Cafe Etiquette, or Rules of the Road
Over the last couple weeks we've had a running discussion at the Cafe Management table over Cafe Etiquette and what some have perceived as the coarsening of the dialogue here. That topic has come into even sharper relief with some vitriolic exchanges about Israel, Lebanon and the fighting currently occuring in both countries. I think we've created a special community here. But that can be damaged by a few abusive people or even very well-meaning people who use the site in a way it's not meant to be used or use it for a kind of exchange that doesn't belong here.
I think these rules are important and we're going to do our best to enforce them. So let me briefly set out what the rules are (below the fold) -- I'll try to spruce them up and put them in a permanent place soon.
1. TPMCafe isn't just a name. It's also a good way to understand the sort of dialog we're trying to foster here. Ranting and fighting words might be okay at a bar or in a public park, not at a coffee house. If you're considering what you're going to say and even more how you're going to say it, think about whether it would seem out of line in a chat about politics at your local cafe. If it's out of line there, it's out of line here. Snark, sarcasm, firmly stated views, tough disagreement, passionate disagreement -- those are all okay. But there's a line we're drawing. Sometimes fighting words are called for. But this just isn't the place for them. To continue with the Coffee House metaphor, take it outside.
2. I think we're all familiar with comments here at the site where, in response to a post, a commenter writes something like, "Hey, where'd they get this idiot from?" That's never acceptable. Comments like that will be deleted and members will have their posting privileges revoked. Comments like that are abusive and they add nothing to the dialog. There are other more damning and engagin ways to express disagreement. Again, if you were in a Coffee House, would anyone think that was acceptable?
3. As you can see from TPM, I'd like to keep profanity at TPMCafe to a minimum. But sometimes it's appropriate and even necessary. What's never acceptable is profanity directed at another member of the community. In other words, "That's 'f--king incredible" might be okay, but "F--k you" never is.
4. Some readers post extensive portions or articles and/or links into their comments. This isn't what the comments section is for. Clearly, quoting portions, even sometimes lengthy portions of other works, is important in the context of a conversation. But sometimes readers will, as it were, read things into the record with the apparent aim of drowning out the rest of the conversation or evening the score with a post they don't agree with. This isn't acceptable and it makes discussion more difficult. Every registered user of the site has their own blog here at TPMCafe. That's the place to express viewpoints. The comments are for discussions and reactions.
5. Political views in themselves are never a violation of the sites rules or a reason for trying to boot someone from the site, except in the most extreme cases (racist views, threats, attacks on particular ethnic groups, calls for violence, etc.). Though the site in general has a progressive or center-left orientation, all views are welcomed here as long as the rules above are followed.
We'll have more to say on this topic. But I wanted to put the general rules out there as I understand them


Israel Lobby Watch
Thanks Josh!
July 19, 2006 12:12 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks to Josh, we witness a new subphenomenon--blogcommentofascism.
/snark
July 19, 2006 12:18 PM | Reply | Permalink
Once again, my timing s--ks.
I just posted my suggestions to the other thread. Hope you'll read them anyway.
;-}
July 19, 2006 12:20 PM | Reply | Permalink
Israel Lobby Watch
As a sometime violator of these new rules myself, I hardly think that civility and fascism have much to do with each other
July 19, 2006 12:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
Josh, thank you for the helpful guidance. I am guessing that perhaps the only thing that most everyone here at the cafe shares in common with one another is respect for you and your work. So it helps to know what your wishes and intentions are.
I am wondering if you might clarify (towards the end of point 4) what you see as the difference between "expressing viewpoints" (not appropriate for comments) versus "discussions and reactions" (appropriate for comments)?
Don't reactions, where they are not purely questions, inherently entail interjection of the poster's viewpoint? Is the difference you have in mind primarily one of length and extent of exposition, to keep from breaking up the flow of the thread too severely? Or something else?
