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John McCain considers his philandering and abandoning his first wife and kids a "blessing."

In an interview with Katie Couric that aired yesterday morning, John McCain was asked about the fact that he was either too rich or too mentally infirm to remember how many houses he owned.  (Katie didn't put it quite that way.)  The ol' straight talker's first response was to tackle the issue head-on by reminding Katie that he was a P.O.W.  (Huh?)  McCain then immediately went into a discussion about how "blessed" he's been financially by the opportunities of this great nation and he challenged anyone who would "disparage" his blessings.

Now since McCain has never earned a dime in the private sector during his entire seventy-two years on this planet, you might ask yourself what are these "opportunities" he's been so "blessed by" that now allow him to own more houses than he can remember.  Well, it turns out it was really only one opportunity but McCain jumped on it when it presented itself.  It was when a forty-three-year-old John McCain met a twenty-four-year-old heiress named Cindy Lou Hensley at a party in Hawaii in 1979 and promptly began having an affair with her.  After about a year of cheating on his wife of fifteen years -- the wife who had kept vigil during his entire POW experience -- John and Cindy decided to make it legal and tie the knot so he could move to Cindy's home state of Arizona and run for Congress.  He divorced his wife Carol in April 1980 and married Cindy -- and her money -- a month later.  As you would expect, the wedding was a grand society affair befitting the marriage of a twenty-something debutante to a middle-aged man.  The only blemish to the entire event was the conspicuous absence of the three children who McCain had walked out on and who didn't speak to him for several years afterwards.  But, hey, can there be a bigger downer at your wedding than having your abandoned kids throwing rocks at you while everyone else is throwing rice?

So when John McCain talks about the blessings of marrying a wealthy heiress, we all need to ask ourselves whether the family he abandoned considered his philandering and abandonment to be a "blessing."  When Carol McCain learned that her husband was kicking her to the curb because he had met someone younger and richer, do you think she said to herself, "what a blessing"?  When Carol McCain had to sit her kids down and tell them that their dad wouldn't be coming home anymore because he had met someone younger and richer at a party in Hawaii, do you think they all collectively said, "what a blessing"?  When these same kids read about their middle-aged dad marrying his new twenty-five-year-old wife in the society page of the newspaper, do you think they looked at the photos of the wedding they didn't attend and said, "what a blessing"?  Somehow neither do I.

One of my favorite passages in the Bible is the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:3-10) in which Jesus lists those who are blessed.  I've read that passage more times than I can count and I'll be darned if I can remember the passage, "Blessed are the philanderers and those who abandon their family for financial and political gain; for they shall inherit the Bush White House."  Maybe I've just got an old copy.


Comments (57)

"Blessed are the philanderers and those who abandon their family for financial and political gain; for they shall inherit the Bush White House."

May I quote you, sir?

Please feel free -- as often as you'd like.

Blessed are those who judge the marriages of returned POW's and car wreck survivors who still manage to hold their marriage together for 7 more years while undergoing physical therapy, and can find fault and judgment and condemnation.

Sorry, I don't want to win this one on catty self-righteous obnoxiousness. You have plenty of good reasons to attack McCain, go find one of them. I don't like the POW card in most cases, but in this case I find it simply disgusting. You go spend 6 years locked up in a box and see how easy it is to hold your high school marriage together.

First point: McCain's first marriage wasn't some sort of impetuous marriage to his "high school sweetheart" that broke up because they grew apart as adults. McCain met and married his first wife when he was twenty-nine years old.

Second point: This post wasn't judging McCain's obviously grave moral failings as the type of person who abandons his family for political and financial gain. Not that there's not grist for that mill but you obviously feel that being a P.O.W. gave him license to act that way and we'll just have to agree to disagree. However, I was judging the fact that McCain thinks kicking his wife and kids to the curb so he could marry an heiress nearly twenty years his junior constitutes a "blessing" because it enabled him to hang his baseball cap in seven to ten different houses and fly on private jets. Frankly, I would think most Christians -- and people of all faiths, for that matter -- would be offended by McCain's characterization of his conduct as a "blessing." I know I am.

Final point: As far as your contention that there are "plenty of good reasons to attack McCain," well, sir, I'm afraid I'll just have to agree with you on that one.

