. I live in Boulder, CO. I cannot remember my neighbors name but she came over and asked me to give her car a jump for which she thanked me by giving me some organic fruit and later trust that I would help her enough to leave me a note asking me to water her plants on her porch because she was away for a week again thanking me with some organic fruit.

My other neighbors have a dog and now that I have a new puppy had offered their support and willingness to assist.

I know that most people care about each other and want to help each other and the people who's minds are being corrupted by lies, distortions, and BS are for the most part ignorant, less educated but otherwise just like us and care about people.

It's all very twisted what fear, greed, and desire for control/power can wield.

Of course I can't help loving everyone but that does not mean I don't have boundaries. There are those I would not harbor... depending on the circumstances but most I would because as the native american saying goes 'today is a good day to die'.

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Short and sweet. Not just by class, amike...but economic segregation as well.

And this occurs in all races, sects and genders.

C

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Heh heh....you said sects....heh heh....

;)

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If you ever paddle your canoe anywhere near my tipi, you're invited in for frybread and wild rice soup, Amike. Anytime.

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For got to add. Intellectual segregation as well.


C

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I think all of these tend to go together somehow. I'd like to write on that sometime.

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"Would you harbor me? Would I harbor you?"

When one feels sufficiently secure, the answer is "yes."

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And when one feels sufficiently insecure, the answer is still yes, but I might not be able to feed you in the manner you're accustomed to.

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I thought you'd given up on posting Mike and must say I'm jolly glad you seem to have given up on giving up. This was marvelous! Thank you!

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Thanks amike - you gave me lots to think about.

I'd harbor you. No sweat :)

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Neat post, amike. Very thoughtful. Hey, why not design a curriculum on crossing ethnic and cultural frontiers. If one hasn't done it, they've missed something very beautiful in their lives.

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Two thoughts stuck in my mind before I read all the comments:
On strangers, and the way Emerson depicts the household reacting (very well-said): If a stranger comes to your door; treat him well, because it might just be the Buddha. A hard, but sound rule to live by.
I agree with Emerson: I have always wanted my closest friends to be willing to kick my butt when I need it; not from envy or pique or some petty reason, but if I am off course, and I need a reminder, even if it's not all that gentle!
It's so interesting that three such diverse posts gelled for you so well. It was clear in your brief comment to curt's post that you were gonna do some heavy cogitatin'! You did, and it was grand; the Emerson was just what i needed this morning. Thank you, miketheharbor.

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Glad to see you posting again, Amike! Much to ponder over. Thanks.

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Jack of all trades, master of some: Ph. D. American Studies, 38th year in the classroom coming up. Jolly fun, what what.

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