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An Invitation to Angry Hillary Supporters

Let's have a conversation about healing the party. A serious talk in a respectful tone. I'll start by telling you I support Barack Obama.

As I'm certain Otto F or pmSanFran would tell you, I've written some fairly scathing satire about Hillary Clinton. But it has been satire, after all, and I'm just as angry as you. So let's set that aside for the moment since many Clinton supporters — maybe even you — have written disparagingly about my candidate. I'm willing to set that aside for the moment, too.

Let's also agree on what we have in common. First principles, if you will:

1. GOP = bad.
2. John McCain = GOP.
3. Therefore, John McCain = bad.

So here's a few questions for you:

How can you not support Sen. Obama if he becomes the eventual nominee through a fair process? Bear in mind that I will support Sen. Clinton with my vote if she becomes the eventual nominee through a fair process.

If you won't support Obama in the general election, how do you rationalize the fact that abstention or voting for someone other than Obama is counterproductive to your interests and a misuse of your vote?

If your position is that an Obama presidency won't be good for women, explain — without resorting to unsupported condemnation of the organization for its decision — why NARAL endorsed him. Is there any rational reason to think Obama would be bad for women?

If your position is that it's time for a woman to be president, explain why the timing is so critical and why you have a right to expect that gender trumps the normal  political process that offers no institutional advantage to either sex.

If you believe the process itself is unfair, explain how it has been more unfair to Sen. Clinton than to Sen. Obama.

For my part, I believe the process has been largely fair. I see no advantage to a black candidate in a system that has produced five black senators in all of American history. Yet the system has yielded 35 women senators, including 16 who now serve.

I believe that delegations from Florida and Michigan will be seated in reduced numbers as just punishment for party officials who leapfrogged their primaries in violation of party rules. I know for a fact that Sen. Clinton signed onto these rules.

I believe the press has been as fair to Clinton as it has been to Obama. Neither have drawn particular advantage, and there are many times when race has been discussed in a negative light, while gender has received no similar scrutiny or extended play in the headlines.

If you're adamant about denying Obama your support in the general election, I believe you are reacting out of anger or a mistaken sentiment that Sen. Clinton is the only feminist in the race. I can find no evidence that Sen. Obama disrespects women or that Michelle Obama is not her own person.

SO ...

What's the problem? Let's talk.


Comments (108)

Are there still any Clinton supporters left on this site??

Indeed there are, and I think it's time to hear their concerns and unite the party.

So NOW is the time to hear their concerns? How convenient. I read your post and frankly I think you care about the united party only insofar as it helps Obama get elected. Otherwise, you wouldn't suddently get all concerned just now.

Your post doesn't advance the cause of party unity, but only questions my motives. Of course I'm concerned that the eventual nominee be elected. I'm a Democrat. It might have been time yesterday. I'll have to check my "Angry Clinton Supporters' Concerns" alarm clock.

By the way, judging from your avatar, you seem to dislike Sen. Obama? Are you sure you don't want to talk rationally in response to my post?

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I don't know - equating Obama with Lincoln seems kind of a compliment to me.

It's supposed to be a slam, but I agree, it is more of a compliment.

Maybe he should grow a moustacheless beard like that... it would lend him gravitas.

I don't think he needs the stovepipe, though.

Dude, you're prepared to give fashion tips? Maybe Abe needed some hypnotic ruby-colored glasses and a pair of roller blades.

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I like this argument: that Obama suppporters are only interested in party unity insofar as it helps our candidate... My response would be: of course, that's the benefit of winning the nomination, silly.... Clinton would have had the same benefit had she won. The party selects one candidate to run in the general election and rallies behind that person. This is a reality you have to deal with, sorry folks.

I don't support Obama because he's incompetent.

Yes, he has run a very incompetent campaign, hasn't he?

And McCain must be more competent than Obama, according to your reasoning. Therefore, let McCain win, dont support Obama.

Hell, almost anyone is more competent than Obama. Winning an election proves what? You think Bush and Rove governed competently? Still want to make the case that Axelrod and Obama are competent to govern because they ran a brilliant political campaign?

How so? Cite a single example of his incompetence.

Not today. Just answering the question. Don't want to drag your high. Amazing event!

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Put up or shut up, Billy. Mudslinging is making accusations or using perjorative words without factual backup; you're mudslinging.

The cat knows what I'm talking about.

Those who can't support their statements stink of troll...

Sorry about that smell. I've picked up a number of personal trolls. You can't handle them without getting the smell on your hands. Then, if you wipe your hands on your pants. Anyway. You get the picture.

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A MUST READ:

A Woman of Independent Thought -- [NanceGreggs] Mon 05.19.08 11:56 PM

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=132&topic_id=6034239&mesg_id=6034239

Over the course of the primary process, we have been “treated to” the outcries of a number of women (alleged Democrats) who see the inevitable recognition of Barack Obama as our party’s nominee as being unfair, illegitimate, and unconscionable simply because he is not Hillary; i.e. not a female.

And now a number of them are promising to make good on their threat to vote for McCain, or not vote at all (same dif) because their candidate-of-choice will not be the nominee.

The irony of such action cannot be missed. While touting themselves as forward-looking, liberated females, they fail to notice that they are acting the part of the “stereotypical woman” as portrayed in every 50’s sitcom, the sniveling female who packs her bags and “goes home to mother” when it becomes apparent she is not going to get her own way.

... [continues]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=132&topic_id=6034239&mesg_id=6034239

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I'd be interested in having an honest dialogue about this. I've respectfully asked Clinton supporters what they think about the kind of campaign Hillary has run. And all I get is "everyone hates hillary and Obama started it, he's negative" answers.

This may take some work, but it's worth it. Whatever the resentments, it's better to express them openly and honestly.

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Both campaigns disgraced themselves throughout this process.