July 19, 2006 12:23 PM | Reply | Permalink
Are you being serious, or is your belief that all blogs should be completely anarchical? I'm not being sarcastic by that, as I know some people sincerely believe that.
As I read the First Amendment, it gives the freedom of printing/publishing to he who owns the press. Especially with the minimal entry cost of blogs, I think it's fair to say that if someone doesn't like a "press", they are free to start their own.
No one seriously proposes, other than perhaps the Unabomber, that the First Amendment requires a publication to print whatever they are sent. There is an accepted concept of editorial judgment. Josh's policy is actually far more permissive than a typical print "Letters to the Editor" column, and it doesn't seem funny to me, even in jest, to suggest it's fascist.
Fascism is a rather ugly thing, and applying it to almost anything takes away from its aura of evil, an aura that warns us.
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Howard
*equal opportunity offense to both extremes*
July 19, 2006 12:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
Josh, I appreciate that you've indicated these remain something of a work in progress, and as far as they go I think they're fine.
I really appreciate what you've done with the site here, and I very much understand that you don't want to find yourself in a position in public discourse where the site becomes a millstone round your neck as partisans hold up the very worst comments from this site as if you were directly responsible for every single thing that's written here.
To me though that "except" that I've quoted in the current context is simply huge. It's the elephant in the living room that I think can't be ignored indefinitely. There are, I think, a number of people at this site wondering if they're about to get banned for infringing that exception.
I myself find myself wondering these days if I'm reading the last posts of a few people who's contributions I enjoy. (And - I should add - several who's contributions I do not).
As a work in progress these guidelines are fine, but until I start seeing clear indications of the kind of speech that is regarded as "extreme" and "unwelcome" I don't think I'm really going to have a firm grasp of what the rules on acceptable discourse here really are.
July 19, 2006 12:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
I may have been unclear here. Clearly, all discussions involve expressing viewpoints. What I've seen recently though are cases where a particularly commenter clearly doesn't like the point of view of the original post and in reaction they do two or three comments where they paste in other articles from a different viewpoint. Certainly posts are the place to react and express viewpoints. My issue here is the sort of 'reading into the record' i just described or perhaps in some cases where comments are completely off topic.
July 19, 2006 12:32 PM | Reply | Permalink
More absurd even than that, I think, is the suggestion in the comment that Josh's temperate guidelines are something of an extreme innovation, as if until today no one had ever even considered the idea of moderating blog comments.
July 19, 2006 12:33 PM | Reply | Permalink
Brian: In support of your request, I believe it would be helpful to get a couple of examples from management of what it does--and does not--mean by "extreme cases (racist views, threats, attacks on particular ethnic groups, calls for violence, etc.)." Particularly helpful would be a couple of examples as applied to comments about Israel and the ME, as these seem to be among the most contentious topics discussed at the site.
July 19, 2006 12:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
I have to agree with HCB here. This is a forum. I didn't start TPMCafe to express my own views. I've already got a place set up for that. I also didn't set it up to allow only people who agree with my viewpoint. I have to think that's become pretty clear over the last year. But it's easy for the place to degenerate into a screaming match. And that's definitely not what I set this place up for. I don't want to let the people with the loudest virtual voices shout everyone else down or scare everyone else away.
July 19, 2006 12:35 PM | Reply | Permalink
It's not that easy for me to answer in the abstract since I don't think we've deleted anyone's comments strictly for their political views, not during this recent dustup. We did delete a comment calling out "zionist c--kscukers". But that to me was a gimme on offensive language. I think someone's view would have to be very, very extreme for the person to be banned from the site. I think the break point is more likely the conjunction of impassioned views and harsh speech.
July 19, 2006 12:40 PM | Reply | Permalink
To be blunt then, and to ask head-on the question I was most curious about, is it your position that there have been anti-Semitic comments posted here in the last few days?
My prior impression, which I had gathered from your comment in support of one of Mr Rosenberg's was that you did indeed feel that way.
