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Why does it matter how we treat Clinton supporters on this site?

I wrote about this once before, but it seems that people are still arguing (without intent of irony) that what we post here just doesn't matter. (Note: I've singled out one instance of it, from someone I respect, but he's certainly not alone.) We're only one voice, after all.

Well, by the same logic, our vote doesn't matter either, but we still feel that it's our civic duty, don't we? Why is that? I'd argue that it's because although each individual vote doesn't matter, collectively those votes are what decide the election, of course. There are a lot of actions in life that are like that. You touching that priceless piece of history won't do any real damage, but if everyone were to do so, it'd be destroyed far too quickly.

So, yes, what you write here does matter. I'll avoid getting preachy (yeah, I know, too late) and telling you how I think you should comport yourself, but don't think that what you write doesn't matter. Each comment by itself is like a vote—it has little impact by itself, but collectively we decide the very atmosphere of TPM as well as how some people perceive our favored candidate.


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(I), Hillary Clinton, your future president, thank you for this endorsement.

Much Love,
Hillary MMV(I)(I)(I).

Why does it matter how we treat Clinton supporters on this site?

Because Obama said,

Be Nice to Clinton Supporters

So? If all Obama supporters took that seriously, you'd just go and accuse them of being a cult.

So you're admitting that Obama uses a nod-and-wink strategy with his supporters?

I never admit anything. I'm not crazy.

You get respect if you deserve it.

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Where the hell did that come from? Saying that something would prompt you to make a baseless accusation does not make the accusation any less baseless.

Where the hell did that come from? Saying that something would prompt you to make a baseless accusation does not make the accusation any less baseless.

Merely putting codegen86 in a rhetorical box that was, in part, of codegen86's own making.

Wow, that was an interesting string of "let's all get along" messages. Seems no matter what anyone does or says in here, the fur starts to fly. Too much walking on egg shells, too much hissing, spitting and clawing. Even overtures for peace are met with challenges, in-your-face responses, outright anger. That leaves only one questions:

What the hell does everyone want everyone to do and say in here?

Sounds silly, but that about sums it up. Everyone wants everyone to act a certain way. But what that certain way is depends.

Sheesh. Time to go into lurking mode. Better yet, I might go read a book.

You might want to consider leaving the carpentry to Jesus.

Was it? You pretty much admitted that you'd criticize Obama and his supporters no matter what he/they did.

No I didn't.

I merely mentioned that Obama asked his supporters to be nice to Clinton supporters.

It occurs to me, belatedly, that I should've changed my title to more accurately reflect my post. The body of what I wrote is definitely not limited to Obama supporters.

We're all best served by being civil to each other. In C. William's anti-preachy preach, he argues that honest argument is more important here at TPM than hyper-focusing on "winning" the election. My problems, however, have never been with respect to honest argument, even when that argument is heated. However, honest is not the same thing as uncivil. Using terms like Hillbots and Obamabots is not "being honest". (Not that I'm accusing you or him of that.)

One question, though - do you mean stop making first strikes on Hillary supporters or do you mean we shouldn't respond in kind or dispute untrue statements?

I only ask because of the more ridiculous folks on the boards who tend to pick fights and then cry that they're being picked on.

But otherwise, I'm with you - in the interest of just plain civility the F-bombs and the name calling really have to stop.

Ignore the Obama-deniers. Because thats what they are at the moment. I know I sometimes feel the need to retaliate whenever someone drops a pithy remark, but it only further degrades the discussion and it makes yourself look bad at the same time (same effect as "negative campaigning"). Learn a lesson from the Obama campaign -- respond with civility and logic and come out looking smooth.

When Clinton supporters "pick fights" they might be raising legitimate concerns and good questions. The questions or concerns may be stated in a fashion that is not conducive to civil debate (we are talking about blog threads after all) but as an adult you should try to discern their concern earnestly and not invalidate them reflexively.

Other times you encounter useless and offensive trolls. In that case why bother responding unless you're in the mood for a fight?

ditto for the Obama supporters on this site.

I think that's what my kindergarten teachers tried to teach me.

I specifically meant the name callers. I *wish* someone would pick a fight over policy. But the "he stayed in the church" and "you're a cultist" B.S. is becoming unbearable.

It's hard to reason with some people. Sometimes you just need to walk away or tell them to fuck of.

cultist

Have you been to the blog at the official Obama site - I don't know - it sure felt like a congregation;) I'm sure some people feel more comfortable in such environments than I do. I'm predisposed to stay aloof.

"Cultist" is unfair, derogatory, and infuriating, but I always wonder what sociological kernel of truth lies in that word - or rather why people might feel justified using that term. I think the strong following (supporters) combined with Obama's empathetic rhetoric and natural enigma, plus the fact that his supporters contribute money to the campaign like some people contribute to churches makes it actually quite easy to draw a parallel to a congregation.

But that easy parallel is turned into something insidious.

The most ridiculous folks should be ignored outright. Hopefully, they'll go away if they're not fed.

Then there are the slightly less ridiculous folks who sometimes say very ridiculous things. They should most definitely be called on it, but using insults doesn't help. That said, I've probably gone there once or twice myself. :(

Sometimes there's a fine line between calling them on it and being condescending. If you're somewhere near that line, however, at least you're not far from it. (I hope that makes sense.)

Also there is considerable gray area here. I personally enjoy much of the satire and snark, whereas others find it damaging. My rule of thumb would just be to not pretend it doesn't matter. If the gray areas were all we had to worry about, I'd be a happy, happy camper.

I have to admit, Lalo pushes me over the line...I try to be nice, but doesn't take.

You took the words right out of my mouth, Ben.

Robert

And why are the "Obamanauts":),fighting battles in a war they have already won?

We are latté drinking political junkies at a café, arguing because we delight in it. We promise, however, not to smoke.

Is that an ashtray on the table? I've Never noticed that before. If you do smoke, imagine how much money you could give to the Obama campaign if quit smoking before November.

But, Ben, what about the Hillary supporters who want and actively seek out and try to provoke verbal abuse?