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After carefully reading your post I came to the conclusion that your final question would better reflect your attitude if it read "What's your problem?", rather than "What's the problem?". If this were a court of law I suspect we would be hearing the opposing lawyer interrupting your questions by saying, "Objection, your honor! Asked and answered." I think it is clear that you are looking more to argue with Hillary supporters than to have a conversation. And your post is designed to put them on the defensive. Sorry if I don't oblige, but I don't do back and forth arguing on the Internet. I just read the posts, sometimes post replies, and never read the comments.

That explains why you hardly ever know what you're talking about.

Sorry I dont normally do that, but...yeah.

I'm stating my views to begin a conversation. The invitation is genuine and meant to promote dialog. As you don't do back-and-forth arguing (liar), bye now.

If I was a Hillary supporter, I probably wouldn't respond to this either.

I mean, just by the headline, you have already catergorized me as "Angry" just for being a Hillary supporter.

But then Obama supporters get mad when Hillary supporters say/act as if we think Obama is a messiah.

Now Im not here to say who started it, but feeding the categorization, shit talking, and whatever else that can split "us", is incorrect and wrong, in my opinion.

And yes, I know the contents of your post are worthy Rip, its just that, you'd be making an assumption I'd get that far because of the generalizations.

Sorry, Jonathan, but my invitation is specifically aimed at Hillary supporters who ARE angry, not ALL Hillary supporters. Hence "Angry Hillary Supporters."

I'd like to discuss the whole "I'm not voting for Obama if he's the nominee" thing. At some point, we've got to end a war, revitalize an economy and restore liberties. That will take a united Democratic Party, regardless of the nominee.

That's the way I took it. I would say the majority of Hillary's people are more than ready to support Barack should he be the nominee. It's only those angry few like "Otto F" up above who can't seem to lay down their rhetorical swords long enough to change to our republican opponent.

Ok, I understand what you meant, and I stand corrected.

Thanks Rip

i aplaud your intentions, but your efforts may not invite desired discourse.

Once Hillary fades away, disposed into the dustbin of history, most of her supporters will realize they'll be screwing no one but themselves if they don't support the democratic party candidate.

I think most people are looking at personalities at the moment, so voting for Obama at this point seems like a surrender and a favor for Obama, but as the curtain on Hillary falls, most people will begin to acknowledge voting democrat is a favor not to Obama but for themselves.

Hillary must get out of the way before commencing any "healing" process

Well put, kash.

I agree. It's too early for this conversation. Obama needs to get the nomination. Then Hillary's supporters need time to consider how destructive a McCain presidency would be. It wouldn't be punishment--it would be suicide. There's entirely too much petulance in the air at this point.

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But she won't go away. And unless the SD's quit putting their personal agendas and/or Clinton's egos ahead of what's best for the DNC and our country, she will keep it going. We must unite and focus on the general election. As a registered Independent, my loyalty is with America, not a political party. Anyone wanna bet she's still hanging on in July - trying to win at all costs?

My bet is for her conceding in the first week of June at the latest.

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I think we have a really big problem on our hands, and that anyone who says "don't worry about it" is really overlooking the extent of the problem. It isn't a surprise to me (who has sadly spent the last weeks trolling pro-Clinton websites) that no "angry" Clinton supporter has yet accepted this invitation. I haven't ever seen a rational argument given by a Clinton supporter for not supporting Obama in the fall: there's simply no rational justification to be made, and yet about 35% of Clinton supporters hold this non-rational position. So, how do we talk to them? How is an exchange possible, given the circumstances? This is a huge problem, which isn't simply going to go away with time, and we need our best minds focused on solving it.

I believe it is closer to 23 percent, the mirror image of Baby Bush's crazies.

I say it is a lost cause and that converting movable voters in the independent and Republican ranks which reduces McCain's total. Bringing millions of new or disaffected voters to the polls puts Barack over the top even without Hillary's angry 23-percenters.

The math is on the progressives side this year. Look at early open Primaries and Caucuses (South Carolina, Georgia, Idaho) for a preview of what the general will look like. Barack won most of those by 20 points or more. McCain is a way weaker candidate than Hillary was.

So, yeah, don't worry.

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I like your optimism and I hope you're right (about us not needing to persuade the most embittered Clinton supporters to vote Democratic in the general election). I only want to be careful that we not overlook the problem: we need to make up their votes, that's for sure.

I hear you. At this point, the best I can do is to not piss any of Hillary's people off anymore than I already have. :O)

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That's good advice, for us all (as tempting as it may be to piss 'em off).

Can we start one of these for angry Obama supporters too?

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I would love it such a post were made. The problem is, of course, that there has been no initiative on the part of Clinton supporters to have any kind of rational debate on this issue whatsoever. If Clinton supporters would do exactly as you suggest, and articulate specific reasons why the nomination must be denied to Obama at the convention, why Democrats should vote for McCain in the fall, then we would be one step closer to uniting the party.


And, by the way, I wonder even there can even be such a thing as an "angry" Obama supporter. If "angry" in this context means "angry to the point of not supporting the nominee of the party," then there could only be "angry" Obama supporters if Clinton were the presumptive nominee and Obama supporters were refusing to support her in the fall...

But arent all Obama supporters angry? A disparaging post by a clinton supporter is pointing out that Obama has a pretty thin resume. A disparaging post by an Obama supporter is a hateful screed filled with profanity and insinuations that anyone who votes for HRC is a racist. Sorry, big difference and yes, I am really pissed off that the Obama supporters are so easily manipulated by the right wingers. But then again, most were playing t-ball during the 90s.

But arent all Obama supporters angry?

No.

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Les, sure, it's fair to say that many Clinton supporters have been unfairly accused of racism. (Although I insist that evidence of actual racism in this process is abundant, and that racism is abhorrent, no matter the amount.) Such false accusations are as "non-rational" as false accusations of sexism against Obama supporters, and clearly play no role in uniting the party.