But now you seem to be implying that no one has expressed opinions which have constituted "racist views" or "attacks on particular ethnic groups". And since anti-Semitism would surely fall under both these categories you seem to be saying that no anti-Semitism has been evinced.
I hate to turn this into an inquisition, but I know I'm not the only person who would like some clarification on that matter.
To be clear, I personally would not rule out that there might have been some inappropriate and anti-Semitic content in a couple of places (perhaps in the post you just cited). But I didn't see any where Mr Rosenberg discerned it, and I haven't detected it in a few places some other regular posters have.
I just wanted some final clarification on whether you considered anti-Semitism to a problem on this site?
With utmost respect,
Brian
July 19, 2006 1:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
I read stuff all over the site and I also get tons of email. It's a bit hard for me to differentiate all of it in my head and remember what was in reaction to what post. Certainly some things I've read struck me as containing anti-Semitic animus.
I don't really want to get into a debating match about what qualifies for this one label. I think you can read something into the fact that little if anything has been deleted at the site. But suffice it to say that I think there's been a lot of harsh, ad hominem and inflammatory rhetoric that I don't think belongs here.
I hope that doesn't sound like I'm dodging the question. But you're right, it's not an inquisition.
July 19, 2006 1:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
I agree that offensive language must be banned (too many "idiots, morons, imbeciles" thrown around lately), the problem being that such language kills debate.
Same with ethnic slurs, racism, etc.
Banning calls for violence? Ah, that's a funny one, given how many people on this site seem quite happy with what Israel is unleashing against Lebanon as we speak. Or still view shock and awe with nostalgia. Should neocons be banned? (After all, no one calls for more violence than Bill Kristol and Michael Ledeen.)
This plea reminds me of the line in Dr Strangelove: ""Gentlemen! You can't fight in here! This is the war room!"
July 19, 2006 1:17 PM | Reply | Permalink
Actually, the line in the movie draws from a real one from Herman Kahn: "Gentlemen, you do not have a war plan. You have a wargasm." (For a more technical discussion, see Rung 43, "spasm or insensate war", in his book On Escalation: Metaphors and Scenarios.)
A personal gripe about certain language, which, frankly, annoys me more than profanity directed at me personally. While I hope, someday, to meet some posters here, to the best of my knowledge, no one knows me in person. They certainly don't know what is in my mind and heart.
It's one thing to say "you are describing a neocon position," or "that idea would appeal to Karl Rove." That's fair comment.
What seems out of bounds is when someone claims to know what I am thinking, and tells me my words are lies about my beliefs. I think many of us can laugh at the early attempts to call me a Republican provocateur, and my self-description as a recovering Republican is accepted by a lot of regulars. Continuing to announce I am a Rove clone here to instigate, or a self-hating Jew when I'm not Jewish, or someone that loves to kill, is, to me, rather offensive.
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Howard
*equal opportunity offense to both extremes*
July 19, 2006 1:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
More than the guidelines I think your attention to this thread is clarifying in its own way.
To the degree that some of my commentaries may seem like screaming matches I apologize. My intent in exploring Liberal politics is to take the conversations to transcendent conclusions and sometimes this necessarily means passing through places that look like food fights have broken out. Any reader of Joseph Campbell knows that the hero blog must pass through unpleasant tests of character.
I think too many sites play it safe with issues of anti-semitism, racism, and other hot button issues - always going this far and then retreating to a safe, "well, that's just the way it is" silence.
What I admire about this site and what makes it shine in the wasteland is that you restrain yourself toward adventure instead of playing it safe. That's where the intelligent gold is found.
It is a testament to your own integrity that you struggle with these issues as you obviously do. FWIW, I do not push the envelopes for grins.
Please continue to censor the obviously crude but leave enough room for those of us exploring the right-wing tar pits [if that's what the brown steamy stuff is].