I hadn't really thought about it this way before, but a week or so ago a Hillary supporter commented that he/she often got tired of the pro-Hillary sites, and came over here just to see how much abuse he could get the Obama supporters to dish out.

I've followed links to some of the pro-Hillary sites, and probably haven't spent more than five minutes total reading comments there. It's not hard to predict the sort of response I'd get to posting anything pro-Obama there. And so I haven't. And I'm sure that many Hillary supporters have had the same reaction to this and other sites. They stop by, they see what sort of response they'd get, they move on.

But clearly there are Hillary supporters who want to be insulted. They come here for the purpose of being insulted. They post things designed to elicit insults.

In some cases the reasons behind this behavior may be so psychologically twisted that it would take years of therapy to discover them. But my impression is that in many cases it's because it helps them maintain their pro-Hillary stance. They've seen how she's mismanaged the campaign, they cringed about Tuzla, most probably had at least a few qualms about their candidate endorsing the GOP opponent, and in general they've had to watch while seemingly insurmountable advantages were squandered.

They've posted (over and over and over again) arguments that they hoped actually made sense, only to see the superdelegates, who have heard all those same arguments, flocking to Obama instead. So what do they have left?

Anger toward Obama is what keeps them on Team Hillary. If they can't work up enough anger with Obama, then they can put themselves into situations where they are insulted by Obama supporters, and pretend that being insulted by a random anonymous commenter on some political web site is such an atrocity that they can't possibly support the same candidate as the person who typed those nasty words (and just to be sure, they come back over and over to have that experience validated).

It reminds me of something Groucho Marx said. Someone said to Groucho, "I didn't come here to be insulted!", to which Groucho replied, "Oh? Where do you usually go?".

They came here to be insulted, Ben. You're trying to deny them something for which they clearly have a powerful jones. Find some kindness in your heart toward these pathetic wretches. Don't make them go cold turkey.

And, hey, to any Hillary fans reading this? You're stupid! (And, you're welcome!)

Interesting analysis. But within that analysis you've given the solution to this supposed "thirst" for umbrage from Obama supporters.

The answer is obvious: withhold them this fuel they require and that "engine" ceases run.

The answer is obvious: withhold them this fuel they require and that "engine" ceases run.

Eggggxactly.

What we have here is a failure to communicate. Too many of us are just sitting around waiting for someone to push our buttons, which we are all waving around in everyone else's faces. We read the worst into each other's posts, and then we post an angry, defensive, snide, cruel reply without any consideration to what effect it'll have. Or, sometimes, deliberately making the comment as ugly and vicious and inhuman as possible.

If everyone's true goal was to have a civil discussion even with the other candidate's supporters, we'd keep the gasoline in the garage. But 'civility' requires restraint, and as we can see, restraint is not high on the list of political partisans.

For the most part, I agree with Ben. But some Hillary supporters such as Otto F, Lalo#, etc. actually get what they deserve. Besides, I like reading hrebendorf's acidic replies. They crack me up.

I think rabbit's point is that they're getting what they want, and I'd argue that they absolutely do not deserve that!

Please explain.

I don't know about Lalo, but after one of Otto's most recent comments, I'm convinced that he absolutely wants the vitriol that is often directed at him. For whatever reason, it's his raison d'être, and therefore giving him this vitriol only encourages him. (I know it's hard to resist, and I don't always succeed myself.)

We shouldn't be giving these people what they want. Hopefully they'll go away if we stop feeding them.

Ben, I think it is called S&M...

rabbit's point

hrebendorf is bispecies (bunnycat or catrabbit), just as Obama is biracial.

Actually, by "rabbit" I meant "rabbitsmorgasbord", not that chimera known as hrebendorf!

My Bad

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You argue in the interests of compassion and civility yet believe we should deny those we disagree with what they feel they are entitled to? You sick little devil, you!

But, Ben, what about the Hillary supporters who want and actively seek out and try to provoke verbal abuse?

S&M?

Sounds a bit pervy.

This is like saying "he was begging me to rob him with those fancy shoes" or "she was begging me to rape her cuz she was so hot".


I just think Clinon folks have a completely different perspective. One that you don't agree with/understand and it makes you angry so you allow yourself to think they come here for your abuse.

Many of us just can't get the thrill you have with your guy and think Hillary will have a better chance of beating McCain. We see the evidence pretty convincingly. We think she will be a better president.

We also think Obama is better suited to be the spokesperson usually handled by the VP.
Obama's unknowns are too great and his negatives rise with his positives further diluting the argument against Hillary.

As VP, he would become known and more widely loved if he is as great as you suggest.

All of us would like nothing more than for you to be right about Obama; but since you are stubbornly wrong about Hillary, how can we trust your judgment?

See that is the bridge that needs to be built. One where neither side sees the middle when you start out. Which one of these two makes the right move? (She/he should be the pres. and the other be offered the VP.)


Otherwise its splitzville.

The other small detail is that when I first arrived I had no idea this was supposed to be an Obama site. Ever unwittingly walk into a bondage bar and start noticing people eying you in a different way than you're used to?

The other small detail is that when I first arrived I had no idea this was supposed to be an Obama site.

It wasn't "supposed to be" an Obama site, it just drifted in that direction as it became obvious a long time ago that (a) Hillary was running a sleazy campaign, what with the endorsing McCain and whatnot, and that (b) Hillary was running an inept campaign that wouldn't have survived past superTuesday if she hadn't started with huge name recognition and a funding advantage and an ex-President campaigning for her, etc., etc., and that (c) Obama is teh awesome!!!

And no, I've never unwittingly walked into a bondage bar.

Okay, that blows that theory about the armor...

I'll note that he didn't say he'd never walked into a bondage bar, just that he'd never done it unwittingly. :)

Good catch.

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Actually, months ago, before the switch-over to the new site, many of the Election Central threads seemed to be dominated by Clinton supporters. I'd have to agree that it's moved toward Obama support lately though. I guess maybe we lost a lot of the Clinton folks from the old site when it changed.

I sure hope that soon we'll be able to say we're mostly Democratic supporters posting here (although, of course, even Republicans will still be welcome - who knows, maybe we'll even be able to convince a few to vote Democratic). And to do that, we're going to have to start making nice to one another.