However, most of the burden is on Clinton supporters to convince fellow Democrats why the outcome of the primary process should be overruled. You can't simply say that Obama's "thin resume" is enough reason to overturn his nomination. Explain to me why the results of the primary process should be overruled, or why it makes better sense to vote John McCain in the fall, using a rational argument. My sense is that you can't.

I am not saying overturn the nomination. In fact, I dont think ANYONE is saying that. The only ones alluding to that are people who think the nomination process is somehow written into the constitution. It isnt. It is like voting for class president of president of the Elks club. The party makes and can change the rules. Obama will win, fair and square. Hillary isnt going to overturn anything but she is certainly within her rights to try to influence super delegates, just like Barack.

Les,

I think I recall reading in some other posts that you were planning to cast your ballot for the eventual Democratic nominee regardless of who it might be. I respect your commitment.

In your reply, you address the first of riothero's questions concerning a reason (or lack thereof) to overturn the nomination process. Was wondering what your thoughts are on the second question. Namely:

why it makes better sense to vote John McCain in the fall, using a rational argument.

I am having difficulty finding rational arguments to support voting McCain, and was wondering if you could think of any given your position that you intend to vote Obama (assuming he is the nominee).

Thanks!

Of course I will vote for Senator Obama. I will give money to his campaign, I will make calls and I will help get out the vote. Just like I did for Kerry, Gore, Clinton (twice) and others. There is no rational reason to vote for McCain and to be quite honest,

I think if you look back through the archives you will find that by a large majority those vowing to either sit out the election or vote for McCain are Obama supporters. And if you go back to my former posts, you will find that my biggest issue with Obama has been his so-called supporters who will jump ship because their candidate isnt the nominee. This includes the "Open Letters to Senator Clinton" the "Reasons I Hate HRC" and all of the other vitriol posted by many of his supporters. My question then and now is how would Senator Obama react to the politics of hatred being played out here. Yes, I understand this is the web but this isnt any site, this is TPM. And for those of you who have been around more than a few weeks or months, you know what I mean.

Hmm, I was serving out nation in the US Navy in the 1990s. You are extremely misinformed about the nature of both Barack's supporters and his resume. If anyone should defend a thin resume it is your candidate.

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Les,

You ask, "aren't all Obama supporters angry", and then admit that you, a Clinton supporter, is pissed. Your own anger is clouding your thinking.

How arrogant is it for you suppose that if others might don't agree with your thinking then they must be under the influence of right-wing mind control? Doesn't that sound just a little paranoid? Think about it.

I won't ask if all Clinton supporters use the right-wing tactic of accusing your opponent of being guilty of your own sins. I don't believe they ALL are. It seems quite clear that YOU are, however. So I ask YOU to answer your own criticism of Obama but applied to Clinton.

Specifically what makes Hillary's resume not thin? I mean, what exactly has she accomplished that wasn't the direct result of being married to Bill?

(So, no, being first lady of Arkansas and the U.S. doesn't count. It was BILL's accomplishments that made her those things.)

Les,
Seems a little disingenuous (Krugmanesque?) to judge an opposing side's supporters by seizing on the most obnoxious comments submitted in a given thread and treating them as representative. Maybe "hateful screed[s] filled with obscenity and insinuations" are all you're able to see, but that is far from all that's here-- and such comments fall outside the mainstream of what most Obama supporters actually believe.

Surely you jest! On any given day, look at the Recent Posts and the Recommended Posts. All you have to do is have Clinton and a profanity in the title to get recommended.

And I apologize for insinuating ALL Obama supporters are easily manipulated by the right wing noise machine. There are many fine folks who support Senator Obama for the right reasons, and almost as many that support Senator Clinton for the right reasons. They are just hard to find on this site!

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But not so hard to find on the site "Hillaryis44".

OK, on that we can agree: I wish people didn't use the "recommend button" as a morphine drip for feeding their most vicious sectarian impulses, and I wish (as Genghis has written), that the quality of the posts was higher and less polemical. The "echo chamber" effect is a problem throughout the blogosphere. If the breakdown of Obama supporters to Clinton supporters on this site is 60-40 (who knows?), the echo chamber effect amplifies the voice of the majority to the point that the minority voices feel squeezed out-- and as the result, the only voices to break through on either side become the shrillest and most obnoxious. It's a problem.
But, as long as we know that the great majority of both Obama supporters and Clinton supporters have their hearts in the right place and support their candidates for the right reasons (whatever those are), we should be just fine in the fall. And in general.

Always a pleasure to hear your voice.

Actually, my kids were playing t-ball in the early 90s. They are in college now. And my husband is a Viet Nam vet who supports Obama. So don't play the game that all Obama supporters are young, stupid, naive people. That's the entitlement, patronizing crap that comes from Clinton supporters that makes Obama supporters angry. I can understand why someone might have supported HRC at the onset of her campaign but I have a hard time seeing how they could stick with her after her tactics became ugly, divisive, and Rovian. As for experience, she has less than Obama when it comes to the 40-hour work week and she has spent most of her life living in public housing. Sorry, first lady doesn't count for me as experience in the public policy arena. In the past, I have asked Clinton supporters on this site to explain to me what it is they find so appealing in her, because I am honestly curious, and the silence is deafening.

And I was coping with the realization that I was old enough to join AARP in the 90s...Actually I was first eligible in the 80s but still trying to cope in the 90s. My older child is Obama's age and the other a few years younger. Both are Obama supporters.

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Nope, probably most of us aren't angry, unless you're talking about angry at what's been done to this country. I'm plenty angry about that. We've been screwed, blued and tattooed. About other things? Not so much.

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Why would Hillary supporters vote for McCain?

Maybe the Koolaide's starting to take effect.

They've been told ad infinitum by Obama supporters that there's no difference between Hillary and McCain.

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Oh, please, give it a rest.

