At Least Pretend
Via Ramesh Ponnuru, Carville & Greenberg's latest strategy memo on, among other things, gay marriage: "We hate this issue but we promise you that the Republicans will run hard on this issue, as it is critical for their dislodged voters and those in rural areas. That the Democrat believes marriage is between a man and a woman is among the strongest reassurance for older blue collar voters, seniors and those in rural areas. If this is what a candidate believes, it is important to say it."
If I might throw in my two cents, I would further strongly urge Democrats who don't believe marriage is between a man and a woman but who feel they ought to pretend to believe this in order to win elections (a plausible position) need to do a better job of pretending. I've heard a shockingly large number of politicians say things, in rooms where journalists are present, that make it perfectly clear that they think gay marriage is just fine but that the voters aren't ready for it. That's a sensible thing to believe, but you can't go around saying it if you're trying to win votes. If you're going to lie, then lie -- and lie convincingly!
[N.B. Kant is wrong about this]


I think they could possibly "pretend" but avoid lying by saying something along the lines of "I've talked to plenty of people on the main streets and back roads of this district, and they believe that marriage should be preserved between a man and a woman, and I will take that message to the Congress."
They are politicians, after all. If they can't avoid stating directly a perhaps unpopular personal belief on this issue, maybe they should look for another line of work. They can simply take the list of GOP responses to TPM readers on Social Security phase-out and adapt it to gay marriage.
Also, given what Matt says, no wonder Dems can't get past this issue. This basically validates voters' concerns about Dems on the issue and makes them look wishy-washy and hypocritical, which journalists are going to pick up on and write about.
July 12, 2006 12:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
Wow, Matt... this is beneath you. Seriously.
The mind of the Yglesias candidate: "The majority of voters in my district are bigots. I'm not one. But I really want to represent the bigots. So... I'll pretend to be one. It'll be worth it because I have good ideas about universal healthcare.
Or maybe I'll be an inside outlaw! I'll act like a bigot and talk like a bigot but I won't legislate like a bigot and I'm sure that the bigots who elected me will be none the wiser. It's not as if I'd get addicted to the power or anything and then become what I abhor but am also pretending to be..."
thosethingswesay.blogspot.com
July 12, 2006 12:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
Lying is always bad advice.
Opposed to this issue?
Change parties and stay an honestly labeled liar.
Don't sully the Dem party with lying, let Rove have that tactic.
July 12, 2006 12:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
I don't disagree with Carville. If you really think people should not have equal rights, then say so.
And I'll add to the chorus -- Matt, your advice is dumb.
Voters have an uncanny ability to see through a politician's fakery. In fact, you're really promoting the biggest problem Dems today have -- the impression that Dems have no convictions and just listen to polls.
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July 12, 2006 1:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Matt knocks another one into the cesspool by trying to be hip.
This reminds me of the Libertarian Party member who said, "If lying helps, I say lie."
I understand Matt's point - if you're going to lie, do it well. But it's a stupid point to make in the context of political campaigning - no matter how "realistic" it might seem.
July 12, 2006 2:04 PM | Reply | Permalink
Universal health care?! No need to worry about a Democrat having the audacity to support health care. How radical! How left wing! How un-Republican! Imagine the evil of health for gays!!
July 12, 2006 3:46 PM | Reply | Permalink
Any of those Democrats hanging out in back rooms with journalists want to stand up and be real leaders?
I didn't think so.
July 12, 2006 4:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
Matt's not saying they should lie, just that if they do lie they should do so convincingly.
July 12, 2006 4:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
I hope to see more awareness of how "gay marriage" has been used to influence people to vote against their own interests across a spectrum of other issues, focusing on who we sleep with rather than whether we have a job when we get up, or whether our economic future continues to be hog-slop in Haliburton's feeding trough, while the constitutional rights won and guarded over generations are stolen to empower an executive branch that breeds terrorists and waves flags to distract us from the pillaging of our future.
July 12, 2006 5:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
"Voters have an uncanny ability to see through a politician's fakery."
If you say so, but that statement sure begs a whole lot of questions.
July 12, 2006 6:10 PM | Reply | Permalink
Here's a good way to split the haisr on the sisue:
"I oppose gay marraige but favor civil unions provided they are enacted by vote not imposed by judges."