Thanks for the post, Ben.

First of all, what's with Hillary supporters and rape analogies. Could your lack of perspective possibly be further out of whack?

Second, I agree in part. In an ideal world there would have been a stronger Democratic candidate than any we actually had, and Obama would have been the veep, and he would have been an even better candidate eight years from now. But we didn't have that. We had Edwards and Hillary, basically. I liked Edwards, but he's young, too, and never got the traction he needed. And Hillary ran a sleazy, incompetent campaign. She had so many advantages she only needed to be semi-competent to walk away with the win. Fortunately all of this came out in the nomination battle, not in the general election. Obama saw a vulnerability, and took advantage of it aggressively.

Third, as for this:

All of us would like nothing more than for you to be right about Obama; but since you are stubbornly wrong about Hillary, how can we trust your judgment?

So don't trust it. What could be stupider than looking for judgment you can trust by reading random anonymous comments on the intertoobs?

See that is the bridge that needs to be built. One where neither side sees the middle when you start out. Which one of these two makes the right move? (She/he should be the pres. and the other be offered the VP.)

We don't need a presidential candidate OR a VP candidate who can't run a campaign better than Hillary, who trusts incompetent advisors far, far too long out of misplaced loyalty, who endorses the GOP opponent, etc., etc.

Nobody owes you a bridge. Vote the way you want to vote. If you like McCain better than Obama, vote for McCain. And don't feel bad about doing so, because there are others who will move in the opposite direction.

What's interesting to me about your comment is that you take it as a given that this is a site for Obama supporters, as if it had been advertised that way by management. I am curious, when and where was the label put on this site that says it is a site for Obama supporters? How do you think that happened? Why did it happen?

Over a couple of years visiting this site, I got used to it as a site for political junkies, not Obama supporters. I did see conservatives treated poorly and chased away, and some conservative trolls attracted by that, despite Josh Marshall stating several times that conservatives were welcome here if they came to discuss in good faith.

There was also heavy duty ganging up on the neo-liberal foreign policy folks and ex-DLC members that were acquaintances of Josh Marshall, most of them no longer post here for whatever reason.

But the "TPM is an Obama site" seems to me that came out of the blue around February, it's a new gang that just came and took over a site that still advertises itself as being about politics with a left of center slant.

The important question for me really is: why do people want to make more echo chambers? Why do they support forming them, especially in the venue of politics, where doing that is harmful to political success, harmful to understanding opponent's view of things--you wake up the day after the election and don't understand why your guy/gal lost because everyone you knew and talked with was going to vote for your guy/gal. Why did this become an "pro-Obama site"? Management never promoted that.

What's interesting to me about your comment is that you take it as a given that this is a site for Obama supporters, as if it had been advertised that way by management.

I don't so much "take it as a given" as just observe that it's generally the case.

I am curious, when and where was the label put on this site that says it is a site for Obama supporters? How do you think that happened? Why did it happen?

There's no pro-Obama "label" on the site. It just happens to be that way.

From my point of view it happened because it's been obvious for quite a while that there were severe problems with Hillary's campaign. Mismanagement, poor advisors (kept on out of loyalty, in spite of incompetence), financial troubles. Hillary endorsing McCain was a big turning point. Other things like Tuzla just nailed it down more tightly.

And yes, I think that these negatives were more of a factor than Obama's positives, which are substantial. In an ideal world we'd have had a candidate who was both seasoned and competent, and then maybe Obama would have been the veep. Obama ran because he saw a huge vulnerability, and he aggressively took advantage of it. And considering the alternative, I'm glad he did.


I did see conservatives treated poorly and chased away, and some conservative trolls attracted by that,

It's not that big a change then. Hillary is a very, very hawkish Democrat, almost Lieberman-esque. And then there's the whole endorsement of McCain thing, also Lieberman-esque. And the arguments she was making in Florida, saying that her supporters should vote for McCain if the DNC didn't seat the FL delegates in full. And the AUMA of course, and Kyl-Lieberman, and "totally obliterate" and so on, all very Lieberman-esque.

Perhaps Lieberman himself exacerbates the problem. Some tried very hard to give him the benefit of the doubt. But now, hardly anyone on the Democratic side of the aisle wants much to do with him. So consequently, other candidates who remind people of Lieberman are more likely to be disliked, too. And supporters of that kind of thing are more likely to be chased away. And, of course, trolls show up to promote that sort of thing, because that's what trolls do.


The important question for me really is: why do people want to make more echo chambers?

Who said they do?

When was the last time Hillary made a reasonable, defensible argument? Her "popular vote" argument is laughable. You see electoral vote arguments that ignore margins of error, use old polls or single polls to predict the outcome for a state, etc. Extrapolations from primary results to predictions about the general election (which would make sense if you take Hillary and McCain to be interchangeable, but that's not the way her supporters try to make the argument).

Her campaign has been thoroughly inept, carried this far only by her extremely high name recognition, the support of an ex-president, etc. Anyone else running a campaign the way she ran this one wouldn't have lasted past super Tuesday, and probably not even that far. Furthermore, if she hadn't been willing to dump a big chunk of her own money into the campaign, she'd have been out long before now.

The superdelegates have been going to Obama at a much higher rate than to Hillary, and that's the best indication of how weak her campaign has been. They simply aren't fooled by all the bogus arguments. And why should they be?

Hillary supporters show up here with bogus arguments that they either don't understand and don't want to understand, or that they do understand and do know that the argument is bogus, but they post it anyway. Then they get all bent out of shape when people point out that the argument is bogus, and complain that nobody takes their views seriously. Echo chamber, echo chamber, blah blah blah.

And since most of them have had "margin of error" explained over and over, or the problems with Hillary's bogus way of counting the popular vote explained over and over, etc., it's harder and harder to give them the benefit of the doubt. Not that it's going to matter much longer.

Thanks for saying this, now I don't have to.

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...Hillary's bogus way of counting the popular vote...

One person = one vote is a bogus way to count the votes?

Because reality has a pro-Obama bias. If a site has attracted as group of people who value the truth and can do the math then the candidate spewing nonsense will find few supporters. I watched this site become pro-Obama and it was not because of anything more mysterious than the people who were already here becoming more and more atracted to the straight shooter that Obama is. He got our support the oldfashioned way. He earned it.