Unfortunately, Ripper, the real targets of your request for dialogue are people like this:

http://riverdaughter.wordpress.com/2008/05/18/sunday-sweeties/

There's no reasoning with them. It just makes them angrier because they have their own geometry with its own theorems that rejects our postulates and substitutes their own.

This page, which Ben Smith felt the need to link to, did at least result a realization about the diehards that I really should have come to sooner. We've all noted the entitlement mentality that seemed (to us, at least) to surround Hillary's campaign since the middle of last year. Problem is, I was viewing that sense of entitlement through the eyes of her senior staff and high level supporters, the Clinton clique within the party. They always seemed to feel that the party owed the nomination to her (and/or to Bill) and that anyone who tried to mount a serious effort to stand in her way was an interloper and a usurper.

The high level Clintonista's sense of entitlement, however, blinded me to the profoundly different sense of entitlement that was growing among her core female voters--the boomer first wave feminists, the single working class white women, and, hell, for that matter Gerry Ferraro. They don't feel like we, as a party, owed the nomintion to Hillary. They feel that we owed it to them personally., They think we had an obligation to them, as women, to ignore any and all misgivings we had about Hillary as a person, and what giving her more power might do to her and to the country, as well as any misgivings we might have formed about her as a candidate on the basis of her mismanagement of her own campaign, simply and solely because she was the first woman with a shot at winning.

Don't get me wrong. They love her and believe nothing bad about her, no matter how strong the evidence and how credible the source. They hate Obama and believe anything bad about him, no matter how thin the evidence and how incredible the source. But that's, unfortunately, not unusual conduct among rabid partisans. Indeed, one can find many scholarly articles in the social science literature describing the phenomonon. And, that's the kind of thing that can dissipate once the choice is no longer between cake and pie, and is, instead, between eating dessert and eating a big plate of congealed rancid grease.


What's different is their belief that our failure to nominate Hillary is a personal insult and slight to each and every one of them, a slap in their faces grounded solely in sexism and misgynomy. It is all of a piece with every slight, every slur, every episode of sexual harassment, every promotion given to a man that they think should have gone to them, every instance of unequal pay they discovered, and every act of infidelity or abuse they personally every endured.

I don't know how to fix that. I don't know that its possible to fix it, even if Hillary devotes herself to fixing it with all her heart.

I do know its not even possible to fix it until she says "I'm done" and that she makes it worse every time she does stuff like calling a "victory celebration" that Obama says he's not planning to have a "slap in the face" to the people who voted for her.

Am I as guilty, in my own way, of simplistic stereotyping as those among her supporters who think Obama's supporters are naive children who have fallen into a cunning trap set by diabolical Republican operatives? Possibly. But, I've got to say, there seem to be an awful lot of people on the Intertubes who seem determined to live the stereotype.

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Well stated, Steve.

I've noticed that the new excuse is that the she was somehow cheated out of the nomination - although, I've yet to hear how, exactly. What can you do with such a notion?

Perhaps, more puzzling, are those male HRC supporters who express similar feelings about her candidacy.

I've just recently had this exact same realization. I think it was after reading a piece by Erica Jong on Huffington.

Here it is:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/erica-jong/electing-sweetie_b_102081.html

Steve,

I've been aware of this for a very long time. And I think it really is Senator Clinton's fault, literally. In all of her fuzzy math, in all of her protestations that she was going to win this because of Michigan, Florida, and popular vote, she has been dangling a carrot of subvertive and delusional qualities. She has made her supporters "believe". The mind-fuck that we thought was for Superdelegates actually worked on all of these women. It is Psy-Ops at a very high level. Love to know who really promoted this turn of the screw. Bill, Hillary, Mark Penn? Since they are going to lose, we may never find out - unless Patti Solis Doyle really unloads one in her upcoming book.

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OK as a woman who has had the life long desire to see a woman become president who went through the 60s and 70s empowerment era I understand the frustration and anger many of these women feel.

A life long dream, so close, being snatched away. I agonized over my decision between the two candidates. It was difficult but I decided to place my country's future above my own desire to have a woman president. I chose Obama because I believe he is exactly what this country needs after Bush.

Reaching these disappointed supporters will require a thoughtful arguement from feminists who have chosen Obama over Clinton.

So the question should be "Why Obama and not Clinton".

1. Change, not change for change sake but a real departure from politics of old, change from the usual Washington insiders and lobbyists, change from Republican policies. (Also, a change from a potential two family control, Clinton and Bush. I could just see if Clinton won, that Jeb Bush would follow, then later Chelsea would be old enough to run...)

2. Something, it seems to me, not reported or noted about this election which is unique, at least in my lifetime, and that is: it is the PEOPLE who have chosen a candidate, rather than Party insiders. I think the insiders at the DNC and DLC are still in shock that the PEOPLE actually rejected their choice of Clinton whom they thought would be annointed.

3. It is all well and good to support a woman, just not this woman! After my primary vote for Obama, the kitchen sink was thrown at Obama and I saw an ugly side of Hillary that made me very angry. It made me very proud of my vote for Obama in his poised demeanor and thoughtful responses.

4. Democrats have been a party of inclusion. Clinton has, during this primary, actively inspired racism by repeatedly stating she appeals to "white working class, under educated, making under 50K". My response is that the Republicans can have all these racist votes! You can't be a party of inclusion while seeking support from those who are exclusionists. After the primary every Democrat who speaks in the media must affirm that Democrats abhor racism, period.

5. Inspiration, hope, and a future vision that lifts America up and rejects fear. Boy do we need this now! Obama is right about the "fierce urgency of now". Couple Obama's oratory ability with his keen intellect and we have the makings of a great president. He has the potential to repair rifts within America and with the International community as well.

6. Clinton is a policy wonk. She has a handle on details, these are great qualities for the Senate. She can effect a lot of change from the Senate if she is the leader she claims to be. She can write legislation that advances her interests regarding Health Care and childrens issues.