July 19, 2006 1:30 PM | Reply | Permalink
I believe a lot of the heat comes from the Israel/Palestine or Israel/Lebanon threads, due to the intensity of feelings of Israel supporters, and somewhat of Israel detractors.
I believe that it would be worthwhile to establish specific ground rules for how they can or should talk to each other.
I'd like to make a suggestion that the terms "anti-semite", "israel hater", "america hater" etc. be stricken from the dialogue.
In my view, these sorts of appellations to persons or views do not contribute to dialogue, but are an attempt to stop it.
How do you respond to a person who takes your arguments and declares you are a racist? Such a person reserves the right, not simply to dialogue, but to set the terms of discussion and brand and burn anyone not conforming to their terms. This is unacceptable. It is cheapjack rhetorical bullying and I will not cater to it.
If a position is truly anti-semitic, then it and its lack of merit can be demonstrated through rational argument. The retreat to appellations is nothing more than dirty pool. I will not reply politely to such tactics.
July 19, 2006 1:30 PM | Reply | Permalink
Dude, did you not see the "/snark" appended to my post? Of course, I was joking, that's why I closed my pseudo-HTML snark tag. I'm completely in agreeance that we should maintain a high level of decorum in the comments and that we should try to keep the comments at least somewhat related to the topic. I'm a friend of blog comment self-policing, not a foe.
July 19, 2006 1:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think those words and phrases should be used very, very sparingly. And often they get thrown around too freely. But I'm not going to ban them because sometimes I think they are accurate. I think there should be an effort to discuss rather than provoke and inflame on both sides.
July 19, 2006 1:36 PM | Reply | Permalink
Evasion on the definition of "anti-Semitism" is eminently understandable; and perfectly acceptable in the circumstances - if I am correctly discerning them.
I have garnered from what you've said here the strong impression that we should not be anticipating any kind of purge of "anti-Semites" in coming days. (Perhaps I was the only person who was afraid that was where things were headed, regardless I am glad to feel otherwise assured.)
Up until the point comes where such a purge is taking place, I would certainly not ascribe to Cafe Management any obligation to give a rigorous definition or clear examples of such a contentious term.
Josh, I appreciate your responses and all your work here, and hope the new guidelines can indeed raise the level of discourse to where it ought to be.
July 19, 2006 1:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
I quite agree. Last Fall, while commenting on Hurricane Katrina reconstruction issues, some of my comments referred to my experience having previously lived in New Orleans, working with construction contracts, and administering Federal contracts that had Davis-Bacon Act Clauses. Another commenter (since banned) created a fantasy "me" who owned a construction company in Louisiana who was busy looking to hire illegal immigrant labor on reconstruction contracts and make a fortune. What an active but malignantly applied fantasy life.
July 19, 2006 1:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
While I am all for every effort to keep the discourse at the highest level of civility possible, especially in the wake of a couple Israel-Palestine threads that turned very ugly, I do see a potential problem in trying to enforce it.
I agree with all the rules you posted Josh and will fully try to comply with them in good faith. Profanity, ad hominem attacks, racial slurs and fighting words are completely unacceptable. But everybody's tolerence level of offensive speech is different. What I might not take offense to someone else could and visa versa. I saw your comments about giving everyone the utmost leeway so not to stifle the exchange of ideas but playing devil's advocate I can see someone not understanding someone else's comments or twisting the meaning of someone's comments, intentionally trying to start a fight to try to get someone banned. Not that I have recalled seeing that
But all in all it is a good and reasonable starting point for everybody here to make sure the discourse remains as civil as possible...
July 19, 2006 1:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think we all saw it. But "snark" is not a good natured joke, as your objection seems to imply. It is "snidely derisive" (according to Wikipedia.) And that is the impression I took of it.