Yes, except as they did they became more and more self-righteous about him and more hateful about Hillary. All this "I want to be civil but you're so fucked up that I'm going to flame everything you say" thing is pointless.

Fellow-Obamaramians, give it up. Never mind how much you hate with Hillary's done and what kind of person you think she has. It's over (and no whining about how she's got a secret plot up her sleeve; visit http://ruralvotes.com/thefield/ for your inoculation). Watch our candidate and do as he does AND says. Be gracious in victory. Don't be a bully and rub everyone's face in it.

And as for Hillary supporters, I hope that as our candidates get the love on we'll all become more civil and aim our barbs at the true opposition. I actually have a fair amount of faith that pretty soon the vast majority of us will be pretty friendly.

And as the drama winds down, the drama queens & kings on all sides will drift away, leaving those of us who want to think of sneaky ways to undercut Republicans to plan and plot our way to November.

As time has gone by I have become less hatefull towards her and her supporters. At first I was a real Hillary hater. Now that she seems a pathetic loser with a poor grip on reality, she gets more sympathy.

All this "I want to be civil but you're so fucked up that I'm going to flame everything you say" thing is pointless.

ROFLMAO

Thanks Ben, well said.

Example, please.
Since last night: Hillary has claimed the popular vote as if it is a valid metric; MacAuliffe has accused Obama of having a "Latino problem;" and Hillary has boasted about poaching an Obama superdelegate, inviting others to do the same.
Please write a refutation of these "facts" that demonstrates the persuasive civility you are recommending. I hope I do not sound confrontational; rather, I am baffled about how it can be done.
Thank you.

Here is a civil response the popular vote metric statement.

As for the "Latino problem", I point out that although Obama does perform worse among Latinos than he does against other demographics, Hillary has her own demographics that she does worse in, and by enough that Obama ends up winning most of the elections.

I'd have to see the post about the poaching of the Obama superdelegate in context (I didn't see a post/comment along these lines recently), but I assume by now you get the idea.

I'll take a crack at the superdelegate portion.

Actually, it's always open season on superdelegates. Elected delegates are pledged (at least, as I understand it, for the "first" vote at the convention). Superdelegates aren't tethered by a pledge and can change their support at will. So if Clinton says she wants to get Obama delegates to defect, there's nothing wrong with it.

How's that?

I meant: "So if Clinton says she wants to get Obama superdelegates to defect, there's nothing wrong with it."

You should also add that obviously, Obama just likewise free to poach Hillary's delegates. And it's not hard to get a picture of which way the wind's been blowing.

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Elected delegates are pledged (at least, as I understand it, for the "first" vote at the convention).
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When Kennedy took his nomination fight with Carter to the convention the pledged delegates were bound to their pledge on the first ballot. He petitioned from the floor to release the pledged delegates from their pledge and allow them to vote as their conscience dictated. He was unable to win that petition. It was at that point he realized his candidacy was over and he conceeded to Carter.

After Carter lost the election Kennedy used his influence to change the rule binding pledged delegates on the first vote in effect "fixing" the problem that stymied his run for the nomination when it was too late to do him any good. Consequently all delegates are now essentially free agents and can vote any way they choose. There may be a few states that require their delegates to honor their pledge on the first ballot but that would be very few if any.

Rec'd.

I do think there is a clear distinction between civility with our interlocutors here and the discussion about the actual candidates. Without civility among ourselves, there really is no quality debate. However, neither is there any debate if criticism of my candidate is always deemed as incivility towards me.

Likewise, bullshit must be called in order to maintain the quality of the debate, as done here by whom I consider a pretty decent poster in this site.

I am loath to deny the consequences of our comments at this site. As a proponent of chaos theory, I do believe in the butterfly flutter causing typhoons across the globe and therefore that our comments here matter very much. That said, our raison d'être here is political discussion, not getting candidate X and Y elected. Leave unto BarackObama.com that which belongs at BarackObama.com. Leave onto TPM that which belongs at TPM.

I am loath to deny the consequences of our comments at this site.

Well, seeing as how you're the one who wrote this comment… ;)

I don't believe in publicizing comments and I'll tell y'all what - you keep this up and you will kill what we have.

Taking comments out of context and arguing about them is stupid and y'all are ruining a very good thing with this continued bullshit.

Just sayin'

I'm not sure if this is meant as humor or not, but if not, in what way do you think we're taking comments out of context?

Tena, I do think Ben means to show that I have been consistent, which is big of him. It looks like a gotcha link until one reads it carefully, not that my rantings are all that readable.

Absolutely. I respect you and was most definitely not trying to play gotcha.

That said, I've got no problem with playing gotcha when someone contradicts themselves, even if it is with someone I respect, and even if I contradict myself from time to time. :)

I think it can be helpful for all parties to see where we've said things that seem to be contradictory. It can mean that the comments weren't understood correctly (through the fault of the poster, the reader, or both), that the position of the poster has evolved, that the poster hasn't thoroughly thought out his/her position, or that the poster is just trolling. In all cases, I don't understand the problem with pointing these contradictions out.

Absolutely. It doesn't mean we shouldn't try to understand the inconsistencies, however.

And a foolish inconsistency is the mark of a troll.

Oh my, we've been debating about debating for a while now, haven't we?

Look - the First Amendment is alive and well on comments boards - for now.

Y'all keep doing this and the First is going to take another hit.

Now just stop this - bitching about the comments is the fastest way I know to fuck things up.

Grow the fuck up - we're grown ups I thought and we ought to be able to handle a little conflict on the threads, for the love of god.

We can absolutely handle conflict. I just think that productive conflict is that which avoids unnecessary insults. I'm not trying to censor anyone. I'm just pointing out the difference between useful arguments and arguments that sometimes achieve the opposite purpose from what they're supposedly intending. (See rabbitsmorgasbord's snark above where he satirizes this.)