7. The most important reason, not this woman, is the irrational but real hatred the right feels about the Clintons. Republican congressional members would fight anything she tried to do tooth and nail. The divisions of the last number of years will not just continue but I fear would be heightened and all Americans will lose.

This is getting too wordy to continue but I just wanted to get some points across to those women who are steadfast, for now, against Obama.

I just want to ask Clinton supporters to open up their minds and their hearts to an Obama presidency. Then we all can proclaim Yes WE Can to ending the nightmare created by this president and defeat the Republican successor, McBush.

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"It was difficult but I decided to place my country's future above my own desire to have a woman president".

I find the main post to be presumptuous and condescending, two requirements perhaps for recommended prose around here. There are many angry Clinton supporters, but the vast majority of us who will without question support Senator Obama in November. As I said, most real Democrats will vote for Senator Obama despite and not because of what the poster or his like-minded thinkers write as they take yet another "sore winner" victory lap around the blogospheric track. Let me state that in the long run, I will have little to no sympathy for anyone who chooses not to vote for Obama solely because of what happened during the campaign. But my lack of sympathy doesn't mean I don't understand where millions of angry Clinton supporters are coming from.

Your particular comment had me going until the second paragraph when you wrote what I quote above. So you are reaching out to supporters of Hillary Clinton, yet you presume that supporters of Hillary Clinton, unlike supporters of Senator Obama, have placed loyalty to person over loyalty to country. And so I stopped reading your post, because why bother? So be it.

Relax folks. It hurts to lose an election. I feel lots of pain and unresolved anger. But if you want unity, most of you frankly should just shut up, with all due respect, and/or focus your ire on the Republicans. Real Democrats will come home for the most part. But please don't think that mocking angry Clinton supporters or opening up a counseling post does anything except to create more hostility (and a recommended post).

Of course, my sense is that some of you are having so much fun with Hillary hatred that you can't let go, and so you will break the cardinal rule I taught to my three voting age Obama supporters when they were young--that the only thing worse than a sore loser is a sore winner. And that's really OK, because those who will continue the battle against Hillary Clinton even after they've won will be, except in places like the Cafe, consigned to the dustbin of anger and irrelevancy.

In the meantime, most of us will do what we always do, and that is that we'll work hard to elect a Democrat in November, because that's what we do. We know no other way.

Well said bslev.

Relax folks. It hurts to lose an election. I feel lots of pain and unresolved anger. But if you want unity, most of you frankly should just shut up, with all due respect, and/or focus your ire on the Republicans. Real Democrats will come home for the most part. But please don't think that mocking angry Clinton supporters or opening up a counseling post does anything except to create more hostility (and a recommended post).

Probably the best advice I've seen on the subject and quite likely the best thing we can do.

bslev, I respect what you had to say. I am disappointed, however, that you find th post presumptuous and condescending. It was intended as a sincere effort to initiate dialog with that faction of the Clinton camp that has expressed a willingness to torpedo a fellow Democrat in the fall. You are not the intended audience for this post, but I thank you for being willing to put aside your support of Sen. Clinton should Obama win the nomination. It would be hard for me to do if our roles were reversed, but like you, I WOULD do it.

Well said, but you know by and large, I have not seen Obama supporters offer many reasons to support Obama. If they spent a third as much energy promoting Obama as they do hating Clinton, they might be worth listening to. For 100 anti-Clinton comments, they might offer a pro-Obama comment. And they say it's not about sexism, but it is about racism. They recommend posters who say all Clinton supporters are racist and ignorant, they strongly recommend (to the top for 2 days) someone whose idea of humor is making fun of poor people, they don't even have one word of objection to someone saying that poor ignorant working people shouldn't be listened to anyway. That is upper income educated voters support someone, that would be the better candidate. He stopped one step short of recommending a literacy test. These are the people I am supposed to make common ground with - a bunch of privileged, self-congratulatory elitists snobs who have no concern for the poor. These are not Democrats, I don't know what they are, but they aren't Democrats.

Well, gee. Maybe if you guys wouldn't call us cultists and Kool Aid drinkers and naive children with a crush every time we did say something positive about him, we'd be more effusive in explaining what we like about him. Makes us feel like its kind of pointless to even try, it does.

But, to add a less pissy response, at least give the guy enough of a chance to read his books. Maybe you'll only find confirmation of what you already believe about him.

And, honestly, I have not read his first one, which everyone says is better.

I have read his second. In it, I found a brilliant guy offering a cogent analysis of what's gone wrong and how its gone wrong. He has an appropriate sense of urgency about the necessity to get the wheels back onto the tracks and, in his own way, is every bit as wonkish as Bill and Hillary when it comes to the details of policy. He has has a thorough and sophisticated understanding of American history, reveres the Constitution and the founders while simultaneously acknowleding their flaw. He knows how to analyze a problem and work toward a resolution, understands the crucial importance of listening to people you disagree with and understands that's not the same thing as letting them walk all over you.

Look, just give it a read. Its out in paperback. Or, being from Oregon, you probably know someone who'd lend it to you. I'm not saying its going to change your life, but it may at least give you an idea of what we see in him.

Jester,
When you say the kitchen sink was thrown at Obama do you mean the 3 AM ad? Do you mean mentioning Senator Obama and Jesse Jackson in the same sentence. As to the latter, anyone who thinks that is some kind of slur better look at their own creds. Jesse Jackson is a great American. It seems the Obama crowd is hypersensitive to just about anything other than someone expressing their complete adulation for Him. Sorry, but the 3 AM ad was not fear mongering. The Steve Kroft interview was hectoring and Bill Clinton is the greatest Democratic president in 50 years.

Math rocks.

1. GOP = bad. 2. John McCain = GOP. 3. Therefore, John McCain = bad.

As has been said upstream and has been said in several other recent blog posts, the person who will unify or destroy the Democratic party this year is the loser of the Democratic nomination.