Thats' pretty much where most of the country is (even Bush tiptoed in that direction just before the 2004 election) and while it wonlt win votes from the hardcore Religious Rrght, it probably won't ciost votes from anyone whose vote might be in play on other issues.
July 12, 2006 6:10 PM | Reply | Permalink
Agree with you on Kant. But you know, any moral theory will have counterexamples in it. Cosequentialism is riddled with them.
Far be it for a philosopher to agree with Matthew Iglesias on this issue. After all, according to TH we are all full of doo-doo. But obviously you can't be a purist in politics. A purist in politics is a guy who can't get elected as dogcatcher. Good refreshing swift little post Matthew!
July 12, 2006 6:53 PM | Reply | Permalink
Actually, they all stood up before they sat down.
Hoppy in Sacramento
July 12, 2006 6:56 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, I oppose integration, but will accept it if it is enacted by vote and not imposed by judges.
Well, I oppose women voting, but will accept it if is enacted by vote and not imposed by judges.
Well, I oppose mixed race marriage, but will accept it if it is enacted by vote and not imposed by judges.
Hoppy in Sacramento
July 12, 2006 7:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
Gay marriage is not just a political issue. It is, or should be, a moral issue for those on both sides of the debate.
I see little difference, for example, between saying that "marriage is between a man and a woman" and saying "marriage is between white people." I think that bans on gay marriage are a moral blot on our society.
So I agree with Carville that Democrats who really believe that "marriage is between a man and woman" should say so (that way I'll know who to vote against in the primary).
But if you're not lucky enough to be able to regurgitate casuistry with any degree of conviction, then it is in an obligation of conscience to let the public know where you stand.
To be defeated for taking a stand on behalf of basic human rights is not shameful. And defeat is not inevitable.
Ovid
July 12, 2006 7:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
MY, maybe they are lying to you and not to the voters.
July 12, 2006 7:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
Leave it to Kant to try to legislate moral imperatives, which by definition emanate from the individual. Only I can judge what I am morally bound to do.
July 12, 2006 7:28 PM | Reply | Permalink
How about speaking truth to bigots -- and doing so convincingly?
And by the way, Kerry did exactly what you're advising. I don't believe for a minute that he really believed marriage is just too "sacred" for the likes of us lowly homos, but his statements to that effect were "convincing" enough to make me dislike him intensely. Forever. (And it didn't seem to win him many votes among Red State homophobes, did it?)
July 12, 2006 11:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
But your examples WERE enacted by vote.
Your first and third examples-- integration (and by that you mean racial integration of state facilities) and mixed race marriages are rights protected under the 14th Amendment. The second examples was voted in with the 19th Amendment (as you know, amendments are voted in by supermajorities of both Houses and the state legislatures).
Of course it took a 100 years before the Supreme Court to start enforcing the 14th amendment to protect African-Americans, but the Brown and Love decisions were simply the Court accepting what the voters had enacted during Reconstruction.
As for the 19th Amendment, I don't think any judge tried blocking the popular will and chicks have been voting ever since.
July 12, 2006 11:20 PM | Reply | Permalink
Today I watched a DVD of a forum where various people discussed the global warming problem. One of the people was a government employee, obviously a Republcan. His position was that it is up to each of us as individuals to reduce greenhouse gas emissions, not up to the government to do so. While I sat there fuming about that it occurred to me that the best question for Mr. Government Man would have been: Is it also up to us as individuals to reduce the rate of abortions? Or to eliminate same sex marriages? If so, why the never ending push to make government step in and accept those responsibilites? If not, then what is the difference that makes for a different response?
Hoppy in Sacramento
July 13, 2006 1:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Point taken.
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July 13, 2006 1:20 PM | Reply | Permalink
I have a big problem with Matt's approach, quite aside from the immorality of lying, the likelihood of getting caught, or the need to run on principle. It accepts the framing of electability around "values" and of "values" around a rigid worldview most Americans don't really hold. Then it struggles to win by convincing voters that you, too, are rigid.
You're not going to convince anyone that the Democrats are the party of the religious right. And you're not thereby going with this strategy to stem the Rovean spin's real functions. First, he wants to galvanize turnout for his base. Second, he wants to distract everyone else from the disaster known as Republican rule.