Definitely, only necessary insults. ;)

Your comments are reasonable and well taken, Ben. But I'd like to see someone ask those Clinton supporters who use offensive Obama avatars to think about what they're doing. I've been posting here a number of months and have bearely seen a one when it comes to avatars that are insulting to Sen. Clinton, but can't say the same coming from the other direction. Nastiness comes in different flavors, you know. And the visuals just may be even uglier than the verbal assaults. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words.

I think those avatars are an excellent case in point. When (if) you're reading a comment from someone with one of those avatars, it really colors how you interpret what they say, or at least it does for me. It really makes it hard for them to make any effective contribution to the discussion.

I agree!

Wow, aren't we living up to being Democrats? Sooo sensitive about everything.

Those disrespectful avatars suck!

I think the one with Obama's picture and the word "owned" is especially horrible. I don't know personally but I think if I were AA I would feel very uncomfortable about that one. Just seeing that picture reveals the content of their character immediately. I wonder how many others turned away from our site just by seeing it.

I have to second Tena here. We cannot limit what we say because others will feel insulted. An excellent post yesterday critical of the Clintons, eloquently written by someone who supported them most of her life, elicited an accusation of Clinton-hatred by one of our regulars.

Where is the line drawn? To the disingenuous, just about any criticism is an insult. We've lived through that already with the "Bush-hater" accusations. I suspect the safest thing is to avoid drawing a line.

There's a big difference between advocating for civil conduct and imposing rules on the community, and while I agree that we shouldn't impose stringent rules on posting quality (as long as comments don't violate libel, slander, or other laws), I do think it's extremely valuable to remind people that a civil approach is (generally) a much more effective one. I guess I just don't see how Ben's comment leads down the road of limiting freedom of speech.

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No, there isn't a fixed line. But it is useful to stop a moment before you hit "Send" and think whether you've stated something in a way that goes beyond making a solid argument, that twists the knife just because it feels so clever to do so.

Flamewars have been going on since the Internet was invented. The point of asking people to stop, take a breath, and recognize that there's a real live person on the other end is not to censor anyone, or protect the poor feelings of hypersensitive people who may take anything as an insult, it's a recognition of the fact that there are other, often more useful conversations we could be having that won't happen if we're screaming at each other.

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I've found that Clinton supporters just don't like being proven wrong. Whenever somebody shows a fallacy by Clinton, they go nuts and offer ad hominem attacks without factual basis. An Obama supporter then points out the factual inaccuracies, and the Clinton supporter goes batshit.

They then argue that pointing out fallacies is villainizing Clinton's supporters, which makes about as much sense as if Republicans argued that Muckraker villainizes them.

Actually, extremely few people like being proven wrong. Clinton supporters simply aren't an exception to the rule.

I've found that Clinton supporters just don't like being proven wrong. Whenever somebody shows a fallacy by Clinton, they go nuts and offer ad hominem attacks without factual basis. An Obama supporter then points out the factual inaccuracies, and the Clinton supporter goes batshit.

I see you have a very wry sense of irony.

Personally, I prefer pumpernickle.

Personally, I think that this premise is just plain silly. IMO you have a much more high-brow impression of the medium than is warranted and some sort of policeman complex to boot.

If you look at the message threads there are several types of regular users. Many of these users enjoy a certain banter that is often sarcastic and sometimes just downright pissed off. The thing I like about this site is just the right balance of conflict, snark, and honestly thought out opinions. Many users engage in all of these at some point.

IMO what you are proposing would really suck and make this a less colorful and interesting place. Why not enjoy the interactions that appeal to you and ignore the ones that don't - and let everyone else enjoy participating in what ever way they choose?

In other words: don't crap in my cornflakes (or anyone else's).

I hardly think I'm policing anyone else's comments. I'm merely asking us to be mindful of our own.

I hear you, I just think you are off base.

Off late there are too many posts on TPM appealing or attempting to reach out, mend fences and other crap on those lines. Don't get me wrong, I admire your efforts.

Wait a week or so after Hillary conceeds-
this will seem like a lesser problem.

Any efforts with still Hill on the Hill are pretty useles. Once she departs, believe me not everyone will threaten to burn their own asses-voting for McCain.

This is truly laughable. Just look at the comments in this thread. Smug, self-serving like you just won the prom king or something. Guess what, you didnt.

We have a good candidate whoever wins. My problem with the Obama supporters is the hateful threads over the months, threads that make me think most are closet Freepers. You know, the "Open Letters to Senator Clinton" or the "I would rather die than vote for Senator Clinton" threads here. Hundreds.

And of course what you consider slams at Obama are nothing in comparison to the slurs and ridiculous lies about Senator Clinton. Just ridiculous. I have seen time and time again the supporters of Senator Obama just echoing the right wing talking points and of course we have the now famous threads about the doctored video. That was shameful. And you expect to have credibility after that? Come on.

Look, I dont need or want you to be civil or kind or whatever. I have been a poster and reader of TPM since day 1 nearly 8 years ago. I expect that the Bionic Soys, Girl from Brooklyn and others will soon lose interest and head back to their Facebook pages soon. So please, none of your condescending crap, okay? I dont need it and I dont want it. I am for Senator Clinton because I think she is a better candidate. GET OVER IT!

OK, then forget civil if that's asking too much. How about focusing on productive? I find civil to be one component of productive, but definitely not the only one.

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Don't give up the good fight on civility, just don't advocate it for its own sake. (I don't think that's what you're doing, btw.)

And as for all this "I was here at the beginning" stuff; as someone who's been using internet techs pre-Web, so what? I'd hate to think that a site developed a full 20 years after the internet still encouraged rude behaviour, and used the fact that it was online as an excuse or it. Even children grow up.

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Les Ismore: I respectfully disagree. Just replace Clintons name with Obamas and you will actually have a post based on reality.

How about some examples? Can you show me some hateful posts, not comments, about Senator Obama?

this is snark, right?

Yes, productive is good. But I dont consider this to be productive:

"Breaking News: Hillary's FIRST Term" - Read it and tell me that is productive.

"She Can't Manage a Campaign, But You Want Her to Be President? Please Explain Why."

"Let's assume the Clinton voters do switch...."
psst!...I got news for you. You tend to project one or two peoples views onto to everyone.