I think Hillary will show how committed she is to the party and will enthusiastically endorse Mr. Obama. Perhaps more importantly, she'll privately rally her most loyal supporters and donors. The frustration many of us have felt about the way that she has run her campaign will trickle away and we'll once again embrace her (or at least appreciate her).

Feel the love.

I think you are right. But she has to set the tone and get her supporters to stop attacking the nominee. He won, fair and square. She will bring most of her backers around. The others can vote for McCain or stay home.

Who is attacking the nominee? Is stating facts such as Obama hasnt won the nomination yet an attack? Maybe in BizarroWorld...

Uhhhh, Carville, McAuliffe, Begala, Ferraro....

uh...how?

He is 1) sexist, 2) missing testicles? Pretty nasty stuff.

That was in reply to Less is Less

Still waiting KateO...
[crickets chirping....]

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Les -- This just isn't true: "A disparaging post by an Obama supporter is a hateful screed filled with profanity and insinuations that anyone who votes for HRC is a racist."

I've written a number of posts disparaging Sen. Clinton but without a bit of profanity or any insinuations about racism. And so have many others. ------------ While we are on the subject, however, maybe this is my chance to say something that has been burning me: I'm sick and tired of Clinton and her supporters playing the "gender card" on every possible occasion, in every possible way. And it's still happening!
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/05/19/AR2008051902729.html

Well, you know what? Sexism is a very bad thing, very bad. But I don't recall our country carrying out and in many places condoning the lynching of women simply because they were women and spoke up too freshly or wandered into the wrong neighborhood. At least in our lifetimes, women haven't been barred from attending schools with their oppressor or even drinking out of the same blame water fountain. In the US, racism has been and is a much greater blight and has done and is doing much more harm than sexism. So if it's taken a bit more seriously, well it should be.

And I say this as a white woman, of Hillary's age. I understand full well that while there may have been barriers in my way, they were *nothing* to the ones I would have faced if I were black, of either gender. And she knows it too. Would Hillary have traded the opportunities open to her on the day of her birth for the those open to a boy baby .... with black skin? No, I didn't think so.

Nevertheless, if anyone so much as hints that something could have negative racial overtones, Clinton and esp. her supporters are immediately up in arms "Foul! They are trying to get an unfair advantage! Pretending a hurt to score points!" .... While at the same time, Clinton herself and her supporters have never hesitated to play the "gender card" - openly and flagrantly - and had their doing so be more or less accepted. This offends me -- it offends me *because* I'm a woman.

I feel a bit icky and uncomfortable when Clinton jokes about men being obsessed with someone her age or about one-night-stands versus long term relationships. I'm offended when she sits at a debate (several, in fact) and says "Of couse I represent change - just look at me!" I'm so naive ... I really thought the goal was to make gender or race a non-factor, not have it become the sole selling point.

I'm offended when she repeatedly, flat-out lies and makes up stories (Bosnia) and then 'explains' it with an offhand (and slightly victimized) "well, I misspoke - proves I'm human which I'm sure surprises some people" Would a male candidate be treated as if that were somehow an okay excuse? I honestly don't think so. In fact, as I recall, John Kerry wasn't allowed to blow the punchline of a so-so joke .. and Hillary was one of the ones telling him to jump under the bus for that flub. And flubbing a punch line is something all of us have done at one time or another, but how many can say we 'remembered' non-existent sniper fire??

And currently, I'm offended that the woman candidate is living in a dream world, yet her continuing dogged but futile fight is called "grit and determination" where I suspect that if a male were indulging in the same actions he would be called delusional, destructive, ego-obsessed -- or at the least irrelevant. Clinton, however, gets treated with kid gloves and all sorts of outward respect and admiration because .... I have to wonder if it isn't because telling her to wake up and smell the coffee might not get her all upset, let her become the 'victim' again, and cause her legion of supporters to vote against their interests out of pique ... because, you know, she and they are all so "emotional."

Maybe that's true -- maybe she would throw an unholy fit if told flat-out that she's lost and should get off the stage, maybe the women who are supporting her because she's a woman (who don't understand that true equality is having that fact NOT MATTER) will stay home or vote for McCain because they are mad.

But I am nevertheless deeply offended. --- Offended that the strongest woman candidate there has ever been is becoming increasingly irrational and emotional ("I know I'm being silly but if you attempt to tell me so then I'll REALLY throw a fit and you'll be sorry!") -- Offended that the same seems to be true of some of her most fervent female supporters. ("Hillary and Geraldine say Obama has been sexist so we won't vote for him, we'll go vote for the truly sexist McCain.") --- And offended that the press and the pundits and the party elders aren't calling it for what it is ... because she's a woman ("My, my, look at her admirable strength and determination." - mike turned off -- "Gosh, she's getting really embarassing and sort of ridiculous, don't you think, but of course we can't say so.")

That's called patronizing, and it's a big part of any kind of prejudice. I wish with all my heart that Hillary would reject it.

Sorry, Ripper -- you said you wanted to hear from angry Clinton supporters. I guess I'm what you would call an angry wanted-to-be-a-Clinton-supporter. I was pushed away (offended away) by her before I ever paid much attention to Obama.

Elizabeth,
Come on, what about the comments from Chris Mathews, probably too many to recount but he had to apologize for some of them. What about the other MSMBC shill who claimed she was 'pimping' out Chelsea? What about the Iron My Shirt brigade? What about the MSM complaining about her 'welling up' but when Bush does it is is a sign of his compassion. What about when MSM comment on her shrillness (too many to mention here).

You cant deny those instances. Yet somehow mentioning this is playing the 'gender card'. I think the MSM has simply disgraced itself (if that is possible anymore) in the treatment of Senator Clinton. Someone once said that the hatred for the Clintons has been so inbred by the Rush Limbaughs of the world (even infected many so called progressive posters here) that it is okay to slur them and their accomplishments. They are the last group that is okay to make fun of, the fat people of the political world, those that you can still insult/slander without worrying about being called misogynist or racist or whatever.