He met his first wife when he was 18, he married her after she divorced her first husband adopting 2 kids. This is all irrelevant. Human relationships are complicated, and we're long past "one love, till death do we part", and yes, it's oddly galling to me that people can't see that coming home from a war after a 6 year absence can be a fatal strain on a relationship. How many vets commit suicide, how many vets go to drink? Give him a break. This is a particularly nasty line of attack. They worked their lives out, now attack him on being corrupt, two-faced, a suckup to religious interests, whatever, leave his love life alone. (Not the connections/money/influence part, have a field day).

I agree with Desidero.

He met his first wife when he was 18, he married her after she divorced her first husband adopting 2 kids. This is all irrelevant. Human relationships are complicated, and we're long past "one love, till death do we part", and yes, it's oddly galling to me that people can't see that coming home from a war after a 6 year absence can be a fatal strain on a relationship. How many vets commit suicide, how many vets go to drink? Give him a break. This is a particularly nasty line of attack. They worked their lives out, now attack him on being corrupt, two-faced, a suckup to religious interests, whatever, leave his love life alone. (Not the connections/money/influence part, have a field day).

I disagree. McCain has decided to let the Swiftboaters run his campaign. All bets are off. And Obama can attack using the truth, rather than lying, as McCain and his Rovian bots are doing.

I think McCain's throwing his wife under the bus is fair game, in light of the attacks on Obama's character. I think you're also minimizing how creepy the whole thing was. McCain threw a mangled woman under the bus. His Penelope. In that car accident, she lost several inches of height and McCain actually said, "She is no longer the woman I married."

It's strange how the POW excuse is used in this case. In reality, that experience should have kept him with his wife. Knowing what she experienced.

Adding insult to injury, Cindy McCain was a very rich and much younger heiress. McCain's POW status can't be used to excuse blatant gold-digging.

It's fair game, IMO. In fact, I think they SHOULD make a point of this. And the Keating 5 as well. McCain has been allowed to wear his halo too long. And it's totally undeserved.

The whole "42 year old chasing a 24 year old around a buffet table at a cocktail party" thing is just too damn creepy.

When you run with the Party of family values and all things that are of christian flavor,....it seems like it might be relevant to his test of moral character if the man left his wife and children for a much younger woman who's filthy rich. You can rest assured if Obama had done that it would be made an issue right by the GOP. Yet another use of the POW card.

Blessed are those who judge the marriages of returned POW's and car wreck survivors who still manage to hold their marriage together for 7 more years while undergoing physical therapy, and can find fault and judgment and condemnation.

Sorry, I don't want to win this one on catty self-righteous obnoxiousness. You have plenty of good reasons to attack McCain, go find one of them. I don't like the POW card in most cases, but in this case I find it simply disgusting. You go spend 6 years locked up in a box and see how easy it is to hold your high school marriage together.

If they both had agreed they had problems, I would agree with you. But Carol adored John. Even now she will not speak out against him. Carol was quite lovely once. After the accident and John's return, Carol felt he had been through so much and should not be saddled with her, a cripple. (how sad). McCain went a-runnin, but paid her off to ease his guilty conscious.

Even one of their closests friends (when they were a couple) would not even speak to McCain after the divorce...Nancy Regan.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1024927/The-wife-John-McCain-callously-left-behind.html

None of your damn business. Get out of their bedroom, get out of their kitchen. I certainly want them out of mine.

Then he needs to stay out of my damn White House. When the president has the power to make my life and your life either wonderful or make it hell, it sure is my business to find out what kind of guy he is, what his morals are, and how he carries his ideals.

I agree with you..if he is just some joe schmoe, it is none of my freaking business. But not if he wants to be my president.

McCain made it our business when he talked about the success that he has been blessed with. Typically people who make comments like that are referring to something that through hard work they achieved and are grateful for; not achieving the financial success that he talks about by ditching your wife and marrying a millionaire's daughter that is half your age.

People love an American success story; but we don't love gold diggers.

Bet Desidero didn't mind interferring in Clinton's personal business!!!! Probably loves interfering in John Edward's too. Oh, but that's different -- they are democrats so it's only fair! Tired of the two-faced hyocrites out there who want to label themselves as "good Christian, Family Values" candidates!

There's gotta be a great ad in there somewhere to run during Cindy McCain's night in Minneapolis.

The wingnuts would (and will) call this trash, but it is a very relistic and simple perspective, that should be available for more Evangelicals and socially conservative Catholics to ponder.

If anyone reading this has the asbility to post this to one of the right wing blogs, please do so... it might not stay up very long, but it might also tweak the conscience of more than one McCain doubtful.