So my question is this; Why are you people still fighting the last war? What would be productive is talking about McCain or maybe fleshing out some of Senator Obama's policies for all of us who are so out of it that we dont see all of His Wonderfulness. Now that would be much more productive instead of repeating the Freeper talking points.

Has she conceded yet?

f you know Hillary's pollicy positions, then youknow Obama's. The primary was not about policy differences. It was a process argument. (Except for Obamas policy positions on media consolidation and open government but those never became issues for debate.) In the general it will be a policy debate because there is a stark contrast between Obama and McCain.

Ben, You're going uphill against the many functions of a internet post-thread. You might think that people show up to agree or disagree, but the internets are also a faceless community for therapy and community.

In a faceless way, we assume identities, share our fears, rage at whatever, sneer at whatever, flirt, find conversations – serious and snarky. And sometimes, the anger flows out too fast and we get a bit shrill, jeery and over the top. All facilitated by the faceless nature and distance.

As Rabbit pointed out, some come here to be insulted.

Similarly, some come to mediate, find common ground and some to insist on their rightness/correctness/truthyness/sharpness and many others come to assert themselves, period. And many others come to just be in a group that some might negatively be characterize as a mob, and I believe some of the same rules apply. Hard to smooth out such a place, given that we all assume those roles at different times. Too unwieldy. But kudos for trying. ;)

I'm not sure what a community for community is (a typo maybe?) but you're absolutely right.

Telling random posters on an Internet board how to behave is like herding cats.

If people are insulted and don't want to be, they'll leave. Everyone is here voluntarily! What a concept - no one is reading or posting here against their will.

This place is a reflection of the world. Very distorted, but no less real for that.

...like herding cats

But we are not cats and Ben isn't telling anyone how to behave - he's suggesting. His post will not change the nature of blog threads, but it might alter some people's behavior.

How much are you gonna bet on that? ;)

yes, typo. Brain faster than fingers. Also hindered by five thumbs... Badly drawn, I am. ;)

meant to say - faceless space for therapy and community.

Ah. I kinda liked the "community for therapy" thing.

A large point is being missed: Hillary keeps claiming that the campaign is going on.

It's one thing to have faith in your candidate, it's quite another to warp reality to fit a world view. At present, the Clintons are acting as if she has a shot at the nomination (currently now trying to peel off Obama's SuperDelegates).

I'm always for insightful discourse. At present this includes having to point out that the Clintons are delusional and that many of their talking points are out and out lies (e.g. "popular vote counts").

Hillary couldn't win this election on issues. She couldn't win it on being a name brand (remember 35 years of experience?). Now she simply wants to win it by bullying and bluster.

Do not waste time trying to convince each Democrat to vote for Obama. Only talk to people who will listen. You wouldn't waste your time trying to convince a supporter of LaRouche, right? Convincing indies and cross-over GOPers will be easier.

Hillary's campaign (and her most vehement supporters) insists on a scorched earth policy. Therefore, you take the battle to them. Because unless you thoroughly squash this issue now, it will keep coming back. The only issue with Hillary is to convince her and her supporters that she lost. No sugar coating. Not that she ran a good campaign, etc. But she lost.

Once they acknowledge that, then we can take off the gloves.

I am tired of the private psycho-dramas that the Clintons inflict on the entire public. Just another similarity between Hillary and Nixon.

As long as I'm still allowed to bash Lanny Davis and Harold Ickes, I'm fine with whatever civility rules you all want to establish.

"...slurs and ridiculous lies about Senator Clinton. Just ridiculous."

I confess. Obama does not meet the threshold of Office of the President like McCain or Hillary.

I confess. Caucus votes are just the opinions of elitist activists.

I confess. The Super delegates..errr...The popular vote is what really matters.

I confess. I believe the will of the voter is more important than the rules... unless they write-in their candidate, cause that's against the rules and clearly shouldn't be counted.

I confess. Obama really shouldn't get folks' Hopes up like he does with all those eloquent speeches.

I confess. Had Obama done the research into the intelligence leading-up to the Iraq war, he would have voted in favor of that resolution, too. And by the way, it wasn't a mistake...even in hindsight.

(what a dork)

Dear What a Dork,
I confess, I have no idea what your point is...

That's ok...

I understand.

: )


(wink!-wink!)

sorry for the dork thing... : P

better not let Lis see you in that hat. She'll take it away from you. ;)

Some random responses:

- I think it is possible to argue that votes, even individual votes, do matter; but blog comments do not. Elections are real things that have consequences in the real world. Internet flamewars aren't and don't.

- People in blog comments should be civil. This is not because blog comments are influential or important. It is because being civil is the right thing to do, and posting civilly makes the blog more readable.

- I think we should be careful to distinguish between actually being incivil, and being civil while incidentally expressing harsh truths.

Why does it matter how we treat Clinton supporters on this site?

Because the Clinton campaign ends in two days.

You're back?

There's been an avatar who has been seeking you here,
And seeking you there,
That erstwhile female has been seeking you everywhere.
Have you been in heaven?
-Or were you in hell?
The dammed, elusive MonicaL

MonicaL aka Persephone, alias Iron Queen. Who knew? Suddenly the landscape turned barren, and you were gone. You return, and squirrels frolic in the meadows. And singing. I hate that.

Yeah well... the squirrels have to be frolicking in the meadows (rather unusual for squirrels) since the trees were taken over by some chimps.

You've never seen squirrels frolicking in meadows?

I have seen that we were sought, and it gladdens my heart.

Like Nicole Kidman in The Others, I know not in what dimension my spirit walks, whether Heaven, Hell, or caught between servers on a netsplit.

Who's "we"?

Poor Scarlet MonicaL. You sound like you have been at Hogwarts getting splinched.

Well... the coffin of the Clinton Campaign needs to be nailed properly shut. Wouldn't you say?

Ironic that you are asking MonicaL about something being nailed properly...

Not everyone has a dirty mind 24/7...

...I'm sorry to say.

Ah, Monica, a hopeful nation cries out for you. A pleasure to see your shiny hair once again.

I used extra conditioner today! With protein for extra shine!

*high fives the Smurf*

What sort of protein?