Waffling has a bad rap because of the Rovean "flipflop" spin, but this once it could even be necessary. First, many voters no doubt feel at sea with cultural changes that genuinely bother them, but they have other sympathies, too, and may shy away from constitutional changes to boot. Second, many politicians who lean toward gay marriage may have complicated feelings, too. But third and most, the spin is killing us.
How about saying this, and if you're then pressed what you really believe or whether you are a flipflopper, just repeat it over and over and over until you're heard: "I have doubts about gay marriage myself, but I have no doubt that it's distracting us from confronting the real issues facing America, like the GOP's screwing up [your favorite issue here]."
John
http://www.haberarts.com/
July 13, 2006 2:02 PM | Reply | Permalink
Most red staters I meet in North Carolina have a libertarian problem with this issue. They hate "fags," but don't want the federal government snooping and/or legislating what they perceive a state's rights issue. That said, any Democrat currying favor with bigots is a disgrace to the party and will not see my donation to their campaign. I would hope more readers here will agree--there are better people who deserve our $50.
July 13, 2006 2:10 PM | Reply | Permalink
There are truly good people that are generally liberal or progressive who have problems with this issue because of their religious beliefs. They see no reason to discriminate against homosexuals in regards to employment, but feel that marriage is more than an economic union and as such is a different animal.
It will do nothing but insult them to tell them that their beliefs are wrong (whether they are or are not) and in either case, it only makes them feel more marginalized. So I think especially regionally, that different answers are required in different places. Integration didn't happen all at once, neither did interacial marriage, maybe it should have, but it didn't and achieved a more lasting effect that way.
I think you can look at this particular debate in the same way--it's going to happen, but not all at once and forcing the issue do people's throats makes for a lot of resistance. Sometimes that approach is justified where there will clearly be no change otherwise, or when there need be only a little forcing to make a break through, but it should be an approach best used with caution.
Anyhow, as for what Matt actually wrote--you really should say what you believe but if you for some reason feel you must lie, then lie well enough not to get caught so you don't make the rest of us look bad.
July 13, 2006 2:17 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hope you're not a Dem campaigning for office in a Red State.
July 13, 2006 3:00 PM | Reply | Permalink
Matt,
This is one of your worst posts ever and certainly makes a mockery of Andrew Sullivan's award in your name (for honesty I believe). Shame on you. You should seriously consider resigning from the blog.
What else do you think it is okay to lie about? How about speaking in favor of a war to seem strong on national security? Is that wrong? Because I seem to remember you castigating some polticians for that.
July 13, 2006 3:04 PM | Reply | Permalink
Unfortunately, I'm afraid that that's the recipe for a minority party, no matter how convincing you think it would be. Convincing bigots that they are wrong and working to create a majority in favor of gay marriage is the job of activists and supporters of that position. Getting elected is the job of Democratic candidates.
Kerry didn't endorse the anti-gay marriage ballot initiatives like Bill Clinton recommended, did he?
July 13, 2006 3:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
So you'd prefer to lose elections with a clean conscience? Or should pols just duck the question rather than lie? There just aren't all that many disctricts where favoring gay marriage won't be a severe handicap to the candidate.
Edit: there is a third option. Candidates who think gay marriage is OK can refuse to run in districts where that's an unpopular position. Then everyone really can be honest and say what he thinks. Of course, it will drive the party even further to the right, but we're all about the purity here, right?
July 13, 2006 3:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
Change parties? Are you implying that supporting gay marriage is now the official Democratic position? News to me. News to a lot of people, I think.
July 13, 2006 3:17 PM | Reply | Permalink
if moral imperatives emanate from idividuals and if individuals have different standards, then we are in the swamp of relativism. Sorry. Sounds good to talk about where morality "emanates" until you realize that morality is not some excretion from the material world.
July 13, 2006 3:27 PM | Reply | Permalink
when you are trying to get a bigot or a homophobe to vote for a liberal candidate you bet your bottom bippie the candidate MUST lie to the homophobe. Let's get clear about one thing. The first duty of a reformer is to get elected and if he has to fib the homophobe (racist, sexist...etc) into thinking he is with them he SHOULD.
I would say it is his DUTY to fool the homophobe.
July 13, 2006 3:33 PM | Reply | Permalink
One can oppose gay marriage, which I do not, and not be a bigot or a homophobe. Surely you recognize this. Is it okay to lie to those people. The issue here is not gay marriage but when it is okay to conciously lie and mislead in order to win.