Imagine if it was Obama who had this in his history. Hand-dity and Limpaugh and Orally would all be standing on their microphones and shouting it to the world.

HYPOCRITES!!!

Great Post! My thoughts exactly! Typically when people talk about being blessed with opportunities, they are referring to the opportunity be the first generation of your family to go to college or to start your own business or something that also means that you worked hard. It is mind numbing that McCain uses it to refer to ditching his crippled wife and marrying the daughter of a multi-millionaire.

Yup. Quite the blessing there.

And don't forget that in that same interview he referred to convicted-felon father-in-law as a good "role model" for young people.

Oh don't forget the bit about his first wife being in a car accident and being left scarred and with a limp! How could he be attracted to the mother of his children after that? With that kind of new age love for his children's damaged mother maybe he should have John Edwards be his running mate? Similar values, except McCain made a ton of money in the deal to boot!

Edwards had no trouble making money, even on the poverty institute he folded after it failed to make him president.

Look, McCain came home from Vietnam and kept his marriage together for 7 years. People change, and the 70's were a divorce wasteland. This is not the meddling domestic moralizing we want to base a campaign on. Iraq. Lack of an economics plan. Faith based love of everything Bush. Find the hotspots and push.

"People change"?

Don't be absurd. McCain some a damaged woman, a seriously damaged woman, one who didn't have the money to help his career. He found one who did. A much young woman at that. One he actually chased around the table when they met. I hardly call that "holding his marriage together." Looks to me like he was trying his best to end it and marry up.

If he's going to talk about Obama being an elitist--raised by a single mom who had to go on foodstamps more than once--when he cheated on his much poorer wife to marry a rich one--than it's more than fair to call him on it. McCain's a major hypocrite and a phony. It's time for the Dems to take the gloves off and make that clear to everyone.

The stakes are too high not to. McCain could win this thing on the strength of his swiftboat attacks. And that would be a disaster for America and the rest of the world. It might even be worse than Bush, and he is the worst president we've ever had, bar none.

He was damaged as well. Give it a break.

Nope. Again, his time as a POW is not permament shield. It's not excuse for what he did to Carol. His being damaged in the war is all the more reason why he shouldn't have done it to others. He should know better.

America votes on "character issues." If they voted on serious domestic and foreign policy issues, they'd never elect another Republican. But since so many Americans vote irrationally, the gloves have to come off. McCain in the White House is too dangerous a possibility to let go by playing the Marquis of Queensberry rules. To hell with that.

He deserves to be called out for what he did. It's actually quite the metaphor for his entire political career and what he'll do to Americans if he's elected.

It's on the table because he's decided to swiftboat his opponent.

How about giving the country a break by throwing everything we've got at this pathetic shell of a man, who so clearly wants to be the next puppet-in-chief.

Excellent! If only this was the message going out to the American public. It's so obvious but why isn't the rest of America understanding this?

Obama 08 - One House, One Spouse

Won't you be happy when the Obama affair goes public. We are all glass houses, throw scones.

I'm gonna keep throwing the homewrecker scone right at Senator Straight Talk and his pasty comb-over. Especially since the Republicans want to talk about character with a candidate who seems to think family values are only for those who aren't millionaires.

I'm tired of fighting nice with the more ethical candidates. I want McCain to get hit with the truth - right across his fucking kneecaps.

(BTW, I acknowledge your larger point. I'm just itching, though, to get into a no-holds-barred character fight with John McCain - in part because the nasty innuendo about Obama has gotten much more ink than McCain's documented screwups.)

Wow when you put it that way... he sounds like a really slimy creep. Not the example of relationship ethics I see in Obama and Biden.

Your mistake is thinking "blessed" refers to Christianity. He has been blessed by a different God-- The Military Industrial Complex. Now confess your sin, and say 10 Lockheed Martins.

Blessed by Mammon, a Prisoner of Wealth.

Excellent post. Really well written; informative and insightful.

McCain is not a member of North Phoenix Baptist Church. He has not been baptized as a member of the church, and has been going there 17 YEARS.

To true believers, he has not had his 'age of reason,' he has not ever gone through a 'born again' phase. He was baptized episcopalian, but not into his current (due to cindy) baptist photo ops.

So the crowd gave him only tepid applause. He's not a member. I wouldn't figure to judge his motives here, but he seems to be more into the public relations and political gain of coming into the building rather than living his life through the teachings of Christ.

Progressives may not get all that. Evangelicals, where he has a major weakness related to this very fact, absolutely DO.