July 19, 2006 1:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
No system is perfect. And in theory I can understand what you're saying. I think we'll be reasonably aggressive about deleting comments deemed unacceptable. Hopefully, people will get the message. Banning is much more extreme and that would be reserved for someone who either continues practices that the publishers of the site have said repeatedly are unacceptable or does something so egregious that there's just no question we don't want them at the site. I don't want anyone to think they're going to be banned for a snarky comment or even one comment that gets a bit nasty. Taste the coffee, relax, haggle out the issues of the day. Just remember, like a coffee house. let's keep it a place where everyone feels welcome and no one has to wear earplugs.
July 19, 2006 1:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think your impression is correct.
July 19, 2006 1:51 PM | Reply | Permalink
Enforcement should be a rare occurence.
If we are being civil and want to demonstrate tolerance we should respect a member when they say that they find a label or phrase insulting. That kind of flexibility allows for our differences in toleration of language.
July 19, 2006 1:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
Josh says:
It would be helpful to me if you would clarify the policy on links just a little. Ever since I learned how to use the rich text editor I've included links often--not every post, but often, and I always use the option of having the link open in another window.I include the links mainly to direct attention to essays, articles, websites, definitions, and the like, either to buttress the case I'm trying to make or provide some information which those interested in the topic under discussion might like to pursue. Sometimes I add links to rebut links the person who wrote the article included.
For me, the links are ways to both avoid quoting huge chunks of text and to allow the readers access to the things from which I quote, just to make sure that I'm not cherry picking or making things up. I do it as a way to avoid the kind of thing you're trying to tamp down--endless rounds of name calling or "yes I am/no you're not" ping-pong ball posts. With the links, nobody has to demand I back up the assertions I make. I've preemptively backed them up.
I'm happy to cut down on the linking, if you really want that, but I'd like to have your thoughts on when linking is appropriate and when it is not.
Mike
July 19, 2006 1:54 PM | Reply | Permalink
It's a nice idea, josh. Give it a try. But politics, as we all know, is a very hard game full of the most intemperate passions. If you want the truth it's going to be rough. If not, sanitized TV with sound-bites, make-up men, and so on is what you'll get.
I think the best you can do is prohibit profanity. Forbiding ad-hominems without losing content and passion is impossible. After all, some people are idiots and some views are idiotic.
July 19, 2006 1:55 PM | Reply | Permalink
I sometimes use humor that may be a bit jarring in a thread, but try to do things that are clear. In political threads, I'm apt to use classic quotes from Churchill or Mr. Dooley or Mark Russell, which, with attribution, are usually safe.
There are other usages that really are unwise within a certain context. My original training was as a chemist, and, while I was intently working with an explosive mixture, my hands under a blast shield, some wit, or possibly half-wit, popped a paper bag behind me, and started laughing. On hearing the laughter, I make no excuses of spinning around on my stool and delivering a quite solid punch to his midsection.
In like manner, while there is more gallows humor in operating rooms than most laymen believe, it is generally frowned upon for a surgeon to chortle "oooops".
On perhaps the brighter side, I have a colleague who was on the UN WMD inspection teams in Iraq. His specialty was conventional explosives, as in boobytraps and the like -- he was the person that made sure a shell was safe to handle before the chemists and biologist sampled it.
He has a T-shirt, with a motto on the back, not the front: "I am a bomb technician. If you see me running, do your best to keep up."
--
Howard
*equal opportunity offense to both extremes*
July 19, 2006 1:59 PM | Reply | Permalink
Two comments.
Ideally, we strive to convince. Frankly, sometimes we are annoyed and we strive to annoy back. Clearly, profanity is not a good tool to convince. Experimentally, it is even not that good tool to annoy: people whine most when subjected to snark etc. There was some discussion why the "real" journalist whine more about snarky e-mails than about death threats -- guess which e-mails hurt their ego more.
Even so, it is worth to remember about the ideal: strive to convince.
Second comment: anti-Semitism and other kinds of racism. There is a big gulf of perceptions about what constitutes a racist statement. When we disagree with an argument, we may find it racist, but most of the time it is not directly racist. I view certain arguments as racist myths or codewords, but I also know that this is a zone of unsettled opinion.