July 13, 2006 3:45 PM | Reply | Permalink
Sorry for having to be so blunt about this but being against same sex marriage is basically a bigoted position -- doesn't matter if it's motivated by religion or not.
A position isn't moral just because it's inspired by some sort of religious belief.
thosethingswesay.blogspot.com
July 13, 2006 3:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
It depends on how you perceive the "big tent". If you view the "big tent" as the nations that make up Western civilization from Canada to Europe to Australia, the views of we "blue" Americans are the majority on most issues. It's only in our own country that we are expected to surrender to bigots and have "democracy" consistof 2 major right-wing political parties searching to find the lowest common denominator in Mississippi.
I have conflicted views on gay marriage as I expect many Americans do. I believe marriage rules and regs ought to be left to faith communities and a growing number accept gay marriage.
But this is just one more issue on which Americans are to be given no choice -- you can have right-wing-born-again-party-A or right-wing-born-again-party-B. No thinking allowed. And all the while we grow further and further from the views of other nations, more isolated, more insular, more fearful and more afraid to think, study, debate, influence, or convert others to a broader view of the world.
July 13, 2006 3:50 PM | Reply | Permalink
I think the implication was the party of liars, not gay marriage.
That said, Dems are the only here, aren't they?
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July 13, 2006 4:52 PM | Reply | Permalink
Moral issues should affect what we do, not what we want to force others to do. So, if I am opposed to gay marriage I should not marry a man, nor should I participate in a gay marriage ceremony. If I oppose abortion (assuming I am female, and I'm not) I shouldn't have an abortion or counsel other women to do so. But, it is inherently immoral to insist that the government make my morals the standard for everyone else, by passing laws requiring others to follow my morals. For that reason and that reason only, all Democrats should be against laws forbidding gay marriages or abortions, among lots of other things.
Others have asked me why not let individuals follow their morals where murder, robbery, or incest are involved. Surely the answer to that is obvious?
Hoppy in Sacramento
July 13, 2006 4:54 PM | Reply | Permalink
We don't have to look far to see where the Dems have gotten their reputation for waffling and flip-flopping. Just look at the statement, "I believe marriage is between a man and a woman."
Why not simply say, "I oppose gay marriage"? Doesn't it come to the same thing? It's hard to talk plain English, though, when you're saying something you don't really believe. It makes the lie all the more uncomfortable.
Ovid
July 13, 2006 5:02 PM | Reply | Permalink
I didn't mean a set of rules for choosing actions, which of course any person or group can propose and promote or try to enforce. I meant "imperative" as in atomically inseparable from our actions, which arise from our uniquely personal cosmologies as opposed to what others may encourage us to do or judge us for not doing.
July 13, 2006 5:39 PM | Reply | Permalink
Kant was NOT wrong, young man, you ARE! And shame on you for suggesting lies are an acceptable option. One need not mislead either, as that is no different from lying. What your mother told you, "If you can't say anything nice...," also applies to this case. Holding ones opinions to oneself is an option, and following the ethical path might require nothing be said. There is no shame in that, while lies and deceit are shameful in themselves.
Aren't you wearied to the point of anger over the lies of the current band of thugs in D.C? Check your values to suggest that which you dispise from others, you encourage in those whom you support.
July 13, 2006 6:17 PM | Reply | Permalink
Indeed, the answer is obvious, and it obviously applies to the case of (at least some) abortions.
July 13, 2006 6:23 PM | Reply | Permalink
I like totally convincingly. Like, Matt's is a great post. Trust me.
John
http://www.haberarts.com/
July 13, 2006 6:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
Yeah but, assuming for argument's sake that we are going to go along with the "Voters aren't ready so we won't push it" strategy, isn't not prtending that we think same sex marriage will destroy the country but making it clear we respect the feelings of the voters the best way to go?
July 13, 2006 7:43 PM | Reply | Permalink
I am old enough to remember very well how Ike and JFK respected the feelings of the voters and did nothing to end racial segregation. If someone wants to be called a leader they have to be willing to lead. That means persuading the voters to change their minds and accept what you know is right. We are in that situation in regards to same sex marriage now. So, our leaders need to lead.
Hoppy in Sacramento
July 13, 2006 8:20 PM | Reply | Permalink