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Inhumane Aging on the Fast Lane


In spite of the red traffic light holding back the six lanes of impatient SUV and delivery van traffic, the senior citizen's electric wheelchair passage over the crosswalk, from her conveniently located retirement apartment complex to the strip mall parking lot, is a trip she will never get used to in her feebler years.  Although she herself does own a luxurious suburban vehicle, the uncomfortable and over-exposing wheelchair cross is infinitely less complicated than maneuvering her own massive utility vehicle through the multiple turns, medians, and narrow parking spaces she would rather not negotiate at this stage in her life.  For decades, she had driven the equivalent of a few times around the planet's equator, whether it was chauffeuring her children, shopping, getting to work or to the drive-though window, or just to get about anywhere in her life.  The wheelchair is a mere culmination of a lifetime of little walking, of not knowing what it is to walk to a corner store, to a bakery, or to her workplace and of never having had to wait at a stop to catch a commuter bus or train, or to use her body members the way one does in a habitat built for humans rather than for automobiles.

Beyond the strip mall supermarket, she ventures nowhere else on her own.  Her neighbors are also of her age.  Unlike our ancestors, she is of the generation of the old who seldom encounter the young.  The modern American habitat lacks the park benches where the old enjoy the screams of playful children, the bus stops where they wait together with the school aged, the sidewalks where they encounter people who could help them cross the street, the neighborhood store with familiar faces, and a habitat which demanded more from her body and kept it from degenerating.  To get to church, instead of walking there as older people elsewhere on this planet do, our protagonist hires Esperanza to chauffeur her.  The larger world of huge arteries of vehicles on intimidating freeways horrify her, so she finds refuge in cable television.  Luckily, she is one of the lucky few who is visited by her son, his wife and the three grandchildren, and it is seventh heaven for her, but this is a blessing none of her neighbors enjoy.

Imprisoned in her lonely, isolated, suburban American dream, her atrophied body falls prey to premature degenerative disease and her life is a medical nightmare.  The boredom and the loneliness do not help.  The cable news, reality TV, celebrity gossip, and religious channels atrophy her intellect.  Strangely, she believes that her nightmare is the norm.  She has no idea that whether she lived in a large city or in a small village in many other nations of the world, she would not be a prisoner and victim of the automobile habitat.  Instead, her local farmers market teeming with produce and other goodies and crowded with other members of her community would only be just a few blocks of real-life sidewalk away.  She would not be isolated from children, who themselves are also imprisoned in a habitat created for driving adults in their prime.  When she was in her prime and took to the freeway on a regular basis, she failed to realize the entrapped situation in which her children lived while they depended on her to chauffeur her in a world built at the scale of the automobile.  Now, whether she realizes it or not, she is not free and has never known freedom.

The truth is that for humans, having the option to walk is a freedom.  Having the option not to own a car and all the burden that a car entails is freedom.  When in a bus, train or tram in city X in Europe, Asia or even Latin America, an elder lady sits next to a young mother holding her toddler in her arms, and they both exchange smiles and human warmth, that is quality of life, that is freedom, that is true mobility, for we actually get to meet.


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Rec'd. This is what the fight is all about.

Rec'd. Lovely, but horrific, story that illustrates one aspect of our culture quite well.

The isolation of generations, one from another, is the reason I believe so fervently in villages -- preferably, with populations of 500 or less. In a tiny Canadian seaside village, I saw the prototype for an age-integrated society. There, I witnessed the flip-side of the physical and mental atrophy you describe; elderly people walked everywhere, however slowly, assisted by whomever, of whatever age. But few needed much assistance. These seniors were on the move: to the village store, to the post office, to the pub.
On Canada Day, it was the village curmudgeon -- an 80-year old retired crewman on the actual Perfect Storm rescue boat -- who bought the supplies and flipped the burgers and sausages all day in the sun. He was standing watch again, this time over the grill, proud to be in charge of the festivities.
Mid-afternoon, I offered to take a turn and got his jutted chin in reply. "Do I look like I need help, then?" he barked. "No, Sir," I confessed, feeling unaccountably guilty. Because, in fact, he did not look as though he needed help. He looked, instead, as if he were completely immersed in the moment, and vibrantly alive. "Sorry, Jack," I said. He nodded, accepting his due. And then he gave me a rather roguish grin. "Not your fault," he said, magnanimously, "you're an American."
I was sad to hear, months later, that Jack had died. But he died mowing his lawn, in his own garden, undoubtedly keeping an eye on the attractive village postmistress, who was working in her garden next door.

Without the sense of village the finest cities will fail to offer quality living. One of the things that fascinate me of cities in Europe is the sense of each neighborhood being a different village, oftentimes having been one before integrating to the larger metropolis.

I have always felt that the greatest indicator of quality of life in a place is the sight of elder citizens gracefully dotting the population landscape and playing their traditional role in society. So whether it be a town in Corsica or pre-Katrina New Orleans, the visibility of elder inhabitants enjoying the markets and looking out the windows is a sign of a habitat that is hospitable and soulful.

I've not been to Corsica, but I know what you say of New Orleans is true. My mother was born there; my son currently lives nearby. How dreadful it is that such a culturally-rich city of villages has been abandoned by government negligence -- left to its own devices, to repair and "maintain," as any great southern lady would do.

But I digress. Sorry, AdAbsurdum, for my tangents. The focus of your post is the American system of dealing with the elderly by separation, as it is a commentary about the bubble of isolation that surrounds us all in an car-dependent society.

Yours is not at all a digression. The Canadian seaside village and its characters which you describe do flesh out this discussion.

As for the abandonment of New Orleans, I did always fear that any assistance from this particular administration would involve re-construction into a city which had little to do with the treasure that was there before and more akin to the wastelands favored by the ideological right.

Correction:

she failed to realize the entrapped situation in which her children lived while they depended on her to chauffeur them in a world built at the scale of the automobile.

No correction necessary, your words are spell-binding. As are yours, wwstaebler.

My mother is 77 years old and in reasonably good health. She lives on her own and drives herself where needed. It scares me, because the other people on that same highway of life are not aware that she is frail and needs a bit more elbow room. She's the driver others scream about, the one that goes too slowly and never changes lanes. She parks alittle over the line and takes her time when the light turns green. I experience fear every time she joins the insanity of drivers. I wish she had a village. But she has me, and that matters the world to her.

Many thanks for sharing this.

When in a bus, train or tram in city X in Europe, Asia or even Latin America, an elder lady sits next to a young mother holding her toddler in her arms, and they both exchange smiles and human warmth, that is quality of life, that is freedom, that is true mobility, for we actually get to meet.

Yes, Christopher, absolutely!

What an amazing post! Thanks! ;-)

Rec'd.

Thank you for putting focus on something so true and yet so easily overlooked.

Our entire society is fragmented and deranged because we lack the nuclear family, the village and the social elements that have, until the Industrial Revolution, been the heritage and natural state of the human race. This posts eloquently reveals one clear aspect of our collective loss.

The tragedy of children deprived of the extended family... the tribe... is another.

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