Progressives need to know it can be 'mentioned' that he's been walking in the building 17 years and never committed to the church. The right wants to attack with a certain pastor. Evangelicals at least understand Obama joined his church. McCain never joined his.

Please feel free -- as often as you'd like.

Above comment meant to be a reply to JaneEyrez. Darn box check-offs.

You gotta laugh regarding McCain's version of the self-made man rap.

This is one way of dealing with McCain:

"Who Does McCain Remind you of? A New Game for Hard Times"
http://msa4.wordpress.com/2008/08/06/who-does-mccain-remind-you-of-a-new-game-for-hard-times/

Well put. I had the same reaction to Cindy McCain's response to why John married her because he thought she'd make a good wife and mother (I wish I could recall the interviewer).

I wanted to scream, "He already had a good wife and mother!". But that bit of bad fortune for John McCain often gets overlooked, as does the source of his wealth. And it can't be said enought, McCain's good fortune and "blessings" come from his (and his wife's) own immoral, unethical behavior.

So much for the party of Family Values!

John McCain (R-Family Values Only For You!)


Today we learned that John McCain will do away with any ethical consideration, will break any word he gives, will employ any means to get into the White House. The founding spirit of America means nothing to him. We, the people, have to be focused and steady in our reply ...

http://tpmcafe.talkingpointsmemo.com/talk/2008/08/one-house-one-spouse-obama-bid.php

If you look at the totality of McCain's life - his academic record, his philandering, his abandoning of his children, his association with the Keating 5, and now his unabashed hypocrisy in swift-boating Obama, you end up with a man with a flawed character. His one saving grace, his heroism as a POW, he's now tarnishied by exploiting it for political game.

Examining someone's marital life is difficult. We can't know what happens when the front door is closed. But by all accounts, McBush's mental health was fine. He wasn't a PTSD victim entering rehab or on anti-depressants. He was a skirt-chaser on the beaches of Hawaii going after a young blond with a rich father. He can dump his wife and turn his back on his children. He can marry for wealth and social status. He can even marry young in the hopes that it gives him the keys to fountain of youth. But run for President and call that a blessing? Sign me up for the church that blesses me when I chase a blond heiress in her 20's.

Nice Strat, by the way.

And if Cindy McCain were an older uglier poorer woman, would it be okay?

No...he left his crippled wife and kids for another woman. He told his original wife that it was her memory and that of his children that kept him going while a POW.

Wow I guess it really stinks when an accident takes away the beauty. Can you imagine when he got off the plane and saw her. Can you imaging the heartbreak she felt when he was appalled by her appearance.

When McCain – his hair turned prematurely white and his body reduced to little more than a skeleton – was released in March 1973, he told reporters he was overjoyed to see Carol again. But friends say privately he was ‘appalled’ by the change in her appearance. At first, though, he was kind, assuring her: ‘I don’t look so good myself. It’s fine.’ He bought her a bungalow near the sea in Florida and another former PoW helped him to build a railing so she could pull herself over the dunes to the water. ‘I thought, of course, we would live happily ever after,’ says Carol. But as a war hero, McCain was moving in ever-more elevated circles. Through Ross Perot, he met Ronald Reagan, then Governor of California. A sympathetic Nancy Reagan took Carol under her wing. But already the McCains’ marriage had begun to fray. ‘John started carousing and running around with women,’ said Robert Timberg. McCain has acknowledged that he had girlfriends during this time, without going into details. Some friends blame his dissatisfaction with Carol, but others give some credence to her theory of a mid-life crisis. He was also fiercely ambitious, but it was clear he would never become an admiral like his illustrious father and grandfather and his thoughts were turning to politics. In 1979 – while still married to Carol – he met Cindy at a cocktail party in Hawaii. Over the next six months he pursued her, flying around the country to see her. Then he began to push to end his marriage.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1024927/The-wife-John-McCain-callously-left-behind.html
Freaking prick.

A Followup Question for McCain:
Do the service men and women coming home from years in Iraq have the same opportunities to achieve the American Dream that he had? If so, why are so many of them suffering financially (and otherwise)? Is it because they are not as good as McCain at taking advantage of America's opportunities or is it because the opportunities themselves suck today?

I would be willing to bet a million dollars that if the shoe was on the other foot, i.e. if Obama had dumped his wife and children to marry a much younger, rich woman, there would be no end of attacks from the right on Obama's character.