On second thought, maybe I don't want to know.

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Eh? Come again? Cum again?

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I guess it's wise of you to take a stab at it, Ben but I tried it here months ago in my Ghandi/Rodney King phase. Didn't work. This comment doesn't refer to you personally...but you can't throw a hate machine into reverse. It doesn't have that gear.

Not even a Pretty Hate Machine?

You're going to get what you deserve . . .

Sure it does - how else do you run over people once you've nicked them? Go back and watch Death Race 2000.

Ha! :)

That is a fantastic movie for a MST3K party.

um, not to be a spoiler, oh hell, ok, to be a spoiler - Gandhi.

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Yeah, but they are idiots. Embittered, loserish, entitled idiots. I know we need their votes, but they need to shut the fuck up and go through their precious stages of grief and then emerge from their little chrysalis of healing and be adults. Then I will be happy to lie and say that Hillary was a fine candidate and not a destructive, lying lunatic.

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Ultracool......there is an oxy..of some kind in that post for some reason. Oh yeah, fine Americans like you win and still complain. Come on bitterman you can do better than that.

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Anyway, Thanks for the Post Ben, You lost another round though to your Obamaista breathern.

Obamista does not sound nearly as cool as Clintonista. It just doesn't have the zing.

It's the TOTALLY wrong sounds. I think Obamabot rolls best off the tongue(I also don't endorse Hillbot).

I'm sort of bummed Edwards supporters never rated an "insulting" moniker ... theSeeminglyNonexistentistabots? ... >sigh

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Hairbots? *g* (Lest anyone take offense, I was an Edwards supporter when he was in the race.)

Obamatrons?

I'm committed to the Obama campaign and have been as infuriated by the Clinton campaign as anyone. But with the prospect of her bowing out, and Bill's statement that it might be his last day of campaigning, I'm experiencing a bit of grief myself. Not enough, mind you, that if she pulls any tricks and doesn't get right behind Obama I won't change my mind...

I am still trying to discover the disconnect between Hillary and Obama supporters.

I would love to hear more perspective from Hillary supporters.

If you're interested, please share your opinions.

http://tpmcafe.talkingpointsmemo.com/talk/2008/05/an-honest-question-for-clinton.php

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Why is there no "report abuse" button here? Why is it OK to hide behind the computer and spew out vitriol? "Ultracool" above is a good example. HusseinTenaX is another--she, if she is a she, seems to think swearing a lot makes her one of the boys (one of her recent comments was "That's chickenshit, you chickenshit") I notice now she's throwing in a lot of y'alls too. Anyway, thanks Ben for the effort anyway.

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Your thoughtful criticism has touched my heart and made me want to change my ways, brother! Let me know if you need any help getting the sand out of your vagina.

I had a "You had me at hello" moment with Barack Obama. It's the line from The Audacity of Hope where he says that Americans are suffering from an empathy deficit.

Many, many people are is entrenched in their own experiences and they categorically refuse to even listen to (let alone consider) another opinion before striking it down as not valid.

I have been on the giving and the receiving end of this phenomenon. I want a leader who is better than me, which is one of the many reasons I voted for Obama.

I also want a leader who makes me want to be better than I am right now. Thanks for reminding me of that, Ben.

Nice avatar.

Great the movie.

Loved the book.

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On the subject of trolls, I would recommend everyone read this. (I really wish our hosts here would read it.)

That was a cool post. I even learned a new concept (disemvowelling). Or should I say:

dsmvwllng

Thanks for spurring this discussion, Ben.

I look at personal attacks and basic incivility as substitutes for reasoned and founded arguments. If you have a valid rebuttal to an assertion, it can be made without attaching rancor or rudeness. For me, once I see something written without civility—especially if it's made personal—I assume that the argument's no good.

I know that many of the posts at TPM fire up the emotions, and the Democratic primaries have done this more than anything else. But there's a level of rancor in them that makes me wonder what it is each "side" supports in its candidate.

I would hope that we all want someone who will work for the good of all Americans rather than individuals and corporations to become our next president. It would be a refreshing change of pace.

But the emotional attachment to the candidates makes me feel as if it's the game and the players that matter more than the good of the country. Even today I heard another person claim that she'd rather vote for John McCain than for Barack Obama, out of principle for what has been done to Hillary Clinton. I can't understand how this "principle" could override the need to take the country in a better direction. Real principle for someone who supports either of the Democratic candidates in the primaries would require voting for either Democratic candidate in the general election.

I know that we are mostly anonymous people here at TPM, and maybe that creates a feeling of license to insult and bully. I worry, though, that the anonymity of the (even virtual) voting both might allow voters to believe that personal preference in a candidate is more important than the greater good of electing the person who, of the two major candidates in the general election, will act for the American people, looking at both the short term and the long term.

Hear, hear!

Robert

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Real principle for someone who supports either of the Democratic candidates in the primaries would require voting for either Democratic candidate in the general election.

Barack Obama:
'I can get all of her voters, I know she can't get all of mine'

Michelle Obama:
'I'd have to think long and hard about voting for Hillary.'

The thing is not all of the people who will vote for Obama in the general are Democrats. I know a couple Republicans who plan on voting for Obama. One of them really likes his economic policy (this guy is a financial adviser), and another just "likes him".

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Re your republican friends... Our nephew (40yo) and his family will be staying with us next week and, even tho he's never voted for a dem before, he voted for Obama in the IL primary. I know this only because my brother told me about it. My bro is a life-long republican but has voted for both Durbin and Obama for Senate citing the quality (or lack of same) of the republican opponents. At the same time, he loved Peter Fitzgerald and would never have voted for Obama if he had run against Fitzgerald.

I often think I'm hearing that Obama is going to remake the Dem party anew by getting such votes while sweeping out the older reliable voters like me. Good luck with the new party.

Why would he be sweeping you out, however? I know you don't like some of his supporters, but is there anything about him that you find less palatable than, say, McCain?

If it's just the "experience" thing, surely you can look into his actual policies versus McCain's and decide that Obama has enough experience to be better than McCain, even if you don't think it's enough to be better than Clinton.

Also, of course, there's the whole Supreme Court thing.