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Les - thanks for response. I'm certainly not saying there have been no sexist remarks made during the campaign -- just as there have been racist comments made. But, you actually sort of make my point -- the ones you note were protested loudly and abjectly apologized for, resulted in a Big Noise. Has anyone ever acknowledged, or been made to acknowledge, that comments they made may have been racially offensive? Maybe the BET guy, but only after a week or so.

And, to be honest, I don't think the worst "offenses" that you mention were in fact sexist. Because the outrage was so loud and the insisted-upon apologies had to be so abject, it's become accepted that, as you use them, they prove the sexism out there. But do they?

The comment for which Matthews' had to apologize was that Clinton would never have become NY Senator if her husband hadn't run around on her, because of the sympathy/admiration factor. As a resident of NY who watched both of her campaigns, I believe this is nothing more than a politically accurate statement. Trust me, the folks in NY who voted for her weren't talking about her law degree, or her - failed - health care effort, or her work for the Children's Defense Fund, etc. They were talking about her strength and poise and dignity during the Monica hub-bub. And I honestly don't see how that's a sexist comment: one could feel as much admiration for a man whose wife publicly humiliated him. I didn't see that it was offensive in a *sexist* fashion when it was made or when he apologized or now.

Same for David Shuster's comment about their 'pimping out' Chelsea. Chelsea was, in fact, being "used" to woo superdelegates when she was, at the time, being kept far from the roughness of the campaign, unlike other surrogates who were calling SDs. But I suspect Shuster would have said the same thing if it were a son in that position. The point he was making, perhaps crudely, was "political parent using child for political purposes while at the same time saying child is to be kept protected from politics." That's a political statement - but I don't see how it's a sexist one. I guess because Clinton and her supporters claimed - in loud and outraged voices - that it was. But saying don't make it so.

"Shrill" -- Yes. But, you know what, sometimes she is shrill, and sometimes she cackles. And Pat Buchanan's voice sounds like nails on a chalkboard and Chris Mathews sometimes "whinnies" when he laughs -- do observing those things mean I'm disparaging men? Obama's protruding ears are fair game but if someone mentions that Hillary has cleavage showing, then they are the scum of the earth and should wash their mouth out with soap??? I don't get it. ---- And I'm willing to bet that for every "Iron My Shirt" incident she had to endure, there have been several "Monkey, get back in the tree!" or similar signs at or around Obama events. He (or she) who complains the loudest isn't necessarily the most wounded.

Politics is rough and tumble - people don't flatter you all the time and they are going to poke at weaknesses, acknowledge uncomfortable truths, sometimes not tactfully. I'm willing to bet, and in fact have lived my life operating on the assumption that women are just a tough as men -- they can ignore the offensive and combat the injurious all on their own without having to run around shrieking "Outragous! Oh, I'm so offended. Someone make that person apologize!! My tender feelings have to be protected! He made me feel bad, the big bully. Go punch him in the nose for me!"

Want to talk about an offensive stereotype of women? That's it - makes my skin crawl! Overly emotional, too sensitive, unable to protect oneself, etc. Also, over dramatic and erratic. (You know, like "I'm honored to be here with you" followed by "Shame on you" followed by "Celestial choirs" all in 3 days.) ------ Unfortunately, I think the most derogatory-towards-women aspects of this entire campaign have come from Clinton herself and her own campaign. I've worked for 20 years in a professional world that is at least 70% male -- I know you don't have to act like that to succeed as a woman. It embarasses me that she has chosen to do so.

And to her credit, I at least believe - want to believe - that it is a choice. Somehow I suspect she isn't such a delicate, easily wounded or humiliated touch-me-not in the Senate, that this worked-up outrage is just something she thinks will play with the voters. Sadly, she seems to be right. But please, even if you choose to support her for valid reasons, don't kid yourself that she hasn't been playing on her gender, playing it like a violin, FAR more than Obama or his supporters ever thought about using race to get him special treatment or deference.

You may be right about people feeling they can say negative things about the Clintons, but I never did, however (well, except for Bill's zipper problem). In fact, I've voted for them 4 times total and expected to work for her during this campaign (once Biden dropped out). But my opinion has changed watching this campaign and at least I can say that it's been shaped by her own actions. THAT is what I think is true respect and equality: supporting someone, or opposing them, because of who they are and how they act, not because of their gender or color. Maybe I wasn't able to keep my positive impression of Hilliary, but at least I gave her the courtesy of basing my opinion on her own actions, not on some negative (or positive) stereotype.

An Invitation to Angry Hillary Supporters

You posted this on the wrong website. They all left by like March, they were chased away by angry Obama supporters who were a larger group. The only Hillary supporters left here are not the angry types.

Even the angry Hillary contributors left--Larry Johnson stopped posting here, and Linda Hirshman claims she was "fired," that contributor privileges were taken away without notice, and she took refuge at Taylor Marsh's website.

You really want to honestly communicate with them, you have to post where you chased them.

Oh, please. YOU"RE still here, right?

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Ripper:

I don't know who you are and I really don't care who you are. But, I do care about artappraiser, who has been around these parts from the inception of the Cafe. She is not a Clinton maniac, but she is someone who consistently, regardless of the issue, tends to question uniformity of position. She challenges and probes and sometimes makes harsh observations. But this place would not be the same in terms of quality without her.

I mean, really, you have zero standing to question artappraiser and her bonafides. You have no standing at all.

bslev, I'm not sure what qualifies as "standing" in your mind. But if I understand your use of the word correctly, then artappraiser has no standing to accuse me of running off Hillary supporters. If any have run off, I was not the cause. There are plenty still left here anyway, such as Otto F, pmSanFran, Desidero and dijamo. And you have ZERO standing to upbraid me for questioning artappraiser's misplaced attack on me or anyone else who might wish to initiate dialog in pursuit of party unity. If you can do better, YOU go to a different site.