The Republican Party no longer stands for anything but hypocrisy which is why I no longer can support it.

G.O.P.= Grumpy Old Philanderer

Carol McCain has said that John being a POW and her car accident had nothing to do with their divorce. The divorce happened because John, in his forties, wanted to be and acted as if he was still in his twenties.

Quite honestly it is very tiring to have John McCain and his supporters constantly throw the POW think into, seemingly, every error in his life.

There are plenty of POW's that returned from WWII, Korea, and Vietnam that DID NOT kick their wives to the curb and hunt down an heiress to marry. McCain's actions are reprehensible in any circumstances, POW or not. What happened to "for better or worse"? Or was that a vow McCain "conveniently" decided to ignore?

No matter how you try to spin it, McCain is NOT the hero he pretends to be. He survived five years as a POW and deserves our respect for that, but it does not earn him a PASS for behaving in a manner that is both ethically indefensible but morally repugnant.

The Republicans need to wake up and smell the coffee: IT is about CHARACTER. And how do we judge a person's character? By his words or by his deeds? McCain's words tout him as a "hero"; his deeds say something far different. Is this really who we want running our country?

McCain didn't have to keep his vows, he was a POW! He didn't have to look past his first wife's injuries, he was a POW! He did not have to be a father to his first children, he was a POW! He did not have to follow the law and not bilk investors, he was a POW! He did not have to avoid a ton of shady real estate deals, he was a POW! He did not have to avoid lobbyists and and all their money, he was a POW! FOR CHRIST'S SAKE PEOPLE HE WAS A P.O.W. CUT HIM SOME SLACK!!!

Now if only he had been a human being instead, we could judge him...

McCain betrayed both his wives.

No wonder he has no problem stabbing the voters in the back, like here:

http://tpmelectioncentral.talkingpointsmemo.com/2008/08/flashback_mccain_agreed_to_con.php

McCain is a sleazy used car salesman. Caveat empor!

FAIR GAME. Character is part of the story he is selling us on a daily basis.

If McCain's claim is that his stint as a captive of the Vietnamese gives him a free pass that excuses any and all moral and mental failings past, present and future, how could anyone seriously consider him fit for the office of president of the United States?

Think about it.


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1024927/The-wife-John-McCain-callously-left-behind.html

An excerpt:

Ted Sampley, who fought with US Special Forces in Vietnam and is now a leading campaigner for veterans’ rights, said: ‘I have been following John McCain’s career for nearly 20 years. I know him personally. There is something wrong with this guy and let me tell you what it is – deceit.

‘When he came home and saw that Carol was not the beauty he left behind, he started running around on her almost right away. Everybody around him knew it.

‘Eventually he met Cindy and she was young and beautiful and very wealthy. At that point McCain just dumped Carol for something he thought was better.

‘This is a guy who makes such a big deal about his character. He has no character. He is a fake. If there was any character in that first marriage, it all belonged to Carol.’

And for some context as to McCain's "blessed" lifestyle growing up, this is from a retired Navy vet:
>
>What is it like to grow-up as the son of a Four Star Admiral in the United States Navy? Well, your dad is a King and you are the son of the King. For those of you who don’t know what that means: First, you have the best house on the block, in the ultimate “gated” community, and maintained by a rich uncle (you never, never cut the grass nor do the Jehovah’s Witnesses ever come to your door). Second, your dad has a professional staff consisting of one or two cooks, several Philippine stewards, a chauffeur and a car on call, he is guarded at all times by armed Marines, he has a full Navy Captain as an Aide-de-Camp and a Chief Warrant Officer as his personal secretary. (Your mom never writes a letter or presses his pants.) When your father enters or leaves the base on official duty he is honored by six side-boys lined up at rigid attention and everybody salutes as he passes. In other words you grew up 24/7 in a world of splendid isolation and special privilege that few of us ever experience.
>
>Now this John McCain would like to portray Barack Obama as an elitist celebrity out of touch with common people, but I would bet that Mr. McCain's mom never had to apply for food stamps and that he never personally knew or worked with or on behalf of an inner city welfare mother as Obama did as a community organizer in Chicago.

McCain's "Get Out of Gaffe (And Every Inconvenient Truth) Free" Card:
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/8/21/16410/0565/504/572077

I thought the Christian marriage vows were "for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part!" How can we think he would adhere to the oath of office, if he can't keep his marriage vows! What excuse would he use to break his oath of office if elected President? Leopards don't change their spots.

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