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I certainly don't recall seeing you posting anything about 'sweeping out' but it's a consistent meme here among Obama supporters...out with the old, in the with the new. It's part of the brand.

I'd never vote for McCain. Not under any circumstances but I would omit voting the top line this year because of the campaign Obama's run. I'll still vote and give downticket to dems (important Senate race this year) because I've been a consistent supporter for decades. It isn't bitterness over Clinton losing. I've 'lost' many times before with Hart in 1984, Jackson in 88, Kerrey in 92 and Dean in 04 and I still jerked the donkey lever on the top line. And if Feingold had run this year, he would have been my candidate ahead of any of the candidates that did run.

In my opinion, both campaigns disgraced themselves this year but the campaign dove in the gutter with the 'Tears for Katrina' kickoff. I voted for his dad but I have no forgiveness for that.

What exactly about Obama's campaign has turned you off so much? Is it about promising a new kind of politics that you don't feel he delivered on? If so, consider that it's a pretty nebulous promise, and many of us do feel he delivered on it. (In other words, consider that he didn't necessarily break that promise as fail to deliver on it based off your interpretation of that promise and your impression of his actions. It's not the kind of promise that one can be completely objective on.)

Anyways, I hope you reconsider about voting for Obama in November.

Also, you lost me with your last paragraph. Whose father did you vote for?

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Re the 'dad' comment...I voted for Jesse Jackson in our 1988 primary. I felt this campaign headed to the gutter post NH beginning with JJ Jr's 'Tears for Katrina' rant. The campaign waited until the two whitebread contests were concluded and the day after NH, they rolled out the racially divisive part of their campaign strategy because a message of 'peace, justice and brotherhood' just wasn't going to drive Clinton's negatives high enough among the black electorate in the upcoming southern states. Coming from a candidate that supposedly transcended race, it was more than disappointing.

We live in a pretty diverse community and maybe that's why I'm very sensitive about the use of things like 'tears for Katrina' and MLK/LBJ to exploit tensions between the races. Honest issues of race deserve honest discussion but the things mentioned above don't contribute to that honest discussion and his campaign make a decision to 'go there' purely for political advantage.

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All I can tell ya is I'm getting the shaft from both sides. Hillary stole my watch. LisB stole my hat. If Clinton doesn't drop out I'm gonna be naked by the convention. I ask you is that fair?

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Oh, why bother? Just go on saying whatever pops into your heads. There can't be that many Hillary supporters who are willing to subject themselves to all the nonsense on this site anyway. Go ahead and say what you like. It's hard to be magnanimous in victory. Much easier to twist the knife. Then if Obama chooses Hillary for VP you'll have gotten so much venom out of your systems maybe some of you could even be positive about it.

I can't buy into treating the type of people who support her any better than I'd treat her. They are all scumbags, as far as I know.

Boy, that sure ain't progress.

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I was preparing to respond to your post when I decided to look at your recent posts to see if you were as consistently ugly in your posting as this one was. And I caught this...

John McAngry needs another bout with big C.

Unreal.

McCain is a war criminal who wants to update his resume with some persian homicides. I can't wish him well.

Oh, my apologies. I forgot that you want to obliterate Iran with Hillary, so why would you care about war crimes or hawkish posturing.

There's a far cry between wishing him well and not wishing cancer on him.

I was preparing to respond to your post when I decided to look at your recent posts to see if you were as consistently ugly in your posting as this one was. And I caught this...

Says the guy who calls Obama a "race pimp"
Like I said, you're a scumbag.

Let me offer an alternative view on the issue. Interestingly, this works from the cynical angle as well.

Negativity is bad in and of itself: wallowing in resentments makes for old-style politics. The only way that Clinton or McCain ever had a chance was if they could change the positive energy of Obama supporters, dubbed as "hope," into the negative energy of fighting and enimity that characterises their obsolete, dying brand of 50 + 1 politics.

No-one is asking you to be all cuddly-wuddly, but there is a better way than the one even some of the regulars here have chosen to follow. Respond forcefully and with the truth. Nothing more nor less. If you cannot do it, let someone else take the bat.

I wrote about this in more length about a month ago, if anyone wants to peek at that: http://tpmcafe.talkingpointsmemo.com/talk/2008/05/rebuilding-the-positivity.php

It's a theme that definitely bears repeating from time-to-time. Even if it has no impact on anyone else, after writing such a post it forces me to be a bit nicer!

No-one is asking you to be all cuddly-wuddly, but there is a better way than the one even some of the regulars here have chosen to follow. Respond forcefully and with the truth. Nothing more nor less.

That I can do. I will refrain from the name calling. They know what they are anyway :)

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You know, I've just thought of something: is it any wonder that a site based upon uncovering dishonesty has members who are hostile to a woman not known for her honesty? It's like wondering why we hate republicans so much!

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Roo, thank you.

Just as I believe Obama calls to the good in us, I believe we do that with each other - or don't. We get more of what we pay attention to. Or, w/ better grammar, the universe always says yes.

If we believe people are mostly well-intentioned, we're more likely to experience them as such. If we believe people are mostly untrustworthy, well...

So, if we want primarily respectful conversations here in which people can disagree strenuously, we can try to model those and interact w/ those who are communicating the same way.

This means paying minimal attention to trolls, to those who long to be insulted, and to those who treat others disrespectfully. And, in my case, it means deleting that stunningly brilliant put-down that the world MUST hear but may wound the other person, even if they started it. :)

For the most part, Obama has paid attention to (publicly commented on) Hillary's hard work, formidable opposition, and tough campaigning. Sometimes, he's responded to her direct attacks on him, but it's seemed that if he didn't, he'd appear weak, as Kerry did, or he'd agree with her by his silence.

But, as he's said each time, that's the old style politics that distracts us from our work for our country.

Ben, I agree with you - each of us is "only" one person, and just look what these millions of single voices have done! And look what our millions of contributions of $1, $2, $20 have supported! The pebbles we throw in the pond create ripples that touch all shores.

Hope this doesn't come across as impossibly corny, but if it does, well, it's a sincere corny.

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Good post wasted in the echo chamber.

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