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Well I appreciate your response. I apologize for my tone. I'm not suggesting that you go to another site, and I've threatened to leave this place too many times to have any credibility. :) But I will say that you did not read artappraiser for who she is and what her contribution has been to this site.

I think you understood what was meant by standing, Ripper.

"Someone who consistently, regardless of the issue, tends to question uniformity of position. She challenges and probes and sometimes makes harsh observations. But this place would not be the same in terms of quality without her."

That's how you earn standing.

I don't have it. You don't have it. Something to aspire to.

Yeah, but it's not because I'm angry, which I am not, and it's not because I'm a Clinton supporter, which I not. I will admit that sometimes I am still here because I am amused by some of the delusions that develop in a bubble the likes of which sometimes approximates that of George Bush's White House.

Let me phrase it more strongly: if you really honestly wanted to talk to angry Hillary supporters, you wouldn't address them here, because they don't come here anymore. You know that.

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Perhaps I'm not the target audience, because I'm not "angry," per se, but I am disappointed. That disappointment doesn't come from any fierce love of Sen. Clinton, however; it comes from a lingering mistrust of/lack of belief in Sen. Obama. And his winning the primary has not changed that sentiment just because he'll be the one leading my party. It will take a lot more work to convince little ol' me that he's up to the job, but I suppose that it's possible. Perhaps I'll get all carried away by the convention and get on the bandwagon.

I've never been one to feel like I needed to strategically vote -- i.e., the whole hold-one's-nose-for-the-party kind of vote. I know all the reasons that having a Republican in the White House is worse than having a Democrat, but for me, it's more complicated than that. That said, I wouldn't vote for McCain either. Some of my fiercer friends have declared that they'll write in Sen. Clinton... if I were going to do a write in, it would probably be for Dodd or Edwards... but at the same time, that feels kind of silly.

All that said, I live in Massachusetts, where Obama is sure to sweep, so you can rest assured that my non-vote won't matter much. And what's more, I personally think that the Democrat will win this year, no matter what.

everyone in America should make up his or her own mind about who to vote for. If you can't vote for someone, don't.

It's your right.

I honestly can't see the point of all the hand-holding with Clinton supporters. Supposedly they are adults, since they are old enough to vote. They can make up their own minds.

I don't see that sitting down with them by the Rivers of Babylon for a good cry is helping anyone. And yes, I'm principally interested in "unity" to get Barack Obama elected. Damn straight.

The point was not "hand-holding" or crying by the Rivers of Babylon. It was to begin the discussion that MUST at some point take place. Better to start now. November is just over 5 months away.

Ripper, let me further your original equation For Women, in case they were wondering...

McCain = GOP Supreme Court
GOP Supreme Court = overturned Roe v. Wade
Overturned Roe v. Wade = many desperate, and/or dead women.

Why dead? Beacuse we will go back to back alley abortions for those who cannot afford to go overseas, and see no future in the way their life is about to turn.

You can't legislate it, and you can't stop it. But, you can watch women die.

that is the nasty GOP secret - rich Republican women get abortions any time they want - they just go somewhere else...

With respect. I grew up before Roe. If it gets overturned, all of the states won't outlaw abortions. For sure DC won't. You won't have to leave the country. But for someone without means, the next city can be a long way off. Not much of a secret about what some Republican women used to do and will do if Roe is overturned. Also Dem women of means. And their daughters.

Several states have laws against helping a minor cross state lines for an abortion. It's not just about getting to the next city. It's about getting to anywhere at all.

Hillary will be Barry's VP or McCain gets middle America, the rust belt and bible belt which results in the POTUS. I've never voted for a GOP President, if Barry is the DEN nominee w/o Hill, I vote McCain and so do most over 45 year old white males & females nationwide.

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Since McCain is a threat on several fronts I think the decision will be easy in November:

- SC justices who overturn Roe v Wade
- Gender discrimination laws (McCain is against)
- Endless war in Iraq, perhaps 8000 dead soldiers, 15x more maimed and disabled
- War with Iran
- Tension with China, Russia and Europe due to hotheaded jingoism
- Zero health care
- Zero global warming reduction
- Continued economic meltdown

McCain will clearly prove himself unacceptable by the time the election comes around.

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pistma --- In my opinion, that's a very valid reason not to vote for someone. Over the last 7 years I've watched some close and respected colleagues who had voted for Bush start having trouble meeting my eyes (and possibly their own in the mirror) As a result, I decided that I would never myself cast a "hold-one's-nose-for-the-party kind of vote." My voting or not may make no real difference (I live in NY so same as with you), but it is my only real, concrete power in all this and what I do will make a difference to *me.*

So while my own observations and reactions led me to a quite different place (I realized months ago that I could not vote for Clinton - not out of pique but because I had lost belief and faith in her principles.) So, I understand and applaud your position - even if it makes some legitimate and thoughtful party people cringe.

If I may make a suggestion, consider reading Sen. Obama's books, especially the first one. It may or may not convince you that he is someone you can support, but at least you will be able to know him in some depth. No one has ever suggested or suspected that the books are the work of anything other than Obama himself, way down deep. So it's an unusual election in which you have the chance to get to know at least one of the candidates to a startling degree. I've gotten a copy Sen. McCain's autobiography -- it is co-written with someone else, so I doubt it's the same thing at all, but I will read it even though my vote is pretty well decided.

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Elizabeth, that's a really good idea. Several years ago, long before Obama was a glimpse on the presidential radar, a good friend of mine strongly recommended his first book. I think that may be a good way to give him another look-see.

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Elizabeth2...have you caught this article?

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to judge an opposing side's supporters by seizing on the most obnoxious comments submitted in a given thread and treating them as representative

The sad thing is they are representative.

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