For example, in a central European country I have seen a booklet (in a bookstore) in which authors was explaining that EU is part of a global plot, a vehicle which allows Jews to dominate over Europe. I do not hesitate to call this tract anti-Semitic. But consider another tract claiming that Jewish lobby dominates over American foreign policy in Middle East. Even detractors admit that (a) that such a lobby does exist, (b) that ranking members can be quoted boasting about their influence, (c) American policy is indeed quite aligned with their wishes. One can dispute causal relationships here but we have a zone of legitimate contention. It also happens that attributing undue influence to "the Jews" is a genuine anti-Semitic code-word/shiboleth, so it is also a zone of legitimate contension if such a tract is anti-Semitic. Note that legitimate contensions may contradict each other.
By the way, the "EU tract" was a part of a small collection which was somewhat prominently displayed, and smack in the middle was the translation of "Holocaust Industry" by Finkelstein. It is a typical complication in this issue: I would say that Finkelstein is an important iconoclast, but it is also a fact that very genuine anti-Semites are enthusiastic about his book.
I am rambling a bit, but the point is that if we managed to be absolutely sure that racist post are not tolerated, a lot of important views would be censored out. So we must tolerate somewhat vague gray zone.
July 19, 2006 2:07 PM | Reply | Permalink
I disagree whole-heartedly with point #2.
That's never acceptable. Comments like that will be deleted and members will have their posting privileges revoked. There are other more damning and engagin ways to express disagreement. Again, if you were in a Coffee House, would anyone think that was acceptable?
Actually yes. Look, whenever someone posts on the main pages (i.e. not in a personal blog) what they are doing is akin to giving a reading at a coffee house, getting up on the little stage and speaking while the rest of us chat amongst ourselves and listen. I think if I was sitting in an audience and someone said something spectacularly wrong it would be just fine to say "Wow, where'd they find this moron?" to those around me.
For example, suppose someone posted something like Mike Ledeen's "faster please" I mean, how can you deal with something like that except saying "that's crazy!"
On some level stupid discourse is really not deserving of intelligent response because it dignifies to a point where it's actually given value. It does add little to the discussion but I don't think it merits deletion and banning. (For how long anyhow?)
July 19, 2006 2:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
This is definitely NOT a policy against linking. It is much more to avoid huge cut and pasted sections of articles into the comments section. I don't think there's ever a reason to avoid linking to other resources in the context or a discussion or sharing your reaction to a post.
July 19, 2006 2:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
Links are useful.
I think Josh was referring to extended excerpts included in comments. As I understood Josh, those are better placed in one's blog instead of thread a comment .
Of course, Josh may speak for himself.
July 19, 2006 2:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
This is right. If it seemed I was saying people shouldn't be linking, then I wasn't clear.
July 19, 2006 2:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
What is your policy about posts that are either all links, or perhaps a provocative headline and a link, but no original content in the post? Does it make a difference if the link is to the poster's "main" blog somewhere else?
To me, that's the equivalent of getting advertising and giving nothing back. There's one egregious case where the poster will then put up comment after comment on his own post, so it stays visible in the Tracker.
--
Howard
*equal opportunity offense to both extremes*
July 19, 2006 2:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
For what it's worth, though I understand 'snark' to mean the same as you, I took identifying it as such to be a fairly clear sign that something more benign than snide derision was going on here. Just a different linguistic intuition I guess, but I read his comment as being not an attack on Josh but a joke about that whole 'blogofascism' brouhaha.
Am I wrong?
July 19, 2006 2:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
i'm not sure exactly where we are on what the policy is precisely. But I agree with you that that is an abuse. Or can be. I mean, I sometimes just post a couple words and a link at TPM. So I don't want people to think I'm micromanaging their blogs. But I share your concern, not sure where we should go on a policy level.
July 19, 2006 2:23 PM |